Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: When Was The Last Time You Cried?

writergirl
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 12:42 pm: [report]

Everyone cried at the first five minutes of UP.

xdarlinlilsarax
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 12:46 pm: [report]

@writergirl SO TRUE

kw1223
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 12:56 pm: [report]

I choked up but didn’t cry.  I very rarely cry.

mayorbubbles
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 01:07 pm: [report]

@writergirl

I was teary eyed from the pixar short with the cloud and then when they were showing the first part of UP I wanted to cry but I held in most of it so my sister wouldn’t laugh at me. hahaha

MarieMacCee
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 01:10 pm: [report]

um…I def got misty in UP. I’m loving that two guys admitted to crying about sweet stuff-family and weddings. Much better than crying about sports. Last time I was confronted with that, I think I was as awkward as most men are when women cry. I just kept patting his back and saying “Don’t worry, next year will be the Dodgers’ year”

GoufCustom
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 01:10 pm: [report]

I didn’t cry during the beginning of UP, I just teared up. I did cry, however, when he finally gets there and starts looking through the adventure book.

And while like most guys crying does not come easily to me, I scoff at those other males who think of it as a badge of shame.

Lexington
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 01:14 pm: [report]

Haha I cried before the first 5 minutes of UP- when they had the little pre-movie about the storks and their clouds- yeah, took me all of like two seconds.

luke15chick
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 01:16 pm: [report]

A few of the times I was present for when my ex cried, he was definitely drunk and suddenly got emotional over things he felt he had done wrong. Never quite knew how to respond.

amorsalado
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 01:46 pm: [report]

I full out sobbed through the short of the storks before UP and through the first ten minutes.  That was a hard movie for me.

bethlynn00
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 02:23 pm: [report]

I’ve never seen UP, it’s a cartoon?  I’ve never heard of it.  Now I don’t want to see it cause it’s for sure going to make me cry!

writergirl
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 02:34 pm: [report]

@bethlyn00—UP was a “kids” movie this summer from Disney/Pixar.  Other than the first five minutes—which though sad, were so heartwarming—it was a good movie.

[url=http://disney.go.com/disneypictures/up/[url]

I only have a vague recollection of the short.  But I don’t think I cried.

workerbee
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 02:35 pm: [report]

I’m with GoufCustom.  I think I cried more during the part when he started to look through the adventure book than in the beginning.  But yeah, the short and the first 10 mins made me misty.

amandabear
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 03:07 pm: [report]

I didn’t cry during Up. Teared up a bit at the beginning and end, but I never cried. I rarely do at movies and stuff.

cooldad
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 03:28 pm: [report]

This probably sounds bad (and maybe is), but I haven’t cried as an adult.  Choked up a few times during emotional public speaking and teary/lump in the throat in a few movies.

e_rock
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 03:40 pm: [report]

I’ll admit this is pretty random, but I was thinking about the adventure book part of UP this morning on my way to work and full-on cried…

develange
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 04:33 pm: [report]

I have seen all of my boyfriends cry… I wonder whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing.

I want to see UP!!!

vegan_eskimo
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 04:45 pm: [report]

The last time my husband cried was after watching 500 days of summer.

The time before that was when he found out I was preggers with his baby.

The time before that was after I made him watch the SATC movie with me.

His such a tough guy though…he’s really one of those guys who is secure in his masculinity enough to cry or wear pink on our wedding <3

SouthOC
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 05:00 pm: [report]

I regularly shed a few tears while watching emotionally wrenching movies.

Oddly, I really didn’t cry when my father died six years ago.  I miss him, and think about him all the time, but didn’t cry.

I cried for a month when my daughter died last Christmas Eve.  I’m still struggling with that one…  I’ll do okay for a while, then WHAM! a special memory will hit me and I’m toast.

Molly Jean
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 06:06 pm: [report]

So very very funny how awkward all the guys got.  And why do guys sometimes get all awkward/defensive/just not right when someone cries in front of them.  Funny, too.

It’s so stereotypical but I cry when I’m PMS-ing, like clockwork, once a month, same time, every month.  The smallest thing sets me off!  It’s always something silly but I feel so much better afterward.  Guys, you should really cry, even if in private, every couple of months.  It’s a good thing.

The stupidest thing that always makes me cry: watching Edward Scissorhands.  I’ve seen that movie at least 100 times & cry every single time.  LOL.

Raugiel
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 06:12 pm: [report]

I have had the same experience of zombification while not being able to cry in the past. Usually because I’d been dealing with the same circumstances for long enough that there were no tears or energy left to deal with it any more, OR because I was in a place where I had to curb any desire for crying long enough that once I was alone or in a private place no tears would be coming.

mayorbubbles
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 07:16 pm: [report]

tell the experienced guy to go to random group therapies and hug it out. maybe he’ll meet a nice girl and gain some new friends.

*10 brownie points to whoever gets that reference*

Sara.B
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 08:08 pm: [report]

@ mayorbubbles: Fight Club? It’s one of my favorite guy books.

Nice topic, I teared up a bit just reading the IM’s and the comments. There is something so sweet and endearing when a man is right at that moment when he is trying not to cry. It brings out the innocent, brave little boy and makes then so totally huggable.

Typewriter
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 09:13 pm: [report]

Haha, the folks at PIXAR definitely knew what they were doing with that one, didn’t they? My boyfriend and I both seriously cried when we saw UP together. Glad we weren’t the only ones!

GoufCustom
wrote on October 15 2009 @ 10:46 pm: [report]

It’s truly a beautiful movie. Other than that, I’ve personally cried on three occassions, spread out over about four months, in the past ten years. All of which, incidentally, were related to a girl (isn’t it always a girl?)

The first time actually took me so completely by surprise that I killed the moment thinking to myself “Holy crap, am I crying? I AM crying! I did not see this coming.”

fallonthecity
wrote on October 16 2009 @ 01:25 am: [report]

I do that thing where I wake up sad and crying for no apparent reason too.  Ugh.

adamjs
wrote on October 16 2009 @ 02:02 am: [report]

I’ll cry in funerals, whether I knew the person or not; they’re really emotional.

Perhaps I’ll cry for a few seconds in a movie from time to time…but not usually, and it has to be someone who i can actually feel an emotional connection too (which with the crap that comes out lately - is damn hard to do) - I can’t even think of the last time I did this.

The only other time I cry is from excessive laughter.

I’m in pretty much agreeance with the IM guys in that I cry very rarely.

majicksand
wrote on October 16 2009 @ 09:33 am: [report]

I very rarely cry.  I think I used up my supply of tears after my brother died when I was 16.  I literally didn’t cry again after that until I got pregnant with my first child years later.  Now I cry occasionally but infrequently.  Oftentimes I feel like I need to cry and can’t.  When I do finally let it out, it’s the full-blown ugly cry.  The last time was the night I had to put my cat down a few months ago.

Ciao99
wrote on October 18 2009 @ 08:06 am: [report]

First off, this study is out of Australia. I’d be curious to see survey results by country. Men from latin, Arab, and Mediterranean cultures have fewer hang ups about showing their emotions. Anglo cultures are more stoic. And American men are slowly moving on from the emotionless John Wayne model.

That said, obviously men cry a lot less than women. Men seems to prioritize their crying to things that are really worth crying over. Although I know a few who ‘ve cried over sports, which is lame. It’s just a game!

bogart4017
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 09:14 am: [report]

What the hell is up? Is that a movie?
I don’t cry very often—maybe once every 3 or 4 years. So when i do i’m making up for lost time.
Once i cried towards the end of “Jason’s Lyric”. I was overdue for a good cry and i got emotionally involved in the stupid thing. I try not to do it anymore because if i cry then my wife starts crying because i’m crying and two grown people crying at the same time makes no sense at all.

Molly Jean
wrote on October 20 2009 @ 02:06 pm: [report]

@ Ciao99: “Men seems to prioritize their crying to things that are really worth crying over.”

Wow.  Because obviously men are the gender that can better determine for everyone what is “worth crying over?”  Good to know.  Maybe I should advise 1 next time I feel like crying, just to make sure it’s worth it.  Since y’all know better.

mokti
wrote on October 20 2009 @ 02:22 pm: [report]

Well this is wildly apropos for my day today… because the last time I cried was all of four hours ago.

A woman I was (and probably still am, sadly) head over heels for, whom I deeply disappointed last year… that last woman I was truely intimate with in the mental and spiritual sense of the word… was in my workplace today and I didn’t know it.

She was right next door from my office for an interview for the better part of an hour and, though I did not know she was there, I could hear the loud and extended goodbyes as she left.

And she didn’t even pop her head in for a quick hello.

I found out thrity seconds after she left that it was her… and a half a second after that, closed my door and felt HORRIBLE.

I know, “get over it,” right?

But it was sudden, random, and overpowering.

SouthOC
wrote on October 21 2009 @ 09:36 am: [report]

@mokti:  Don’t take it personally, it wasn’t a social call.  If she was there for a job interview, I’m sure she was focused on making a good impression on the hiring manager in order to land the job.

On the positive side, if she hated you, she wouldn’t be applying for a job where you work.  Surely she understands that if she gets the job, she’ll see you regularly.

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 21 2009 @ 10:51 am: [report]

lol @ crying gravel…

cried when my dog died.  i was 13.  he was 12.  had him since i was 1.

cried when i got my eagle, globe, and anchor after USMC boot camp when they played ‘proud to be an american.’

cried when 3 buddies died in iraq and i gave a little speech at their memorial/funeral in country to a group of about 1,000 marines.

cried when my little brother spent 8 days in a coma after a motorcycle accident and almost died (hes fine now).

cried when i broke up with my gf (only vagtastic pussapotomus tears ive shed in the last…  14 years).  moving on…

teared up, but did not cry, curing shallow hal when jack black realized the little girl he loved was a burn victim, but he loved her anyway.  i may have been high.

mokti
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:06 am: [report]

@SouthOC… not a job interview… it was an interview for a story (as in journalism).

ScienceGal
wrote on November 9 2009 @ 06:25 pm: [report]

I’ve seen both my ex boyfriends do the full-on ugly cry WHILE we were having the break-up talk.  That sadly really messed with my head and confused me a lot more than it should have. Personally I’ve always been one to cry easily, though I’m better about it now than I used to be.  When I was younger I’d cry if someone so much as looked at me the wrong way…now it’s just when I’m stressed and overwhelmed.  Which happens to be pretty often now actually.