Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: When He Can’t Get Her Off

Pipi
wrote on November 18 2008 @ 05:07 pm: [report]

The fact is I never come from sex with a dude. But I sure as hell dont fake it.

shannac02
wrote on November 18 2008 @ 05:39 pm: [report]

hahaha Post-its on the headboard… I like it!

ShortyDooWop
wrote on November 18 2008 @ 09:45 pm: [report]

i totally don’t get off from sex but enjoy it VERY much!!!  I always tell the guys that it’s ok, I’m glad they got off!    and most know that my direct line w/the orgasm gods is oral!!!

Amelia
wrote on November 18 2008 @ 09:49 pm: [report]

I think that women should enjoy themselves and not put pressure to reach what everyone has told us is the “end goal” of sex (i.e. climax) but I also think we should always be trying to take our enjoyment to the next level, especially with the help of an understanding, awesome partner.

Simcha
wrote on November 21 2008 @ 01:49 pm: [report]

@ Pipi- You are not afraid to speak up on the Frisky and you seem AWESOME and confident.  Plus you have a sense of humor, so I say, tell you men what you want using that oh so Pipi cool. If the dude doesn’t want to please you, well then, it’s time to move on. But 80% of women don’t get off from penetration.  So, you shouldn’t be shy about asking for more.  Hey, someone has got to train these boys!  Might as well be you when you can benefit from teaching them a lesson

EastCoastMale
wrote on November 24 2008 @ 09:19 pm: [report]

I am along the same line of thinking as you Amelia. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and haves ones self immersed in. Dont set lofty goals and being going down a checklist in your mind while your bumping fuzzies lol. Hehe I am just glad Simcha wasnt including me in the catagory needing to be trained lol, I definitely consider myself dominant and know that a wide variety of bedroom activities spices things up, at least to me. =)

deej
wrote on November 26 2008 @ 11:07 am: [report]

I am so willing to put out whatever effort is needed, but I’ve learned to believe a woman when she says it ain’t gonna happen.  Hell, there have been times when I knew I wasn’t gonna make it there myself, but I still enjoyed the whole experience.  Damned whiskey.

But please, if it’s one of those times, don’t make my climax seem like you’re doing me a favor. I’d rather not pop my cork if you’re not enjoying it.  I get that you may have lost the mood, and I may ask you if everything’s all right, but a little smile and acknowledgment goes a long way.

DrDoctor
wrote on December 14 2008 @ 02:30 am: [report]

If I don’t get her there, then I have learned to believe her and accept it. Well not accept it persay, I do try to improve but I also learned that focusing on it totally ruins it for me and her both.

Personally, as long as we’re both happy when it’s all said and done, come or not, then it’s a success for me and we’ll work on how to make it even better next time.

shufflegirl
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 02:38 pm: [report]

I don’t fake it anymore, and I enjoy sex more because of it.  It doesn’t make a man inadequate if he can’t make a girl climax every time or immediately, so get over it guys.

If a guy is no good in bed I just won’t sleep with him again, it’s that simple.

katielouise
wrote on December 26 2008 @ 10:26 pm: [report]

I’ve never not once come from sex. and I rarely come from oral. blech! I blame it on my anatomy. that, and I think sometimes I get too caught up in making sure the guy is pleased. I sacrifice my ability to just relax and enjoy it. 

frankly, I can make myself come no problem, but every time I’m in the sack, I know from the get-go that inevitably I’m gonna hafta fake it.

I don’t blame it at all on the guy I’m with, although I’ve got to admit, it’d be GREAT to sleep with a guy who could make the magic happen. but I almost feel embarrassed, or something, that I have such a hard time, so I’ve never brought it up.