Guy Fantasties And Fetishes

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: What Really Turns You On?

Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry Filed in: guys
2:00PM, Wednesday February 18th 2009

Lately I’ve been kind of getting in touch with my kinkier side. Being that I didn’t really have a kinky side before, it’s a big deal for me that I’ve discovered the pleasures of, uh, ass-smacking. Now that it’s kind of my “thing,” I’ve been thinking about other people I know and their “things.” I once hooked up with this Brazilian guy in San Francisco (and by hook up, I mean we met at a club, went back to his weird warehouse apartment, and made out a little) and discovered that he had a thing for armpit licking. My armpit, that is. I’ve told this story numerous times and most people express disgust and/or concern that he could die from deodorant poisoning. (He didn’t, as far as I know, but we didn’t keep in touch.) One of the people who expressed disgust is someone I’m sort of seeing—but he has a thing for striped thigh high stockings, so I guess one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. After the jump, I grill the guys on my IM about what turns them on. We get off topic a few times. Sorry.

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Pipi
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 02:07 pm: [report]

I am a girl who loves dirty talking, being spanked including by a belt, and having my hair pulled. I also like trying anything new and kinky that I havent done before like roadhead lol.

Muttface
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 02:14 pm: [report]

I like a good booty. You know, the kind you can use as a mold for a paper mache’ mask.

Humble Bee
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 02:25 pm: [report]

Pipi, excuse my ignorance, but what is Roadhead? I’m assuming giving a guy a blowjob while driving…
I agree, with the spanking and dirty talk, the hair pulling, that’s always fun when your in the mood.

EastCoastMale
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 04:30 pm: [report]

Humble Bee
Good guess, thats exactly what it is.

As a man, I agree with the three mentioned above, spanking/ass smacking, dirty talk and hair pulling. As the person administering the spankings though =). I have quite a kinky side which most people definitely may not see as “vanilla” so I am hesitant to put the rest of my likes out there. Only if I see any intrest expressed in hearing I might lol…

40yrolddad
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 06:42 pm: [report]

heels, thigh-highs & lingerie (or whatever you/partner are into) are all nice but honestly here’s the two universal secrets to sexiness for women:

1. CONFIDENCE! when you’re a young single guy you’re told the secret to meeting women is confidence - well guess what? what’s good for the goose at the bar is good for the gander in the bedroom! if you BELIEVE you’re sexy it comes across in how you carry yourself and it’s HOT! it’s o.k. if you don’t look like Tricia Helfer, just have confidence in YOUR body and it’ll come across in whatever you wear or do (I frequently tell my wife: “I wish I could get you to see your body the way I see it”)!

2. EMBRACE IT! sex is a facet of you, one of many (mother, professional, trusted friend, etc) and embracing/valuing it doesn’t have to come at the expense of the others. put simply, dressing/acting like a stripper (or whatever) doesn’t “degrade” you when you’re partner appreciates the rest of you. if you physically don’t enjoy something (anal, S&M;, etc) that’s one thing but if you’re not doing something you partner likes because you think it “objectifies” you there’s likely deeper/more serious issues involved (& yes, this works both ways - I’ve done more than my share of things I wouldn’t have chosen and I’m not talking about oral [no prob w/that])...

I know, sounds like drivel but it really is that simple. do those two things & the rest will take care of itself.

Michael
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 06:54 pm: [report]

heels in the bedroom are always a good thing.

One SUPERHOT thing for me is when a girl is on top and she grabs my wrists like she’s holding me down.

Chelle
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 07:02 pm: [report]

My ex has an ‘80s fetish. I dressed up for an ‘80s theme party with big hair and all. It drove him crazy.

crosenyc
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 07:46 pm: [report]

Um, re: roadhead. Isn’t giving a guy a BJ while he’s driving really dangerous? (Sorry to be so uptight.)

0rion
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 07:49 pm: [report]

I’m a huge sucker for 69, can’t get enough of it. Also garter belts, stockings, and those thigh high sock-type-things (preferrably striped).

Or basically anything that makes me think you knew you were going to f*ck me before I even walked in the room. For example, you don’t just wear a garter belt around…you wear one when you know your going to get naked with someone. Premeditation…its not just the difference between the chair and a life sentence, its also sexy.

Lizard
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 09:25 pm: [report]

What’s wrong with choking? Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it… Oh, and nipple clips. And here I thought I was pretty vanilla…

I like how this is my first comment ever on this blog. EastCoastMale, you might have to elaborate on those less vanilla fantasies of yours so I don’t look so bad, haha.

Trishkabob
wrote on February 18 2009 @ 09:38 pm: [report]

choking?!?! i would CRY. I hate things around my neck. i cut all my hoodie sweatshirts so they are no where near my neck. lol anywayssss i do love love love my hair pulled..i like when their hand creeps up behind my neck and yanks the #&@$% out of it. but i have a huge ass. thats all i ever get complimented on and i never get bored of it =]

titsmagee
wrote on February 19 2009 @ 08:14 am: [report]

I don’t even know what I’d say if a boy asked to lick my armpit…

EastCoastMale
wrote on February 19 2009 @ 08:58 am: [report]

Lizard

I myself have experimented with a partner with light schoking, only discussed beforehand of course. I agree, the word choke probably evokes scary possibilities for some who havent tried it but its not like you just walk up behind your mate and start choking them lol. I have tried and still practice some light binding if a woman enjoys it…not with some cheesy restraints but expensive, professional bindings and sometimes scarves are sexy. Also, a little drip of warm wax at the right time in the right place can be very hot. I didnt go all out with describing these, still considered pretty vanilla to me…I just ahve a feeling I would shock some in the discussion if I REALLY spoke my mind lol.

kristy1584
wrote on March 3 2009 @ 03:33 pm: [report]

Ok so here goes. I currently am dating a guy whos into the armpit thing, he doesnt do it often, just occasionally and at first I was like WTF is wrong with this guy. Then I got accustomed to it. I love his kinky side and let me tell you hes the kinkiest guy Ive ever come across and never fails to keep things interesting. He’s also got a huge foot fetish which I love!! I never would have imagined liking that kind of thing but boy I love having my feet kissed and touched and washed for me. So I guess its all in what you like. Ill take my men kinky, Thanks!

Hello Kitty
wrote on March 21 2009 @ 01:06 pm: [report]

I always like to keep it interesting, doing new things, and I will always try anything once… so I’ve been prying to get my current BF (we live together, so we are very close) so tell me his fantasies, fetishes, whatever… because what turns me on is turning him on. And he wont tell me, he just likes it missionary, no foreplay but apparently he has dated a slew of strippers in the past, so frustrating.

hereshestands
wrote on March 25 2009 @ 04:26 am: [report]

Bahaha licking your armpit. Ewww. So wrong.

Spanking is my thing for sure.