Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: What Are Your Style Dealbreakers?
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry
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8:10AM, Wednesday July 1st 2009
In the latest issue of GQ, Neel Shah writes that he went on a blind date with a woman who immediately turned him off by wearing “faded True Religion jeans.” He then goes on to describe how a girl’s style plays a big part in whether or not he could date him. While Shah’s example is a little on the, uh, picky side, I don’t think he’s all that unusual. Personally, style plays a big part in my attraction to men. If a guy is wearing awesome sneakers or, you know, plaid, he becomes a little sexier in my eyes. On the flip side, frankly, black running sneakers and white socks? Major, major turnoff. But do other guys think this way or is Shah alone? Find out, after the jump…
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_jsw_
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 08:39 am: [report]
The only times style would adversely affect my opinion of someone to whom I’d otherwise be attracted would be if (1) she clearly had so little interest in me that she paid no attention whatsoever to what she wore on the first few dates or (2) her clothing indicated (and she confirmed) some political/religious viewpoint that I just couldn’t accept.
But really, in those cases, the style would just be reflecting an attitude that would have led to us not working out anyway. Otherwise? When I’ve been with or around someone to whom I felt genuine chemistry, I rarely much noticed and couldn’t care less about what the person wore. Or, more accurately, what she wore looked better because _she_ wore it.
Molly Jean
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:06 am: [report]
oh, wow, this is too good! first, i would NEVER EVER take style advice from a man unless his name, was, say, Oscar de la Renta, or something.
this reminds me of this one girlfriend of mine who let her boyfriend choose her outfit before going out one Saturday. she looked like a total whore, she said, & wouldn’t you know, they ran into her boyfriend’s boss while they were out. again, i would NEVER EVER take style advice from a man, especially a straight one!
Queen Frostine
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:08 am: [report]
I’m with Blakely. Influence goes a long way.
Husband was a great guy upon meeting him and instantly we had chemistry. However, he had a closet full of tye-die, baggy cordorory, winne the pooh boxers and holey tshirts five sizes too big for him. By asking him to wear the few nice shirts he did have and tagging along with him when he went shopping, I was able to nudge him towards more fitting, current styles of clothing. His shirts now fit nicely (he has a great bod!) and his pants are much more fitted (but not emo tight). The tye-die is gone and the underwear no longer have cartoons.
lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:26 am: [report]
Thank god my BF loves me in my Boyfried jeans with my piercings and tats!!
mlyway
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:36 am: [report]
I am a fashion design major at school so I enjoying sewing, shopping, and styling…My ex-boyfriend actually enjoyed shopping with me sometimes and he felt confident enough to pick out clothes for me too (and he made good choices too)
BeASimpleMan
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 10:39 am: [report]
I wouldn’t call myself a particularly picky guy…but there are a few things I count as fashion turn-offs…excessively pointy shoes, platform flip-flops, cork-wedge shoe things…good for strippers, not my SO. I live in an area INFESTED with hipsters, and nothing about that style appeals to me either.
Chebs
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 10:54 am: [report]
I used to dress my ex, because all his clothes were two sizes too big for him. He was a very skinny guy, so I was very confused at how he could look so tubby when we went out. And then I found out he still let his mother buy most of his clothes. Le sigh.
My current bf has a simple style I like - polos and jeans/khakis. And I didn’t even have to threaten him to make him not pop his collar! I do dread a little when fall rolls around and all the football jerseys come out of the closet. We like different teams, and I suck at smack-talking.
CatGoesNomNom
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 10:59 am: [report]
Huh. Am I the only one who thought the guys came off a little douchey this time? Momma’s Boy, really?? I hope they were being that way so it makes for a good read, not because they actually feel that way. Yikes.
DancerNinja
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 04:18 pm: [report]
I’m loving all the hatred towards Crocs.
gevlife
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 04:57 pm: [report]
crocs at the bar? hell no. But they have their time and place, so dont knock them in general. Like i used to work on a farm…. and at Bonnaroo… and things like that. but never, ever, when trying to attract the opposite sex.
bumbler
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 05:26 pm: [report]
“He then goes on to describe how a girl’s style plays a big part in whether or not HE could date HIM.”
Freudian slip?
kmatter
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 07:04 pm: [report]
... my BF has great style… sometimes it borders on being vain though. so i have to knowck him down a couple notches. (the guy takes longer on his hair than i do, but i love him, so what do i do? lol) but at times when i let him “dress me” he’s pretty good at picking out outfits… but honestly, if he was ever this picky (momma’s boy) i’d have dumped him a year ago.
kmatter
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 07:05 pm: [report]
*knock (and i don’t really know if that’s right either, my brain is broken right now)
Symian
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 08:35 pm: [report]
My guy is way more stylish than I am. I know when to glam it up, but I prefer teeshirts, jeans, and flipflops in my everyday life. Luckily, he seems to be ok with my style (hasn’t performed an intervention) but apparently he has an issue with my giant Kuromi purse… seriously men, you hate on our bags too?? that’s low
MoonBabye
wrote on July 1 2009 @ 09:03 pm: [report]
LMAO @ the knifing comment. I told my ex that I liked how he looked in a multi striped shirt he wore once…after that, he wore the shirt every time we went to a special event. Poor thing. I feel particular about my style, so unless it’s horrid, I like to live and let live. I tend to go for the preppy type so that’s probably why I can let things slide…for the most part. Not a fan of men who wear sneakers constantly. Yes, they’re comfortable but seriously!
Michael
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 05:07 am: [report]
ugly shoes - they can ruin everything.
Shasta
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 05:44 pm: [report]
@Batleaper is spot on. There are several categories of dress, and they ARE important. It’s a window into a girl’s personality.
@CatGoes. Men were Very Douchey. They came across as delusionally arrogant. OH. They’d do Megan Fox a favor and mercy-f her if she were wearing her Ed Hardy with crocs, but they wouldn’t be happy about doing her.
Banning an item of clothing is perfectly OK, but Jesus, you MetroSexuals have become Tim Gunn and Clinton Kelly.
Go watch some ESPN instead of comparing cuts of jeans.
WTF.
snap
wrote on July 2 2009 @ 08:39 pm: [report]
i have to agree with shasta!
Alison Wonderland
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 10:06 pm: [report]
Boyfriend jeans might be comfy but they don’t tend to be that flattering… Plus, how many times have you been shopping with a guy where the discussion about how few guys stores there are compared to womens stores has come up? Maybe they’re just possessive of their jean cuts, or like the way our asses look in jeans that fit correctly. Clearly the latter, but I bet secretly both.
wowo
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 01:24 am: [report]
the photo is so special.the same style as the cougars on the *******K i s s C o u g a r.c o m*** **where single women and men come together for the mutual online dating ...