Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Far Would You Go To Impress A Woman?

Riley
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 12:57 pm: [report]

I’m with Momma’s Boy, except I’m not a momma’s boy and I don’t cardio kickbox.  I try the cute and funny routine.  Sad to say I also do the antsy/neurotic routine as well, I keep that locked in the crazy vault though.  Nobody wants to see that.

Kiki T
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:05 pm: [report]

The funniest thing a guy did to impress me…actually an ex to win me back, after the 13 calls a day weren’t working, he got cable TV. if anything was going to lure me back to his place, that would of been it…but it was too little too late, but that was the only offer he made that i did consider, since he lived across the street and had my favorite drug of choice.

sweetsdjc
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:11 pm: [report]

Amelie…I LOVE this column!  You didnt do one for a quite a while and now 2 in 1 week. THANK YOU!  The dudes on your IM are way funnier than the duds…er, dudes…on MY IM! Keep them coming

Raugiel
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 02:07 pm: [report]

Sad that both the Socializer and Amelia find the purchase of tampons embarrasing. Seriously, get over the bodily functions. GET OVER IT!

retro chic
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 02:19 pm: [report]

Thank goodness for John DV here. Were Experienced Guy, Law Student, et al, unavailable?

C.Munro
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 05:15 pm: [report]

+1 for the cute and funny thing.  I don’t really do much I wouldn’t do normally when vying for the attention of a girl.  Not only is it more effort than I’m willing to put out, but it seems kinda dishonest and slimy. 

But if I’m already with a girl, then I will go outside of my comfort zone when she wants me to.  Maybe not too terribly far, but I will make the effort in that case.  Like I’ll dance with her even though I hate dancing even more than I hate her taste in music.  No strap-ons, though.

bumbler
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 05:37 pm: [report]

My husband is really good at this kind of stuff.  When we were just friends and had a crush on me I told him we were watching Terminator 2 and he should come over, we were really watching The Notebook but he stayed because he wanted to spend time with me and we also had a great time making fun of it together.  When we started dating he was actually upset that I went to a drag show with some of my gay friends and didn’t invite him and now he’s taking up snorkeling despite his fear of sharks (had our first run in with one a few weeks ago).  I also do the same for him.  I think it’s great to try out new things for your significant other/ someone you like as long as it doesn’t make you too uncomfortable.  You might find out you actually love jazzercising even if the relationship doesn’t pan out.

adamjs
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:52 am: [report]

@bumbler: so your husband watched the notebook, swam with sharks, and went to a drag show all to impress you? He’s a braver man than I.

The extent of my embarrassing lengths to impress girls would have to be the time I once did a backflip off the top of a roof, slipped, and landed on my head on top of a passer-by; the lessen I learnt that day is that backflips, rain, girls, and roofs don’t mix. I also learnt that people make a really soft place to land.

luke15chick
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 10:30 am: [report]

just for the record, women go to great lengths to impress men too.  I have sat through long dicussions of mathmatical equations, how cars work, and who knows what else.

bumbler
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 10:56 am: [report]

@lukechick amen to that.  I’m playing make-believe basketball this year.  If that’s not love I don’t know what is.

BedRocka
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 11:01 am: [report]

Going to Vagina Monologues ... was spooked at first but ended up very very enlightening especially when all the performing ladies .... Shouted in unison “SLOW THE F DOWN!!!”

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 11:17 am: [report]

Hey! The monologues were lots of fun.

BedRocka
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 11:22 am: [report]

@ CheeeeEEEEse: Of Course when you have one it’s fun, when you posses the other appendage then it’s a little rough coz some of the monologues were pretty intense a couple of times during the monologues I thought of switching sides and getting one because those without seem obscenely evil and being mean to the jay-jays! !

majicksand
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 11:41 am: [report]

I can’t really think of anything exciting on either side.  I guess I’m just so blunt that a guy can pretty much tell if I’m interested without jumping through hoops.  I’m also too direct to jump through any hoops myself.  He likes me or he doesn’t.  End of story.

This goes back to the “are you a good dater?” thread.  Apparently I suck at it, so it’s a really good thing I’m happily married.  You guys would be giving me a complex otherwise.

bogart4017
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 01:55 pm: [report]

Maybe i’m weird but i never believed in doing strange things to get attention. I always got it (even when i didnt want it) just by being quiet. I think for some women quite=mysterious. I can’t count the many house parties, gatherings, high school dances etc where i just tagged along with some friends and i figured i just have a few drinks. Next thing you know some women get really intrigued and starts asking me a few questions,etc etc. Back then if they found out you could dance you couldnt get rid of them (smile!). Luckily for me my mom made sure me and all my brothers were excellent dancers before we even started school. But i digress.
I’m thinking and hoping that women would prefer you be honest about your habits, dislikes etc before the relationship gets too heavy. If it gets serious then they appreciate you coming out of your comfort zone every once in a while and joining them in whatever trips them out.

SouthOC
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 03:19 pm: [report]

I’m with C.Mundro.  I wouldn’t do anything out of my comfort zone to “get the girl.”  (some of the things you guys are talking about sound like you’re auditioning for a reality show).

That being said, I try to do the things my wife really needs me to do like “love her crazy family.”  Trust me, going to her family get-togethers takes all of the courage I can muster.  She knows they drive me crazy, and when I go out of my way to do nice things for them she really appreciates it.

40yrolddad
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:29 pm: [report]

I didn’t plan it this way but I ended up going back to school:  the mutual friend who fixed us up had also been pestering me to go back & finish college.  I finally lied & told $friend I had registered to get her off my back.  when $wife & I went on 1st date one of the 1st things she said was:  “so, $friend tells me you’re going back to finish your degree - good for you!”  (“um, yeah - education good!”).  well the date went well so I figured I better at least register to keep my options open - I could always drop before classes started if things didn’t work out but I was screwed if we were still dating at that point & I wasn’t registered.  well, obviously things worked out between her & I so I ended up going to classes & eventually finishing…

SouthOC
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:50 pm: [report]

@40yrolddad This is the classic example of “You make me want to be a better man.”  Sounds like you had a happy ending where everbody wins.  Cool.