Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Do You Like To Be Dominated?
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry
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2:30PM, Wednesday February 25th 2009
I haven’t met many men that like to be dominated on a regular basis, but most gals I know like to take charge in the bedroom, at least from time to time. Aside from obvious dominate/submissive relationships, how do regular ol’ Joes feel about women taking charge between the sheets, both is subtle ways—directing the positions and the pace—and with more obvious methods—spanking, restraints, etc.? I went to the guys on my IM to find out how they feel about being dominated.
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par3
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 03:21 pm: [report]
i’m surprised you guys didn’t touch on butt-play. some guys consider letting their girl play with the taint as a form of submission. hmmm this could be a whole ‘nother aim chat!
raqueleza
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 03:38 pm: [report]
“FISTING.”
Ahahaha.
Anyway, I thought a little light bondage was pretty standard. All men—hell, all women too—should be tied up at least once, by someone who knows what their doing.
eden
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 04:33 pm: [report]
@Amelia - General consensus among us kinky folk is that there are more submissive women then men and more dominant men than dominant women. Which is a reason why a professional female dom can become very popular and very rich!
@par3: Butt play, imo, can be both dominating and just part of regular play. In my experience its how its given. Its definitely a submissive act in the sense that penentrating a dude is not something natural for most guys, but it doesn’t mean its a form of submission in and d/s sense.
Little Lamb
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 05:32 pm: [report]
About a week ago, I was lying in bed with my man and started playfully grabbing his butt. Then I started light spankings (more along the lines of a firm pat). Next thing I know, “Mr. Ed” was wide awake.
He said he wouldn’t want a hard spanking, and I’m pretty sure I would feel weird doing that to him…but I do like to hold his hands down, and I know he really likes that too!
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on February 25 2009 @ 05:44 pm: [report]
Despite not having sex, I think I am both a dom and a sub. Tally that one up as another strange thing about me.
sklut
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 12:25 pm: [report]
I like being on top and holding a guys arms down. It’s super simple but really dominate at the same time and most guys love it. There was one time I took a note from the show ‘Californication’ and punched a guy in the face right when he came. I’m pretty strong too, he got a black eye from it but he also got really pissed off and turned on at the same time and we ended up having amazing rough sex. Hair pulling, slammed against a wall or two, lip biting all sorts of goodness.
Wonkette!
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 03:34 pm: [report]
My husband likes to Dom and enjoys playing Dom/Sub games. I don’t understand the spanking, and the rough sex and it’s not fun. In fact it scares me. I will play along with him but being dominated does nothing for me.
par3
wrote on February 26 2009 @ 03:39 pm: [report]
sklut- black eye..YIKES! lol…that’s what i call a romp.
retro chic
wrote on February 27 2009 @ 07:21 pm: [report]
sklut: was your dog in the room too?
Had a cat* once that jumped my then BF’s back right when he came; similar reaction, tho, with eyes intact.
* her name was “violet” but had to rename her “violent.” Drew blood and left too many scratches on the back.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on February 28 2009 @ 02:29 am: [report]
I think my cats walk on me when I sleep sometimes, because I wake up with scratches I didn’t have the day before.