Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Are You Cool With Sex Toys In The Bedroom?

bogart4017
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]

My mate has never used them but i would be open to it.

C.Munro
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 12:16 pm: [report]

As long as they’re not destined for any of my orifices, I’m fine with them.

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 12:28 pm: [report]

bring em on

amandabear
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 03:11 pm: [report]

I am fully pro-sex toys.

SouthOC
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 04:21 pm: [report]

I’m cool with things made out of silk, but don’t even try to stick anything up my @%%!

GreyWolf
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 05:50 pm: [report]

Toys are great… provided they are being used to enhance the experience, not make the experience.

I’m not so insecure that I’m worried about being replaced.  But if I end up not completing things and my other talents aren’t doing the job either, I don’t think I have any right to complain.

Unless I’m refused another chance to improve on my performance of course.

secretsquirrel
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 06:43 pm: [report]

Orgasms with penetration are happening 2 ways with me…either my fingers on my clit (not all the time) or a clit vibe (every time).  I can orgasm with oral too.  But just penetration, although it feels GREAT, isn’t gonna get me off.

So.

Do I just not have an orgasm because a man doesn’t like the seal type thing that the Experienced Guy was talking about?

develange
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 07:03 pm: [report]

Somehow the Hitachi has become a bedroom staple, even though it’s extremely indiscrete and unsexy looking. I would NEVER whip it out with a new man, though.

I’ve only met one guy who was down with using sex toys on (in?) himself. The others had never tried, didn’t like it, or wouldn’t admit they liked it…

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 08:51 pm: [report]

@Amelia: Momma’s boy is dumb. He totally didn’t get the double entendre you totally threw at him I assume unknowingly. “I wouldn’t have pegged you being down to trying anal beads!” Go look up pegging on wikipedia.

@develange: Kitty! Also, I know what the wand is….

develange
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 10:03 pm: [report]

@ CheeeeEEEEse - love the kitty. love it.
I’m glad you know the magic of the wand

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 10:05 pm: [report]

@develange: I’ve seen many of a porn, and I can tell what was real…it’s a fancy doohickey.

A.J.R.
wrote on October 28 2009 @ 09:48 am: [report]

No problem with toys whatsoever.  And while I don’t want them IN me, per se, I’ve grown to really dig the vibraty sensations from using wifey’s mini vibe on her clit while I’m inside her.  And, as I said here a while back, our usual routine consists of me using her vibe on her for a good long while before getting down to the old in-out-in-out (oh, and a few times recently, I’ve gotten back up after finishing and kept going on her with Mr. Buzz-buzz…she was very appreciative).  I feel sorry for the poor saps who think of it as substitution rather than augmentation, though I can see being upset if that happened.  If we’re not needed, why are we there?

develange
wrote on October 28 2009 @ 10:25 pm: [report]

Mr. Buzz-buzz…that just made my day.

onewriter
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 01:25 am: [report]

it’s weird to see so many males okay with it.  It’s never come up with my SO and I certainly won’t be the one to bring it up.  I wouldn’t turn it down in addition to his loving, but I would rather go without orgasm than have him feel inadequate, so he’s the one who will bring it up or initiate it, or it’s not gonna happen.

|Julie Jackson
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 03:03 am: [report]

Sales in male sex toys have increased by 30% this year where as sales in female sex toys have only increased by 10%. To answer your question, yes men are more comfortable now than ever before with sex toys in the bedroom.

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 08:01 am: [report]

@onewriter - youd rather go w/o orgasm than have him feel inadequate?  if my SO went w/o orgasm, id feel inadequate…

spatula
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 08:58 am: [report]

@MuchoMacho- i think i love you.

I bought my first toy when I was still sleeping with my last ex, and he acted really lame about it. He didn’t even want to think or hear about me using it on myself, and don’t even mention it when we’re together…there went that idea. And it’s not even really scary or terribly penis-looking.

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 09:09 am: [report]

the way i see it, listening to a football game on the radio is pretty sweet.  but its even sweeter to recline in my lazyboy while watching the game in HD on my flatscreen while my GF serves me nachos while naked.

accessories just add flavor.  and if it makes it better for her, why not?  my package is the “A-Team” and if she had to choose between it and the “B-Team”, “A” would win every time.  But I’m not a hater, and if she wants us to team up, well game on.

onewriter
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 09:09 am: [report]

@muchomacho Well, we have a good time, and I love to give to him, I’m sure that’s enough.  He doesn’t SEEM to feel inadequate…

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 09:30 am: [report]

does he know ur not going?

catmcroy
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 12:13 pm: [report]

I love my Magic Wand. Love love love love love it. It was my 29th birthday present to myself. My bf is pro-vibrator and loves it too. (Try putting it at the base of the penis and touching his balls while you give head!)

onewriter
wrote on October 29 2009 @ 01:34 pm: [report]

yes.  and yes, he’s mentioned it…but, well, I’ve told him I don’t want to deal with it, it doesn’t matter enough to me, and that what we do is enough for me.  All of which are true. I’ve never failed to be “ready” for him, so he knows he turns me on, and we enjoy our times together although I don’t think he understands why I won’t but, I’m fine with things as they are.  I see no way to change it, and I just try not to mind when I get really bad.

EastCoastMale
wrote on October 30 2009 @ 11:32 am: [report]

I not only am cool with toys in the bedroom but I encourage it. I definitely consider myself in the minority group of people who are pretty far into a kinky lifestyle but roughness combined with a good imagination and some toys makes for some very steamy nights, even the neighbors have a smoke lol

majicksand
wrote on October 30 2009 @ 06:16 pm: [report]

My husband suggested our toys.  When we went to the store, he picked out a truly amazing vibrator for me.  He uses it on me; I didn’t even touch the thing until he put it in my hand.  When I complained that we haven’t bought anything to enhance his experience, he informed me that my toys are for him.  He’s been known to work on me for hours without any return.  With toys or without.  The toys are great fun sometimes, but just like MuchoMacho’s GF, I’m definitely an “A Team” kind of girl.

justme234
wrote on November 1 2009 @ 10:58 am: [report]

Bought my wife her first vibrator when we were dating.  Over the years I have bought her a variety of them. She uses them with me, alone, to lead up to sex, as the only sex, while I’m massaging her feet, to have a quick orgasm after a stressful day before falling asleep, - i.e. for a hundred different situations. We also have a lot of sex without a toy. My biggest concern is that there’s only one that she says really has the perfect level of vibration; it’s over 20 years old and she’s very loyal to it. I’ve had to fix it twice. It’s going to be traumatic if it ever really breaks. lol.

Kate134
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 11:01 pm: [report]

@ onewriter: Seriously, I’m pretty sure that he feels more inadequate that you’re not having an orgasm than if you explored more avenues for him to help you get off. There’s an art to using a vibrator on someone, you need good timing instincts and great communication. It’s actually really intimate.

That said over 1/3 of wome have never had or rarely had an orgasm - which is really sad if a good amount of them decided this because they’re afraid of making someone else feel ‘inadequate’ when there’s nothing to feel inadequate about. You wouldn’t try to navigate in the woods with only a compass, would you? You’d need a map.
Teenage girls - best advice I can give you before you have sex with anyone - masterbate. A lot. Masterbating helps you know what you like and how to get there, so later you can show your partners the way.

onewriter
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 11:51 pm: [report]

@kate134 It’s not that I can’t….I WON’T.  There’s a difference.

Molly Jean
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 07:44 pm: [report]

@ justme234 yours might be my favorite Frisky comment EVER!  i love it!