The Secret Sex Lives Of Lesbians

Rose
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]

Are there really still people in the world who don’t know the clitoris is involved in female orgasm?  WOMAN who don’t know this?  REALLY?  Have all those articles in Cosmo been for naught?

Ginger
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 11:54 am: [report]

That’s what I thought, Rose. Half of the article had me going ‘Really? That’s a secret?’

Goldfinch86
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 12:04 pm: [report]

I guess for some people if probably is a secret. Here on the Frisky it seems women seem to be more educated and open minded. This is not to be said of everyone in the world and therefore why the person wrote this article. One of my college friends had no idea how lesbians had sex, he wasn’t a very sexual person and I don’t think HE had ever seen porn of girl on girl. So I had to explain rather mildly and gently that girls do not just scissor they do oral, finger each other and depending on how comfortable they feel use “toys”. Not everyone knows.

Kitty Anderson
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 12:07 pm: [report]

My God, why are all the blog commenters on this blog so negative?

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 12:13 pm: [report]

“scissoring” is called Tribadism.

PotteryGirl
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 12:50 pm: [report]

@Rose - that was my first thought too, but…I think there is a LOT that people don’t know when it comes (no pun intended ) to sex.  People are too shy to talk about it, parents aren’t exactly going to have these kinds of conversations, some friends aren’t going to talk about it amongst themselves. 

@Kitty - what do you mean?

Lynn
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 12:54 pm: [report]

First the author said that there is nothing you can orgasm from except the clit…then on the next page she said that the G spot is very real. Huh?? Is it just me or are those contradictory statements?

For the record I think the G spot is very real…but I don’t flip flop on the issue.

effing hickster
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 01:25 pm: [report]

I like Natalies quote, “I’m a boob man.”

@Lynn: Well, at least she knows where the clitoris is, which a few men seem to think is located somewhere around the anus.

Goldfinch86
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 01:37 pm: [report]

Yeah @kitty what do you mean, I re-read the comments a few times and none of these are negative. Do you mean overall in the whole site or just this thread?

Jill
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 02:10 pm: [report]

This article made me second guess my sexuality…it basically just says men suck in bed and women rock.  What am I missing out on?!

PotteryGirl
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 02:51 pm: [report]

@Lynn, I didn’t take it that way.  I thought the author meant that vaginal stimulation in the form of sexual intercourse (hey…how is that for sounding clinical!) doesn’t cause an organism.  That the friction to the clitoris is what made women have organisms during penis/vaginal penetration.

@Jill - i don’t think that is what the author is saying, but let’s face it…when it’s equipment that you also have 24 hour access to, of course you are going to know how to use that equipment better.

Etcetera
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 02:58 pm: [report]

I’m a little confused about the g-spot/clit comment too. It simply makes no sense.

Also, I don’t actually know any couples who have suffered lesbian bed death. Maintaining a healthy sex life requires a modicum of effort regardless of whether you’re straight or gay.

Taurwen
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 03:40 pm: [report]

It didn’t seem all that contradictory to me, I figured she just meant it was basically impossible to reach orgasm without touching the clit. The G-Spot is there, but even if you’re massaging it or ramming it, or whatever you aren’t going to cum (even if it feels good).

I personally tend to disagree, but I think that’s what she meant.

snap
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:09 pm: [report]

instead of informing me about lesbians, this article basically informed me that this author knows very little about the human body.

1.  #&@$% usually means more than just fingers.  that’s why fingering is called “fingering.”  and, when it is called “#&@$%,” it’s qualified with “finger-”:  finger #&@$%.  technically, lesbians CAN’T #&@$% because the definition of “#&@$%” is penile penetration.  sorry to say that, and maybe it’s not perfect, but that’s what the word means in American/English slang.
2.  it strips her of credibility when she gives an unqualified “straight people aren’t as good at oral sex as lesbians.”  you just can’t make stereotypical, myth-based statements when you’re writing an article trying to debunk stereotypical, myth-based statements.  i’m sure there are plenty of lesbians out there who are terrible at oral sex, and i’m sure they are plenty of straight men out there who excel at it.
3.  women CAN come through vaginal stimulation only; it’s highly unlikely, but it’s possible.
4.  it’s extraordinarily ignorant to say that women who haven’t had orgasms don’t know what/where their clitorises are. 
5.  she has the penis and clitoris are congruous, which they are, but she also claims that they are congruous because they have an identical amount of nerve endings.  this is not true, and a quick google search will reveal that the clitoris has more than twice as many nerve endings as a penis.  they are congruous to the extent that they are made of spongy erectile tissue and are packed with nerve endings—not because because they are the same organs in different forms.
6.  and she knows that all men in general don’t spend much time on women’s breasts?  and she alone has the great insights about breasts?

snap
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:11 pm: [report]

not to mention that the article didn’t offer ANYTHING new about lesbian sex.  it basically played into stereotypes and assumptions:  lesbians finger each other, go down on each other, and do that scissoring thing.  what of those did we not already know?  the anal thing?  no big secrets there.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:18 pm: [report]

Anyone who’s ever seen “Chasing Amy” could or just re-iterated you snap.

Goldfinch86
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:31 pm: [report]

Snap what the hell is wrong with you? She’s telling people because not many people know anything at all, all they think of is scissoring. Yes this is what they do, just like many stupid people think straight people have missionary sex or sex from behind and thats it. I can’t even read your lengthy rant because it’s very annoying and based on your premise of know-it-all attitude and facts.

effing hickster
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:44 pm: [report]

@PotteryGirl: Knock, knock. Grammar police.

An organism is created by sperm fusing with an ovum, which becomes an embryo.

An orgasm an autonomic physiologic response to sexual stimulation by self or between partners.

effing hickster
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:46 pm: [report]

Allow me to correct myself. An organism is any living system.

I was thinking in terms of sex and procreation (or lack thereof).

PotteryGirl
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 04:55 pm: [report]

@ effing hickster - no need to be an #&@$%.  It’s sunday, I’m tired, and was casually posting on a website that I enjoy.  Orgasm, organism.  It’s a typo. Don’t be a dick.

effing hickster
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 05:13 pm: [report]

I’ll try.

Pinky
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 06:01 pm: [report]

Gee where have i been…I knew about ALL the other stuff lesbians do, oral, finger, strap on etc. but I really did not know what scissoring is.
As for vaginal orgasm well I can only by personal experience   the most intense orgasms I have had are vaginal ( with a male penetrating me) without clitoris stimulation persay. It take me about 15-20 minutes but when I do achieve it-its a earth mover and I have ejaculated. My husband was an excellent lover (he’s now inpotent) and spent time and energy pleasing me and bringing to this point. Even when I use my dildo now I have vaginal orgasm with it, but it still takes about 15 minutes… Hope this not ‘too much information’ just weighing in on the
matter

_jsw_
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 06:35 pm: [report]

I’ve certainly read worse DivineCaroline.com articles, but I agree that this one broke no new ground. I was especially disappointed in the lack of videos on the subject matter.

Actually, I’m not all that into girl-on-girl. But, since the article was so chock full of stereotypes, I felt compelled to fall into one of my own.

And I’m still tired of DivineCaroline.com requiring three page views to read a short article. Granted, this is better than the previous one that could have been printed on a postage stamp with a paint roller and still took three pages, but it’s bad enough.

Taurwen
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 08:03 pm: [report]

PotteryGirl - Chill man, it was a funny typo, I’m surprised no one pointed it out earlier.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 08:20 pm: [report]

@Taurwen: I’d prefer to have an orgasm over an organism too.

PotteryGirl
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 08:43 pm: [report]

@Taurwen - agreed that it was a funny typo.  But, “Knock, knock. Grammar police.”??  Really?  Hickster just comes off incredibly condescending sometimes.

Kitty Anderson
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 11:35 pm: [report]

@Goldfinch86
@PotteryGirl

I just mean that people on this blog tend to overly critisise the blog posts, along with each other’s comments. I value thinking for yourself very highly, but Jesus christ, not everything needs to be so dissected.
I don’t know, you may not see it but it gets on my nerves a lot.

Rose
wrote on September 21 2009 @ 03:43 am: [report]

Geez, did I ever start something!  I was trying to sound funny in an ironic way.  And I thought that @hickster was trying to be funny as well with the “grammar police” thing, although, hickster, if you meant to sound condescending, then I apologize for finding it amusing   Also, I totally agree with @jsw, that those short articles don’t need to take three pages.  And @cheese, that I prefer orgasms to most organisms, although some organisms come in pretty handy.  Pun(s) intended.

myocum31
wrote on September 21 2009 @ 06:39 pm: [report]

You would be surprised at what people don’t know. I had a guy friend once ask me if women peed out of their vagina or if it was somewhere else. And by vagina, I mean the actual “birth canal.” Granted, the vagina can be confusing to inexperienced guys… but really? Lol!

PotteryGirl
wrote on September 21 2009 @ 07:08 pm: [report]

@Kitty - nope. After I was “grammar police’d”, I totally get what you are saying.

majicksand
wrote on September 22 2009 @ 12:51 pm: [report]

I was really disappointed in this article.  Women enjoy have their breasts touched, penetration, and clitoral stimulation.  Oral sex is intimate.  Wow, really?  Apparently, I’m very knowledgeable about lesbian love—for a straight chick.  For that matter, so is my husband!

Revolutionary Girl
wrote on September 22 2009 @ 08:43 pm: [report]

Hey, men like breasts. I have to defend that! Also, I saw said South Park episode and laughed…sorry. I respect lesbians and love them but everyone, even straight people get poked fun at.

@Jill:Men know what their doing if you lead them there. Maybe lesbians and gay couples in general have the one up because they know the body better since they themselves have the same parts.

I give straight couples who have great sex credit. Its no easy discovering something you don’t own or know how it feels.  But straight couples know how to do it just as well as lesbians. I think this is just being too defensive.

purplerose
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 06:21 pm: [report]

I love scissoring.
Though I havent in years…