The Real World: Does Having A Threesome Make You A Skank?

_jsw_
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:15 am: [report]

I suspect it’s discussed a lot more than it’s done. Of course, that could just me me and my sheltered upbringing and my inability to find two bisexual women at one time.

ootie
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:18 am: [report]

I definitely don’t think it makes you a skank, but I wouldn’t want to do it on television.  Also, I’d only want to do it with a guy I knew was really cool/nice/respectful or I’d feel stupid for giving him a reason to brag and think he was hot #&@$%.

wonder_bread
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:20 am: [report]

i sure hope threesomes don’t become anytype of right of passage… i would hate for my future kids to feel pressured to have to do something like that in order to fit in or be considered as having lived… i feel bad for them.. they’re so confused or something… as open as my parents are mine’s would be upset if they knew i had sex on tv let alone with a group of people..its just not decent. what u do in ur private time behind close doors is ur business but wen u put it on tv u open urself up to hurting more than just urself… i hope that doesn’t follow them when they go into interviews whatever else they choose to do.

_jsw_
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:21 am: [report]

@ootie: FWIW, every man who has ever had a threesome has bragged about it and thought he was hot #&@$%. Every single man. Ever. Except for those who died in the act.

Riley
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:27 am: [report]

@JSW - I have not bragged.  I don’t brag about my sexual exploits.  Of course, one could consider the omission a form of bragging.  So I guess you get me there.

Raugiel
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:30 am: [report]

Is there an option for neither?

DancerNinja
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:31 am: [report]

I think motive is key here.

If you do it for popularity and the affections of a jack ass, then, yes, it makes you a skank. Their shame afterward shows they fall in this category.

If you do it because you are interested, curious, or otherwise personally inclined to desire it, then no, you’re just doing what makes you happy.

_jsw_
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:34 am: [report]

@Riley: It’s only a matter of time. In fact, you’re doing implied bragging now. Which makes me semi-jealous. Even though you have actually claimed to have done anything.

@Raugiel: Yes, I think it can be an act which isn’t a right of passage and which also doesn’t make one a tramp.

wonder_bread
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:37 am: [report]

@DancerNinja i think i agree with you. but i don’t think either should be done on tv.. at the very most late night tv HBO, Showtime, Cinamax…but not so easily in reach of young kids.. these day i’d have to block most of the channels off my tv if i don’t want them to be exposed to such things before they show maturity to handle it…

spatula
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:37 am: [report]

I’ve had a threesome, and I don’t think I’m a skank. But I don’t know that I’d consider it a rite of passage. It’s just something I did, because I was “personally inclined to desire it”, I suppose . And no one involved bragged about it.

So I guess my answer is neither.

Arsenic
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:40 am: [report]

I’ve had a couple threesomes in my time, both with 2 guys and 2 girls (including me). Personally, I think as long as you are only sharing your body with people with whom you share mutual respect and have some sort of connection with (and are safe), it really doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do. Every threesome I’ve had has been with people I liked and considered friends at the time, and I don’t regret any of them for precisely that reason.

I will say, however, that bringing another person into a relationship, whether for sex or love, is always a risky act. Personally, I don’t believe that adding another person would create problems that wouldn’t have arisen eventually anyway, but it *does* greatly magnify the problems that would (or are already there) and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone not completely sure of the stability of their relationship.

Riley
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:41 am: [report]

@JSW - Yeah, as I mentioned; it can be considered indirect bragging.  I don’t consider it bragging if a friend asks me directly, I don’t lie but I don’t elaborate. 

I loathe those that lord supposed “accomplishments” over others; eventually giving myself a bragging and compliment-receiving complex.

alwaysabbie
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:46 am: [report]

Having a threesome is one thing.

Having a drunk threesome, on television, with another person in the room sleeping is another thing.

Laurel
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:47 am: [report]

Too bad most men don’t like the idea of a threesome with two men… Maybe if men were more open to this, more women would be happier to have woman/woman/man threesomes. As a bi woman myself, I know I get worked up at the idea of my boyfriend with another guy, and I know lots of women get off on gay porn. Just a thought?

I Go To 11
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 11:49 am: [report]

Back in my younger days, I did a couple threesomes. However, it was NOT done for attention/popularity/whathaveyou, it was because I was 18 and curious. I haven’t done one since then, though, because it’s really not for me. But doing it on cable TV? WTF ever.

Why do people even care about this show anymore? It jumped the shark 10 years ago, at least.

ootie
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 12:16 pm: [report]

@jsw: I guess I just wouldn’t really mind a guy bragging about it if he wasn’t an #&@$%.

Coral
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 02:11 pm: [report]

I have had a couple of threesomes, but I’m just a regular, hometown girl, and most people would probably never know from the looks of it. I do think threesomes are more common—I think the people who have actually engaged in them do not talk about as often as those who want to partake in them, but have failed to do so yet.

bogart4017
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 02:16 pm: [report]

I wouldnt knock it. But i wouldnt try it either. If the participants are sure and willing i wouldnt judge.

spatula
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 02:20 pm: [report]

I would like to edit my response to say that I think having a TELEVISED, drunken threesome with innocent parties sleeping in the same room, DEFINITELY makes you a skank.

Raugiel
wrote on August 27 2009 @ 04:36 pm: [report]

@ spatula - I second that! Actually, even if you are not on TV, having a threesome (or really any sex act that people might not want to wake up to) with innocent parties sleeping in the same room is so rude I think you can be a skank without being on TV. Have some courtesy!

Jill
wrote on August 28 2009 @ 11:43 am: [report]

Having a threesome doesn’t make you a skank.  Having a threesome on national television does.

VX967
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 11:55 pm: [report]

@_jsw_   you are so wrong!!!  The people who are having threesomes are keeping their mouths shut.  Why so they can have more !!!

hey_tsu
wrote on October 20 2009 @ 12:10 am: [report]

Having a threesome doesn’t make you a skank. I’m pretty sure it’s starting to become the norm now, say, opposed to 20 years ago. However, I will classify that 3some as skanky, because it was all for T.V. time—stupid, delusional crying included =]

ursula35
wrote on October 23 2009 @ 01:09 am: [report]

I had threesomes with my boyfriend and another girl a couple times when I was younger.  Not my thing but I guess it seemed like a rite of passage then.  But as a 35 year old mom, I had a threesome with my husband and a male coworker - and WOW. I don’t think you can call that a rite of passage, and I doubt I’m living the kind of lifestyle people would consider skanky.  I just had a really great sexual experience that all 3 mature adults involved very much enjoyed (and are all hoping to do again soon).  Some sexual experiences can’t be labeled, it just is what works for you at that time in your life.