The Nookie Know-It-All: Grossed Out By Oral

quarterslot
wrote on May 22 2008 @ 12:00 am: [report]

If you really, really, really can’t stand deep-throating, give a hand-job with a lot of lube (either saliva or store-bought) while licking/sucking just the head.

Suzie Heumann
wrote on May 22 2008 @ 03:13 pm: [report]

Ooouuu…No girl is ever going to go crazy over a blow job! Speak for yourself.
The thing is you’ve got to understand the ‘deep’ importance of the act. I don’t mean just for him but for YOU.
Two things:

First:
If you know where your G-spot is and you know how to activate it, great. If you don’t then here is a little teaser for you. Put your thumb in your mouth and feel the ridgy area behind your front, top teeth. Right behind that is your upper palate - not the roof of your mouth but RIGHT behind the ridges. THAT area is analogous with - right - the G-spot. That’s an easy trick to find it in your yoni because there is similar tissue. So, that means that giving glorious oral sex to your guy can actually get you turned on. Yes, it’s an area that is exquisitely sensitive (try putting your little vibrator up on that spot for even a second and see what happens).
So practicing the art of oral sex, and practicing it well, can get you a long way. PS: Try kneeling and getting an incredible deep shoulder massage while pleasuring him.
Second:
Don’t do the ‘control’ thing and get him off fast. It is not in your best interest, though your ego may be stroked for half a minute. When enjoying oral sex you can take him into ecstasy realms and train him to last a long time too. Tease him, play with him, don’t let him come. Make him peak and peak again. He is going to so love it and then, after a few weeks, let him know you’ve been working on him. YOU want him to last so that you can actually orgasm during intercourse. Practice that mouth and G-spot connection to perfect it!

Kiku
wrote on May 22 2008 @ 03:24 pm: [report]

Personally, I really love giving my boyfriend a blowjob. It’s rewarding when he finishes because of it, and when you’re doing it, you have complete control of his reactions so you can tease and slow down . But I have to admit that when I started I hated it too. Just takes alittle time to get used to and enjoy :D

bombwithaplomb
wrote on May 24 2008 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

Oddly enough, I was recently thinking about how much I love giving head and how so many people don’t…I think it often stems from negative experiences with immature boys early in gal’s sexual development.  I have often thought the the reason I can enjoy it so is because I was only with girls in those formative years, so by the time I was all on some dongs, I was older, the guys were older, and it was completely on my own terms. 

I think the most important thing in learning to enjoy giving blow jobs is to communicate (duh) with the guy and he has to be willing to be patient while you explore on your own, instead of expecting a cookie-cutter blow job that gets him off fast every time.  A lady has to learn to savor the feeling of a peep in her mouth and even appreciate the taste of pre-cum but that ain’t gonna happen if the focus is just the usual jack hammer face.  I promise, it’s totally possible!

I think the fear of surprise-cum-in-the-mouth also makes it an unsavory experience for some but once you learn those pre-orgasm sounds and movements that guys generally make every time…they likely say the same variation of “oh god/oh #&@$%/here it comes/mission:accomplished” every time (or so goes my experience) or at the very least, they will tense up right before.  Even if you plan to swallow, or just catch in your mouth and do with it as you will after that, knowing it’s on it’s way is a great comfort.

Becca
wrote on May 29 2008 @ 12:02 pm: [report]

I’m not saying girls don’t like oral, I’m just saying for the most part we don’t go and write poems about it.

If I did, I might write this Haiku:

Your lovely Penis
In my mouth is like a gift
Please don’t take it out

Amelia
wrote on May 29 2008 @ 12:03 pm: [report]

That was beautiful. Brought a tear to my eye.

kittykitty
wrote on June 2 2008 @ 09:43 pm: [report]

OK…on the flip-side of this, do guys REALLY enjoy giving oral sex ? please tell me why?
I throughly enjoy giving a good/great blow-job, it gives me satisfaction knowing how much it pleases him I love all the little noises and quivers of ooh baby. and i do agree that it is a great comfort knowing when Mr. is going to explode, not the ‘ol, oops, surprise! Suzie,thanks for the mouth trick, didn’t realize that, I’ll pay more attention next time. oh just one more thing, how can you avoid the gagging !(I have a narrow mouth/small jaw) that’s the part I hate !

michael
wrote on July 23 2008 @ 05:45 am: [report]

YES! any sraight guy DOES enjoy giving oral sex.  I will tell you why.
1) it really feels like an acomplishment to get a girl off, its not east for all guys, especially when a girl doesn’t know what she likes.  So it is very rewarding to go down on a girl and get her off.
2) despite your insecurities, most men love the smell/taste of most vag (there are some exceptions o’course).  It can help get us really hot.
3) every heard labias referred to as lips?  well thats because they are just as fun to kiss!
4)  its a vagina, us guys go crazy over them, anyway we can get them. so calm down about your clam, we want to be there.

Budlight Lime Gal
wrote on July 23 2008 @ 08:39 am: [report]

I personally like giving blowjobs, my bf goes crazy when we’re having sex I’m on top then get off of him and give him oral. Then get back on top of him. Never had one complaint : )

Some Dude
wrote on August 7 2008 @ 02:53 pm: [report]

I can second that motion. I’m a dude and I love going down on a girl. I love getting blowjobs too, but sometimes I can’t tell which one I like more!

A healthy clean coochie looks, feels, smells, and tastes AWESOME to a straight guy. It is tons of fun to lick, taste, tease, kiss, and otherwise orally obssess over a pretty pink box, especially when they are shaved or trimmed (makes for easier skin to skin contact).

So ladies, remember to keep your cookie clean and sweet, and you will be rewarded with lots of oral affection from your man. Some men can be squamish about it at first, but as long as the meal is well-prepared, they will grow to love it in no time. It will become one of their favorite dishes!

YUM!

besosbeijos
wrote on August 7 2008 @ 03:05 pm: [report]

My only problem with blow jobs is that I have terrible TMJ and I can’t do it for very long without my jaw hurting terribly and can’t open my mouth very wide, which in turn really cuts down on the quality because I start to tense up. I really love giving head because, as has been pointed out, I know it gets my guy off. I already know the ole’ “use your hand at the same time” trick, so any other suggestions?

Also, it’s nice to hear that guys like the smell and taste, because I can say as a woman when I smell and taste myself on a guy’s mouth it drives me wild!

mutha
wrote on August 27 2008 @ 08:14 pm: [report]

My husband has never given, but loves to take. I’ve given up on trying to encourage by giving. Now we both have to go without.

Brandon
wrote on September 12 2008 @ 08:44 am: [report]

There is nothing in the world greater than being taken to the limit by an outstanding blow-job- EXCEPT: Absolutely devouring a well-groomed, fresh, clean clitoris immediately thereafter… Any guy who is comfortable with himself, LOVES giving, loves it! My problem is that my girl’s mother brainwashed her into thinking that giving blowjobs was nasty and only whores did that and all the negative things you can think of…So after having some dry-penis time, I told her look: I love it, and if you love me, you should love it too. I don’t wanna force you to do it, but it really isn’t fair that I get you all over my mouth, and your mouth still has lip gloss on it.

Ahhhh…not everyday, but once a week is better than none at all!