The Indifferent Bride
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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10:30AM, Wednesday March 11th 2009
It’s been a little over a month since I got engaged, and other than securing a date and spot for the wedding ceremony (late July in a small Central Park garden), I haven’t done a thing to prepare. To tell you the truth, some days I don’t bother putting on my ring, and sometimes I forget I’m even engaged until someone sends me a link to a wedding dress or an invitation design I might like. It’s not that I’m not thrilled to have found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, because I am, it’s just that I find this whole wedding planning process incredibly tedious. Obviously, a Knot Bride, I am not, but the thing is, I’m really not an Indie Bride or Offbeat Bride, either. Is there a site for the Indifferent Bride?
I will say that loathe as I am to tackle the wedding checklist a site like Offbeat Bride offers as a guideline (warning: if you are newly engaged, do not even peek at it unless you want to have a nervous breakdown!), I do so love surfing their “wedding porn.” Where else would I find pictures and a video a Hello Kitty wedding. I mean, the bride’s dress is an actual Hello Kitty FACE. Kinda makes a Barbie wedding seem pretty tame, huh? Hey, you know what the theme of my wedding is going to be? Getting married! [via Venus Zine]
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EastCoastMale
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 10:45 am: [report]
(slow 80s top gun clap) kudos!! FINALLY, a bride that has spoken out against the whole overblown ceremony that is a wedding. Im sure other women feel that way as well but all that planning and all that worry over what? your guests wont notice if the flowers are off one shade of the number of symbolic candles. I personally would use this as an indicator for any woman I was going to marry. If she wants to spend several thousand dollars on a dress worn once and vigorously defends that point…then no thanks.
SociallyAlexander
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 10:52 am: [report]
I planned a wedding and then scrapped the whole idea, took a day trip with my husband and got married in a drive thru wedding chapel. Having a wedding is nice and all but in the end it’s just you and your husband.
Wendy Atterberry
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 11:16 am: [report]
My friend just did the same thing. Actually, she’s the same friend who introduced me to my boyfriend, and we happened to get engaged within weeks of each other. She started preliminary planning and then said “f**k it,” and took off for Vegas over Valentine’s Day with her guy and got married in a drive-thru chapel as well. Her pictures are awesome.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]
Impressive. A woman after my own heart.
retro chic
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 12:23 pm: [report]
Personally, I’m no fan of the Wedding consumerism thing, no matter who’s picking up the tab. There will be no engraved, foil-stamped, vellum-inserted, calligraph-ied, hand-made French papier wedding invitation in a tipped and wax-sealed envelope from me, since it would not represent me. My family/friends would think there’s an impostor at work if they rec’d one, anyway. No, I’m skipping right to the second marriage—just doing something spontaneous and true to the tone we wish to set for our new life together with my beloved.
I think such an important step should be taken in whatever way the individuals want. I hope that others choosing to do the big thing would enlist friends/large dogs as wranglers/handlers to deal with unwelcome influences.
AgentBeryllium
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 12:34 pm: [report]
Those Hubbies must REALLY love their Wifey’s.
Lynn
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 12:53 pm: [report]
I’m not engaged yet, but I suspect I’ll be pretty much like you when I am. I’m excited for a marriage, but no part of me wants to stress myself out planning some huge wedding like that. I’m excited about buying a pretty dress, but a couple hundred dollars is my limit. I have full intentions of calling up my best buds and heading to Vegas, where I can get married ON A PIRATE SHIP. Nothing can beat that.
msPriss - too true!
writergirl
wrote on March 11 2009 @ 01:16 pm: [report]
I’ve been the bride…and I obsessed and planned and spent countless hours finding everything to make sure it was ‘perfect’.
I was miserable for my ENTRIE engagement period.
Hindsight being 20/20, I should have gone to Vegas and announced the deed when it was done.
MelisandeScott
wrote on March 12 2009 @ 05:31 pm: [report]
I can just say that I’m glad I’m not alone. I’m not engaged yet, but my bf and I have talked extensively about it. I’m very much looking forward to the “being engaged” part of it, but the thought of having to plan a wedding is so not something that I want to do. The amount of money that is poured into these events, and the amount of stress that everyone just lets take over is absolutely ridiculous. I want something simple, something easy, and something fun.
I just don’t see the point of spending thousands of dollars on an event when that money could be used to pay for a house or heck, even take a better honeymoon.