Teen Sex Trend: Blow Jobs Are The New Goodnight Kiss!
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry
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11:00AM, Friday May 29th 2009
Parents! Lock your teenagers in their rooms! Especially the girls! “Good Morning America” has discovered that blow jobs are the new goodnight kiss! All across the country, teenagers are giving head and having sex parties! It’s not just the Catholic high schoolers (who are having anal sex in order to maintain their chastity) we need to pray for—it’s every single pubescent teen who’s figured out that you can have sex using just your mouth!
Sigh. Yet another morning show segment designed to scare the crap out of parents by declaring a “new” trend that’s taking our nation’s youth on downward spiral towards hell. Teens having oral sex—is it really so new? I was a late bloomer so I didn’t give my first beej until I was 19 (in a stairwell at a bar!), but what about other 20 and 30-something women? Their teenage oral sexploits, after the jump…
“I gave my first blow job when I was a freshman dating a senior in high school in south Florida – it’s pretty much whore central down there. I was actually considered a late bloomer! But hey – that relationship lasted six years!”
“I probably didn’t give a BJ until I was 17 or 18. I was always intimidated because I had no idea what to do, so I avoided it. I should remember the first one, but I don’t. I received for years before that, though. There was this one guy in early high school I hooked up with a lot, and I think the first time was at my house when my parents were out for the night. We heard them pull in the driveway midway through so did the whole sit up and act like we’re studying for a test thing. Awkward.”
“I’ve been a late bloomer in almost all aspects of my life, including — or, maybe, especially — sex. I was 19 before I even saw — and sucked — my first erect penis (I also received some very nice oral sex from the dude attached to it). We’d only been on a couple dates at the time and things never progressed to anything more serious, but over the next year or so, we’d enjoy random hook-ups with each other at parties or whatever. Anyway, I made up for lost down and ended up blowing around 15 guys before I finished college. I really got quite good at it.”
“I was 17 when I gave my first blow job. The guy was someone I was just ‘talking to,’ as we used to say in the ‘90s, but we weren’t a couple. He had gone down on me twice before, and I thought: “Why not!” I guess I knew what I was doing because he seemed to enjoy it. I remember a lot of girls owning up to oral sex—giving and getting—but then again, I did go to a Catholic all-girls school. I remember my ex-BF tried to go down on me, but he didn’t really know what he was doing, so I stopped him. One time another BF got Big Red gum stuck in my pubes.”
“Teens have been f**king and sucking dick forever. This is not a new phenomena. Can I write a rebuttal? Anyway, I gave a BJ to my first boyfriend when I was 16. I liked doing it and still do. He used to give it back, but was bad at it. It wasn’t until I was 17 that a boyfriend made me get off from oral sex. Since then it’s the only way I can orgasm.”
“I was 16 when I gave head for the first time, and the lucky guy was nothing more than a hookup buddy. I didn’t receive it (by choice) until I was 18, and that was with my high school boyfriend, who had no idea what he was doing. I was extremely uncomfortable, and I prefer not to remember that, um, awkward scene.”
“I believe I gave my first blow job to my first boyfriend. He was three years older than me so I felt pressured—not by him, just by some weird idea in my own head—to have our hookups progress instead of just, like, letting him feel me up every time. He was more experienced than me and I thought he’d get bored. I honestly don’t remember anything about it, I just know that we did it. I could’ve been 14 or 15…I was 16 when I lost my virginity to him so it was probably before then.”
“I didn’t actually give a blowjob until shortly after I’d had sex for the first time, at age 21. I was in a relationship. But a guy went down on me for the first time when I was 18—he was just a random hookup.”
“For me, oral sex was the final frontier. As a teenager, I couldn’t wrap my head around the progression from kissing to fondling to putting a dude’s dick in my mouth to sex. It always seemed WAY more advanced and intimate to me than sex. And that’s how it played out in my sexual development too. I had sex before I ever gave a blow job or had anyone’s face in my crotch, and that made sense to me. In my mind—and this has changed only slightly in the intervening years—oral sex is WAY more intimate, and requires way more skill and technique, than the comparatively simple act of sex, which anyone with any rhythm can do rather successfully. I was all for digital stimulation back in the day, but I didn’t let my long-time boyfriend lick my cooch, nor did I put his wang in my mouth, until well after he’d popped my cherry. I think it had a lot to do with my ability to be comfortable with my own body and with coming terms with myself as a sexual being.”
“I made the first guy I gave head wear a condom! This is so embarrassing to admit. I was 16-years-old, he was my first love and we dated during my junior year of high school. I’d learned a lot about STDs and safe sex in school and therefore I was so nervous I made him wrap it up. He had gotten head before from other girls so he tried to convince me everything would be fine, but I was firm. It was rubbery and gross! I remember when he dropped me off at my parent’s house later that evening, I felt like a ‘different woman’ walking through the door…not so innocent anymore!”
“I was 16 and at my friends house party while her parents were on vacay. I had one glass of spiked punch and then got naked under a blanket with some guy I didn’t know from school. I tried to go down on him, but it did not work. Everyone at the party caught us on the couch….so much for dignity. But he did have a really nice penis…”
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writergirl
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:15 am: [report]
Why is there this element of shock when sex is discussed in relation to upper-middle class white girls? I can remember being in HS and some agency was trying to get car seats for pregnant girls in my school and one of the businesses they called asked where the pregnant girls were coming from. Duh? Do they think there is just this chastity belt that encloses wealthy suburban kids? This has been going on for YEARS.
Although I will say the prostitution angle was new. Why is it implied the money rests with the boys? “If your daughter is coming home with [items] she can’t afford, you can’t afford….” All things being equal, where are the boys getting the money from?
GreenAura
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:15 am: [report]
I was 15, he was 18. He was my closest “guy friend”, no strings attached. Afterwards, he asked if I had ever given head before, and I said “no, why?” and he said because I did it like a porn star. I was so proud of myself! The next guy I did it to ended up marrying me, haha. I think my skin-flute skills may have played a small role in that!
GreenAura
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:21 am: [report]
But I also need to add that I am a little scared for my daughter. I was a “good” girl and even I went down on a guy at a very young age. Teenagers are ever curious beings and no matter what parents say, there will always be that pressure to do things sexually. The pressure may not even come from friends or boyfriends. Just like one of the quotes above, it could be something in the kids mind saying they need to advance beyond making out. All we can do as parents is teach safe and responsible sex.
bogart4017
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]
Why is anyone so surprised? When i was growing up catholic school girls had bad reps and were the first rumored to give out blow-jobs. We thought that was nasty until we got one! I still don’t care much for bjs and women always looked at me funny when i would’nt demand it or would take a pass. Early 70’s hangover what can i say?
EarthGoddess
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:34 am: [report]
I’m an upper middle class white suburban girl who went to a private Catholic school. My friends and I were FAR from innocent! I had my first “real” kiss at 13, lost my virginity at 16, and gave and received oral for the first time at 15 ... and I was considered a late bloomer by my friends. Apparently I’m very good at giving head because one of the guys I was with in high school bragged to his friends about it, word spread fast, and I actually had girls ask me for help on how to be better for their bf’s. LOL (I’ll admit I enjoyed my “fame” when it was happening. What a thing to be famous for, huh?) GMA, this is nothing new!!!
becktasm
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:36 am: [report]
Why is no one talking about the boys here? I mean, forgive me if I’m wrong, but I always thought a blowie typically involved some peen. And let’s not kid ourselves- I think every girl was subject to the litany of “c’mon baby, pleeeaaase?” in high school, regarding blowjobs. These girls are probably being subjected to some serious peer pressure from young men who know they can get away with it, and at 15 it’s hard to not cave.
“A lot of girls believe that they can hook up the way guys do and not care, but unfortunately, they do care”
Fare and unbiased reporting, FTW! Listen, I’d lost track of my blowjob count by 16, and trust me, I wasn’t all tore up about it.
The best course of action here? Proper sex ed.
EastCoastMale
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 11:50 am: [report]
Its no shock…..both girls and boys are guilty…..mouth love is meh anyway =)
jojo32
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]
@ greenaura, I’m worried about my daughter too. I was always considered a ‘good girl’ as well. But that didnt stop me from doing everything except having actual intercourse with my boyfriend **My first love** when I was 14 and he was 17. Hmmm…maybe there was something to my parents hatred of him.
EarthGoddess
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:27 pm: [report]
@greenaura and jojo32: As a fellow “good girl”, I’m worried about my daughter, too. She’s VERY easily influenced by her peers already and, according to her doctor, will develop earlier than most. That’s a scary combo, no matter how much of a “good girl” she is.
ExGirlfriend
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:27 pm: [report]
I gave my first beej when I was 18, two years after I started having sex. I remember the first time I went down because we were listening to Johnny Cash and the dude squirted in my eye. Now whenever I hear ‘Ring of Fire’ my eye starts to burn.
EastCoastMale
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:33 pm: [report]
too funny exgf. He should have given you a courtesy warning.
jojo32
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:33 pm: [report]
LOL @ ex-girlfriend. Now I’m gonna have the same response, I just know it. That’s too funny not to hold on to. Love it.
bittermelon
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:34 pm: [report]
When you’re talking about teens 15, 16 and up, I don’t think it’s that unusual. When they’re younger than that say 12, 13, that’s when I get worried.
GreenAura
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 12:43 pm: [report]
@bittermelon, I agree that 15 & up isnt unusual, but I also feel that girls these days are developing physically and emotionally so much faster than when I was in high school and that was just 10 years ago. My friends daughter is 13 and she has a myspace page listing her age as 19, and posts provocative pics of herself. I know her parents need to be held accountable for allowing that, but my point is that girls these days seem much more overtly sexual than when I was a teenager. Is this the result of an increasingly open-minded society, a lack of proper role models, lack of education or something else perhaps?
EastCoastMale
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 01:19 pm: [report]
I think it is a combination of all of those things but also may be part of a natural progressive, as much as some would not agree. Wasn’t it taboo to show some leg back in Victorian times? (my timeline may be off). Im sure they thought that would lead to rampant sexual behavior and this was the same hysteria with other things of the time. I think it is a combination of factors fueling this trend but it is also something that is naturally bound to happen in my opinion.
sam04
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 02:17 pm: [report]
I’m not sure that teenagers are having sex any earlier nowadays, but the girls sure as hell are developing a lot faster! Are they getting all these extra hormones through their diet or something? I remember distinctly that for the first few years of high school I was skinny with no curves whatsoever. My two younger sisters were curvy by the time they were thirteen. I always felt bad for them. At least I got to look like a kid while I still was a kid.
The catholic high school in my town was full of the BIGGEST sluts of all three high schools in the area. They even had a nursery built into the school for the students who had kids. Yeah. Don’t have sex before you’re married, but if you get knocked up and have a baby, bring it to school with you. It seemed like such hypocrisy. Maybe if they’d had sex ed they wouldn’t have had so many teen mothers!
I think I was nineteen before I ever gave anyone head. I was absolutely terrified of doing it. It was so much pressure and involved actual skill. However, once I got over my initial fear and got some practice in, I realized it’s actually fun! Must be something to do with power and control or something.
writergirl
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 02:27 pm: [report]
@Sam04—
Yeah, there is something to be said for the development of girls lately, which science blames on cows milk. I haven’t noticed many “curvy” girls, but these girls are definately lean, trim, toned, and stacked like we never were.
No wonder why my brother in laws are all loading their rifles.
Bad Breakup
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 02:27 pm: [report]
I really see no problem with teenagers giving each other the oral lovin’. Is a load to the mouth really that devastating to a young girl’s future? Is this in any way really damaging to some part of their later selves? Sexual exploration will happen no matter what, and unless their passing around the herps, what’s so bad about it?
Plus, as Jesus (I think) once said: “You can f**k with your mouth, man. It’s the kindest thing one can do to thy neighbor.”
Alex V
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 04:31 pm: [report]
Makes one wonder if some of the rationalization behind this not being considered sex by these girls is because of the whole Bill Clinton’s “I did not have sexual relations with that girl” splitting of hairs.
Just a thought.
KellyJean
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 04:48 pm: [report]
I knew it. Ban hugs, and the new greeting is the BJ.
See? See?
hellosunrise
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 05:17 pm: [report]
15 year olds and up having sex is not shocking. i dont see a problem with it, as long as they know what theyre doing, getting tested, and are on some form of bc (definitely learned from that mistake). as for 11, 12 year olds or younger, having sex, going to sex parties, prostituting themselves, is a bit extreme to me. i dont know if its just me, but i think thats way too young to be involved in things like that. i know when i was 10, 11 years old, i barely knew anything about my own equipment.
IrishErin
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 06:31 pm: [report]
I was apparently a latttteeeee bloomer compared to everyone. I attempted my first bj at 19. Read: attempted. It didn’t go very well. My next attempt was at 21 in my first long term relationship. I got better, but still could never manage to finish the job. This, in retrospect, is probably b/c I was with one of the most selfish lazy guys I’ve ever known. It took him forever to finish and he wasn’t the least bit helpful in guiding me. So when I was finally able to make it to the finish line with my current boyfriend (3 years ago when we first got together) I was literally beaming with pride. I’m sure he was pretty pumped to realize I had reached the mountain’s peak for him and nobody else. I am now quite the consummate professional and he consistently gives me kudos for new techniques and tricks. Lucky boy.
Kati-Anne
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 07:07 pm: [report]
@ Alex V: I’m pretty sure most of the girls involved in this ‘new wave’ of beej distribution aren’t old enough to remember the Bill Clinton/Monica Lewinsky scandal. And I think it actually upped the prude level of America in it’s wake.
I have been a late bloomer physically and sexually all my life, and the first bj I gave was at 18 and it was THE worst intimate experience of my life. It put me off any sexual activity for a while. Thinking about it still makes me cringe and want to hide under a rock.
Trixie Firecracker
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 09:01 pm: [report]
If I’m correct, and I’m sure I’m correct, a blowjob requires two people - one to give the blowjob and one to receive it. And since it is implied that the subjects of this story are heterosexual, then the receivers of blowjobs are boys. Why is it that this story ONLY concerns teenage girls and makes no mention of the fact that there have to be teenage boys receiving oral sex? It’s like they don’t give a flying crap if boys receive oral, but start flipping huge #&@$% about girls giving it. To them, the “purity” of upper middle class white teenage girls is more important than national security. Quick! Lock your daughters up for the next 20 years or they’re going to be sucking dicks behind your back and it will cause the rise of satan and the apocalypse!
This segment made me want to shoot myself.
IAMME
wrote on May 30 2009 @ 01:40 pm: [report]
I had sex before giving head, the thought of putting a penis in my mouth at that age really icked me out, but I was a REALLY early bloomer so I attempted my first bj when I was about 15. Poor guy….I would almost get it in my mouth and then bust out in giggles, have to stop, compose myself, and start all over, only to bust out in giggles again, that went on for prb. 30 minutes lol.
I didnt know many girls who gave bjs before having sex, like someone else said that was sort of the final frontier for my peers…..
Beckimudd
wrote on May 30 2009 @ 05:27 pm: [report]
Omg, what a JOKE! Maybe if kids had better sex ed classes in school they wouldn’t be doing so much, so unsafely, so young! All the information is out there but they are only hearing half of it. All they hear is Sex/oral sex wrong and unsafe but fun once your with your final partner. Educate the kids save them from STDS and unplanned pregnancy.
Antiquity
wrote on May 30 2009 @ 10:52 pm: [report]
@Bad Breakup LOL! I wonder where Jesus says that in the bible…
What is the deal with people putting sexual purity on a girl. I was raised in a strictly christian home and always wondered why boys dont have to pledge virginty to anyone but girls are expected to. Personally I think sex in general is no big deal if you are safe about it and know your partners sexual history and they’ve been tested.
I gave my first bj at age 17 to a guy in the driveway of my parents house. It was a guy that I met at one of the church events; they loved that fact. (Oh irony is great in my life. lol.) He told me I was a pro at it and so have the other guys I’ve been with since him.
Susan
wrote on May 31 2009 @ 07:30 am: [report]
This documentary focuses on girls aged 11-15. Let me say it again. 11-15. And it’s about the EXPECTATION on the part of guys that girls will service them as they pull up to the curb to drop them off at the end of the night. It’s also about girls this age having intercourse for pay, either in cool stuff or cash. The filmmaker followed these girls for 4 years. She’s not some crazy conservative with an alarmist agenda. The predictable snarky response from “feminists” every time someone conducts research that questions the consequences of “sexual empowerment” for young women is knee-jerk and ignorant.
http://www.HookingUpSmart.com
theoldman
wrote on June 2 2009 @ 09:37 am: [report]
Susan, you hit it on the head. Who is teaching these kids about the consequences? Also how wide spread is the activity? I can actually remember the Summer of Love and the liberated activity of young 20 somethings was not as wide spread as the press made it. But we do know how wide spread it is today. The one thing that is obvious is that young men are not being taught respect and responsibility and young women are not being taught that there are consequences.
Aretha did it best when she did “R-E-S-P-E-C-T”.
Bad Breakup
wrote on June 2 2009 @ 01:49 pm: [report]
Haha sorry if I offended, that Jesus quote was actually from a Brad Neely cartoon, just seeing if anyone would get the reference.
branyn
wrote on June 4 2009 @ 12:07 pm: [report]
I feel like I had such a boring teenage life. XD I think the first time I dabbled in oral sex was when I was around fifteen, but I didn’t get into actual sex until I was much older. I do know that some girls don’t seem to think oral sex /is/ any kind of sex - some girls in my HS were like that - and I think that’s kind of stupid. It HAS the word sex in it. XD
I think it’s idiotic that she’s saying ‘well, boys can do this without caring, but girls DO care, even if they say they don’t’.
mlyway
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 09:12 pm: [report]
I think many will agree that high schoolers have oral sex is not new…but middle schoolers definitely is. Young girls especially are pressured even more to give and give guys blowjobs because guys get all these raging hormones much earlier. It is natural in a sense, considering girls become of childbearing age—it just does not set up right with our society and the rules of when one should have sex. I think the most important rule of thumb here is for parents to encourage their children that one does not need to be dependent on someone of the opposite sex in order to feel pleasured.
kinkeh
wrote on June 15 2009 @ 02:34 pm: [report]
@mlyway, I agree. Middle school kids are having sex and making babies!
16 and pregnant, bahhh. There are girls watching this and thinking that it’s not so bad. I knew girls who planned on having a baby while in 9th grade. What the #&@$%.
jenni-wren
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 04:06 pm: [report]
i think the key thing to consider is how the sex education these kids get at school is delivered. I was a peer councillor at school which basically involved going into the lower year classes and talking to them, not at them. We discussed different drugs, the effects they had and the dangers involved. at the end of the first session they all wrote questions which we discussed in the following session, completely anonymously. What we also did, which maybe some people won’t agree with, was taught them the ‘safest’ way in which to use drugs. Because to be honest, for all we can say ‘don’t do this’ teenagers will still want to experiment. All we can do is make sure they have all the information and understand the consequences.
I remember sex ed in PSE in school. At 13-14 you can’t believe that your 50yr old balding teacher has any idea what you’re thinking about or going through, and you’d probably rather die than put your hand up and ask a question. Maybe id girls, and boys, had the opportunity to talk to a young parent they’d think twice or at least strap up.
Loves2Spooge
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 12:02 pm: [report]
On a completely different note, I love how many women claim to be “pro’s” in the comments section. Don’t you all know that is something guys tell you even when you are mediocre because a mediocre beej is still way better than taking a trip to Palmdale?
cherikee
wrote on August 5 2009 @ 06:32 am: [report]
Wow. Where was I? I didn’t get a BJ and sex until I was 28. First kiss at 23 or so. Apparently I was a late bloomer, really late. I feel like I missed out.
TheMaraBear
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 11:28 am: [report]
@Sam04—
I get what you’re saying about the hypocrisy in schools…but I think it’s one case where the inconsistency is best. I know that where I live, abstinence-focused sex education is the state requirement: the schools have no choice but to teach it. So in the meantime, schools must do what they can to provide aid for students outside of health class. My high school was made primarily of lower class students who live in the city (as opposed to the surrounding wealthy suburbs) and it had an impressive crop of pregnant students, most of whom are on their own concerning the child (rarely a supportive boyfriend, family, etc). The district (like the Catholic high school you mentioned) has nurseries and other aid for teen parents at both high schools…this may seem like hypocrisy on the school’s part, but if it wasn’t for these programs, most of the students with kids would not be able to continue their education. The district already has a 50% dropout rate…but the district is trying to make it easier for students with children to continue attending school. While the state may not catch on, the schools are doing what they can to help students who would otherwise have to chose between their child and their education.
But back to the blowjobs.
When I started high school, I felt a little “innocent” having moving from a tiny sheltered school to a giant city school, and I had heard tales from the new district of kids boning before their balls had even dropped (in any way that that’s possible). However, I didn’t feel the need to compromise myself…fortunately, my first boyfriend at the school was very kind, and didn’t pressure me either. So I lost my blowjob/sex virginity at fifteen, but I was very comfortable with it and still am, emotionally. Is that…rare?
Anaxa
wrote on September 26 2009 @ 03:21 pm: [report]
oh thank god, @cherikee. I didn’t have my first kiss until 17; I thought I was the only late bloomer here. Maybe it’s personal perspective, but I think even 15-17 is kind of young to be having sex or giving/receiving BJs.
sunara_rayne
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 10:45 am: [report]
I received for the first time at 15. Started having sex at 16. Didn’t give my 1st bj until several months after I had sex…& hated it! It was very uncomfortable.. I didn’t perform on him (my 1st bf) but like 2 or 3 times we were together..which wasn’t very long (about 9 months).....with my next bf I started to enjoy doing it more..he had a really nice schlong lol..of course, maybe that’s why he was such a di*k??..I digress..my current bf has the only uncircumsized penis I’ve ever seen…the first time I saw it..I was kinda horrified actually, but of course didn’t let him know it! haha But I’ve since gotten used to it…even tho I’m a little embarrassed by it..I haven’t told any of my gf’s that he’s not clipped bc I’m afraid they would think it’s gross.
What do you guys think about uncircumsized penises?