Survey Says Men Are Romantic And Cook At Home—Huh?

Coral
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 11:24 am: [report]

I think the men in the survey think ‘cooking’ is heating macaroni and cheese in the microwave. Only my last boyfriend out of all my relationships actually cooked-and he could really cook well because he took classes.

joyy
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 11:33 am: [report]

yeah, the term cooking is used pretty loosely in most situations.  Still, it’s a good sign that even if we’re just talking about frying an egg for breakfast or boiling some water for pasta, 84% of guys feed themselves.  On their own.  I know men who don’t even get that far, it just seems so sad - like, what other basic life skill are you just completely unwilling to learn?

writergirl
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 11:33 am: [report]

My husband and his brother are excellent cooks.  Like chef-level good.  They both make gourmet stuff all the time and at Christmas, which my husband and I host, my BIL throws me out of the kitchen and takes over.

I don’t buy the romance results though.  UNless what they define as romance and what we define as romance are two different things.

*sam*
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 11:41 am: [report]

I don’t think the cooking thing is surprising at all. As a matter of fact, 2 out of the last 3 serious BFs I’ve had have cooked, and cooked well (not just heating up some easy mac or ramen noodles). And to be completely honest, I love it!! ...especially when you consider that the closest thing to gourmet that I can make is ramen noodles…with peas.

bogart4017
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 11:51 am: [report]

I’ve often wondered about the honest of those surveys at askmen. That said, not all of us are lazy in the kitchen. How do you think we eat before we get married??
And we do have male birth control pills. They’re called condems.

joyy
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 11:54 am: [report]

@bogart - no, condoms are not male birth control pills.  Pills involve discipline of taking it every day on time without fail, pills involve side effects from weight gain to emotional turmoil, pills involve regular trips to the dr (which everyone should have anyways, I’m not saying that’s a bad thing).

Condoms do not involve any of those things.  Try again.

bogart4017
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 12:05 pm: [report]

@joyy—lighten up sweetie. It was an attempt at sarcasm.

LayD
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 12:53 pm: [report]

I think The Frisky should do the same survey with the same questions, I want to know how the men’s answers compare to the female’s.

becktasm
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 02:27 pm: [report]

So 35% would change their partner’s breast size if they could? That’s still a pretty solid chunk. I hate men sometimes.

Riley
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 02:42 pm: [report]

I’m thankful there are women around to wipe the drool off my chin and feed me something else besides Hungry Man microwave dinners.

LayD
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 02:43 pm: [report]

I think this survey is very interesting.  After reading the results from this survey, the following 2 questions really got me thinking:
Q34: In your opinion, which of the following is the ultimate status symbol?
54% A beautiful house
33% A beautiful wife or girlfriend
7% A beautiful car
6% A high-status credit card, like an American Express Black card or a Visa Infinity

Q24: Do women put too much value on a man’s financial worth?
53% Yes, but men put a lot of value on women’s looks so it balances out
28% Yes, and it bothers me that women are so shallow
14% No
5% Yes, but it works to my advantage

In both these questions a high percentage of men mention women’s looks in correlation with men’s money.  33% of men feel that a beautiful significant other denotes success and 53% of men feel that it is ok for women to put value on a man’s financial worth since men put a lot of value on a woman’s look.  Basically they are saying that woman’s looks contribute to a man’s own self worth.  I am not naive, I know men like good looking women and we have been objectified since the beginning of time, but I always thought that women were closer to winning this battle.  I thought that we had made progress in being respected.  I call myself a feminist and was under the belief (from magazines, peers, all girls school education, and other females) that our looks don’t matter, that we shouldn’t wear make-up or have our hair perfect, that we shouldn’t lose those extra pounds for a man we do those things for ourselves.  Its no secret that women do like a man who can support them and spoil them, but I don’t think a women put too much value on a man’s financial worth, we have been taught to be able to support ourselves and not rely on a man, and although it is nice to brag to your friends what profession your significant other has and what he buys you,  I don’t think we would consider our boyfriends/husband’s finances a status symbol for ourselves.  Or am I completely wrong?  Do women feel more worthy if their boyfriend or husband is financially successful?  Does this mean that men value us more based on our how we look oppose to our intelligence, humor, or kindness?  Do financially successful men feel entitled to having a hot girlfriend or wife?  Are males and females forever subjected to these expectations of being rich/great looking and if we aren’t, do we have to settle for someone not rich/not good looking?

LayD
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 02:46 pm: [report]

@becktasm- over half of them would also change their penis (make it bigger) size, so at least its tit or tat, right?

SomeGuy84
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 03:00 pm: [report]

I don’t understand men or women that can’t cook.  It’s as simple as following directions.  When someone tells me they can’t cook, I make a mental note that they are lazy or stupid or both (regardless of gender.)

skywalk
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 03:39 pm: [report]

Not to offend anyone but there seems to be a lot of man bashing on this site:
A I would change my husbands, chest and/or give him a six pack if I could.
B How many great men have we met that we are just not into - likely due to looks and/or status of some kind.
C These days a lot of women can’t even boil water (I agree with SomeGuy84, there are typically directions on the box so what gives?)
D Everyone’s definition of romantic is different I’ve had complaints about me from past men because they think I’m not romantic enough.
I guess it sounds like you are sexually profiling to me when you group all men into this neat little package of( I hate men or men suck)!  Plenty of my lesbian friends have similar problems with their s/o the problem isn’t men it is relationships in general they suck.  I have friends that say oh relationships shouldn’t be so hard, they should be easy like you and your husband.  I’m like easy we have worked hard to get this relationship where it is today and we still work hard keeping it good relationship.  You to have the “relationship triangle” or it has no chance of working.  I dated plenty before I found the right guy and even he drives me nuts sometimes (see relationships are hard above) but if you have intimacy, passion, and commitment.  The problem is some men (and there are women) have issues with intimacy and commitment but that doesn’t mean all men suck or that all men should be grouped together.

Shasta
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 07:25 pm: [report]

What’s up with the cooking thing?  I’m not looking for a personal chef, and if he doesn’t want to cook he can take me to dinner.

Chebs
wrote on July 24 2009 @ 06:14 am: [report]

Only man in my life who’s been able to cook is my dad.  Every romantic relationship has seen me in the kitchen doing the cooking.  Admittedly, I do love to cook, and I love to experiment too.  I’m very thankful that the men I have dated are the kind who will generally eat anything as long as it’s not burnt to a crisp or spiced like I’m trying to win a chili cook-off.  I’ve been able to convince my current bf to ‘cook’ (ie boil water, put the pasta in, and heat up sauce on the stove) a few times, but mostly when it comes to being his turn in the kitchen, we end up with take-out.

My cynical side is saying that the 83% of men who’d be comfortable with dating a woman who makes more than them really are into the idea of having a sugar mama, where I think the article means it to sound like they weren’t threatened by powerful women.

BlueVibe
wrote on July 24 2009 @ 07:52 am: [report]

My father does most of the cooking at our house (with mixed, but generally edible, results), and my brother, who is married, has always been a good cook and does virtually all of the cooking at his house.  I have lots of awesome guy friends who cook all the time.

I don’t expect people to be trained chefs, but I—matter of personal taste—can’t see myself with somebody whose definition of “cooking” is a TV dinner or Kraft Cheesy Mac.  I like food and cooking too much; it would be too much of a gap in interests.

Fast Eddie
wrote on July 24 2009 @ 08:53 am: [report]

I do 90% of the cooking in our home, and she does the dishes.  My cooking skills are very good not great.  She showed me how to cook so any deficiency in that area is her fault.  We eat balanced meals with few desserts other than fruit.  So why are we both gaining weight?

Shiny Objects
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 11:11 pm: [report]

@Fast Eddie- simple. Love Fat.