Study: Self-Deprecating Humor Scores With Women
Posted by: Simcha Whitehill
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7:00AM, Wednesday July 30th 2008
Why do we women do who we do? It’s the riddle men have been trying to solve since the beginning of time. But apparently, anthropologist Gil Greengross cracked the code to our crotches: self-deprecating humor. After two years of studying how humor affects sex, Mr. Greengross found that if a man knocks himself down, the ladies won’t shoot him down. A little bit of sweet talkin’ for sympathy is the best strategy because it shows your strong suits to be intelligence, creativity, and humility. And that’s the winning combo! Although, dudes be warned, you don’t want to head into pity lay territory. There’s a fine line between being the charmingly modest (well at least in movies) Hugh Grant, and the too-sad-to-screw Larry David. [Daily Mail]
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bittermelon
wrote on August 1 2008 @ 04:19 am: [report]
I think we need to take a poll. I’ve been having this debate of confident vs self-deprecating with a male friend of mine for 10 years now, and my husband even chimed in yesterday, definitely confidence over self-deprecation. Maybe that’s just a man’s perspective?
Amelia
wrote on August 1 2008 @ 05:20 am: [report]
This is definitely interesting—so you think guys maybe prefer confidence over a woman being self-deprecating?
bittermelon
wrote on August 2 2008 @ 08:13 pm: [report]
Yep, I’d like to see if this is true: men think women want to see confidence in a man, while women really prefer their men to have self-deprecating humor.
Zengothic
wrote on August 2 2008 @ 08:35 pm: [report]
In my experience, women find self-deprecation annoying; they frequently think that it’s self-esteem related instead of an attempt at levity.
So while it might garner some laughs, it may not be magnetic.
par3
wrote on August 3 2008 @ 02:33 am: [report]
personally, i’ve always been the fool to go for the pompous cock head. there’s more of a chase involved, i figure. i can’t stand when dudes start cracking on themselves, it’s like boo hoo go drown yourself in more beer. similar to the chick who’s 50 lbs who says ‘omg i’m so bloated today’. i hate when people feel sorry for themselves and bring attention to it. it’s possibly the worst vibe ever to come from a guy. SO not attractive to me. the kind of men i consider as potentials should be strong and not depressive-emotional like they’re on their period. unless they’re EMO, then we wouldn’t even be at the same party.