Sound Off: Ladies Tell Us About Their Self-Love Lives
Posted by: Amelia McDonell-Parry
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11:30AM, Wednesday September 3rd 2008
Ahh, that little man in the boat. How glad I was to meet you! And I wasn’t alone. While men joking about jerking off, spanking the money, choking the chicken, whatever is par for the course in most locker rooms, women discussing their masturbation habits is far less…known or encouraged. But not any longer! I asked a ton of women for the nitty-gritty on their self-love lives. All the details, after the jump…
“I was aware of ‘my special spot’ thanks to Judy Blume’s Deenie, but I didn’t start diddling until V.C. Andrews and The Woman’s Body books came into my life. My parents gave me the latter in an effort to teach me about my blossoming body, but I basically just headed straight for the dirty sex and masturbation sections and humped my pillow. When reading about the technicalities failed to do its job, I moved on to the totally pervy families in VC’s novels.” – Annabelle
“I once masturbated while I was sitting in the back of my parents car on the way to the Grand Canyon! It’s amazing how much you can get done on the sly just squeezing your legs together.” – Cayleigh
“I honestly can’t remember how it started, but I used to come up with elaborate story lines that would really turn me on, like about this boy in my class I had a crush on. They weren’t even sexual, they were just about how he really liked me. Maybe I did this because no boys paid attention to me?” – Johanna
“I feel like I may have done it on an airplane once. That’s why they give you those blankets, right? Also, I totally masturbated this one time at horseback riding camp during our afternoon rest period while everyone else was making friendship bracelets.” – Diane
“Apparently I’ve been touching myself practically since birth. According to my mom I was sitting in my high chair at age 5—what the hell I was doing in a high chair at that age is beyond me—and I was ‘enjoying’ myself. She told me to stop and I told her it felt good. She said our next door neighbor was at the table as well. Awkward.” – Vanessa
“My sister showed me a picture of a clitoris in her high school biology book and said that touching it was supposed to feel good. Always interested in science, I immediately tested that out.” – Elizabeth
“Feels good, it’s free, sometimes i like to quickly get off and not deal with real sex. But most importantly, it puts me to sleep! I have insomnia, but orgasms are like Ambien to me. Which means you’ll never see me in a post-coital cuddle or pillow talking after sex. I’m out.” – Jenna
“I was a very weird child, and for fun I would ask my parents if I could organize and clean their closets. One afternoon while they were gone and I was color-sorting my father’s sock drawer, I happened to look above and see a collection of dusty videotapes. Those videos were all 70s porn—and quick became my new favorite pastime when the folks went out.” – Linda
“In my single days (and when I lived alone) I would masturbate ALL day long. Since I’m multi-orgasmic, I think the most orgasms I’ve had in one day is 25.” – Corie
“I usually have the urge to do it when I’m alone and something slightly erotic comes on cable. Sometimes I have the urge to look up gay male porn on YouPorn, which instantly turns me on.” – Serena
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Meowle
wrote on September 4 2008 @ 11:22 pm: [report]
i used masturbation to fall asleep too! knocks me right out. but it means i have a really hard time sleeping when i have a roommate… tough life.
Nora
wrote on September 5 2008 @ 07:14 pm: [report]
if u touch ur self at a very young age like 5 its a pretty HIGH rating that u got molested when u were very young.
kk
wrote on September 6 2008 @ 12:55 am: [report]
@Nora:
I disagree. I think that it’s natural for children to explore their bodies at a young age. Kids just do things that “feel good”. It doesn’t have anything to do with molestation.
Amelia
wrote on September 6 2008 @ 07:38 am: [report]
@Nora I think you’re dead wrong about that. Kids touching themselves because they’re exploring and because it feels good is totally natural—if a child touches themselves and the touching is about indicating discomfort, well then maybe take them to a doctor to find out what’s wrong—but the idea that kids who touch themselves have probably been molested is completely off-base.
Nica
wrote on September 7 2008 @ 07:46 pm: [report]
I do it when I just can’t stand it anymore. As nice as it is. it’s just so passionless…Of course that doesn’t mean I don’t totally enjoy it for a few seconds at the end!
fun1
wrote on September 12 2008 @ 05:58 pm: [report]
“it just feels great”
Addison
wrote on September 19 2008 @ 03:24 pm: [report]
I loved this little story and I love women who enjoy their own bodies. It is one of the very most sexy and erotic things I can know about a woman!
roxyraw
wrote on October 5 2008 @ 03:53 pm: [report]
I love pleasuring myself. When I first started touching myself I’d do it all day long when I was home alone. Man, the pleasure! It’s annoying though because sometimes my own orgasms are so intense that when I compare them to the orgasms I’ve had with other people, mine seem to be much better alone!
http://www.tabutoys.com/
wrote on December 9 2008 @ 12:53 pm: [report]
I’m surprised to see no mention of the hairy hippy bible “The Joy of Sex” mentioned here. Every child of the 70’s would sneak this out of Mom and Dad’s closet..
deej
wrote on December 9 2008 @ 01:22 pm: [report]
There is nothing more sexy, erotic, and powerful as a woman pleasuring herself.
Where I can see, of course!
EastCoastMale
wrote on December 9 2008 @ 01:37 pm: [report]
I dont get the opening part of this artcile being a man. Maybe I am the odd man out but in the locker rooms I was in growing up and at the gym, guys didnt talk about any “chicken choking” or whacking off. I think women give us men too much credit for being openly crude with every other guy like we have some insta-bond. As a sidenote, none of us compared wangs or named our penises either. I think these 3 things are for the most part misconceptions, except maybe in some super jock instances. To wrap up this portion, we guys also dont lean over with one hand at a urinal, go figure lol.
Regarding a woman pleasing themselves, its no closely held secret as far as I can see. Both sexes know the other does it. =) and it is a wonderful thing for all involved on both sides I am sure….
amylou
wrote on July 22 2009 @ 11:48 am: [report]
i started masturbating when i was 3 or so, and i was never molested or anything like that. i don’t really know how i discovered it, but i used to do it in public because i didn’t know i shouldn’t! my mom used to YELL at me when she caught me doing it, which bothers me now because there’s nothing wrong with it. my parents were always weird about sexuality; they never even had “the talk” with me. anyway, i’m happy to say that at 24, i’ve thus far had a very satisfying sex life, both with and without partners.
amylou
wrote on July 22 2009 @ 11:49 am: [report]
ps. it DEFINITELY helps me to fall asleep too…
MichelleS1017
wrote on July 22 2009 @ 12:00 pm: [report]
wow i thought maybe i had a problem growing up.. but the more i read at frisky i guess not!!