Single And Don’t Want To Be? Watch This

_jsw_
wrote on July 5 2009 @ 02:56 pm: [report]

Shocking advice - have standards but be flexible, spend time with the person, don’t be afraid to let them provide emotional support… that’s pretty far out there. I suppose those singles here who quite reasonably have a list of 100 criteria that must be met by the online people they “date” (but never actually see) while keeping emotionally distant _might_ want to try following the advice. You know, if they’re feeling a bit crazy.

I still think that staying online 99% of the time and having occasional and random 30 minute hook-ups (or, like “brothers in law”, is it “hooks-up”?) makes a lot more sense, though.

thierry3
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 09:11 am: [report]

I think this advice was dumb.  That’s not the reason someone is single who doesn’t want to be single.

Essentially it gets harder as you get older to meet people and the truth of the matter is a woman’s stock goes down as she ages.  I know several women that are single that aren’t too picky or obssessed with autonomy and they are still single.  So the advice was not on point and rather generic.

BlueVibe
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 10:00 am: [report]

So, this was dumb, bordering on insulting.

Let’s face it—as you get older, there are simply fewer unmarried, functional adults [of either gender] to be found.  I know lots of terrific guys in their 30’s, but they’re all married.  I apparently missed the boat.  The ones I’ve met who are not married are not married for very obvious reasons (yes, this applies to me, as well.  I’ve got trust issues).

I’ll give it to her that she’s right that a long list of criteria—especially superficial criteria like what kind of shoes he wears—will hold you back, and not getting out enough will hold you back, but beyond the glaringly obvious, this didn’t offer much.