Sex Advice: Two Women Wonder About Doing The Uncircumcised
Posted by: Sexpert Lindsay
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9:30AM, Wednesday September 17th 2008
“My boyfriend is uncircumcised and super sensitive when I give him oral. I do enjoy giving head most of the time and I’ve honestly never received any complaints from previous boyfriends. However, I just haven’t found quite the right maneuver that completely blows his mind (no pun intended). Do you have any suggestions?”—In Need Of Technique, via email
“I’ve recently begun a relationship with a man that started out as a friendship. We know a lot about each other and have taken time getting to the sack. ‘K’ was born in England and therefore was not circumcised. What do I need to know about going down on an uncircumcised man? Help! We are so ready to go there but I’m afraid of… well, I don’t know what I’m afraid of!”—Not Sure What To Do With A Turtleneck, via email
The trick to having oral sex with an uncircumcised man is to find his Wizard of Oz—otherwise known as The Man Behind the Curtain.
First, you need to know the basic terminology associated with an uncircumcised penis.
Foreskin: Also known as the prepuce, this is the retractable covering of skin that covers the uncircumcised penis
Glans: This is another term for the head of a penis, a.k.a. The Wizard. When a penis is uncircumcised and flaccid, the foreskin covers Mr. Wiz.
Ridged Band: Just inside the tip of the foreskin. Has tons of nerve endings. Very sensitive!
Shaft: The body of the penis.
Got all that? In case you’re confused, the subject at hand should looks like this: 8===>
Getting to meet the Wizard of Oz means you have to gently pull down on the foreskin with your thumb and index finger, exposing the glans. Once you get to that point, you might as well be dealing with a circumcised penis. Most people don’t know that you have to gently pull it down before you go to town.
Here’s a little trick. Run your tongue under the foreskin (at the ridged band). You can also tighten your lips around the ridged band and let his foreskin follow your lips, using your hand to gently move his foreskin back and forth in rhythm with your mouth. If you’re doing it right, the Wizard will be happy.
Now slip on your ruby slippers and go to town, Dorothy.
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Croutons
wrote on September 17 2008 @ 10:24 am: [report]
OMG - ding-dongs with that gross squishy turkey neck skin are totally infested with TEH AIDS!!
Ron Low
wrote on September 18 2008 @ 01:32 pm: [report]
Oral sex is a whole new art form when the normal slack is present. As the marketer of a leading line of foreskin restoration devices for circumcised men, I prepared the following guide for women who weren’t experienced with the slack skin my clients were developing.
1) Grip his skin lightly and rub his glans through the skin by sliding the skin up and down an inch or two.
2)If he retracts comfortably, pull his skin back taut and tickle his frenular area (just below the glans on the underside) with the tip of your tongue.
3) Bunch up his skin over the glans and tickle the puckered up opening with your finger or tongue in a swirling motion.
4)With the skin bunched up, plunge your tongue in between the glans and the skin tube, swirling around to stimulate the glans and ridged band of sexual nerves in the skin tube at the same time.
5) Most of his pleasure-receptive nerve endings are in the foreskin, near where it puckers up and rolls in. If he has enough slack, pull his skin well forward of the glans and take the puckered end of his skin tube into your mouth and knead it with your lips.
6) Add toys! Try filling a turkey baster with warm water and pulling his skin over the nozzle and gripping around it. Then use the bulb to jet the water into and out of his foreskin space repeatedly.
Mix and match, and try some for a long time to see if the effect builds. Too bad for cut guys none of this is in play. It’s so sad, but they can regrow up to an inch of new slack per year with non-surgical foreskin restoration.
For guys the difference between boring sex and exciting sex is if they are being “done” vs them doing all the work. At least some of the times, you as his partner need to “give” him an orgasm vs letting him do you until he “has” an orgasm. If you haven’t had a fulfilling experience yet but he stops trying to please because he’s “done” you need to explain that it doesn’t work like that.
My wife and I listened to a sex therapist together on the radio and the part that struck us was “there is no such thing as premature ejaculation, orgasm will happen when it’s inevitable. It’s only a problem if one partner stops looking for ways to please the other before he or she has had enough.”
Of course it’s a lot easier to keep giving a partner pleasure if he or she still has all his/her natural-born pleasure-receptive parts.
Foreskin feels REALLY good. HIS body, HIS decision.
lilo
wrote on September 18 2008 @ 02:15 pm: [report]
I just lost my appetite.
Camille
wrote on September 18 2008 @ 02:25 pm: [report]
Interesting. My ex-boyfriend was uncircumsised and he always seemed to be uncomfortable when I gave him head. I always thought either A) he was a “prude” or B) he thought I was horrible at oral sex. I now understand that the answer is probably “B” but only because my technique was completely wrong. I wish I knew then what I know now.
Hugh7
wrote on September 18 2008 @ 08:24 pm: [report]
Prejudice against the whole penis is just like prejudice against the different-coloured penis. Get over it.
DON’T yank the skin back so that “you might as well be dealing with a circumcised penis.” He might well scream, leap out of bed, and you’ll never see him again. Quite a few intact men have “frenulum breve” -
(frenulum: part of the ridged band, the fine vane of mucous membrane linking the foreskin to the glans underneath at the centre. See http://www.circumstitions.com/Anatomy.html What circumcised men call their frenulum is the remnant of that they’ve been left, if they’re lucky.)
- a short frenulum, and their foreskin WON’T go back when they’re erect. If you pull it hard you may tear it, with lots of blood and no more fun that night. If he has a frenulum breve and wants intercourse and no condom, you need to be well lubricated or that could happen inside you. Not good.
Instead, take it back very gently. There’s no rule against asking him if he likes it right back.
You won’t go wrong if you leave his foreskin where it is and play with that, experimenting with greater departure from that position. If it goes forward, the part that overhangs the glans (containing the ridged band) is very sensitive in its own right. Enjoy!
Lindsay Goldenberg
wrote on September 30 2008 @ 07:56 am: [report]
@Hugh7:
Here’s a tip when dealing with women. Don’t say “Enjoy!” at the end of a paragraph where you’re talking about foreskin. It’s not a Twix bar.
par3
wrote on September 30 2008 @ 08:31 am: [report]
all you do is put your hand around it a little and pull down and it’s just like a circumcised one i don’t see what the big deal is. during sex the skin pulls down anyways so whoever said up there that it ‘hurts’ it’s not true. there really is no difference when it comes to sex and guys that are shy about it- are pansies.
Tracy
wrote on September 30 2008 @ 09:29 am: [report]
It’s just so weird to me (in the UK) that this article has even been written!
I’ve never seen a circumcised penis!
I mean where in the whole process does the thought occur. I genuinely don’t get it. Ooh I’ve had a lovely new baby boy (and I have had 3 sons), lets lop off some of his dick? How does that work?
LB
wrote on October 7 2008 @ 07:42 pm: [report]
I’ve experienced both the circumcised and the uncircumcised penis and my personal preference is the kind without the ascot. Maybe because so may men are circumcised in the U.S.
But the bottom line is if you really dig someone, it doesn’t matter if he has the skin or not, you should just want to give them pleasure. So thanks to Lindsay and all the users who gave helpful advice regarding fellatio. All women should know how to give a truly sensational blowjob!
Hugh7
wrote on October 7 2008 @ 08:46 pm: [report]
Lindsay, a foreskin is enjoyable and people ought to enjoy it. I don’t know what a Twix bar is.
par3, don’t be surprised if intact men leap out of bed and run away screaming rather than let you give them oral sex.
glow
wrote on October 9 2008 @ 06:05 pm: [report]
OK, here is from an old broad who has had unique experience of doing it with an uncircumcised and THEN a circumcised SAME penis (same husband, who chose to have a circumcision along with a vasectomy at 40 yrs of age, after having 3 sons, whom we had circumcised by Jewish law) - it makes NO difference. He was a great lay both before and after. Oral approaches- we mostly dealt with it the same way, either pull skin down (if foreskin is present) or just stimulate the whole glans (if no foreskin). What’s the big deal?
Hugh7
wrote on October 9 2008 @ 10:17 pm: [report]
Glow: Anecdotal evidence. Sample of one. Favouring circumcision for religious reasons could colour one’s opinion. Your mileage may vary. Here are contrary opinions:
“My first husband was snipped (poor thing), so I’ve experienced both and must say I greatly prefer intact men. The extra skin provides more internal movement and thus more pleasure for the female partner also.” http://www.circumstitions.com/Brag-text5.html#kathryn
“I did have to change my oral sex technique - for the better! I no longer have some guy trying to ram into my mouth at full speed, gagging me and chapping my lips. He is much more sensitive, and it’s easier to please him.” http://www.circumstitions.com/Brag-text5.html#liza
“I spent years wondering why mother nature had created a male organ so completely incapable of pleasuring the female anatomy. THEN I had sex with an intact man and it all became clear.” http://www.circumstitions.com/Brag-text5.html#helen
I love the different options it affords in the way of play… it’s like an entire new world to explore and enjoy to our heart’s content. I love the way it moves in my mouth during oral sex, the way I can pull it up over the glans and back down with my lips. Cut penises do not afford the same variety of sensations, teasing tricks, or pleasurable movement.”
http://www.circumstitions.com/Brag-text5.html#melissa
Jack
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 11:48 am: [report]
I am born in US but so lucky to be as nature made me (not amputated/cut). I don’t really get this article as when I am with my wife (and many years ago girlfriends), I ususally get errect and then the foreskin is retracted. I know I am more sensitive than cut as I have nerves they don’t have. But, the technique I have received always seemed just like getting head as with anyone.
I like oral OK but I really like intercourse. I have no real need for oral and will happily sklip it for the real deal. I read a UK guy blog that he never really understood the US guys oral requirements—he said it must be about being cut and needing oral. I think cut men need oral and natural men are fully made for real sex and have less of a want for a BJ.
Hugh7
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 02:24 pm: [report]
You make an intersting point. A sucking mouth (and mobile tongue) may give the extra stimulation that a circumcised penis needs.
But there could be another explanation: the rise in circumcision in the western world coincided with a decline in breast-feeding. Whether they are directly linked or not, it is hypothesised (especially by those of Freudian bent) that men (and women) who were not breastfed remain orally deprived lifelong, forever seeking the sensuous gratification by mouth they were denied as babies. This was (and is?) an article of faith in some schools of psychotherapy. It does deserve further study.
lilo
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 02:34 pm: [report]
@Lindsay: Hilarious! Actually, it’s kind of making me lose my appetite (again). Something about the word, “frenulum.” I think if you know what a frenulum is, you should also know what a twix bar is. Just sayin’
gingerlove
wrote on December 30 2008 @ 09:56 am: [report]
My very first boyfriend at age 15 was not cut. We broke up and moved on, got married etc. I always would think back to him and wonder why he could always get me off when no one else seemed to be able to. I am happy to say after 27 years I am back with my old teenage love, still uncut and damn if he isn’t as good now. Women, love that foreskin, it was put there for a reason. By they way, I love giving him head and he loves getting it. Why would you not want more of a good thing?