Sex Advice: My Guy Won’t Stop Talking Dirty!
Posted by: Sexpert Lindsay
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9:30AM, Wednesday August 6th 2008
“Ugh, the guy I have been dating will not shut the hell up during sex! He’s always directing me (“do this…do that”) or giving a play-by-play of every second (‘I love seeing your breasts bounce, blah blah blah’). How do I politely tell him to BE QUIET?”—Wishing I Was Deaf, via email
Ugh…that would drive me crazy! For me, talking non-stop in bed is like talking in the movies…totally uncalled for and annoying. But some chicks are super into it, and that’s probably why this guy you’re dating does it. An ex of his probably said, “Oooh, yeah. Tell me what you’re doing to me right now. Talk dirty to me!”, and he decided to work it into his sexual arsenal. All it takes it one girl to eff it up for the rest of us.
Go ahead and undo the damage caused by that beyatch and tell him talking during sex makes you feel weird. Tell him you’re not used to it and it takes your focus away from him. If he doesn’t understand or like what you’re saying, then you might be too late to save this one.
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Amanda
wrote on August 11 2008 @ 01:09 am: [report]
what about when a guy is super quiet during sex? i mean i got nothing, moans, grunts ahhh’s nothing is he bored out of his mind or what??
lilo
wrote on August 11 2008 @ 05:57 am: [report]
I’m with you Amanda. While too much talking is a turn-off, so is the “Quiet Bunny.” I think it’s best to work into the talking as you develop your relationship, but never go out of the gate with the dead silence.
alley kat
wrote on August 26 2008 @ 11:12 am: [report]
An ex of his probably said, “Oooh, yeah. Tell me what you’re doing to me right now. Talk dirty to me!”, and he decided to work it into his sexual arsenal. All it takes it one girl to eff it up for the rest of us.
Go ahead and undo the damage caused by that beyatch and tell him talking during sex makes you feel weird.
wow. really? a “beyatch” effed it up? you don’t even know and this is your answer?
why don’t you try playfully blindfolding him and take charge for a little while? maybe grab him behind the neck and lay a deep kiss onto his mouth while he’s in mid-sentence…maybe that’ll be “hint” enough.