What Is The Most Romantic Way To Win A Lover Back?
Posted by: Annika Harris
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11:00AM, Friday July 3rd 2009
In his August “Jake (A Man’s Opinion)” column in Glamour, single guy Jake discusses “7 ‘Sexy’ Things That Aren’t” (which reminds us of our Sweet Overload: 15 Ways A Guy Can Overdo It). In the last paragraph he writes:
I was at dinner with my last girlfriend, Claudia, admiring the candlelight reflecting off her olive skin, the warmth of her smile and…hold on, was that glitter on her eyes? In glitter’s defense, it’s not not sexy; maybe it’s even in style right now. But it marks the point where makeup veers into arts ‘n’ crafts. No man dates a woman because she’s an expert with cosmetics. He dates you for what’s underneath all that. P.S. Claudia, I miss you, spangles and all.
Even though Jake kind of dissed Claudia’s glitter eyeshadow, he still was man enough to admit he missed her—and he put his feelings in print for millions of people to read. How romantic! So we’d like to know what’s the most romantic thing a former lover has done to win you back or what have you done to get a lover back? Tell us in the comments.
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megpie
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 12:03 pm: [report]
Well, it didn’t win him back, but hey I tried. I had just cheated on my first love, Luke and was begging for another chance. His consistent answer was, “Meghan, the only way you can ever fix this is with a time machine.”
I was desperate. So after two and half hours in the garage with an old refrigerator box, a bottle of silver spray paint, a black permanent marker and a scissors, I had created a time machine. I stepped inside the door, closed my eyes and laughed…thinking this would surely win him back.
I loaded the creation in the back of my Ford Explorer, drove to Luke’s, and quietly placed it in his front yard. During the next few hours I waited for his call, begging me to come back.
Instead I got, “Meghan, it doesn’t work.”
Ouch. Eventually, I decided if he couldn’t appreciate that effort, he wasn’t worth my time anyway.
Lisa Marie
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 01:39 pm: [report]
Cackle.
The last guy I broke up with left a gorgeous pot of flowers on my back porch with a nice note. I was quite taken with them until a mutual friend came over and pointed out that they had gone missing from his friends mothers backyard.
It was epically lolworthy.
Antiquity
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 03:51 pm: [report]
Since when is glitter not sexy?! -shakes head- I like glitter in moderation personally.
I’ve never had anyone try and get back with me and I’m just fine with that and I say goodbye for good- so no stories on my end either.
I had an ex-boyfriend go out of his way to apologize to me for the douche bag way he broke up with me. (Ok. So he didn’t ever breakup with me just stopped talking to me completely…) He answered all my questions too which left me satisfied and damned near snarky feeling because my thoughts were right about him cheating.
becktasm
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 07:40 pm: [report]
I once had an ex-boyfriend ask me some random fact about my favorite band (which he knew I’d go to wikipedia to research) and I found that he’d edited the wikipedia article in the space where my fact should have been, pleading with me to take him back. It didn’t work, but it was a sweet (albeit super nerdy) gesture.
Another ex bought me jewelry. A lot of really pretty, rather nice jewelry. I took him back for about a week, just so I could get it, then promptly dumped him again. Hey, if he hadn’t cheated on me 7 times (that’s 7 different women kids, not just 7 different evenings), maybe I wouldn’t have dumped him in the first place. At least I still have the jade and pearls.
angel001717
wrote on July 4 2009 @ 04:41 pm: [report]
well, he has apologized with lovely words. the problem is that he never showed he wanted me back. and it seemed to be all talk, no action. he is going to have to EARN trust this time.
Lynn
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 09:35 am: [report]
I kind of puked in my mouth a little when I read that in Glamour.
The best way anyone has ever tried to “win be back” was asking me to meet him at the bar down the street, buying a pitcher, getting a table in the corner, and laying it all on the line. If he tried to do anything big, or public, or sappy but with no real depth, it wouldn’t have worked.
youneek
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 04:17 pm: [report]
My boyfriend broke up with me, and after taking some time apart, with no contact, he initiated a friendship. Over the course of a few months, we became closer, and he was willing to open up and have honest discussions on what we both thought had gone wrong, the mistakes we had made. It was nice that he was willing to accept responsibility for his actions and was also able to allow me to accept responsibility for my actions. It was only after talking about things that he broached the idea of trying again, slowly. He told me he cared, but he also showed me that he cared and was serious about giving 100% again. It was not one huge gesture, but many, many small day to day actions that won me over. It was also very amazing that he was not only willing to apologize and mean it, he was also able to forgive me and accept my apology for my mistakes as well.