Romantic Gestures: What Makes Us Gag & What’s Truly Heartwarming

Samantha
wrote on October 14 2008 @ 01:52 pm: [report]

All of this is so true!  The sex on the beach thing is soooo unpleasant.  Sand gets up in places and doesn’t come out for hours afterwards.  Nobody wants that up their vag.  And ordering for your date?  Any guy who does that is just incredibly controlling!  Great list.

Meg
wrote on October 14 2008 @ 02:53 pm: [report]

I always end up saying “Thank you very much, and I greatly appreciate the thought, but please stop doing that” when a guy opens a door or pulls out a chair for me.
It’s not that I find it sexist or anything (like some girls I know) I just find it annoying.

Michelle
wrote on October 14 2008 @ 07:33 pm: [report]

I don’t find it annoying at all!  I always look to see if a guy will open the door for me- it is just common courtesy!  Also, nice job bringing up the joint shower as a don’t.  I don’t know how people actually pretend like it’s great.  If you’ve actually done it, then you know how awkward it is.

Allison
wrote on October 14 2008 @ 08:11 pm: [report]

I so agree with the “guy ordering for you” one. I had a guy try that on me on a first date. I immediately put down my menu and said, “Seriously?” I just let it hang there and he looked so sheepish. Nobody puts Baby’s order in for her.

Kristen
wrote on October 14 2008 @ 08:53 pm: [report]

I deffinately disagree with the ‘joint shower’ one. Joint showers are hooooooot, and often lead to great sex. :D

juliePS
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 06:36 am: [report]

Oh god, I don’t want to start on the holding doors thing because I could, sadly, go on all day, so I’ll keep it short: If you get to hold doors for me, I get to hold ‘em for you. My momma raised me to open the door, look for other people, and if there are any, hold it for them, regardless of age, gender, race, or any other factor I can come up with.

General politeness turns me on far more than ‘chivalry.’ *shrug*

I agree with most of the rest of it. But I have to confess that I love cooking with someone more than being cooked for, it’s way too much fun to drink beer and burn things together. ;p

lilo
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 06:55 am: [report]

Totally agree that everyone should be polite and open the doors for others, but I find it especially endearing when a man offers to open a door, carry a bag, relinquish a seat, etc. Bonus points for opening a car door for a lady to get in vs. just hitting the remote unlock.  There’s some charm to chivalry, and despite historical relations between men and women, we can make it what we want to be today. It doesn’t have to be a sign of OPPRESSION BY THE MAN.

Dominant
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 08:22 am: [report]

What I find to odd is how the second list seem like the norm for some, but sadly has to be told or reminded to others. I guess it depends on how you were raised (manners, morals, etc). It should be common courtesy, or even common sense (yet that’s lacked by a good portion of the population). Anyhow, its the small things that make a big difference in a relationship: knowing the type of flower she likes, cooking together, etc. If you’re in love then this can be sweet and charming, but I can see if you’re in a new relationship, too much of this could be much. It just needs to be given in moderation, and known when it’s the right times. Note: this goes both ways for men & women. Guys like the small things too.
On the complete flipside, some women don’t like this and just go for the bad-ass types. Maybe they feel the need to “fix” what they can’t have. To each, their own.

May
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 08:37 am: [report]

Eh.. I like joint showers.  That’s almost the only way I shower these days! 

Myspace/Facebook love - who the hell cares?  I love passionately and I like to talk about it any way I can.  Nothing remotely childish about that.

Rose petals all over?  May be a cliche, but I would still like it.  No one’s ever done it for me and it would definitely get me wet knowing my man was thinking that far ahead about sexing me up.

Pulling out chairs for me? Not a turn on.

Lynn
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 10:39 am: [report]

I totally disagree with the shower thing! We do it a couple times a week and it’s great. Of course, if we’re actually doing it to get clean, I come in a few minutes after him and stay in a few minutes after him so we can both attend to any less-than-sexy aspects we need to take care of!

Some of the last list are really just common courtesy, and I basically just expect them. But I do have something to say about opening doors - it’s great, it’s polite and sweet and I like it. But some guys go to great pains to open the door for me, or take the door from me so they can hold it for me, when it would really just be way easier to let me open it myself or hold it for him. It’s something that is supposed to make a woman’s journey through the door easier, but too many guys are so intent on always holding the door that it becomes a huge hassle!

Lynn
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 10:43 am: [report]

And the horses! That is super sweet. Yeah, they stink, but all animals smell. Get over it. It’s not like you’re up on the horse, you’re behind it and there’s fresh air all around you! Plus you get to snuggle and share hot chocolate in the snow while taking in the Christmas lights. SUPER sweet.

Blair
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 10:56 am: [report]

I’ve had a bad experience with the horses.  It’s definitely cute if you’re somewhere snowy like Vermont or Colorado and it’s a whole outdoor adventure, but the ones in NYC are not romantic. You are being honked at like crazy and its sad watching the poor horse all chained up trying to get through that mad traffic!

jam-rock
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 02:09 pm: [report]

i actually love 4 thru 10 on the first list. but im corny like that… i also like knock knock jokes… so0o. [shrugs] But, i def love everything on the lower list. minus him buying the pads. i really dont think men have a knack for that, and im sure he’ll get the wrong kind. and i might be concerned if he actually got the right kind [scratches head] “why are you paying so0o much attention to my pads?” [shrugs] just me. i think i can do that bit on my own.

TWEETY D
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 06:04 pm: [report]

WOW ROSE PETALS, THAT’S SO ROMANTIC. That just shows me that i’m loved by my man even though i’m not in his pressance. Joint showers are cool u can get clean & dirty all @ the same time. Y would i tell my man man to pick up my tampons/pads(there r jus somethings a man has NO BUSINESS NEAR….unless he’s a single dad.)I think that that the little stuff count jus as the big. Ladies it’s hard enough 2 get our men 2 do certain things-y not let him romance u now & then it’s not everyday that ur man shows u his sensitive/romantic side. LADIES TAKE WHAT U CAN GET. EAT UP EVERY MOMENT THAT HE PUTS INTO THAT SEXY NITE it MAKES HIM FEEL LOVED & APPRECIATED WHEN U JUST SIT BACK & ACCEPT HIS LONG- THOUHGT OUT GESTURES… IT will be worth it @ THE END OF THE NITE…!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Adelaide
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 07:15 pm: [report]

I love the chivalry. My boyfriend pulls out my chair, opens doors and car doors, walks me to the door (we’re still young) and anything else. His momma raised a gentleman =) And he has ordered for me, but it was at a new place where he knew the menu very well and I gave him permission beforehand. It was delicious.

Bridget Locke
wrote on October 15 2008 @ 11:21 pm: [report]

Hiya!  Found you completely by accident, but had to tell you how much I’m enjoying this site! 

Anyway, when it comes to this list, I completely agree for the most part.  One of my friends had one of those showers built w/ shower heads on both sides so both people could enjoy the shower moments.  Works great for them, so why not?

But as for buying tampons?  Yeah, no.  LOL!  My friend’s ex did that for her and it drove her nuts because he’d always make a big production out of it.  So not necessary.  :D

Michelle
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 05:59 am: [report]

The guy I’m seeing now won’t let me walk on the outside of the sidewalk! If I do it inadvertently, he gets all fidgety and then asks me to switch sides. If it’s chivalry you want, find yourself a southern boy.

Mike
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 07:02 am: [report]

So it’s so nice for him open every door, give up every seat, carry every bag, but it isn’t nice for you to do the same in kind? It doesn’t even show that he knows anything about you, it’s completely generic. At least if he holds doors for everyone, you know he’s actually nice, and not just trying to impress you.

Mari
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 07:55 am: [report]

I actually enjoy the rose pedals on a bed but I can’t stand a man whose jealous of me talking, flirting and dating other men. For me, that’s a tell-tale sign that something might be wrong with him.

Kayla
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 08:00 am: [report]

Well.. Great list! But I have to disagree with many of these! I love taking joint showers and rose petals on the bed is very romantic!! But I also believe that if you want your partner to do sweet guestures for you, then you have to do sweet things for them! Everyonce in a while I will actually open the door for my fiance! He thinks its soo funny and brags to all his friends.. He thinks he’s got me wrapped around his finger! Maybe he does.. But it makes him think about opening my door more often!!

Leigh Raines
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 08:27 am: [report]

Thanks for the comments, I love the input. fyi this was a compilation of many peoples thoughts, just wanted to clarify that i WOULD NOT have my boyfriend pick up my lady products. some things should be an independent activity!

Brigit
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 08:59 am: [report]

I disagree on the shower one - I love showering together!  The fact that he still thinks I’m sexy and wants to kiss me, despite the mascara running down my face and the morning breath, is perfect.  And besides, it’s fun “helping” soap each other up…

Alex
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 09:12 am: [report]

Obviously written by a woman from a woman’s perspective. Like most women they want door mat. No wonder men don’t want to date American women anymore jeez

and #5 what a crock!

5. Considering your mate when you’re food shopping for your apartment and picking up snacks/tampons you know they’ll want.

g
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 09:21 am: [report]

i think it can be nice to have a joint shower, i enjoy it once in a while.. especially when your significant other washes your back, as far as the opening doors, that can be overated yet every once in a while is nice. any man that picks up your brand of tampons in the store is a keeper… interesting list

g
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 09:27 am: [report]

i agree with lynn.. a horse drawn carriage ride is sooo romantic. by the way, who actually determines what is a romantic turn off/on. romance is what you view romantic.  i know a woman who thinks romance is getting her favorite beer at the store and opening it for her. (don’t ask my why she thinks this is romantic). i especially love it when my guy has to have me lay my head on his chest while we are in bed to help him go to sleep. sounds cheesy but that is a total romantic turn on for me

Amber
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 09:38 am: [report]

OMG!  I shower w/ him every night….yes its a small tub, yes it can be cold when not under the spray…however the time we spend bonding together in that small space w/o the children, is like GOLD!  The eye contact while soaping each other up, the intimacy is incredible and tender.  Then after the shower, we get to dirty each other up..its like a win/win.

xxx
wrote on October 16 2008 @ 07:22 pm: [report]

Ladies, when a guy opens the car door for you, return the favor and unlock his door for him.

This even more considerate when it is raining.

Reena
wrote on October 17 2008 @ 09:58 am: [report]

I have to disagree on the rose petals, joing showers, proclaiming your love, public proposals and horses ones.
Roses are sweet. Cliche, yes.. but I always say that oftentimes something is a cliche (as in overused) because its GOOD. I can just as easily say that opening a door for a girl is a cliche. What is wrong with saying you’re in love? You’re happy- shout it to the world! Public proposals are things that a lot of people like. I dont think I’m one of them, but who’s to say? Horses ARE smelly, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a nice view while riding one..
and, personally, for me joint showers are just easier. Me and my bf have to leave for work at the same time each morning, so we just shower together. Who cares? It doesn’t even lead to sex 99% of the time, it’s just about convenience! And we switch off between who stands under the water.. so nobody gets cold & impatient. Hey, it works!

Grace
wrote on October 17 2008 @ 03:33 pm: [report]

Hi All…......
I usually don’t post on these things but…........
My last boyfriend ALWAYS opened the car door for me, needless to say, I liked it and got very used to it. The first time my current boyfriend and I went anywhere in his vehicle, he climbed in his side and I just stood there, waiting. He looked at me and this look of ‘ut oh…’ came over his face, he got out of the truck, came around and opened my door. I haven’t opened a car door since then. Laides, you just have ton let them know what you like and what you don’t. The same is for the men, I pay close attention to the things that are important. I try to meet these needs/wants. It’s a 2 way street!!

Celidah
wrote on October 17 2008 @ 06:39 pm: [report]

I adamantly disagree on the shower thing. It’s rare when I DON’T shower with my husband, and it’s incredibly relaxing to have him lather my back, or kiss me or hug me underneath the shower stream. He just clears out when I need space to shave.

Also, yes, rose petals are cheesy, but in a sweet, at-least-he’s-trying sort of way.

And I have to say I also disagree with the horse-and-carriage rides. As long as we’re not downwind, I find them very relaxing and, yes, romantic. In fact, we had a horse-drawn carriage take us from our wedding chapel to the reception hall!

Christina
wrote on October 18 2008 @ 11:00 am: [report]

My boyfriend has this crazy thing where we HAVE to shower directly after sex. Every time. Together. He’s the first guy I have ever done that with. He actually finds the running eyeliner kinda cute. And I broke him from peeing in the shower…I mean really..The Shower??!! He cooks breakfast for me almost every morning, I repay him by cooking dinner before I have to get him up for work. It works that way for us.

Sally Morton
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 09:24 am: [report]

You mornons. You let the guy know what you want for dinner, and then the guy communicates with the waiter. That is how it works.
Is there no one all you single folks won’t have sex with? Buy me lunch; get in my bed. I like your hair; get in my bed. Let’s get to know each other better; get in my bed.

Randy
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 09:27 am: [report]

You go out and talk to women and come up with some rules. The problem is that they are completely subjective and if reading some of the women’s replies are any indication, well the same people that gave you the rules aren’t the same people that are commenting on them, for the most part that is. Some of this stuff on both list can just be from courtesy or what some people like vs. what some people don’t like. Let people learn about each other by themselves. But from an importance stand point, this stuff is shallow or too unique to be taken seriously. It isn’t what good relationships will be made of. Cute article but worthless.

R
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 09:37 am: [report]

You forgot one. Hot-tub/Pool Sex.  Guys think its so sexy.  It can be, as long as you leave out the sex part.  Very irritating - if you’ve tried it you know what I mean.

Grady
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 10:15 am: [report]

Im a guy and I think some of the top list combined with the bottom makes for a perfect way to be. Showers if done right can be made very special and very warm. Opening doors is a must most of the time, but not always (respect). Flowers are just great anytime. Romantic pedals if my date was into it she would have pedals. I don’t believe there is a such thing as romance experts. My girlfriend expects things from me and I from her that we enjoy may not be what everyone else believe.

Taurwen
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 10:59 am: [report]

Ooo, another thing, if I’m walking on the inside of the side walk chances are it’s because I’ve been splashed by a car in the past and the person I was walking with laughed at me, so from then on I make sure it’s them on the outside when we’re walking just because i figure it’s ~their~ turn to get wet.

Mind you I’m kind of a horrible person.

Michele
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 11:30 am: [report]

Come on!  Everything on both lists is romantic, at least once.  If you’ve never had a rose petal trail leading to the bed, it’s romantic the first time it happens.  A little corny maybe, but sometimes isn’t that what romance is, that some one thought about you and made the effort to do some thing to impress you or get your attention?  I think opening doors and pulling out chairs for a woman is not only romantic, but thoughtful and respectful.  Some times it’s difficult to tuck the skirt under the tush and pull up a chair at the same time… And the buying thoughtful snacks and feminine products?  My fiance’ loves shrimp and I’m allergic to shellfish, so when I buy shrimp and those vinyl kitchen gloves to prepare it without touching it, he knows this is a thoughtful gesture.  What is even more thoughtful is when he says “Thank you for buying the shrimp, now sit down and I’ll prepare this.  I don’t want to see you in the emergency room.”  If he buys my feminine products, he has taken the time to look to see what it is that I use, and according to him, a man walking through a store carrying a box of tampons is proclaiming to the world that “I have a woman that I care about”. That seems fairly romantic to me.  I have to agree that sex on the beach is romantic only the FIRST time.

Lynn
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 12:05 pm: [report]

@R - I haven’t had a huge “session” in a hot tub, but we’ve started and gone slow in a hot tub, and I have to say it’s one of my fondest sex memories! The only reason we got out is because we were using condoms for birth control and you can’t use a condom in a hot tub!

Tori
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 01:00 pm: [report]

I kinda have to agree with somebody else on the chair and door thing. I mean if we’re not dating. Some guy thirty feet ahead of me opening the door for me and staring expectantly for the the ten seconds I walk up to the door is creepy.

The chair would also be weird on a first date. I think in a relationship there would not be the uneasy wondering what his expectations are with the “chivalrous” behavior. Because in reality- if a guy thinks he’s “helping” or ” saving” you so early on- he’s going to think you seriously need the help and refusing it just mean’s you’re eeeevil.

Nobody needs that.

Dave
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 02:41 pm: [report]

Rose petals, showering together, and putting a flower in your hair while on a tropical getaway are wonderful. My proclamation of love is having my girlfriend’s picture on my desk and another in my wallet. I tell her that I love her no less than a couple of times a day. Have always dreamed of having sex on a beach while the waves were lapping at our feet. Under a waterfall is definitely on that list too. When I think horse drawn carriages I imagine how nice it would to leave the church in one, after getting married. Foot massages, chicken soup for someone fighting a cold, leaving the TV turned off, and making love as often as possible are all wonderful….

Missi
wrote on October 19 2008 @ 08:57 pm: [report]

I enjoy a man opening doors for me.  Joint showers can be great if done right.  Just take turns under the water. I have never had a man leave a trail of rose petals to the bed, but I do think that would very romantic because that means that he put some thought and planning into the night.  I also think that a horse drawn carriage ride would be very romanic.

KellyJean
wrote on October 21 2008 @ 05:45 am: [report]

I have to comment on your “do” list:
My man’s currently mailing me Macaroni and Cheese (in the blue box ) halfway around the world.  I live overseas, and he’s in Philadelphia….  So yes, when you’re sad and blue, Mac Cheese is the answer!

Meg
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 10:05 pm: [report]

I think that a lot of these things would be very romantic to happen (especially the making food that I like, but I love eating so it’s a win-win situation). My b/f isn’t anywhere like being overseas, but I only get to see him half the year because of college. It’s nice having him make even small gestures to show his love. Once when we went to dinner with his family, he did pull my chair for me and I was stunned! I didn’t know what to do! I think I teased him for it and I wish I hadn’t….

The problem with a lot of these romantic things is that people like me really love them and just don’t know how to react when they catch them out of the blue. I’m afraid that the rose petals would make me blush and feel too awkward to even stay in the room. I’m not exactly a tom boy, but I’m not a real girly girl, either. I’m right in the middle….

I love it when I’m sleeping and he wakes me with a kiss on the forehead. When we nap together, I fight to stay awake just to enjoy his company. More than any gesture he could make for me, opening himself up enough to be the “him” that he can’t be around everyone else is enough for me. There’s no need for roses and car doors, but a smile and a hand on my back is all I need to know he loves me. :D When I come in the door and he makes a beeline to greet me, I could just melt. Some people are simple and don’t need anything else.

Kelly Jean: That mac and cheese story is exactly what I’m talking about.

Indie
wrote on October 30 2008 @ 11:38 am: [report]

The sweetest thing a guy ever did for me was on our first date. I was nervous, and so was he. But he was trying his best to make me feel at ease and was opening doors for me with a determination. What was cutest was when I knocked some tortilla chips over and was very embarrassed, he actually grabbed a few and dropped them on the table, and said ‘there, does that make you feel better?...it might sound cheesy, but was definitely cute, and needless to say, we’ve been together for 4.5 years now

Will R
wrote on November 10 2008 @ 01:40 am: [report]

Orly?? Here’s how a man feels about these.
Things That Are Intended To Be Romantic But Provoke Gag Reflex
1.
Response: Then stop dragging my @$$ to movies where the romantic hero does this.  Women have this wierd habit of forcing us to watch movies with handsome stalkers in them.
2.
Response: If this actually happened to you, you’re one of those women who is prone to dating Type-A Jerks.
3.
Response: Really?  This actually happened? To you?  Who even carries cash like that anymore.  You are dating a coke dealer.
4.
Response: Hello, shallow!  It’s the thought that counts, cliched or not.  I don’t tell my wife “You bought the WRONG VIDEO GAME YOU MORON! NOW I DON’T WANT TO SEX ON YOU AT ALL!”
5.
Response: Thank you!  Think this through before dragging me in there, not to mention that if one of us slips, we both go down, and not in the fun way.
6.
Response: Yeah, you try not bringing one for your prom date (or more specifically, for your prom dates mother.) Then we’ll talk.
7.
Response: Hillbillies need love too. 
8.
Response: Don’t use those new fangled innerwebs!  Have some class and use the telephone!!! (You.)  You’re using the telephonic device to ask a girl out?? Ask her in person! (Your grandmother.)  And science marches on.
9.
Response: If you’re dating the type of person who thinks humping in public is anything but annoying to the rest of the population, you’ve probably got bigger problems.  No one wants to see you naked.  Unless you’re really hot.  Then, Pics or it didn’t happen.
10.
Response: Yet again, stop putting it in chick flicks, and then dragging us to them, and we will stop doing it.  All those movies prove is that you can be a cliched creepy stalker, as long as you have penetrating blue eyes and ripped abs.
10 Things That Will Actually Turn Us To Mush
1. 
Response: Every woman I’ve dated thinks feet, and more specifically her feet, are gross.  But I agree on principal.
2.
Response: This should be brought to her office for maximum effectiveness, dropped off with someone trustworthy, and then you should disapear.  It’s not sezzy if you stick around to take credit, but you get extra points for making her coworkers hate their own husbands.
3.
Response:  This is required.  If you’re flying into town and they can’t be bothered to meet you at the airport, you can forget about them sharing the antidote.
4.
Response: Not sexy if you suck at cooking.  My wife bakes for me,  I cook for her.  We do not reverse the process, which causes me to make brownies that can stop tank rounds and her to make pasta that looks disturbingly like a spawn of Cthulhu.
5.
Response: Snacks yes, I can see that, but I think the latter without being asked sends a creepy message.  “Not only am I painfully aware that you’re bleeding like a stuck pig, I also inventory your feminine hygene products when you’re away.  And you’re a little low, considering your heavy flow.  Oh and I got oreos.” 
6.
Response: Isn’t this like ordering in a restaraunt thing?  “Oh sweety, here’s a tall mocha, you want this, because you had it last time.”  Can be sweet, but it can also say “Here you go, you’re boring!”
7.
Response: WATCH YOUR GODDAMNED SHOWS.  If I can’t save an episode of “The Wire” because you have three unwatched seasons of Nip/Tuck, well… in the words of every good Baltimore youth… “SNATCHPOPS!” Imma taking yer space!
8. 
Response: If your husband/significant other does this and they are not a florist, you should really find some time to meet his boyfriend.
9. 
Response: Your friends will never love him, he is the reason she can’t come to “Girls Friday” anymore, why you has less time for WOW Raids, and besides if you just ditched him they could totally hook her up with dreamy Steve from accounting. 
10.
Response: These gestures are wonderful, when they work, which they never do.  You’ll both grab the door at the same time and you’ll accidently smack her in the face with it, or you’ll presume she wants to sit in the wrong place.  Chivalry isn’t dead, but in reality it’s not easy to pull off if both parties arn’t expecting it.

DrDoctor
wrote on December 14 2008 @ 03:04 am: [report]

I’ve shopped for my lady in the ‘Feminine Needs’ isle but only if I was going to be at the store and she wasn’t or something. And it was only on her very gentle, very you-don’t-have-to-if-you-don’t-want-to-,really request.

I honestly don’t get why some guys feel the need to order for her unless it’s a special situation (like if she is expecting it).

As far as holding doors and such, my experience has been that hurrying up ahead of her just to get the door is more of a service to yourself than her. If she gives you a quick moment to get the door before her than learn to take advantage of that opportunity otherwise don’t make it hard on each other.

Great list!

Oh but we do share the shower in the morning sometimes… it helps us talk about our plans for the day and learning how to not make each other miserable is a great way to learn some honest communication.

deej
wrote on December 14 2008 @ 02:20 pm: [report]

From a feminist gentleman:

If you ever NOT allow me to open a door for you when we are entering a very public (read: crowded) building, going to work/social event, nice restaurant, theater/symphony, etc., then that is the last date.  It makes me look bad and costs you nothing.  Same goes for chairs & coat thing in same situations.  If we’ve been dating or are married and going to Chili’s for lunch, then you’re cool to do your own door thing if you choose.  But don’t make me look bad in front of others.

Ordering: It’s much classier to to allow the man to order for you at finer restaurants. But only after you’ve made your choice and told him before the server arrives.  And, it’s better for the server, as you’ve already worked out what you want and he/she doesn’t have to wade through your indecisions.

If we’re living together, I’m more than happy and confident enough to buy your tampons/pads/whatever.  Other than that… no.

Romantic cliches: As a man, I’m always trying to walk the line of “does she think it’s romantic or cliche”. If your sense of humor and respect doesn’t allow for your guy putting out the effort of trying to express his love for you, even if it’s a tired and abused cliche, then you are not worthy of his love.  If I bomb the bedroom with rose petals then you can at least appreciate the effort, embrace the laughter, and show lots of love and gratitude that your guy tried.  We can’t all paint the Mona Lisa or write An Affair To Remember. Just that I put a rose on your pillow should garner appreciation.

Just as I believe women are at least as equal as men, I also believe that there is a difference in the sexes and that is sometimes a good thing, especially regarding manners.  I will pull out your chair for you, wait until you are seated, stand when you leave the table, help you with your coat, and you can still berate me for making a bad business decision. Allow me to be a man and I will treat you like a woman.

suzybabies
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 12:09 pm: [report]

sex on the beach sucks and is a #&@$% boring cliche.  but sex in the shower. the whole point is both being under the warm water.  what are you doing when your in there staring at each other.  #&@$%
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jadeycakes
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 11:35 am: [report]

I disagree w/the joint showers.  I think they’re great and so much fun.  Plus the things that happen during and after are ALWAYS fun.

crmsnkatt
wrote on December 16 2008 @ 12:38 pm: [report]

If I want to be totally honest, I don’t mind clichés. Even cheesy rose petals leading to the bed. As much as I claim that I’m a strong, independent woman, I want romance in my life. This includes opening doors/pulling out chairs for me (which, in my opinion, are incredibly clichéd but true to the art of romance & chivalry). And if we’re at an upscale restaurant, I like when my bf orders for me… provided I’ve told him before the waiter arrives what I want.

The shower is my Place. I have a 3 year old, so it’s difficult to get privacy even when using the restroom. For whatever reason, she stays away when I’m taking a shower. It’s where I think things through, make plans, whatever. It’s the one place in my entire house where I can have Me Time. That being said, shower sex can be incredibly HOTT (if done properly, of course).

I had sex on the beach in Barbados a few years ago, and I have to say it was incredibly hot. He laid out a blanket for us (which was sweet, if ineffective). I didn’t notice the sand until later, but he helped me clean it off (which, again, was sweet).

lora
wrote on December 17 2008 @ 08:02 pm: [report]

joint showers pre-sex or post-sex are awesome.  sex IN the shower….not as fun as advertised.

Robert P.
wrote on October 11 2009 @ 11:41 am: [report]

I happened upon this site, and was going to overlook some of the what appears to be personally opinionated lists, but after reading some of the responses I decided to give my opinion.
  Regardless of what category it falls in, ” Do’s or Don’ts”, what does your mate like. That’s the answer. Also, it appears that mothers haven’t been considered. Just because she is a mother doesn’t mean she doesn’t have the same romantic desires. I say this because of the reason I came upon this site. I am at work, and I spoke with my wife on the phone, and she reluctantly let me know that my son is giving her a real hard time at home, and that she feels overwhelmed. He is (5)five years old, and also very opinionated. So I decided to surprise her by going home early, and give her the rest of the day off to do whatever she wants. What’s so hard about that?
  As for those guys that feel threatened, or lessened, for catering to your wife or lovers needs. Wake up, or you’re destined to die alone. Who knows, maybe they’ll do the same for you when you really need it.