Rihanna Talks To Glamour About Chris Brown Assault
Rihanna is finally opening up about the physical abuse she suffered by ex-boyfriend Chris Brown in an interview with Glamour magazine. They interviewed Rihanna for their annual Women Of The Year issue, ostensibly to speak up for domestic violence survivors, which is a brave move for her to make. But honestly? Rihanna’s statement is of the “no, duh” variety and sounds like it was written/watered down by PR folks and lawyers.
“Domestic violence is a big secret. No kid goes around and lets people know their parents fight. Teenage girls can’t tell their parents that their boyfriend beat them up. You don’t dare let your neighbor know that you fight. It’s one of the things we [women] will hide, because it’s embarrassing. My story was broadcast all over the world for people to see, and they have followed every step of my recovery. The positive thing that has come out of my situation is that people can learn from that. I want to give as much insight as I can to young women, because I feel like I represent a voice that really isn’t heard. Now I can help speak for those women.”
That’s great RiRi, but tell your fans something they don’t know? Wouldn’t it have been awesome if she had said, “Chris never should have hit me.” Or, “If a man hits you, you need to leave immediately.” Or, “People who love you don’t hit you.” More strongly worded sound bites like that would’ve zinged around the blogs and gossip magazines and helped more people.
What Rihanna does speak up strongly about, though? How awful she felt when two cops allegedly leaked a shocking photo of her beaten-and-bruised face to the press:
Glamour: Let’s talk about this past year—you’ve obviously been through some difficult things. How did the people around you help you cope?
Rihanna: My friends and family have been extremely supportive, and everyone has been there for me. But at some point you are there alone. It’s a lonely place to be—no one can understand. That’s when you get close to God.
Glamour: Are you referring to the [Chris Brown] incident?
Rihanna: I am talking about starting with the night [before] the Grammys and then on. That was not the only thing that occurred this year. The picture leaking … it was one thing after another.
Glamour: You’re talking about the photo [reportedly of Rihanna’s injured face taken by police after Brown assaulted her] that was allegedly leaked by cops. You handled that so well; you kept silent in the press.
Rihanna: It was humiliating; that is not a photo you would show to anybody. I felt completely taken advantage of. I felt like people were making it into a fun topic on the Internet, and it’s my life. I was disappointed, especially when I found out the photo was [supposedly leaked by] two women.
RiRi also shared some interesting gossip about how record company execs have managed her, especially so far as her image was concerned. When her career was just blasting off, she divulged, her makeup and even her hairstyles were tightly controlled. She dished:
“In the first two years of my career, there were a lot of restraints on what I could do. I couldn’t wear certain colors of lipstick, like bright pink, dark pink or red; [my lips] had to be natural. Eventually, I stopped communicating with certain people at the label, and did exactly what I wanted to do. And that was to cut my hair, dye it black, change my clothes, change my sound. Really to just express myself.”
Man, her handlers controlled what color lipstick she could wear in public? It kind of makes you understand how she was in a relationship with a controlling, physically abusive guy, doesn’t it?
There’s one last piece of Chris Brown gossip that Rihanna does share with the magazine, though: she was never in love with Chris Brown. When Glamour asked her if it’s too early for this 21-year-old to think about starting a family, she replies rather candidly:
“I hope I find love in the next 10 years—that will be pretty annoying if I am 31 and still have never been in love!”
Ha. Take that, Chris Brown. [Glamour]


















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qnzmami718
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 10:44 am: [report]
ur absolutely right jessica wen u say she should have said things like “Chris never should have hit me.” Or, “If a man hits you, you need to leave immediately.” Or, “People who love you don’t hit you.” - i was in an abusive relationship & those are things tht i never really understood until i left. i used to justify his hitting me by telling myself things like, “o well hes never left any really bad bruises,” or “its only somtimes,” or my favorite, “but he really loves me, i kno he does, hes just going thru somethings rite now, eventually he’ll stop.”
it helps a lot wen women who have gone thru it let u kno tht ur not alone. & tht ur wrong. he wont stop, hes not going thru a phase, he DOESNT love u, if he did he wouldnt be abusing u in the first place.
qnzmami718
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 10:51 am: [report]
& it is embarassing. its not something i ever told anyone about. to this day, my family & friends dont know. i was with this man for 3 years. the abuse didnt start til the last few months (i used to use tht as justification too) & i thank God i had the strenght to leave him before it turned into another 3 yrs.
if anyone suspects a friend or family member is being abused, plz talk to them! sometimes all it takes is someone askin about it for tht person to open up.
retro chic
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 11:02 am: [report]
Ha! A new name for PR spin on celeb DV: Lipstick Victims. Uh, remember… didn’t Frisky (and about 1000 other “news” outlets) report on the Gag Order imposed on both of them at the beginning of this global nuclear event? Is why we’re not hearing anything new just this PR crapola?
Arsenic
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 03:58 pm: [report]
You’re absolutely right to say that it would have been awesome if she had said something like “People who love you don’t hit you.”- but I want to caution that people who have had this kind of trauma often struggle with guilt and embarrassment for a long time. She might just not be ready or comfortable to talk about it in that manner- after all, we can’t *all* be super kick-ass *all* the time.
secretstevie
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 08:51 pm: [report]
jessica, i love you girl i really do but i have to really take issue with the tone of this article.
sure she is an international superstar but she was still an *actual* victim of *actual* physical abuse. which means she is still coping with a lot and will be for years to come. it is not her job to make statements based on what we would like her to say, it is not her job to tell any of us about any of this. the fact that she is letting us in at all is amazing and she deserves to be commended for it. you make it sound like she was being vain for not wanting that picture of her to be released. i can imagine a million reasons why a domestic abuse victim would not want something like that made public, vanity not included. and this:
uh no, in fact it doesn’t.
there are hundreds of pop-stars in the world who are just as polished and controlled as she was. that doesn’t make them automatic victims of domestic abuse. you are suggesting that she has some sort of personality flaw that led her to be both a pop star and an abuse victim. you are implying that her career was somehow linked to her being hit by her boyfriend. uh yeah, try again.