20 Relationships And Technology Dos And Don’ts
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12:00PM, Tuesday June 16th 2009
Ever sent a sexy text to your boyfriend… and then realized it was actually to your boss? Do you know your partner’s email password? Are you constantly checking your Blackberry—even when you’re on a date? Even if you’ve never experienced these tech troubles, it’s likely that you’ve encountered the intersection of technology and relationships—and maybe you’ve wondered how to set some rules for yourself and your partner. After the jump, 20 dos and don’ts when mixing love with the latest technology. What are your rules? Let us know in the comments.
DO plug in your significant other’s iPhone, Blackberry or computer in when you see the juice is low.
DO share the joke with your spouse if you laugh out loud at something on your Blackberry or phone.
DO text and email your spouse with the same care you did when you first started dating. Grocery lists and forwards don’t count as correspondence. Make time to send sweet-nothings to each other over Facebook, IM, and email.
DO upload new music to your honey’s iPod and new books to his/her Kindle. New tunes and words will be a sweet surprise and will show that you’ve been thinking of them while they were away.
DON’T exchange email passwords with your partner no matter how good of an idea it seems.
DON’T hack into your partner’s email or phone, read the messages, assume they are cheating on you, freak out and post your suspicions on a social network or a web site.
DO save cute texts, email and voicemails.
DON’T send flirty text messages or emails on your company Blackberry unless you want to explain “gr8 morning sex!” to the Director of IT.
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Riley
wrote on June 16 2009 @ 12:18 pm: [report]
I had to deal with the flirty/dirty emails on my blackberry. I definitely did not want to have to explain what those were all about to the IT folks.
Steamy messages are nice on my personal phone/email, they lose their luster when I’m jobless or owe someone at work for not forwarding them along.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on June 16 2009 @ 12:20 pm: [report]
@Riley: Well most people aren’t careful, I’m sure the IT peeps already have the steamy emails, as well as my browsing history…darn Frisky! Heh.
Lynn
wrote on June 16 2009 @ 01:50 pm: [report]
Hmmm. I have to disagree with some of these “Do’s” (I don’t think that was the correct way to use an apostrophe, but I was stuck and couldn’t figure it out!)
The only way I would know if my boyfriend’s phone is low is if I looked at it. And I don’t look at his phone. He doesn’t look at mine. We have no reason to. I would think it was pretty weird if he was looking at my phone and used “I wanted to check your battery for you” as an excuse.
And putting books/tunes on my electronics? Maybe I’m too territorial, but that would be weird too. If he wants me to check out some music, he tells me and sends it to me. I load it on there myself if I want to. I don’t want him messing up my stuff.
becktasm
wrote on June 16 2009 @ 09:19 pm: [report]
I don’t think exchanging email passwords is necessarily a bad idea. My boyfriend knows mine- I use the same password for everything, and it’s handy if I’m away from home and I need him to check my class schedule or my bank account for me. If you trust each other (REALLY trust each other), it’s not a negative.
missduplicity
wrote on June 17 2009 @ 05:58 am: [report]
Oh yeah, exchanging passwords is a BAD idea. We did this a looong time ago when we got married, and after we went through a rough patch where he was sort of “in and out” Of the house for a month, I started getting obsessed with checking his myspace…I was so sure he was with some other girl while he was gone.
He wasn’t. But trying to log in to his account only to find the password changed—and then having to sit with the uneasy feeling it gave me, or ask him and admit I checked his account—was SO not worth the hassle.
We don’t share our passwords anymore.
And I also had to change his dad’s name in my phone (He’s Phill Sr. and hubbie is Phill Jr.) to “Father in Law” to separate them in my phonebook after another incident, but…that’s a longer story. Lol
BeASimpleMan
wrote on June 17 2009 @ 06:26 am: [report]
I agree with Lynn…both of those constitute an invasion of privacy IMO. I’m a big believer in respecting other people personal space/property. Assuming that someone wants you messing with their phone or music is rude.