Peter Cook Blames Christie Brinkley For His Cheating Ways
Posted by: Amelia | Filed in: Relationships
12:00PM, Thursday October 09th 2008
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A few months ago, I wrote about an article in New York magazine, in which the author, Philip Weiss, tried to explain why men cheat—the basis of his argument was that people, especially men, are not meant, biologically, to be monogamous and that men who cheat are just fulfilling their perfectly natural urges. Boo-frickin’-hoo, I said then, and reminded that if men who got married never promised to be monogamous, they wouldn’t have to cheat. Well, unfortunately, Weiss is not alone in making a career out of explaining and justifying cheating—Gary Neuman, a recent “Oprah” guest, has a theory of his own and has written a book on the subject, called “The Truth About Cheating”. He believes men cheat because they’re experiencing loneliness in their relationship or marriage, they’re seeking affirmation from other women, and are not getting enough attention at home. In other words, it’s your fault ladies! And Oprah isn’t the only person giving this guy credence—Christie Brinkley ex Peter Cook, who cheated on her with his 18-year-old assistant, has taken a page straight out of the Neuman playbook and blames Brinkley for driving him to cheat.
“I was seeking a connection I could not find in my own marriage.... I wanted a little acknowledgement, a little attention, a little thank-you every now and then for my efforts, for the amount of time I took to care for her and my family, for the wealth I was building. Just the tremendous amount of work I was putting into my family.... I think the emotional aspect of our lives had changed. I think we were both feeling more like we were living with a brother and sister than a life partner. I think I just suddenly realized when I was getting attention from someone else that this is something that is missing in my life.”
Let’s pretend what Cook says is true—that he wasn’t being appreciated for the effort he was putting into the marriage and family and that, in essence, his ego was wounded. Why not talk about that? Why not try and repair the damage in the marriage instead of creating more by betraying trust? Not that I’m an expert on this, but I do think that a lot of couples, after being together for a long time, start to take each other for granted—I think I did it in my relationship, in some ways. But if you’re feeling unappreciated and hurt by the actions of the person who is supposed to be close to you, than as an adult, as a man, as a woman, it’s up to you to voice those concerns. People are not mind-readers, and while we can be an insensitive species, we’re not usually trying to cause pain. Not calling attention to the actions and situations that are hurting you is nothing short of cowardly.
Something tells me that feel “unappreciated” in his marriage gave Cook all the ammo he could have wanted to cheat—too bad it doesn’t hold up in a court of law. [New York Post]
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gillybeans
[report]wrote on October 09 2008 @ 12:26 pm:
Isn’t that the exact same reason women cheat? They’re not being given enough attention at home, and not feeling sexy or loved by their partners, etc.? I know some women cheat just because they enjoy the taboo aspect of it and like feeling naughty, but most of them do it b/c their dudes aren’t satisfying them on an emotional or physical level. Often they’re lining up their next bf so they don’t have to waste too much time being lonely or without sex when they break up with their current beaus.
But again, it would be a lot better if the women also mentioned they weren’t getting enough attention before they just went and banged the best friend or neighbor. I’m just not entirely sure guys give a #### when a woman says that. They probably think they’re being needy. People need to pay attention to giving attention! I think everyone needs it. both men and women.
On that note, Peter Cooke is still pretty nasty. His fling was barely legal. And you can get cheap or free porn anywhere. Spending $300k on it is a pretty full-fledged habit, not the fault of a wife or anyone else.
Annika Harris
[report]wrote on October 09 2008 @ 12:55 pm:
Correct me if I’m wrong, but Gary Neuman’s theory on why men cheat really isn’t new. I thought that was the justification most men gave for cheating throughout the ages. But I do agree that talking before cheating would make a world of difference.
Amelia
[report]wrote on October 09 2008 @ 01:05 pm:
@Annika Harris Most theories are just old theories put in a fancy new package!
lesley
[report]wrote on October 09 2008 @ 06:20 pm:
The things that are missing in our lives aren’t always glaringly obvious. And… sometimes it’s just hard to talk about the things that don’t ‘feel’ right anymore, especially when the other half just isn’t listening. I don’t it’s as simple as saying “I need more of this… less of that.” Sometimes we don’t know what we’re missing, just that there is an empty place inside us.
Of course, there are men and women who cheat just for the sake of cheating, but everyone lives with different circumstances. We are all just human, after all.
Mike
[report]wrote on October 10 2008 @ 12:27 am:
Well talking might sound like a good idea but it’s sometimes not the answer either. I’m a married man. For two years our relationship was getting colder and colder. I wasn’t getting the attention I wanted. We were having sex but I felt like I was abusing my wife. There was no emotion coming back and no attention. I’d lie in bed with her and beg her to talk to me about what was wrong. She’d just get angry and turn over. And yah I started to feel like I was needy and unappreciated.. eventually I couldn’t even get it up anymore even if I wanted to it was so awful eventually I discovered she was having a two year affair with her boss.. I even knew she was getting involved with this guy and I would try to talk to her about him but she just kept insisting that I was jealous and reading too much between the lines… eventually I was dying to have an affair with anyone just to get the attention and the affirmation that I was actually an OK person… I know nothing about Peter Cook but I do feel like I totally understand what he said....
David
[report]wrote on October 10 2008 @ 01:02 am:
People cheat because they want more. That’s all.
If you had a million dollars would you stop wanting money? No.
We all want more. So, we cheat.
jane Medefesser
[report]wrote on October 10 2008 @ 03:00 am:
Isn’t this a little like robbing a bank then blaming your boss because you haven’t had a raise in a while?
We’re all responsible for our own actions and behavior. Blaming someone else for your actions is just childish. Shame on Peter Cook for behaving like a kindergarten school boy.
Sammy145
[report]wrote on October 14 2008 @ 04:40 pm:
Cheating, lying, etc… it is all a coward’s route and believe me, these losers would not want to be lied to themselves. Cook needs to step away from the mirror and the cameras and get to a really good shrink… His whining to the media because Christie raved about him and gave him a yacht has been especially nauseating. Give me a big break!