Gossip Says Paris Hilton's Boyfriend Doug Reinhardt Threw Her Cellphone Out The Window And Choked Her

Mary Berry
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:20 pm: [report]

This article seems to suggest that both were guilty of domestic violence. Paris, as much as I don’t care about her, was the victim. If she did hit him, she had a good reason. Seems to be more men these days claiming they are “victims” of domestic violence, when they’re nothing more than abusers.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:30 pm: [report]

Mary did we read the same article? Unless Frisky changed it, I read that Paris slapped and kicked this dude and he held her away from him with his hand around her neck. If he wasn’t squeezing, I could see this as a legitimate response. Pretty sure youre turning yourself into one of those people who is quick to make the man the abuser…

Ginacakes
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:32 pm: [report]

Really? Well, if throwing a phone out of the window is enough reason to hit and kick someone, wouldn’t the said hitting and kicking be reason enough to retaliate? I don’t agree with the use of violence, but to say she had a reason so it’s ok is completely ridiculous.

Michael1967
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:33 pm: [report]

Seems to be mutual Domestic Abuse to me. How anyone can come to the conclusion that either is the main aggressor based on what as been written in the article is beyond me! Some people though only view Women as victims, and Men as perpetrators though!

Mary Berry
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:39 pm: [report]

Yes, I read the same article, and yes, read that. She had a good reason for kicking and slapping him. Then he turns around and grabs her? Come on.

Usually I enjoy Jessica’s posts, but this one bothers me. I may be reading too much into the way she worded it, though.

Mary Berry
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:54 pm: [report]

MEN CANNOT BE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS!!

I think Jessica gets that, and my point was that I hope Jessica wasn’t suggesting that this guy was. I’m not here to argue with you people. I’m hoping Jessica isn’t giving in to the whiny man movement.

C.Munro
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 05:09 pm: [report]

Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. If you hit your “significant” other, it is domestic violence regardless of what that person’s gender happens to be. The only justifiable use of violence is in defense against violence perpetrated upon oneself or others. Tossing a phone from a moving car does not remotely qualify.

If you want peace, work for justice and realize that there can be no justice without equality. It is no more excusable for a woman to hit a man than it is for a man to hit a woman. Period.

Mary Berry
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 05:19 pm: [report]

Men are stronger than women generally, and the whole social power dynamic favors men. The oppressed cannot also be the oppressors.

When women hit men, it is usually to defend themselves. This article isn’t telling us everything.

Mary Berry
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 05:49 pm: [report]

Domestic violence isn’t just about physical violence - it includes exercising undue control over someone else. Again, men are still in control, hence the reason men cannot be victims. I’m sure him tossing the phone out the window was some attempt at controlling her. That is why she is a victim, and why her “violence” was not domestic violence. End of story.

Michael1967
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 05:50 pm: [report]

Giving in to the whiny man movement!

Men are equally victims of Domestic Abuse, yet receive significantly less, if anything, in funding to provide services for them and their Children to escape their female abuser. If a Man is not helped, then the children suffer as well!

secretstevie
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 07:00 pm: [report]

Mary Berry you are out of your mind.

Anyone, man, woman or child can be a victim of domestic violence. Throwing a phone out a car window, while totally rude, does not justify a violent response. Ever. No matter the sex of the perpetrator.

What whiney man movement are you talking about?

Both men and women deserve equal protection under the law.

Jessica, you should probably post a follow up comment to Mary Berry, she seems to be putting words in your mouth.

Mary Berry
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 07:25 pm: [report]

I’m not going to argue with you, and I’m not putting words in anyone’s mouth.

mrcash
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 08:44 pm: [report]

So slapping and kicking someone for throwing a phone (wonder how many of those Paris goes through in a year?) is OK, but restraining someone from further hurting you is not OK? There is NEVER a reason to use violence on anyone, and yes, men can be victims; saying that the cannot is extremely sexist.

This is sad, but I have a feeling this was a publicity stunt.

SaucyBrunette
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 09:53 pm: [report]

And we care about these idiots because…?

lindseylee21
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 08:45 am: [report]

@Mary Berry - It is NEVER ok to slap or hit someone, no matter what your “reason” is. There should not be double standards when it comes to violence or hate. A man can certainly be a domestic abuse victim; I’ve seen it. Being slapped and kicked is abuse, even if it’s Paris Hilton’s twig arms that are doing it. Throwing a phone out a window is a ridiculous excuse. What would you say if the situation were reversed and Doug was slapping Paris for throwing his phone out the window? You better check your double standards at the door, honey.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 09:12 am: [report]

@mary - ur ignorance is astounding… stupifying. really. im all for men being men, but we can be abused and raped too. just b/c im pretty sure ive never met a chick who could KO me doesnt mean i should allow one to slap and kick me w/o walking away and/or calling the Po.

mrcash
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 08:46 pm: [report]

You’re proving the point! why do you think women are so emotionally delicate that they can’t exert psychological control over a man? I know MANY spineless men who are controlled by their wives.

And Paris hit Doug first… just because men have dominance in society doesn’t mean that they do in every relationship.

Mary Berry
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 11:08 am: [report]

Funny…I notice only men have come to his defense. That proves MY point.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 11:12 am: [report]

Pfft. I don’t see too much defending going on. People are calling you out on your small-minded, sexist and ignorant point of view.

And in case you neglected to notice, some of the people calling you out are women.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]

Ginacakes sounds like a woman. stevie is a girls name (i think). lindsey is a chick.

how about this - leave your ignorance off of your posts, and save it for your man. wait… i cant imagine someone with an attitude like yours has a man… not a manly man anyway… if he exists, he is not even PocoMacho…

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 12:05 pm: [report]

C. Munro - Wow, you must have the ladies dropping like flies! You have a lovely attitude to life.

As for Mary Berry, I have to repeat something I posted before. I, a woman, WAS an abuser. Sure, I let my rage get the better of me. Yes, I am Asperger’s - an “Aspie” - and that, apparently, can be one of the “symptoms” or traits displayed (lashing out) but that condition didn’t excuse my behaviour. Sure, I was angry and deepy unhappy at the time but I still sent my ex-husband to work with a black-eye (and worse) and the only retaliation I can remember (out of the drunken fog of the past) from him was when he pushed me once.
I can’t turn back the hands of time but I have done everything I can to understand my behaviour and to heal myself.

So, your simple idea that men can’t be abused is one for the dinosaurs, really. I’m also ex-military and oooooh weeee, if you could see some of the women beat the crap out of men in that atmosphere, you’d get it. Yes, those big, muscular, in shape men.

It is women like you who want to believe that men “have it all” but lest we forget that because of the lop-sided ideas we have about gender and our “roles” we choose, men too are confined to an ideal that may not suit them as individuals and people. “Boys don’t cry.” “Come on, be a man, you can’t show emotion.” “You have to be the bread-winner.” “Women won’t go out with you if you don’t have money.” etc. etc.

From the tone of your post, I can see that you’ve been burnt a few times and that you are either (a) very young and are regurgitated what you’ve been told or even more chilling, (b) you’re experienced with a few years behind you and your attitude is set in for good.
Now, you know that you’ve heard it from a woman. Hell, I’ll even post my picture.
If it shows up, yep, that’s me - for real.

And FYI - I do post some crap on here so apologies to anyone I’ve mislead by my fantastical musings…... I haven’t posted a photo on here so if I can’t make it happen, you’ll just have to take my word for it.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:13 pm: [report]

Wow, you must have the ladies dropping like flies!

Your assessment is accurate, considering I’ve never in my life seen a fly drop.

Women do generally find me to be an excellent friend, and I usually have a strong preference for their company to that of other men.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:21 pm: [report]

@ C. Munro - Flies do drop! I have 2 on my window sill in the bathroom and 3 in the lounge near the curtains. I also have 5 lady bugs which are bedding down for the winter in my bathroom.

Wow! It’s like I’m talking to a real person and I’m in London (which is in the future to you) right down the road from Greenwich (mean time) and you are in Texas (which is in the past to me).

EastCoastMale
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:25 pm: [report]

Mary Berry, I think you are totally wrong in your assertion that men cannot be domestic violence victims. So what if a man is seen hugging an old friend and it gets back to his girlfriend and she questions him about it at dinner and slaps him? thats domestic violence since they are considered to be “intimate partners” as defined in most of the explanations of laws and statutes regarding the matter.

Also, if a woman is just a complete bitch and develops a pattern of threats or intimidation against a man, not necessarily physical, then that can also be considered domestic violence. You are wayyy off base.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:26 pm: [report]

Texas is in the past on so many levels.

And I am an unrepentant Anglophile. London sounds ... lovely.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:34 pm: [report]

god* blessed the south.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:34 pm: [report]

@ C.Munro - London IS nice today! The leaves are starting to fall to the ground and there’s a bit of chill in the air w/ the sunshine coming through. It’s starting to get dark at 16:30, mind. It’s dark when I leave work.
I like Texas - I drove across it and melted my Clash record years ago from the heat in the back seat of my car. I judge a place by the weather and the geography - people are the same no matter where you go, they just don’t realise it.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:41 pm: [report]

Wow this is turning into quite the thread hijack, but I don’t care because it’s more interesting than a couple of douchebags hitting each other.

I forget how far north y’all are in London. 4:30 is a pretty early sunset.

I too judge places largely on weather and geography, which is why I despise Texas, with Austin being a notable exception. I hate the humidity, especially combined with the heat, and Dallas is as geographically boring as it gets.

But then, I am a spoiled Californian living in a place that doesn’t suit me. I miss the mountains and the ocean and the dry air and the quality of the sunlight.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:42 pm: [report]

I just read the article here again and the guy in the photo w/ Paris looks like an itty bitty baby - like an innocent - and I think we’ll find out before long that he is “too good” for Paris. That’s not a judgement call. She has a strong character and personality and he seems “solid” - and not just physically - so it’s either he’ll stick around to balance her out or he’ll get fed up w/ her bullsh*t and move on.
That’s just the “vibe” I’m getting from their photo.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:50 pm: [report]

@ c.munro - “A thread hijack” ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha…. Are you actually IN Texas, then?

London is around the same latitude as Washington state. We have the same weather as Seattle and the Olympic Peninsula. Last summer was “hot” here but this year it came and went and I didn’t actually notice that it was “summer.”
I’m thinking winter is going to be soggy this year.

What time is it where you are?

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 01:57 pm: [report]

Yup, I live in the cookie-cutter suburbs of North Dallas. It is a loathsome, vapid, miserable place. But as soon as an opportunity to move back to Ventura County comes along, it’s goodbye Texas, hello California for me.

It’s almost 2 p.m. here right now.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:07 pm: [report]

It is 8 p.m. here now. Is it roasting there? Surely, it can’t be that miserable? If it’s miserable, then you gotta find what’s good about it, then. Are there flowers near you? Maybe some cats nearby?
Some Taco Bell?

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:12 pm: [report]

Actually, autumn is quite nice here. I shouldn’t complain. It’s 76 degrees, clear, dry and sunny right now. In fact, I feel like I could be in Simi Valley it’s so nice today. My car is sitting outside with the top still down begging me to skip out on work and go for a drive.

What’s good about Dallas? It’s not Houston. For that I am grateful.

GreenAura
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:14 pm: [report]

@C.Munro: Ventura Co. HOLLA!! Hubby was born and raised there and I’m from Orange Co. We went back to Vent/Ox this past year, and its changed for the worse, but Port Hueneme is still really quaint. Oh how I miss the sea air and lax attitudes!

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:19 pm: [report]

Sweet! I’m from T.O. myself. Last time I was out there was in Jan. 2008, and I had a very difficult time leaving. Was never much a fan of Ventura or Oxnard, but T.O., Simi, Moorpark, Camarillo and Somis still looked nice when I was out there. And cruising down Kanan on my way to Zuma has got to be one of my favorite things in the world.

I miss it so much.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:25 pm: [report]

Go for a drive! If you can skip out on work and there aren’t any deadlines that need immediate attention, then why not? The work’ll still be there tomorrow or later today, in your case.
It’s weird talking to someone all the way over in the states now. I haven’t been to the US in about 10 years and I don’t even know what the culture is like anymore. We have naked people on the TV here after 9pm and full on cursing - such as the “f*ck” on the telly like it’s nothing. I’ve gotten used to that now. It’s much more free over here.
You couldn’t tell me in such a way what it’s like that I could get a comparison either.
Are you sure you’re real? People ask me if I’m a robot in real life.

joyy
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:33 pm: [report]

@C.Munro - my bf’s mom is in Frisco and she randomly showed up in AZ a few weeks ago all “I’ve been roadtripping the southwest - I HAD to get out of Dallas, it’s just too hot and horrible.”

After talking with her for a little while, we decided her best shot at sanity was to take up sailing. Cruise craigslist for a small sailboat (friends of mine pick up 14-16’ hobie catamarans for ~$250-350). It’s super fun, and it’s totally got a place on my toy wishlist.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:37 pm: [report]

Oh, it’s not terribly different from 10 years ago, really. American culture has always reminded me of a perpetual high-school environment. It’s not mature in a lot of respects, such as what it deems acceptable to broadcast on the tele, and there’s a sort of condescending attitude constantly seeping down by those in authority, which makes one feel as if one never graduated and shall never escape the thumb of overbearing assistant principals. It’s a culture aimed more at raising children than at having a fulfilling life as an adult.

Am I sure I’m real? Well, I know I exist. Sometimes I wonder if the world around me does, though.

I’d assume being a scientist would put you in contact with people who share a certain clinical mindset. You don’t sound like a robot to me.

GreenAura
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:38 pm: [report]

I miss Zuma :(
My dream place to live would be Camarillo. Such a great community with quite possibly the BEST outlet mall I have ever seen in my life. Several of my hub’s family members worked at the now infamous mental hospital before it closed—the one featured on the cover of Hotel California. In fact, both his aunt and his grandma met their future husbands there (as workers, not patients, lol!)

saysay
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:47 pm: [report]

Trust me, women can be the abuser… my ex-friend used to punch, kick, strangle, throw things at etc. her boyfriends… they NEVER deserved it. Women can be more damaging at times, in my opinion, because no man wants to report abuse by a woman and most men are afraid to defend themselves in that situation because it is a woman. So, sorry Mary, you’re wrong.
P.S. I’m a chick.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:51 pm: [report]

@ c. munro - Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha….Now, everyone has hijacked the thread. Brilliant!
What is poor Paris going to do now? I think it is my duty to pay her some attention. I’ll just scroll back up to the top now and ponder her hitting her fella again.

I’m back.

Oh, no, those guys (other scientists) wouldn’t see robot tendencies in others. They are funny as hell. I like peculiarities in others.

“you don’t seem like a robot to me.” You may be one too, have you thought of that? Ok, ok, it is my surreal sense of humour.

Well, you’ve just let me know that it’s the same as it was in the US when I left. The press over here is really anti-American but every once in a while, you see a sensible article from someone telling everyone else off for dragging America through the coals too much. Have you been to the UK before?

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:54 pm: [report]

@joyy: That’s not a bad idea. Sailing is a lot of fun, and I love being out on the water in just about any kind of boat. I had no idea you could pick one up for so little. If I were in California, I’d be going up to my aunt’s lake house on Nacimiento and wakeboarding with them every chance I got.

@GreenAura: Camarillo tugs at my heartstrings too. If I could live anywhere, I’d be tempted to say Malibu. But part of me would prefer Camarillo. Either way, it’d be tough to go wrong.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 02:57 pm: [report]

Have you been to the UK before?

Sadly, no. I’d love to go sometime. I do worry that the 220v outlets over there may short my circuits, though.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 03:06 pm: [report]

@ c. munro - so that little face with the wink on it is supposed to make me think you’re joking. I’m not fooled one bit!
You slipped up and now I know you’re a robot. I thought as much.
If you have some headphones and can listen/watch a youtube. Watch this one. It’s an oldie but a goodie and you may have even seen it before. Yes, I like stupid humour too. In fact, I gotta laugh at everything….. And, it IS a video on youtube and not some spam link to extend your penis or buy viagra or whiten your teeth…..Whoever made this video is a genius.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJML0tOqYTY

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 03:12 pm: [report]

That vid is a bona fide classic. Love it.

Robert Tilton’s church used to be about 10 minutes from where I live. It has since been demolished to make way for what appears to be an empty building.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 03:22 pm: [report]

That’s good news! You can tell alot about a person if they like that video or not.
I used to live quite close to Jimmy Swaggart’s empire. Remember him? “Forgive me for I have sinned.” Jim Carrey (in one of his rare non-annoying moments) did a beautiful impression of him on the show “In Living Colour” years ago.

Why did they demolish Tilton’s church? I’d never even heard of the guy until last year when someone sent me the video. I guess he took up Swaggart’s or Oral Robert’s crown.
Who the hell is he?! I might ring the number on the video.

Have you seen the Comfort Wipe ad?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crfGXmxJ1vM

Ok, I gotta go catch the train in a few minutes but I’ll probably be on here tomorrow (if I’m not blown away at work). If you watch the video, I’ll read your response before I go. I’m packing up.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 03:34 pm: [report]

I think they demolished Tilton’s church, Word of Faith, because attendance dropped significantly after his scandal became public. Tilton had been bilking his followers for years, and it was all over the local news when the story broke. That had to be sometime in the early-mid-‘90s. The church sat at the intersection of two major freeways, so the land was probably pretty valuable when they tore it all down.

Yeah, Tilton, Swaggart and Baker. All that happened around the same time, IIRC. I don’t remember where Swaggart was based, though. Was it Florida?

One of my facebook friends sent me the comfort wipe commercial. The first time I saw it I had tears running down my face. “Being a big guy has its advantages ....” Oh, man! Did you know that a google search for “butt-wiping stick” comes up with that vid first?

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 03:49 pm: [report]

“butt wiping stick” - gee, I wonder why that phrase would bring up that video first on a google search!

So, let me get this straight. You were searching for “butt wiping stick” on google one day and ran across The Comfort Wipe…Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha….

“Being a big guy has its advantages.” Like what, for example? That commercial’s got it all. I like how the toilet tissue won’t fall off the stick right after they announce how “easy” it is to use. The comments below the video are pure gold as well.

Swaggart was based in Louisiana…..Ahem.

C.Munro
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 03:59 pm: [report]

Well, no. I’d seen the comfort wipe ad and wondered how many similar devices there were out there, hence the google search for “butt-wiping stick.” I think I just find it amusing that so many other people used that precise combination of words to describe it.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 07:11 am: [report]

@C. Munro - You wondered how many other devices were out there? So did I! BUT…...I can’t let a good joke pass so I also have to wonder: were you also staking out the competition because you were hoping to improve on the model? Right now, there’s one of those “grasping sticks” on my work mate’s desk. It has a little handle that you squeeze which activates a mechanism at the other end of the stick which has a miniature shark’s head on it. The shark’s mouth opens when you squeeze the handle. The Comfort Wipe is missing that key ingredient to make it truly workable - a mechanism that holds the toilet paper and then allows it to drop off into the pan.

I’ll be changing my photo/avatar today. It can be difficult to get across that one is a fat, balding, middle-aged, glass-eyed, peg-legged person of a non-specific gender who lives in squalor with 50 cats when my real photo is up. I only put it up to prove a point to that troll on the other thread.

C.Munro
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 10:24 am: [report]

Oh, I thought there was a button on the handle that released the paper. I’ll have to watch the vid again.

I think the decorative shark’s head, while not a key ingredient, adds a bit of whimsy to what is at the moment an entirely utilitarian device. It might be a good addition too.

Maybe switch it up even. Sharks, toucans, alligators. The possibilities are mind-boggling.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 10:49 am: [report]

i guess when i was a kid i had a godzilla asswiper.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:01 am: [report]

There is a button on the handle but on the video, the toilet paper doesn’t drop properly. It hangs on the end of it, which, let’s face it is going to require one to have to reach out and remove it with their hand. I wasn’t thinking about the shark’s head as the actual arse wiper - more the mechanism and the grasping nature of it.

@ MuchMacho: Did you watch the video? If you haven’t, then scroll up this thread and look for the link in one of my messages.

I want to see someone in real life carrying one of those things around like it’s the most normal thing in the world AND I want to be witness to the fall-out when those who use the Comfort Wipe start “demanding respect.” I may have to get that movement started. I’ll go see about ordering one now, maybe bring it to the big fight tomorrow at the pub…...

Oh, here’s an “across the pond” question. Has their been any coverage of the “David and Goliath” match in Nuremburg for tomorrow over in the US? I have to stress that I am NOT a boxing fan but this one is just too good to miss.

http://www.sportinglife.com/boxing/news/story_get.cgi?STORY_NAME=boxing/09/11/06/manual_155659.html

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]

nope. far less ppl care about boxing here than they used to back in the day. too many titles to keep track of, and no dominant champion. inflated records too.

C.Munro
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:09 am: [report]

Well, yeah, the shark’s head would be for aesthetics only, and not the same as the one employed by the grabber. More like the shark’s mouth painted on the nose of a WWII P-40, y’know.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curtiss_P-40

As for the boxing match, I’ve not heard anything about it. I’m not a fan of watching neanderthals pummel each other, so perhaps I’ve not been paying sufficient attention to notice. But on this side of the pond, most guys are into that UFC, mixed martial arts stuff. So it wouldn’t surprise me if news hadn’t made its way over here.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:35 am: [report]

@ c.munro - The Russian is 7’2” and weighs 315 lbs and the Brit is 6’3” and weighs 218 lbs. It is the dimensions of the two and the logistics of the fight that I have to see. It’s not the actual boxing but how in the world will this little guy (in comparison) even begin to bring down that giant? I’ve booked a seat at the pub and I’ll be watching it tomorrow night. Also, far from being a “neanderthal” the Russian is quite the gentleman and he’s also intelligent.

http://www.boxnews.com.ua/en/interviews/2326/2006-01-16/Q&A-Nicolay-Valuev-

Also, you do know that isn’t a real shark on that wikipedia listing, right? It’s an aeroplane.
My humour is much better in real life when there are voice inflections. It takes so much writing to form a good piece a humour when the other person doesn’t know you’re kidding.

Hey, we’re sort of getting back towards the topic. At least it’s about someone getting hit.

C.Munro
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:37 am: [report]

Hey, we’re sort of getting back towards the topic. At least it’s about someone getting hit.

Thank you for that. It may be the funniest thing I’ve read this week.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:48 am: [report]

@ C.Munro - Why is that funny? You may have seen one of my posts where I mentioned that I am an “Aspie” so it may be odd to ask why someone would think something is funny, but to me, it is a reasonable question.

This site keeps putting my picture back up! That should be a picture of an old “Sea Monkeys” ad. Remember them? They’re really just brine shrimp. My sister had some when I was a child and I was extremely disappointed that they weren’t wearing crowns like on the package. They’re a rip off.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:56 am: [report]

re: 6’3” vs 7’2”... stright punches right up the barrel, instead of looping ones. ive seen valuev (sp?) highlights. hes slow. doesnt seem to hit all that hard. just massive. i read that his handlers wont let him fight any real heavyweights, like the klitsko’s. boxing has grown stale. much bigger fan of MMA (not surprising, right cmun? )

retro chic
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:57 am: [report]

Oh brother, such drama… Please do not confuse these two with DV! These are known overindulging and overindulged PR hounds who may end up doing us all a favor with two less of them in the world. WhoooO cares!?

C.Munro
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 11:58 am: [report]

I don’t know that my sense of humor is “standard,” but I found it funny because we took the comments here so far from the story above. To have you point out, “hey, we’re talking about violence again” in an off-handed manner just amuses the hell out of me. I don’t know that I can explain it any further than that.

BTW, I’ve suspected I may be an “Aspie” as well.

C.Munro
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:04 pm: [report]

much bigger fan of MMA (not surprising, right cmun?)

It is remarkably popular here. I can’t really talk smack about it, ‘cause one of my closest friends trains MMA fighters. The funny thing is, he could probably whup my ass one-handed without breaking a sweat (and I’m built like a quarterback), but when I said something about how his sport was gay it really hurt his feelings and I felt like the neanderthal.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:12 pm: [report]

Oh, I see! That IS funny. Why do you suspect yourself? Do you have rolling images - like films or a filofax - in your head and when you come across a new situation you can either (a) refer to a previous image/incident to compare the two (past and present) and then understand how to behave accordingly in a manner which is socially acceptable to your surroundings or (b) have no point of reference and find yourself frustrated or in the dreaded bubble of not being able to reach out and connect with others because you don’t know what you’re meant to be doing?

Things like someone asking “how are you?” are confusing because the only answer is to “tell the truth?” What the hell does “fine” mean anyway? I didn’t understand why I’m meant to answer with “fine” until I was in my mid-30’s. Now, I tell people that I won’t ask about their weekend or whatever because I can’t visualise it unless they tell me a very detailed account of it and then I’ll want to know minute details.
What makes you think you are Asperger’s?

@mucho macho - I don’t really follow boxing or the fights but I can understand why someone would get into them. There’s lots there to follow, statistically speaking.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]

his sport was gay

i do brazilian jiu jitsu. we have a saying. “it’s only gay if you make eye contact.”

C.Munro
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:23 pm: [report]

Actually, I’d read an article on how people with Asperger’s behave in romantic relationships, and it reminded me a lot of my own behavior.

I also tend to eschew the veneer of politeness when I find something unacceptable, and am known to alienate people with my often harshly stated, inflexible opinions. And I find the question “how are you” to be wasted breath as most people don’t really want to know how you’re doing so much as they expect a perfunctory “fine, thanks, how are you” response, to which they’ll give a single-word reply of “fine.”

But maybe I’m just poorly socialized.

ciarabug
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:32 pm: [report]

um, if someone threw my phone out the window and then restrained me and told me to “relax,” and i had the money paris hilton no doubt has, i’d do worse than punch and kick him or whatever it is she did—i’d take him to court for assault and destruction of property!

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:40 pm: [report]

@ c munro - behaviour in romantic situations? In what way? You can tell if you want but I can understand how such questions could be disturbing in such a public forum. I don’t give a sh*t who reads what I post because I am a loner and I’m also very economical on what I write and also as soon as that picture of the sea monkeys loads onto my page, I’ll just go back to being a random…..

Let me guess? You were unable to deliver something the other person wanted emotionally in a romantic situation? I have a hard time with that too. I don’t know what I’m meant to be doing and I follow my own instincts always.

Do you really alienate people by being harsh? That is the reason why I have created a “bag of tools” in my head that I use to make life easier for myself. When I’m in the elevator at work, if someone else gets on the lift, I think “please don’t talk to me.” If they look at me, I then start a tape in my head (this is if I can remember to do it) that says, “Remember to ask them how THEY are doing if they ask about your weekend or just how you’re doing.” I usually forget and walk away.
I used to bring books to parties “just in case it got boring.” Now, I’ve learned that if you just stand there and say “hhmm” or “uhuh” ever so often when the other person is speaking, you can get by. I cringe when I think back to being at a social situation and I’d open a magazine or a book whilst someone else was talking to me. Ugh! I do know better now. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha….

Are you poorly socialised? I didn’t know how to walk up the stairs until I was about 7 years old but that is because I’d never SEEN stairs until then….That makes me laugh when I think back…....

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:40 pm: [report]

@ciara - it sounded like first the phone flew out the window. we dont really know why. second, she kicked and slapped him. 3rd he grabbed her neck. one doesnt need to be restrained unless one is acting the fool. and girlfriends rarely take boyfriends to court. what would court say? “jag, buy her a new phone. paris, quit being a bitch.”