Notes To Our Younger Selves

Amelia
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:04 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old Amelia,
Seriously, you really don’t need to wait until you’re 20 to have sex, especially with that guy. Have sex with Rey Dominguez from your art class, because he is way hotter and cooler than the guy you will eventually lose your virginity too. Just use a condom, kay?
xoxo,
29-year-old Amelia

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:10 am: [report]

Dear 16 year-old Yet-to-be-known-as-Cheese,

When you are in Europe for the second time, hook up with a crazy French girl, drink to excess, eat less of those delicious baguette sandwiches, do something unexpected and rash.

Just do something.

Screw hugs and kisses,
23-year-old Cheese

Leese
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:16 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old Leese,
Stop ignoring that boy that always tries to flirt with you at school. He’s falling for you, and by the time you fall for him, it will be too late.
21-year-old Leese

Humble Bee
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:27 am: [report]

LOL. Amelia. Thats my brothers name.

Emi
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:27 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old socially awkward Em,
Don’t be afraid to live a little (and have a voice)! Believe me, you’ll regret doing nothing more then you will taking action.
23-year-old Em

becktasm
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:32 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old Becktasm,

Stop lying to your best friend, be nicer to your mom, quit smoking, and for goodness sakes BRING YOUR CALCULATOR TO YOU A.C.T.‘S. You are NOT gonna want to take those babies again.

Oh, and dump that loser. He’s cheating on you and he’ll never buy you jewelry.

Love,
20-year-old Becktasm

Pipi
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:44 am: [report]

Dear 16 yr old Pipi,

When the girl you work with keeps inviting you to parties at her house, go. You have the chance to meet Kevin then instead of 3 years later. The drugs wont make you sane, they lead to more crazy behavior than before. Dont let other people drive your car and dont have random sex just so you wont be a virgin anymore.

Love,
24 yr old Pipi

gillybeans
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:47 am: [report]

Dear 16 year old Gillybeans,
Don’t ever doubt the hotness of your body. My spider veins wish they could wear your miniskirts now. And study more please and apply yourself instead of mooning over that guy who rides a motorcycle and painfully ignores you. Years from now he will try to get into your pants and you will laugh because he grew up to be a big dork.
Luv, 31 year old GB

missduplicity
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:53 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old Dup:

The casual torrent of that pseudo-relationship you’re having IS NOT WORTH the price you’ll have to pay. Do not trust that guy, and try to trust yourself more. You are beautiful, and one day you’re going to pick up pictures of yourself from this time and go, “My God, what was I ever worried about?”

Don’t waste your time trying to figure out what people want you to be. Find out what YOU want. And ask Stephen about Brandon’s wife’s brother. The oldest one. You’ll like him a lot. Just…don’t hurt him, okay?

Oh. And, when you get there…it’ll be a boy.

Love,

22-year-old Dup.

WinkyFace
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 10:58 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old Winkyface,

Keep doing crunches every night. You may think you don’t need to, but it will save you a lot of hours at the gym some day. And lay of the Animal-style fries, for Godssakes.

Stick to your convictions. Screw what everyone else is doing. You turn out to be much more level-headed because of it.

Be nicer to your mom. She will become your best friend some day. And I hate to break it to you, but she is always right.

When you get to college, don’t waste time convincing yourself that you’re in love with Justin. You’ll fall in love for real years later, and it will be better than you’ve ever imagined.

Also, stop wearing those ugly Doc Martens.

XOXO
27-year-old Winkyface

VsegdaOdna
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:04 am: [report]

Dear 16 yr old self,

You’ve done well these past 8 years but here are a few tweaks that might make things better. First, SURPRISE! you actually end up in the military, but during that one semester of college you manage to do, make sure you take classes that will help towards your degree (math, biology!). And keep going to school while youre in!
Aug 9 you’ll be asked a very important but simple question. Dont just stare. Say whats repeating in your head. Otherwise, he’ll be engaged to someone that isnt you despite the two of you not being able to let go of one another years later. And dont be afraid to get on BC then…you’ll always wish he was your first.
Join more sports teams early….turns out youre actually pretty good at them once you learn how to push yourself when exercising!
Otherwise, keep being you.

Sincerely,
Yourself at 24

Humble Bee
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]

Dear 16 year-old Humble Bee,

I’m glad you dumped that fcuker he’s not worth crying over but he’s actually the best lesson learned, now date or at least have hot sex with Jose Ramos because he gets married super young (like a dumbas$) and even though its been YEARS since youve seen eachother, you still kinda like him. :/
Also, do that play because your getting the lead role, your better than Lumpy Abigail. Stop drinking, your too young and keep wanting to be the best at everything, it pays off really well. Hard work and listening to your parents is worth it.

Truthfully,

21 year-old Humble Bee.

joyy
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:08 am: [report]

Dear little joyy:

Never stop running.  Yes, it hurts, but not as much as all the weight you’ll gain (and lose, and gain and lose) in college.  Trust me.

Also, that dream you have about getting the eff out of where you live, stop stressing about it.  You totally get out and it’s even better than you think will be.  Karma is totally on your side, it just takes a little while.

Don’t date the skinny guy with the weird haircut that you didn’t go for the first time he tried to date you.  That whole “follow your first instinct” thing is dead on. 

Also, you’re going to find what you think is a really cool first apt sophomore year in college.  The landlords are satan’s children, run back to Oakland or get roommates.

Spend more time with Sunshine, and everyone else you genuinely care about.  You never know when their time is up, and those people should know how much you really love them even if that time isn’t fast approaching.

kthxbai!
big joyy

peacock
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:20 am: [report]

dear 16-year old peacock,

you’re doing awesome. keep it up (but don’t be afraid to listen to your daddy’s advice when he drops you off at college at tells you not to drink anything a boy hands you with fruit in it. it will make you vom and your head hurt.)

love 25 year old peacock

justme
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]

Dear Me @  16

The cancer is terminal.  Take time now to enjoy being a kid who’s never really had her heart broken.  Say the things you want to say, you won’t sound foolish. 
Never squabble with the people you love over little things like money.  When she calls in tears about her latest heart break take the time to listen and love.  Whatever you’re doing isn’t nearly as important to you as she is.
You’re brave and your heart will mend.  He will survive without you. 
As far as when Mr. Right will come along.  I believe we are still waiting. but we still have faith.
Sincerely,
JustMe at 31

bislane
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:46 am: [report]

Dear me at 16,
Life is kind of hard for you(it’s just a different type of hard, later), but things DO get better! Don’t cut anymore classes. Be nicer to your family. Talk to Julianne(if you don’t, you won’t speak to each other for a whole year. You both were wrong, ok?). Quit listening to Sarah’s advice, it’s toxic. Save more money. Get a job. Beware the freshman 15(or 20…). Take the school transfer to Australia(it’s amazing). Don’t date that guy in your first psych class. You will be very sorry. Oh, and quit wearing that gigantic black jacket, mom’s right, you look silly in it.
Yourself at 21

ScienceGal
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:57 am: [report]

Dear 16-year-old ScienceGal,
Be nicer to yourself.  Stop feeling like you have to please everyone.  Study something you love and can’t imagine NOT doing for the rest of your life rather than what you think everyone else wants you to.  Appreciate your friends more - they really are the family you choose for yourself.  Don’t be so darn shy! Oh, and the a-hole that will break your heart years later? He’s so not worth it.  The one that comes after him is a keeper.

Love,
27-year old me.

sklut
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:59 am: [report]

Dear 16 year old Me,

Don’t sweat the hot teacher and the competition from that blonde skank you eventually get him in the end and she gets pregnant her senior year of high school. Stay out of the sun these scars are starting to get ridiculous from the many biopsies that come back A-typical and require further surgery. Join the Navy right out of high school because college isn’t for you. Tell your brother to get a new motorcycle tire before he goes out and kills himself going to Wing House. And don’t worry you’ll be rewarded for all the bad sex you’re having now. Be happy, love your mother more, and love Robert with all your heart because he will make you the happiest you have ever been.

Love 23 year old you

Little Lamb
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 12:02 pm: [report]

Dear me at 16,

Don’t waste your time on Jake.  Wait for Drew instead. 

And play volleyball in high school…you’re not half bad at sand volleyball!

Love ya,

27-year-old me

One Big Voice
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 12:09 pm: [report]

Catharsis for me too please!

Dear 16 year-old me:
Do not drop out of school. Your lack of success at school is not due to stupidity, but to your laziness. Remember that time you actually tried (did homework and studied) and you got 97%? That was not a fluke, it was because you worked for it. Same goes for dating - try harder, and try to have some faith in yourself even when it seems like no one else does…and when Karen in your computer class tells you that Nancy likes you, believe her.
I have some bad news about your career choice. You have plenty of musical ability, but unfortunately that is only a small (and sometimes unnecessary) part of the formula for success in the music industry. Once you have a good education and a good-paying job, then you can pursue the dream with no pressure. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, do not blame yourself for what happened last year. The best way to deal with it is to confront it head on. Go to the police and tell them what happened, then get some counselling NOW. It will save you years of regret.

Love,

older, wiser, future you.

Oliveira
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 12:16 pm: [report]

Dear me at 16,

1. Lenses are so much nicer than glasses, and they will boost your self-esteem.
2. That thing you think about the gym? That only buff macho men go there and they will laugh at you? Not true. Put together a funky playlist with dance tracks and go there.
3. Yes, there is love in your future. Loads of it. Love, sex, it’s all there. Don’t hurry.
4. Especially not with Mario you will meet 4 years from now. Really, save yourself for someone whose hobby isn’t explaining how the stock market works. (Yes, “hobby”, not “job”.)
5. You will become a person you admire. It will take time. But it will happen. Trust me.
6. Depression can be cured. Don’t wait, don’t fret, don’t ponder, don’t think you are a special case. Just go to a doctor.
7. And, hey, if that sounds gloomy—you don’t even IMAGINE how fantastic it will be to live in the city of your dreams working a job you always wanted to have.

Yours,

yourself at 31

PS. When you’re 29 you’ll spend most of the year dreading turning 30… but then… being 30 will be your best year EVER.

misspixie
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 12:46 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old Pixie,

I know you feel frustrated and stuck and you hate school and living at home, but seriously, it will be worth it. Pluck your eyebrows and do more exercise - seriously, you’ll end up feeling so much better about yourself. Stop writing miserable poetry and focus on your school work - it will make your long term plans so much easier if you do a bit better in your A-levels - but saying that, you do get to a top three university and defy all the teachers who don’t think you can do it. You’ll eventually find direction, you’ll be ok, and you’ll end up liking yourself so much more than you ever think you will.

xxx

CCstarlight08
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 12:56 pm: [report]

Dear Starlight at 16,

1. Enjoy your grandpa - you’ve only got a few years left with him, and contrary to what you think, he is NOT trying to take over the house (and your bathroom). Listen when he talks about his life; he was amazing and you are very sad when he dies. Give him more hugs.
2. Don’t put those stickers on the car; your dad freaks out and still complains about it to this day, almost 14 years later. Believe me, it’s not worth it!
3. When that stupid guidance counselor at school tells you he doesn’t want to move you into the Advanced Placement Sociology course because he doesn’t think you have the “mental capacity” to handle it, report him immediately for being a dick. Then sign up for the class anyway, and SHOW him what a dick he is.
4. Talk to someone at school about the trouble you’re having focusing on tasks, and get some ADHD meds. You’ll thank me!
5. When your mom makes you put on jeans and boots to wear to that No Doubt concert, sneak a bag with shorts and flip flops to the concert with you! Don’t be honest and sweat to death in 90 degree weather, all because your mom didn’t want you showing skin! Jeez…
5. Stand up for yourself more. Stop letting people walk all over you!
6. Stop slamming doors in the house. Your dad still complains about it. Plus, your daughter will do it to you, and it sucks. Hehe…

Hugs,

Yourself at 29

shannac02
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 12:58 pm: [report]

Dear Naive, stupid 16 year-old Shanna…
1.First of all, stop acting like that car isn’t good enough, that car will be one of the best cars you’ll ever have.
2.Stop acting like your life is over because Jeremy wants your best friend instead of you, She gets knocked up and leaves town… and he gets married at 19.
3.Take your first year of college seriously, instead of screwing off all the time, it will save you a LOT of years making up, and You just MIGHT have that degree before you’re 26.
4.Don’t fall in love so easily. In College, You’ll think you’re in love, but You aren’t…
Then You will fall in love, and you’ll be rocked to your core when he breaks your heart, not once, but several times because you allow him to.
5.Have respect for yourself and stand up for what you believe in, no matter what your “crew” is doing.
6.You will never “grow” rhythm, I’m sorry.
7.England will AMAZE you and You will plan to move there.
8.Don’t let your body go south, keep playing sports, its good for the soul.
9.Put the pill bottle down. That drive to the hospital will be the hardest thing your mother ever has to do…
10. Tell David you love him and send him letters in Iraq, it might save his life.
11. Listen to your mom… Always.

GreenAura
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 01:22 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year-old Me,

Live these next few years with complete reckless abandon because one day you will wake up at 26 years old and wonder when the hell you turned into an adult.  Screw worrying about being popular because in 10 years all of those people who you thought were so pretty and cool are now chubby accountants with 3 kids and a sexless marriage.  Don’t be afraid to sneak out of the house.  Punch your little brother if he acts up (trust me, he deserves it!)  Tell dad to shove it up his glory hole.  And don’t be too shy to have some girl-on-girl action.  Year later you’ll wish you would have taken the chance!!

Much love,

26-year-old Me

PS…
Don’t worry, the awkward phase will end and you will be a total hottie during your twenties!!

spanishdoll
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 01:41 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year-old doll,

Quit basketball. You hate it and you dread it every night and every morning. Try water polo or be a dancer like you always wanted. You won’t regret it. And take Chorale, not Calculus.

Give Ryan a kiss. Four years later he’ll come back and you’ll realize you probably had a chance all along.

You will have to have the hip surgery. The doctors will be lying when they estimate a 2-month recovery. Be strong and know that the other side will be brighter as long as you keep your head up.

Believe that you are beautiful, and don’t be ashamed to be one of the tallest girls in school. Wear more skirts and dresses, and use those 34D’s to your advantage!

You will become the girl you always wanted to be. Until then, remember to smile and make eye contact.

Love,
22-year-old doll

retro chic
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:02 pm: [report]

Dear neo me at 16,
You aren’t a late bloomer, but born ahead of your time.
It’s OK to trade on your looks, not just your principled smarts and scruples.
Only trust people who like chocolate.
Suck it up and accept Grandpa’s old Pontiac Tempest.
Speak up and be brave, choose your men and duck the rest—you’ll fare better.
Cut Mom and Dad some slack; you’ll thank them for those “survivor” camping trips that make you stronger and more independent.
The little girl you keep dreaming about?... will be your soul-child. Dreams come true. She is waiting for you.
Write everything down, the crazy stories now may one day wind up in a book/reality show/sit-com. Keep smiling!
Love,
Retro me now.

zefron8
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:02 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old Zef,

Break up with your bf. Why waste another 2 years?  Try out for the school plays/musicals- you’ll have fun.  Apply to more colleges and make sure you go away!  Live it up, but maybe don’t sleep around so much.

Love,

23 year-old Ron

Naneenya
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:13 pm: [report]

Dear Aged 16 Naneenya,

Yes, you have the same screen name after all these years.

You live in New York City!  Don’t laugh at me… you do!

Know that it’s cool to be smart and even though you’re not in the “popular” crowd now, your crowd will be the one everyone envies after college.  Those friends you’ve had since elementary school will still be the best friends you will ever have.  Understand that no matter what is done or said, they will always be there for you.  Use them, rely on them - they are your strength.  And, be there for them in return.. always.

Spend more time with your great grandmother.  You are her namesake and you will want to know everything about her.  Foster this relationship - you were always her favorite

The family is the greatest thing you will have in life - the relationships (and friendships) you build with them are priceless - you’ll find they’re actually really cool.

You’ll like your sister, eventually.  Yes, really.

When it comes to relationships, I wouldn’t want to stray you away from what actually happens because valuable character building happens during those times - but trust your heart.  Stay attuned to the red flags and most importantly, don’t punish yourself for something you couldn’t control.

In college, go crazy - Go out and have fun, stay up all night, drink too much, and make friends with everyone you meet.  That way, you won’t feel like you wasted 4 years of precious time waiting for your life to start.  Start now.

Though I can’t say that “everything is perfect now!”—Do know this: you are coming into a time in your life where things will be confusing and nightmarish, but you are stronger than you think.  Laugh often and surround yourself with people you love.  If you do that.. nothing can go wrong.

You’re cool, but don’t dye your hair so much - you’ll ruin it.

Love,

The cooler, 23-year-old, you.

PS
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:14 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old self,
Do NOT open that Credit Card. The debt is NOT worth it. and ps your booty will not fit in those shorts in a year… even though they’re cute now… and your investing in your future wardrobe…
Newsflash: bodies change, even yours.
Instead choose:
a) To save your ridiculous amount of spending money so you don’t have to work a 9-5.
b) A major that will get you a high paying job so that you will not have to work a 9-5 foreva!
c) A storage unit, because even if you have to sell the ridiculous amount of s*** you bought w/ that CC it will make a handy and cheap living space when you’re homeless in the current recession.

older and wiser,
26 year old me

Alex V
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:33 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old Alex,

It is OK that you’re this skinny nerd right now. It will change. Women of quality will realize that brains are a good thing when you get to college. And all that weightlifting you did will make you stronger than most, even if you don’t look it.

Study a little harder when you get to college, but don’t pass up on your chance with Barb, just because at the time you are being faithful to a girl who isn’t being faithful to you. 

Be prepared to help Dave. He’s got some tough times ahead.

Don’t argue with Dad too much and remember that he loves you.

Save a little money, because things are going to get tough when Dad dies in 10 years. After he dies, you’re going to go a little crazy, but please don’t drink so much or drive like a madman. The pain will pass.

When Amy and Jenny come into your life, treat them with love and respect and appreciate the time you will spend with them. Do not, under any circumstances, get together with Rhonda. It will only come to tears.

If things don’t work out with Sherry, don’t worry, you’ll get her back. Just remember to be the best friend you can and it will work itself out. Trust me, it will come out fine and will be worth the wait. Make sure you go to her first wedding, though. You’ll get a lot of mileage out of it.

Make sure that you pick the black and brown puppy in the litter. His name is Oscar, and he’ll be a great dog.

Do not stop reading Ball Four in preparation for baseball season after 14 years. The moment you end that tradition, the Braves will start losing. Oh, before you get there, the Braves will actually be pretty damn good. Enjoy that.

Sing more and don’t hold back on buying ties - it will come in handy in the future. When you meet Richie, get his name right. He’ll be a great friend. Do not, however, take the job he’ll be offering at the car dealership. It will be crappy. If you do end up working there, write down all the weird and funny stories and you can publish them.

Most importantly, love yourself. You’re going to think about ending everything, and it will be difficult, but remember Sherry; she’ll be there and it will be worth everything you’ve gone through. Love her and she’ll make you powerful.

Love,
40 Tear Old Alex

P.S. You will keep all of your hair.

sarberry
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:34 pm: [report]

Dear 16 Year Old Me,

I envy you and your happiness, it’s so easy and so carefree. Hold onto your friends and spend as much time with them as possible. Hae dinner with your parents more often, they really do care about you and your life.

You’re in love at 16 and DO NOT let anyone tell you it isn’t real. Hang on to him, work through that rough patch you have at 19. You’ll be better for it and you’ll still have him. You won’t ever have to know the pain and heartache of regret. He’s the best thing that’s happened to you, only you didnt truely learn that until you lost him.

Your sister will turn into an amazing woman, despite the bratty teen she currently is. Remember this and try to smile through her nasty comments and don’t let them bother you roo much. She will be in your life forever.

Enjoy your friends and laugh with them whenever you get the chance. Those are the memories you will cherish the most.

Remember, don’t let Elliot go. Otherwise a part of you disappers and you’re never able to reclaim it.

Love,

25 year old me.

writergirl
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 02:45 pm: [report]

Dear sixteen year old me.

Stop working two jobs and babysitting every weekend.  Get out! Have fun!  Enjoy life!  LIVE.

The familial happiness doesn’t rest on your shoulders.  And no matter how hard your try, your mother is never going to change.  She is not a happy person; will never be one. Don’t waste your effort.  And DON’T feel guilt over it.  You’re related to her—that’s out of your control.  But you don’t have to like her.

Don’t laugh at H when he asks you out. 

Argue with the school in Ohio to take the British Lit courses…you’ll feel something is missing if you don’t.  On that note….don’t act like such a stuck-up east coast snob when you get there…

Don’t follow the advice of your family “ignore the boys, hit the books”.  Figure out how to balance them.  Both are important aspects to your life.

DO NOT go to the senior prom with the boy you asked.  Skip the senior prom all together.  But, if you happen to go….buy another dress.

Try to have a better relationship with your brother. Maybe it will save him a load of heartache in the end.

Stop talking to the maternal side of the family sooner.  Talk more to the paternal side. 

Don’t do things because you think you will make other’s happy.  No one likes a martyr.

Love,
The wiser 30+ year old me

doridori
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 03:15 pm: [report]

Dearest 16yr old Doridori,

1) You are beautiful. From your curvy body to your jacked up little toes, to your infectious laughter to your generously kind spirit. Be proud of your beauty, it’s rare.
2) Follow your gut instinct. It will keep you out of a lot of f*** up situations.
3) Save some cash for a rainy day, I promise that it will be worth it.
4) There will hard lessons to learn that you won’t see coming until you’re hip deep in BS. They’ll be hard, but in the end you’ll be a better person because of them.
5) CS will be you’re first true love. Don’t settle for the cheating and don’t marry him!! (However, he will be a patience, generous lover and one of the best- don’t let him pressure you into doing anything you’re not ready to do before YOU’RE READY TO DO IT.) There will be more men in your life, believe me when I say, you will always be desired.
6)Being kind will open more doors than being a bitch, and you won’t have to lose any part of yourself in the process. Just don’t let people take advantage and don’t be afraid to speak up and say NO.
7) Friends will come and go, family is forever. (No worries, you and the Canadian Cowgirl will be friends forever, seriously.)
8) Party hard in College, but remember that you’re goal is to graduate so that you can live your life the way you want to.
9) Walk everyday, talk to family everyday, smile every day, laugh everyday. This will keep you true to yourself.
10) You’re writing is really **that good**. Pursue it.

26yr old Dorian

Katia
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 04:19 pm: [report]

Dearest 16 year old me~

You’re a better person that you think you are. Learn to believe in yourself and shake off the negative influence of Toxic Julie. That girl is all colors CRAAAAZY.

You will learn to drive…in another 16 years. And you’ll hate every minute of it (particularly parallel parking). And yes, unfortunately, failure is part of the process.

The Berlin Wall will come down, but sadly it’s not the Utopia everyone thinks it will be. Your family will still be divided in ways you can’t even imagine.

Learn to recognize a loser when you see him and save yourself some serious heartache. Even in that heartache, there are still some very valuable lessons to learn.

Put down the french fries and exercise more.

Stand up straight, because your posture sucks.

Don’t be afraid to take chances. Accept risk. Change is your friend. Embrace that friend as being well intended even when it brings you to your knees.

Life is not a fairy tale. The husband, the children…they never happen. It doesn’t make you a failure. Realize that you are enough.

Keep breathing.

Older, wiser me…who is still struggling, still learning, but not giving up.

MoDiggity
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 04:46 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old Me –

1) No matter how hard you try and how many layers of tanning accelerator you slap on, you will forever be a pale chick - Embrace it and ALWAYS wear sunscreen. Its all fun and games until you end up in the hospital with gnarly sunburns, the wrinkles start showing up and you are getting moles chopped off.
2) I know it sucks being “one of the guys” and the “funny one” – I’d love to say that somehow you turn into the swan and score all the guys you pined after – but you don’t. But guess what? It’s SO much better being the funny one. – I’m not just saying that.  Oh and you’ll meet far more awesome/hot guys once you are at school.
3) The depression will pass – it’s going to suck-ass for a long while – but it passes.  I know it won’t seem like it when you are stuck in bed for weeks at a time, sobbing and wishing it were all different, but sure enough it does.  Also – the material for comedy that comes from that awful year will be well worth the pain.  Trust. Everyone loves jokes about watching Passions in gray sweats for 3 months straight.
4) DO. YOUR. HOMEWORK. I know you’re smart but you are going to regret not applying yourself more.  Doing better in school will save you the pain of trying to convince your family of your intelligence for the next 14 years.
5) Finish college. Suck it up. Finish. The regret you will feel over this isn’t worth quitting and you will be stuck in crappy jobs because of it. See #4
6) Stand up straight – your posture later on will thank you for it.
7) Don’t take back the guy who called you fat and worthless while you were depressed. You’ll realize once you get him back that you had never liked him in the 1st place.
8) Don’t drink so much – nothing good will come from it.
9) Embrace all the quirks because they make you who you are and are what people love about you. 
10) Don’t get credit cards - you’ll never pay them all back and you will end up living paycheck to paycheck under the weight of debt.

Most of all – be bold and live life to the fullest. Don’t be afraid to be happy - you deserve it as much as the next person.

Love,
The future you.

Alison Wonderland
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 05:22 pm: [report]

Dear 16yo Alison:

Dump that loser he’s gonna cheat on you so stop wasting the time. Enjoy high school. People are jealous of you and guys think you’re hot. Get serious about pole vaulting so you can jump in college. If you don’t you’ll really, really miss it.

Have sex with that cute guy who lives across the quad freshman year at RU instead of waiting until after graduation cause it will be good. Take advantage of booty calls within walking distance. Just don’t expect him to commit. Also, reconsider long distance relationship, you might miss out on a lot of fun nights out with you’re friends. But it might be worth it- TBD.

Either find a better roommate or make sure Linda pays the rent. Seriously think about a career in finance, engineering, or occupational therapy and it will be a breeze finding a job once you graduate. If you still study PR, find a better internship and take the job with the Princeton Review that you’re offered before graduation. It will be a long haul from there if you pass it up.

Love, 22yo Alison

PS: You have a great butt stop worrying about your boobs.

Amelia
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 05:57 pm: [report]

I just want to say I LOVE how thoughtful and smart and funny all of these are. I love our Frisky readers

csgjam
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 06:07 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old me,

You are awesome and don’t believe other wise.
Your temper will finally get to the point where you don’t blow up and you will be a much better person for it.
You’ll cry many nights because of this boy or that boy but none of them are worth it. NONE!!!
Stop thinking that God will hate you if you have sex before marriage. You will soon enough like sex a lot even though a lot of it is bad but there are exceptions. Sex will inspire you to finally sit down and write.
You will fall in love in college and question every step of the relationship. You should of stopped when it took him 2 years to finally say something but you were already over him. Also, never let a man take care of you no matter what! And once you break up know that it is for a reason and that you shouldn’t get back together no matter how difficult it will be.
Cutting your hair off will be one of the most freeing things you do.
Be fearless and always be yourself and you will find what you love.

Your 23 year old self.

Tamara
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 07:33 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old Tamara,

Stay with Dan until you turn 20 and then slowly but surely work your way out, he’s not the one, you know this now. Maybe try not sleeping with him, trust me. If you meet that other guy, make your own choice, but when faced with that first instinct to run DO IT! It will save you much of the #&@$% you’re going through now, he’s amazing yes, but sinking with him is not wise, he’ll abandon you when you need him the most. Saty strong- it never gets easier, but you can be stronger. Don’t let the past dictate your future, or you’ll end up working through it all now at my age. You will get out of that hell hole, but get back to school quicker so you’ll be on top of your game now. Quit smoking already, you won’t live forever and watching the next ten to twelve people around you die in the next few years should teach you that. It does not mean you should speed up the process. When you leave home, don’t look back and forget them and everything they are. They’re dead to you and should stay that way, no guilt.

Stay away from Katie’s, it seems these women are insane. When you think you should say no and leave while you’re ahead…do it. Trust your instincts, they will and have saved your life, you ignore them at this point because you’re still searching for the good in people…some people are just rotten to the core. Also, call Stephanie M and tell her she’s a good person she’ll be dead in a few years time, that time you see Emily at the bar…tell her you love her, it’s the last time you will see her again. I could go on with more names and more things, but death and closure are not always fair, learn that now and let it go. Laugh as often as you can, love as much as you can, but don’t love ahem, (you know exactly who ahem is), the tricky mess you get into at 17 and 18 with him will only bite you in the tush later. No regrets about that, he’s not the one. Stay away from Chris (your dumbass cousin) and at the same time keep Danielle away from him too, he and drugs do not mix. Avoid the damn hair dye and nipple piercings and buy your aunt that Dior wrap for her hair when you see it. It will come in handy the second time she’s going through chemo and her hair is gone.

Save your money, don’t take that credit card and run, also change the damn oil in your car- Beef Bus deserves to be treated better, it’s not an engine problem yet. Talk to Grandpa everyday if you can, he’s got the same burnt sense of humor that you do it’s just buried under all that Republican armor. In April 2007 though you may be hurt, do not I repeat DO NOT do what you’re considering doing, it still haunts you even today.

You will be happy, there really is love and Devon will still be your best friend, no matter what. You’ll see the places you’ve always wanted to see, you will have amazing sex and yes, you still love Maynard from Tool. You will see Stone Temple Pilots in concert, but don’t be the only thing you say to the lead singer of Opeth be, “You got a light?” Tell him you dug Coil. When someone asks you if you just want to be friends (pertaining to the 2nd man in your life), tell him no, tell him you love him and mention that you’ll try to be more supportive. If he falters then run, and don’t still wear the ring. Before all that when you give him that sauce packet kiss him and never look back for that moment. On a last note, DO NOT pass up the chance to see Metallica again, say yes and go.

The ever exhausted 23 year old you, who believes she’s covered every base possible.

shannac02
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 07:41 pm: [report]

I love this… I posed this question to all the ladies in my life via e-mail today… So many things are amazingly well written, my cousin and I are going to put together a scrapbook with all our family’s responses, so that her daughters can look at it when they’re teenagers, and realize that they’re not so alone… Awesome Topic!!!!

SarahM1984
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 07:48 pm: [report]

Dear 16 Year Old Sarah,

Tell that gorgeous German foreign exchange student how you feel before he graduates and leaves. Don’t worry so much about what other people think. You’re not going to change their mind and it doesn’t change who you are. Speak up for yourself. Don’t let others take advantage of your kindness. Be greatful for your freedom and lack of responsiblity. Time goes by fast!

Love,

24 Year old Sarah

Trixie Firecracker
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 08:25 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year-old-Trixie:

Don’t worry about everything you’ve spent the last 16 years worrying about. When you are 21 you will find out that your father (er…my father) spent the last decade suffering from depression and your mother (my mother) spent the last decade dealing with it in silence and then they all took it out on you. It wasn’t your fault. I know. I found the Prozac bottle. Your relationship to your parents will improve over time and you’ll finally have some quality mother daughter time that doesn’t involve cruel and unusual punishment.

Not everyone hates you Trixie, even if you feel like everyone does. Unfortunately, that doesn’t go away but that’s what alcohol and therapists are for! High school stinks a bunch but it does for everyone. If you don’t fit in in high school, you’ll fit in in college. You’ll get into a great school and have a wonderful time and graduate with two degrees in four years instead of one. You’ll meet many great men, and many more #&@$% men. Don’t worry about the #&@$% ones, especially the sketchy French one, the sketchy next door neighbor, and the shotgun toting ex. They might make you question who you are, but remember that no one should ever make you feel that way and you should always be proud of who you are.

But whatever you do, don’t buy the rhinestone studded Christian Dior sunglasses. Sure, they are beautiful and on sale for $90 but if they don’t fit your face then, they won’t ever fit your face. Spend your money on those Versace shield sunglasses and always remember to bring backup contact lenses when going on vacation. Especially when you go to Canada with a really drunk Russian dude.

Sincerely

23-year-old Trixie

P.S: 23-year-old Trixie doesn’t know jack #&@$%. 32-year-old-Trixie will write to 23-year-old Trixie in 9 years telling her how dumb she is.

Michelle
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 09:56 pm: [report]

Dear Michelle:

That guy that dumped you in your birthday? A total douchebag. Still, the only nice thing you’ll get from him will be the most amazing, beautiful daughter, but it will be in 10 years from now, so please stop crying and start living, you’ll miss your independence sometimes. You’ll soon move to another city, and it will also break your heart. Still, please start your French lessons, you’ll regret later how much time you wasted being angry at your parents. BTW, be nicer to your dad, he does his best, and he won’t get to be an old man, and whatever he does or you do, ALWAYS say “Good night, I love you”, because one morning, you won’t have a chance and you’ll regret it. Also: don’t pay any attention to the results of that “ability-psichology” test. They are WRONG and you’ll get a PhD in The Most Prestigious Postgraduate school in your country.  Your life will turn out to be just great, you’ll get to be happy, loved, succesfull, proud of yourself, so from this day on, start acting as if you’re already there.

PS: for everything that’s holly, stop complaining about your body. You will have an amazing, extraordinary sex life someday, and your body won’t matter.  Instead, keep learning new things and expanding the strength and depth of your soul.

Love, your 33 year old self.

aimeeleelee
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:20 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old ME,

Seriously that loser with the massive head you are dating is a waste of time! you will give up your virginity to him (AND REGRET IT! he will cheat on you! and you will dump him after a year!, he gets married at 21, and makes your skin crawl when ever you think about him!

There will be alot of other guys over the years, so even though right now you feel like the ugly duckling dont worry it will all come together and alot of boys will like you you will get hurt a far bit early on and start to treat guys like conquests as a reaction to this, you will think its fun for about a year and then get tired of not having anyone special, i know it doesnt sound great but dont change a thing it will lead you to the boy you currently think you are falling for, you wont feel this way about a boy until this one comes along so embrace it, its a good feeling!

Be less mad at mum and dad for divorcing, you will end up being really close to both of them, and they will be very happy even if its not happy together.
Make more time for your Nan, she will pass away very suddenly and you will live with the regret everyday that you didnt visit her enough, but you do make it right by being there for your grandpa as much as possible, he gets lonley without her, but you make him laugh and he is ok right now.

last minute things i should tell you about, Dont dye your hair brown! blonde suits you way more! dont date quite so many of your brothers friends, they are too young, spend longer in europe with your best friend, dont get so many credit cards! and finally dont take up smoking just to look cool in front of that sexy lead singer guy you date for a while, he might be HOT but you cant quit now !

Be good.
Luv your 22 year old self.
x

diablita
wrote on May 6 2009 @ 11:37 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year-old us,

We rock! Don’t ever forget it. The awkward goofy stage will disappear soon enough and you will blossom into the goddess you were meant to be.

You were right thinking high school sucked. Besides bills (which you knew would come soon enough anyway) being an adult is SO MUCH BETTER than the crap you are going through. You are approaching much pain and anger in your future, but you will conquer and become even stronger than you already are! Forgiveness is not easy but always proves to be best.

You will not become a pilot, but you will become an architect, so don’t despair! College rules, you nerd, you. But it is taking longer than you want it to and that seems to be the hardest trial in your life so far.

Don’t worry about Mom. She’ll get over it and you will talk to her again.

Your greatest ally and strongest shoulder to lean on IS your older sister, believe it or not.

You will survive everything that happens to you for the next seven years, as unlikely as that may seem, but past that this point it’s up for grabs.

You are beautiful, intelligent, funny, sexy-as-hell, and should be more proud of it because it will get you exactly where you always wanted to be in life.
Congratulations on a job well done so far,

Love, 23-year-old Diablita

lilo
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 03:50 am: [report]

these are my favorite Frisky comments ever

lalaland
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 06:31 am: [report]

Dear 16 year-old La,

First off, invest in a straighter, I promise once you’ve learned to use it, it will work wonders for you! Stop stressing about High school drama, that girl who is so mean has some serious karma coming her way in a few years… I promise! College is going to be amazing. But go ahead and do some research before you sign up for classes your senior year, it will do wonders for your GPA later.

In college, never mix Dayquil and alcohol, be wary of door frames and go ahead and makes all those stupid mistakes because you learn a lot from them. Appreciate every second you have with your friends, because they are amazing and will be what gets you through the hard times (and there are some hard times coming darlin’). And no, you don’t always have to take care of everyone else.
Go ahead and fall in love. He’ll break your heart, twice actually, but you learn so much about yourself along the way. And although we still haven’t met Mr. right, we’re having fun looking!

Love and good luck!
The 23 year-old La

P.S. don’t limit your job search to one city for a guy… you’ll regret that one later.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 07:12 am: [report]

@lalaland: DayQuil is some heavy stuff. When I got sick in college (Not too often but when it happened it was bad) I would pound DayQuil. I was quite loopy, almost to the point of seeing stuff, not cool.

lalaland
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 07:21 am: [report]

@Cheese, I accidently mixed alcohol and Dayquil once in college… Quite possibly the sickest I’ve ever been, not that I really remember most of it.  It’s one of those things you only do once!

DancerNinja
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 08:18 am: [report]

Dear 16 year old Me,

Stand up for yourself more, and don’t let adults intimidate you. You’ll find out they, like you right now, are playing life day by day, making it up as we go.

You’re on the right path, so hold your head up, look people in the eye, don’t be talked into things you don’t want to do, and realize we all have the same set of insecurities.

And make a move on those nerds you crush on. They’ll be flattered, really.

~28 year old Me

Stephanie1913
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 08:35 am: [report]

Dear 16 Yearold Stephanie,

Break up with that boyfriend you’re with. He’s nothing but trouble and you deserve to look back on highschool without wishing you had more fun.

Freshman year in college is going to be a blast, but please, don’t party every night. Limit it to the weekends and then it won’t take 2 years to raise your GPA back to acceptable standards.

You’ll start dating a beautiful boy when you’re 19, it won’t last forever, but what you’ll learn is worth the 3 years you’ll spend together.

Love, 22 Yearold Stephanie

P.S - DON’T DATE THAT 30 YEAROLD WHEN YOU’RE 21. It may seem like a good idea at the time, but it ends messy.

s'more please
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 09:04 am: [report]

Dear 16 Year old smore please,

Don’t worry, your skin will clear up. By the time you’re out of college you will actually have good skin and hair and be able to wear a pants size with only one number on the tag. You won’t be ugly forever, and furthermore, you’re not ugly now.

Take mom’s advice about college. Her school realy is amazing, ad you will have a wonderful experience there. You will get to make out with that gorgeous football player, just not as soon as you may like. Oh, and don’t cheat on your boyfriend; break it off with a little backbone. The karma that comes from that is killer, and it comes from the man you thought you’d marry. (more on him later).

Don’t worry about not getting into the programs of your choice. In the end, you will be doing exactly the job that you wanted to because it is where you are supposed to be. And in a shocking turn of events from high school, you will be one of the most well-liked, well respected people in your company. Being smart will be regarded as a good thing.

Do NOT fall for that gorgeous boy you meet on senior year spring break. HE IS BAD NEWS, and you will be stuck with a part of him forever. Run as fast as you can in the other direction. Ditto for the balding co-worker in your final year of work.

It is ok, though. Because you will end up with the greatest girlfriends a person could as for, two extremely prestigious degrees, and the ability to work out at the gym without feeling like you’re going to die.

It will all work out.

Sincerely,

26 year old smore please

GreenAura
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 09:50 am: [report]

@ Tamara
10 years later and I still love Maynard from Tool as well!

wonder_bread
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]

Dear 16yr old not-suga,
     
    1. Don’t feel bad about not being like everyone else…you don’t realize it yet but God is grooming you to be an independent, self secure, young woman. completely whole in Him. and what ur going through now its for the kingdom later.. looking into being a counseler.
    2. Spend more time with God. He loves you like no other he will be your best friend. Delight yourself in him always.pray for his wisdom itll come in handy
    3. don’t stay with zak as long.trust that feeling in ur gut. he loves u but he isn’t the one
    4.Join the choir at church sooner. you are talented and compassionate.. not to mention alot of fun to be around. believe it don’t never doubt it.
    5. ask for a graduation party. itll be the best party ever.
    6. leave caryn, eric,andrew,collen,kawmaine..and some others alone there aren any good… jus a waste of time all riding the fake train… trust ur gut
    7. u’ll meet someone summer of 08. he will love u. take ur time. be friends first.
    8. you are gonna be a virgin when u get married. a complete virgin. so don’t be sad wen everyone starts droppin off like flies.
    9. learn to be a better listener. especially with ur parents they really know best. take belly dancing and pottery classes.

above all else know that u are loved and the depression and cutting does stop..u’ll have a drive for ppl in the same place.
            from..older wiser you

Arty
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 01:05 pm: [report]

Dear Arty,

This is the BEST TIME of your life. Live it up! By the way, Dan isn’t gay, but that other actor you’ll meet next year totally is. And major in computer science, okay?

IrishErin
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 01:48 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year old Erin:

Darling, you are NOT fat. You should know now that you will never be skinny. It ain’t in the genes. You’re a brickhouse. Accept this. And learn to work it. Your Irish heritage dictates that you will also always be pale. So rock that SPF 50 at all times. Don’t quit ballet just because that idiot teacher tells you that you don’t have the right body type. You are a great dancer. And it is an outlet you will deeply miss once it’s gone.

Also, those friends of yours? Not gonna be around in 10 years. At first this will slay you. But you get over it. There will be a handful of amazing people who wander into your life by total chance and they will become the rock of your sanity. I know Jess will seem bitchy and cold at first, but no one will ever be there for you as fiercely as she will. Yes Amanda seems loopy, but her personality will balance you out. Sam seems weird at first, but she just needs to find herself.

Don’t stress about not having a boyfriend. It’s better that you don’t rush it. Also, don’t sleep with him. He only comes back because he thinks he can convince you to do it. Don’t buy it when he’s on his knees in the gravel outside a bar at 2am. It will only end with you getting off a plane to Texas to discover that he’s spent his semester screwing some other girl while everyone you know is trying to survive being refugees from your own city after a hurricane. He’s not worth it. Not worth the anger or sadness or heartbreak or tears. Stick with your gut and don’t let him wear you down. You’re too good for him.

The one that comes next, however, is a different story. Don’t be so shy. Make him open up. Make him understand why it’s worth it to fight through the bad times. Maybe then you’ll never have to endure those 2 months. Whatever happens, just know this - he loves you. He truly does. And he thinks you’re beautiful(especially in the mornings - I know…insane right?) And he won’t stop smelling you. Your hair, your skin, your ear canal. It might seem weird, but he will be completely enthralled by your scent. And eventually it will bring you to tears to know that someone wants and needs and thinks of you like that.

Try to be more patient with your sister. She’s going to turn her life around. But she’s going to blaze one hell of a trail of destruction on the way there. Don’t hate your brother so much…he’s just a bit daft that’s all. He doesn’t (usually) mean ill. Be understanding of dad. He comes from a different place and time and he never learned how to emote like you. He’s a country boy and feelings aren’t his forte. Just know that he loves you fiercely and will always be in your corner, no matter what. Take more time with your cousins. Their parents are crap and if you don’t help them, nobody will. I can’t say much about mom…because she never wanes in her love for you. And you return the favor. You’re closer than ever and through all the ups and downs, she’s still the one person you can go to at any time with any thing. Never forget that. She is ALWAYS there.

Know that when the storm hits, it’s going to be awful. Nothing will ever be the same. But you will be lucky. It will change all of you in ways you can’t fully understand, but in the end it only makes you better. Never give up on your writing - you really do kick ass. Make contacts wherever you can in the industry and for the LOVE of God woman…get an internship. Preferably in New York. Open those doors while you’ve got the chance.

Lastly, have more fun. Stress less. It’s a work in progress and it’s all ok in the long run. I’ll be seeing you.

Love,
25-year old Erin

Kttyrage
wrote on May 7 2009 @ 07:52 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old Kttyrage:

You might be heartbroken when your high school boyfriend turns out to be a prick- but you’ll laugh when he knocks up his rebound girl, marries her and ends up divorced (twice) 10 years later. But give the guy a break, he has PTSD.

Go to college right out of high school. Don’t do the “I am independent, I don’t need help” routine. Your Dad will help you when he can, but take the offer of free room and board. You are too young to have your own place. You are setting yourself up for the next 10 years of paying bills, being in debt, going to college part-time and overall struggling. Suck it up and go to a real unversity!

Speaking of struggling: DO NOT move to Austin because you met a boy. You will spend the next 9 years of your life struggling to make a relationship work that is not worth the hassle. He will never help you; he won’t keep a job; he will treat you with contempt and disrespect.

On Respect: Respect yourself enough to know when something isn’t right. Stand up and don’t take no for and answer. Don’t “go with the flow” because it seems easier to do everything for everyone. It will lead to several things; 1)it will take you 10 years to graduate from college, 2)you will hate yourself for always saying yes,3)you will be sick and depressed for a long time. And do yourself a favor- don’t stick your fingers down your throat when you are so sick of it all you can’t take it anymore. It will not solve the problem.

On the bright side: you end up leaving your life draining ex boyfriend at the age of 27. One month later you will meet a man (ironically at the same goth club you met the last one) and fall in love with him. 5 months later you will be carrying his child and live will be better than you ever thought possible.

Eat everything you can while in Greece, and dump that pretentious ##### friend you’ve known since you were 12. She’s not a good friend, and you already know that.

Love and Hugs
Kttyrage at 29

Nefret
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 04:48 am: [report]

Dear Nefret v16,

Things aren’t going to last with M., but he’s a good guy and years later you’re going to regret that he wasn’t your “first” so go ahead and do it that week that the parents are out of town.

J. will be coming along soon and this is VERY IMPORTANT - cool it, girl!! This is the real thing, but remember that the relationship is more important than the title. It’s going to take him a long time to realize what you know right away, but he *will* get there and it’s your job to keep it together and let it happen. If you push him too hard too soon you will lose him - and his idea of “too soon” is a whole lot longer than you think. Relationship > title, I cannot stress that enough (you’re a smart girl, but you can be dumb as a box of rocks sometimes). Be kind to the boy, it is true love for both of you but it’s up to you to take it in the right direction.

When the job in NYC comes up, TAKE IT!!! It will break your heart but it will be worth it. And do not leave the city when the job goes south. I mean it. Find a way to stay, it will save you a lot of misery later on.

Just for good measure: Relationship > Title.

Love,
Nefret, v29

Squishy
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 11:19 am: [report]

Dear 16 year old Squish,
You are a beautiful girl,
so show off the goods that your hiding!
20-year-old Squish

samma
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 01:29 pm: [report]

dear 16-year-old sam
go up a size, no one will know but you

dont be so harsh on matt, what he did stung, but in years to come he will become one of your closest friends.

that guy from math class is an #&@$% and you know it, keep that in mind when you start dating him.

being mean may be funny, but having no friends sucks, so start being the nice girl you really are instead of trying to impress that #&@$%.

thank you for obsessing about your skin!

focus on school, but dont stress so much, it really does all work out.

dont be scared to go away to university

be extra kind to your brother, hes going through some things now that you won’t understand until you’re older.

that gorgeous boy you met on halloween?  have patience. it will be years later, but worth it.

rsonnack
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 11:32 pm: [report]

Dear 16 year old self,

You are not a metalhead. Don’t dye your naturally blonde hair black. Stop wearing so much eyeliner.

Don’t follow your boyfriend to college. You know that place sucks. Go to the college you know in your heart is right for you, you’ll just end up transferring there your sophomore year anyways.

Love,
20 year old self

Tamara
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 12:22 am: [report]

@greenaura I think I’ve loved that man since I was 7, one day I’ll meet him and hopefully that will not be the first thing I blurt out.

GreenAura
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 09:30 am: [report]

@ Tamara:  I live about 15 minutes from him in Arizona and one day my husband and I were hanging out in a park and he drove by on a Polaris.  Was it wrong that I chased after him?  hahaha… Anywho, not sure where you live but if you ever get a chance to visit Northern AZ, take a trip to Jerome and visit his Puscifer store.  We got 2 signed Tool albums there.

fortierb
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 10:12 am: [report]

Dear 16 fortierb:
You will get out of your one traffic light hometown.  The people in high school who have it all, peaked in high school and you have so much more ahead of you.  The friends you leave when you go to college are great, but you will meet your best friend of all time.  You two will fight, live together, travel together, support each other and eventually start calling each life partners (but you aren’t gay - don’t worry because you do worry about that).

Take your first year of school more serious and you won’t be homesick always for that small town.  It passes and you are so happy it does.  Go and study overseas, thoses trips help you get a job after school and you learn some things about yourself at the time.

You move completely out of state and find you like it.  In fact you like it so much you don’t think you’ll ever move back to your home state.

And - YES - there are men in your life, just not a tons - and you find out that is okay as you get older.  You do lose your V card and believe it or not you marry him.  But also believe it or not you get divorced too, all by 30. 

This is the most important part - get help as soon as possible when you are in high school for depression.  I know what mom and dad say, but tell them you need it and you just want to feel better.  The only thing wrong with you is a chemical imbalance.  Find a therapist and talk, until you don’t think you can talk anymore.  Don’t listen to family who think you are weak, it is the early nineties and depression still isn’t openly discussed.

Last not but least - you aren’t fat, but you do gain weight and I mean A LOT!  Treat your body well now and maybe you won’t have to have Gastric Bypass when you get older.

Love from your 31 year old self

Limniade
wrote on May 25 2009 @ 06:12 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year-old me:

1. Your mom is a psycho bitch and she’s gaslighting you by making you think that your reasonable expectations are #&@$% up, and that her #&@$%-up behavior is reasonable. It’s not. She doesn’t know what’s good for you better than you do. The moment you genuinely internalize this will be very liberating.

2. Your last two years of HS are nothing special. Take post-secondary classes. You’ll save a #&@$% on college. And speaking of which, don’t listen to your parents. Learn how to pay for it yourself and go wherever the hell you want.

3. Get contacts, lose the mall hair, dress for your figure and learn how to shape your eyebrows. You actually get to be pretty damn hot in your 20s once you figure this out.

4. DON’T get credit cards in college. Save yourself the headache of having to pay them off and repair your credit later.

5. When you’re 24, you’ll come into a little money. Buy the computer, it basically made your career. Skip the lousy coffee tables. Get the boob job instead of charging it 3 years later. It’s COMPLETELY worthwhile but it’s better to pay cash.

6. Try to remember that in relationships, #&@$% happens and it’s not a reflection on you. Don’t hold out for the perfect guy to have sex—-he doesn’t exist and it only makes things harder later.

7. You know how you stopped having your period in June? Get it checked out. The infertiity is actually totally great, but you shouldn’t go without estrogen for so long before getting treatment.

8. Your inclination to avoid tanning and your early interest in anti-aging regimens TOTALLY paid off. Pay even more attention to it.

staciarain
wrote on May 27 2009 @ 06:22 pm: [report]

Dear 16-year-old me,

Oh, wait… I AM sixteen. Huh. How does this work?

Oh well. I’m sixteen and LOVING IT. I’m working hard, playing harder, and enjoying the awesome body.