More Than A Feeling: Study Finds Emotionally Intelligent Women Have Better Sex
Posted by: Simcha Whitehill
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12:00PM, Tuesday May 12th 2009
Smart women have the best sex. Duh.
After interviewing over 2,000 sets of adult women twins, who have identical everythings, Professor Tim Spector, a researcher at King’s College in London, found that if a lady isn’t afraid to express herself and picks up on what other people are expressing, she’s an orgasmic machine who can satisfy her partner like none other. Shockingly enough, being a “touchy-feely” kind of gal isn’t as bad as it sounds. Sure, it might cause an awkward moment every now and again—I’m still sorry I hugged my ex-boss at the company Christmas party—but the good part of expressing your emotions means more feelings in your tunnel of love. Spector is convinced that “these findings show that emotional intelligence is an advantage in many aspects of your life, including the bedroom.” The researchers hope to use their evidence to help the nearly 40 percent of women who say they can’t get off.
So, next time someone tells you to stop being so emotional, tell them to stop trying to ruin your sex life. Feel free to pop in “The Notebook” DVD, open a tub of Ben ‘n’ Jerry’s, and let those tear ducts drip. Feelings are the new foreplay. [Daily Mail]
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bethylane
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 12:25 pm: [report]
I love to express my femininity with the guy I’m seeing! Confidence is so important, and easy to maintain once you’ve got it. Sure, I still have issues with some of my body parts like every other girl on the face of the planet, but I know better than to focus on them.
It’s not like my boyfriend is concerned with a little jiggle in the thigh department while he’s getting off! If anything, it’s something else for him to squeeze, so who cares?
It’s just as important to be with a respectful guy as it is to respect your body and yourself, ladies. If you are with someone who constantly checks out other girls or calls you names and puts you down, he’s not doing anything for your confidence at all. Consider the quality of your boyfriend and consider the effect it has on your body image!
retro chic
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 12:50 pm: [report]
Makes sense. Being in your body, being in the moment. If you’re in touch with your EQ self, you’re in touch with others’ too. I think it’s the IQ-ers that have the problem.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 01:19 pm: [report]
@retro chic: Fudderdudders.
Keesh Mia
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 01:54 pm: [report]
How do you measure emotional intelligence?
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 04:08 pm: [report]
@Keesh Mia: With a yard stick and a tub of Ben and Jerry’s.
Funny Face
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 05:57 pm: [report]
@Keesh…Usually you can measure Emotional Intelligence by the amount and frequency that one gives a sh*t about other people.
anatomization
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]
I saw this article on another site and read it. I got the distinct impression that emotional Intelligence was not sitting around being hyper emotional but instead being aware and in control of your emotions. I too wander what metric is used to measure such a subjective thing as Emotions??? It seems this article is a little misleading in that I got the impression EI was controlling your emotions not letting them control you.
retro chic
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 12:54 pm: [report]
From what I understand, those are both levels or elements of EI/EQ—the basic being the perception and expression of emotions (yours and others), to the highest which deals with a more conscious at-will ability to discern and guide feelings for thought and action. Either way, it means consciously swimming with the current real-time, charting and nav-ing thru your’s and others signals successfully.
landesign
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 09:15 pm: [report]
Right bethylane, us guys checking out other women definitely a no-no. But it goes both ways.
My wife and I had our problems when we first dated but as
we fell in love the focus was on just each other.
Once we passed that threshold things took off.
Little murmurs of affection when we spoke on the phone or
saw each other only made us both know we were the only one.
Once the trust is there, the sex was fantastic.
We both knew what turned the other on and had no worries that any subject could not be talked about.
She was an unbelievably sensual woman.