Mind Of Man: The Hair Down There
Posted by: John DeVore
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11:00AM, Wednesday November 11th 2009
Ladies, let your pubic hair grow. Allow it to run riot like a wild, verdant jungle. Shave not your delicate triangle of womanly power. Not all dudes demand a shorn ‘gina. I know that many do, and I apologize on behalf of those creeps. And it is creepy – I can’t help but think a lot of dudes drool over the bare look because it’s infantilizing. This might not be a conscious kink, but it’s true. I’m not so into the pre-pubescent look. In fact, I’m all about ‘70s porno bush.
Then again, when it comes to sex, I don’t demand much. That she shows up, likes me, and takes her clothes off are my biggest concerns—and that she gets my name right.
There is such a thing as stinky “good” and stinky “bad.” Generally speaking, a woman’s natural bouquet is an intoxicant ... In my experience, the more hair, the more pheromones. The more aromatic hormones dancing in my nostrils, the more booty-drunk I get.
I have a deep abiding fear that in the future we’ll all be a hairless race of squeaky smooth dolphin people. And I love hair. I love long curly locks on a woman; the way flowing tresses frame a face can empty my lungs. And, of course, the longer the hair, the better it is for loving pulling, preferably from behind. Short hair is pretty great too, since it shows off the neck, which is one of my favorite parts of a woman’s body. I dated a hippie once. Like a real, spiral-dancing, anklet-wearing, tofu-snarfing, patchouli-sweating hippie. Her hirsute legs and underarms were disconcerting at first, but I got over it pretty quickly. Actually, her socio-political-hippie reasons for not shaving made her feel sexy, and if she felt sexy, then I felt sexy. Cue the Indigo Girls, hash brownies, and funky-ass lovin’. And then there are the various Sicilians in my life.
It’s not just the weird underage girl thing; aesthetically, a hairless hoo-ha is kind of antiseptic. It doesn’t look … human. The vagina almost becomes like an object, and that’s just not any fun. Sex is not an à la carte buffet of different body parts, and I know dudes who are obsessed with the physical appearance of the nanny. It’s a strange fetish, since how it feels is more important to me than how it looks. Sometimes I worry that the male species will die off, killed by Lubriderm and pretty pictures. God forbid womankind ever discovers how to harvest our sperm, or we’re totally doomed.
Many women in my life have defended shaving it all off, which I’ve always found baffling, since waxing sounds positively medieval. I think I’d rather get waterboarded. At times, it’s been a passionate defense, but it always sounds like the brainwashing of an ex-boyfriend. I’ve been told it’s more hygienic, but, like, use shampoo? There is such a thing as stinky “good” and stinky “bad.” Generally speaking, a woman’s natural bouquet is an intoxicant. Sure, things can get stinky, but that’s not gender-specific I imagine. So … shampoo? In my experience, the more hair, the more pheromones. The more aromatic hormones dancing in my nostrils, the more booty-drunk I get. I’ve also been told that it feels better for a woman who’s been deforested. Is that really true? I was not aware that the presence of hair down there stunts pleasure.
I’ve had girlfriends who were totally bare, and in each instance, I have had to look them in the eyes and say, “Do whatever you want with your own pubic hair.” Some honestly liked it, but most seemed relieved. I have a preference for hair, but it’s not a dealbreaker. I have a preference for beer to pour out of my faucet, but that’s not going to happen. A college girlfriend once revealed that she had gotten waxed. I was surprised, and our conversation, I swear, went something like this:
Her: “I got waxed for you!”
Me: “I didn’t ask you to wax your sexy bits.”
Her: “Christi’s boyfriend Brian asked her, and she did it.”
Me: “I’m not Brian. You’re not Christi.”
Her: “And he shaved his balls, too!”
Me: “I’m not going to do that.”
Her: “But it’s only fair!”
Me: “Yes. But not after the fact.”
Her: “Now what?”
Me: “We wait for it to grow back.”
It was nice of Brian to offer to shear his sack. He asked his girlfriend to give him something he was willing to give as well. How romantic. That’s probably why they lasted as a couple longer than Christi’s friend and me. Of course, she and I didn’t break up because of extreme trimmings. It boiled down to a total lack of communication, namely, she’d have conversations with me days before having conversations with me. If she’d just asked me if I had wanted her to have hot, molten wax poured on her nether-regions, then ripped off in a ceremony of pain, I’d have politely said, “No, thank you.” I liked her just the way she was (bush included.)
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Timeguy55
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:08 am: [report]
Open conversation is the way things need to be. In every relationship every guy likes something different. I know I don’t like what most men do
Keeper
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:15 am: [report]
For the record ladies, I think the author is coming from the perspective the minority when he writes ” Allow it to run riot like a wild, verdant jungle.” My only preference (as a male) is it be trimmed. Bare to me is weird, but it’s not my body. I’ll only voice my preference in a relationship if asked or if hair is making it’s way outside the panty line.
SouthOC
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:17 am: [report]
There are no set rules here… only preferences.
My impressions are mine, and not meant to be an edict, but I’m not comfortable with extremes with regard to pubic hair…
Shaved is high maintenance, and the stubble is itchy and uncomfortable.
Jungle bush is obviously natural, but the plain truth is “aromas grow to ungodly intensity down there.”
My preference is neatly trimmed.
PRoPAiN
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:17 am: [report]
I agree that communication is key. But when the shrubbery overgrows the path, I’d at least ask that a hedge trimmer be employed. Especially if there’s to be any face time.
Kurkuma
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:20 am: [report]
I dont like waxing, shaving, epilation - its so annoying, it costs a lot of time, and the growback is always itchy and feels terrible.
So i asked my boyfriend to do it for me, if he wants it to be done - he decided to just cut it out into a nicer shape and hasnt bothered for the last 2weeks. Thats fine by me.
Mija
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]
The idea that women are removing their hair pubic hair because we think men want them to is mistaken, at least in the cases I know. My husband, for example, couldn’t care less. I waxed before we got together and I keep doing it for my own sake. For 7 minutes of discomfort (way less than shaving—which is painful), I get to be way more comfortable for 30 days.
Aside from everything else, menstruation is uncomfortable enough without having to deal with pubic hair at the same time. For me, going without waxing would be like going back to having a pad and belt after 20+ years of tampons.
Still, if the author has a fetish for bush, I’m sure he can find a woman who feels likewise. Or at least is willing to accommodate.
develange
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]
didn’t we just have a heated comment session with that Dear Wendy landing strip saga?
delovely
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]
I hate being bare. It does remind me of being a little girl and creeps me out. So I’m not doing it anymore, even if requested.
Queen Frostine
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:31 am: [report]
Having experimented with every single style (full fro, trimmed, waxed sides, landing strip, shaped topiary and 100% bare I can honestly say no one style makes for better feeling sex.
MadMax
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:36 am: [report]
John DeVore, would you marry me? I have long curly hair, that can go up in a ponytail very fast, and like to only trim the bush.
. Also, I would never ever expect you to do anything just because I did it too.
So, Mr. DeVore, would you marry me?
Jitterbugs232
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:37 am: [report]
Its all about preferences..I don’t ask what my guy likes because I’m the one with it and I personally like it bare
Jenn27549
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:54 am: [report]
As far as I’ve understood it, it is not more hygienic either. My OB/GYN lectured me one time after a wax letting me know that the hair down there is to trap germs and things and prevents vaginal infection. No hair=no protection=more infections/smells.
C.Munro
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:03 pm: [report]
As long as it is not an overgrown mess or a poorly maintained shaving job (stubble really sucks), I have no preference whatsoever. Well, it does look silly when shaved into shapes. But really, it’s not my vulva.
PinkRanger
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:08 pm: [report]
The only reason I trim it a little down there *and to be honest, I have very little pubic hair to begin with for whatever reason* is out of courtesy to my boyfriend. He doesn’t have a problem with pubic hair, but when it gets in the way of some awesome foreplay, I’d rather just get rid of it.
equnsuocha
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:11 pm: [report]
@Jenn you know my OB/GYN told me the same thing years ago. He basically said “if the universe had menat for that organ to be unprotected it wouldnt have put hair their in the first place.” He was careful about not offending anyone by saying God lol.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:12 pm: [report]
I shave the bollocks.
Keeps em cooler, plain and simple.
pragmatryst
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:25 pm: [report]
Amen to that. Bush belongs in the bedroom, not the Oval Office.
FrzKey
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:33 pm: [report]
What I do with my bush is my business. Not my man’s not other men and not other women. Simple.
I occasionally go completely bare because the sensation is to die for. It’s my pleasure and it’s just a waxing away. On the other hand I rarely go bare because it’s a blue bitch to get there, razors simply aren’t happening, waxes are expensive, and other methods take a ton of time away from other things.
The rest of the time I don’t bother. I don’t trim, I don’t scape, I don’t care it’s hair and unlike the stuff on my head - it can take damned good care of itself.
riensept
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:33 pm: [report]
I prefer to be trimmed. Otherwise, it’s a bush that interferes with oral, or so I feel, though I didn’t really get any complaints, but I hate it. It just bothers me. I like my long hair, on my head. I never had a guy that wanted me naked, but I did have a guy that liked his to be completely bald, and I grew used to that. It was actually pretty nice. But I wouldn’t demand it of a guy. I would just keep trimming mines, and hope that if his is out of control that he would maybe do the same.
majicksand
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:37 pm: [report]
I have been from one extreme to the other just like Queen Frostine. I’ve never noticed a real difference in pleasure either. For the record, I just trim these days unless it’s bathing suit season. Then I shave the sides up. During the winter I see no point. My husband’s only request is that the hair not be long enough to floss with and not shaving saves me the pain of ingrown hairs.
LilMissSunshine
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 12:49 pm: [report]
Thank you! I’ve heard about guys refusing to have sex with a woman because she wasn’t bare down there. Insisting that a woman wax her nether regions just seems weird to me. And it hurts like a mother-bleep. I was starting to wonder if there were any guys who liked it au natural left.
whatshesays
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 01:07 pm: [report]
It’s all about personal preference- and personally, I prefer to get a wax once every couple months. (Sorry, John, it simply wouldn’t work out between us.)
Heatherer
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 01:45 pm: [report]
I usually keep trimmed, but every now and then I’ll go bare. Personally, I get added sensation from it, which is the only reason I’ll deal with the hassel.
Dikastes
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 02:12 pm: [report]
I think porn has a lot to do with the bare obsession. Most of the professionals seem to completely hairless in that region, not to mention spotless and altogether processed. It’s an unrealistic ideal we’ll probably never reach.
Now, that said, I do think maintaining that area is always a good idea. I don’t want to see my penis sprouting out of a pubic forest any more than she does. But it cuts both ways (pardon the awful pun).
What am I really getting at? Hairless is unsettling and full-on bush doesn’t go with most circles. But if you like either one and can find someone who isn’t as skittish as me, more power to you.
ambiguous
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 02:16 pm: [report]
I believe it is shallow for a man not to be with a woman her hairstyle choice. Ultimately, if the guy can’t look past that, it seems like there’s a deeper issue. However, I feel that there are certain limits.
I’m sure some folks have gotten hair stuck in their teeth and in their mouths, and to be honest, it isn’t pleasant. I don’t like to perform when I’m digging through masses of hair. I like a little trimming from guys and personally, I like to keep it bare. I like having all the extra skin exposed.
Laurel
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 02:54 pm: [report]
Speaking as someone with hairy armpits, hairy legs and unplucked eyebrows, I really like being waxed between my legs. At least for me (and I see a few other commentors who agree) sex does feel better after a waxing (NOT shaving, which always gave me terrible razor burn and stubble). When I’m waxed I get a lot more sensation from oral sex because the tongue can run smoothly over the vulva and labia. For me, this is an incredible sensation that isn’t really available when I’m hairy. During sex, there’s less hair to get stuck in the condom. Another big thing I notice is that during the bump and grind, if I’m hairy down there hairs irritate the mucous membranes around my vagina. Seriously, I get way WAY less sore after sex if I’m waxed.
MichelleS1017
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:01 pm: [report]
this is fine, but my main concern is if my boyfriend will still go down on me? any opinions?
fuseboy
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:18 pm: [report]
Being in my late forty’s I have experienced women both ways and have enjoyed both. I believe that if a woman feels sexy then she is. I personally prefer well trimmed and contained within the panty line. I keep my self “groomed” also.
Sphinx
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:23 pm: [report]
I would rather be bare, however it is quite time consuming having to shave all the time, so it has become a nice treat for my boyfriend when I do shave.
bethlynn00
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:48 pm: [report]
Being bare does not have an effect on pleasure, it’s the marketing to women that it does, that makes some think it’s more pleasurable. You should get off cause the act is pleasurable, not cause of a wax. As a a wild-child, I have long been natural when it comes to pubes, I’m saving money, time, and my pain threshold. I have tried the bare thing and it is the most awkward and uncomfortable feeling in the world, the extra sensation you feel is cold, cause your pussy needs a blanket, she’s freezing down there! I think most men really don’t care, unless they are douchey a-holes, who possibly might be pedo’s, so don’t be surprised if you see them pop up on “To Catch a Predator”. Honestly I think waxing and shaving down there is unsanitary, you already have to worry about using the wrong soap or products just to clean it, then you want to put blades or wax to your very delicate parts, no thanks! Having hair down there makes me feel much more cleaner, than I felt being bare or even shaved, plus no concern about razor bumps, in-grown hairs, or irritation.
thickasawhaleomelette
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:25 pm: [report]
Thank you JDV!
I’m actually frightened by the idea of waxing, but read so much more attractive some people find it, I was starting to think there were only two positions on it: men who prefer bare, and men who “don’t mind it” to be polite/get some anyway. This is really encouraging. =)
Sancho
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:35 pm: [report]
I love a good V, shaved, waxed, trimmed, bushy, whatever, I love it all. I don’t have a requirement, but does it really get any better when significant other waxes..oh the smoothness,then as it’s growing in and there is a nice meadow to play in, then comes the nicely trimmed front yard - always good, full grown so I can run my fingers through your hair… Just heaven anyway you are down there..IMO
Anniushka
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 05:03 pm: [report]
I sometimes shave or epilate the sides, but razor burn and epilation itself are both quite painful. The only problem I ever experience with not keeping the rest trimmed is that there can be some tangling at full-length, but it’s honestly not that much of an incentive to trim.
I don’t anticipate changing my routine dramatically if and when I have a get-naked relationship with anyone. I’ll probably do maintenance more regularly, but I won’t change what “maintenance” is. Good to know I won’t be entirely shunned for this! (Just gotta find me a guy who hasn’t been totally brainwashed by the porn industry. Can’t be too hard… right?)
develange
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 05:05 pm: [report]
The two times I have gone bare, oral and intercourse did feel more intense. Though that gained sensitivity wasn’t very useful for wearing jeans.
Shaving it all off is AWFUL. When it grows back, it’s super itchy, and there are always ingrowns. The first full wax is excruciating, but the following waxes are pretty much painless. The thing that sucks is that it’s expensive. And you have to go every month, or else it gets painful again. Sigh. Maybe my bush is just huge and difficult.
I don’t think my vagina is ugly, but it does look sort of sad and lonely without any hair…
Charlene86
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 05:21 pm: [report]
Yeah, and the hair in our underarms spread pheromones, too. It’s from the bacteria eating our secretions. Back when we were wandering and hunting, the sweatier people were the ones who were the mover and shakers. So, we liked them, and their smells gave us comfort and made us want to procreate. I just started wearing a pheromone cologne from http://www.alphaero.com and it totally makes me feel attractive. That’s because in today’s world, we hide our smells and don’t sweat like we used to. You could say we’re pheromone deficient.
mmkw
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:31 pm: [report]
I usually just trim and I’ve had mixed results from going completely bare.
The first time, I did my own waxing (hello! poor college kid!) and it was effing scary. I had to play music so that when I certain beat came on, I would pull the strip. Painful as hell. Nasty bruising. Totally worth it. I might suck it up to get it professionally done next time to avoid the bruising but I loved the way it felt, just like how I love to rub my legs together after a fresh shave.
The second time I went bare, I shaved it all. OH DEAR GOD WHY?! Still growing that one out, VERY irritating, way too much razor burn and ingrown hair. Demand I wear jeans and I’ll give you anything you want to avoid the torture. I would also like to say that a full raging jungle of a bush would be way more attractive than my current situation of red, itchy bumps.
secretsquirrel
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:34 pm: [report]
I too have done the whole gamut from bare to wild forest. I was seeing a guy who was into the bush. That actually made me feel relieved and I just worried about the bikini line. I’m seeing someone new and I have trimmed and shaved. I forgot how awesome shaved feels right afterwards, all smooooooth. But there is always the drawback…ingrown hairs, itchiness, and stubble. The ingrown hairs can be wicked bad and even look like a STD because I get a HUGE bump for some of the deep ones.
I think I’m gonna stick with trimming the hedge and shaving the bikini line and saving the poor kitty from the trauma of bad ingrown hairs. If a guy is gonna be THAT picky about my awesome kitty, he can go find another one elsewhere. :D
mmkw
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:35 pm: [report]
BTW, it is true that hair is meant to protect the vagina from foreign particles (insert sex joke) and such, just like eye lashes do for our eyes. Fun fact, our eyelashes and pubic hair are the same type of hair, which is why you can get crabs of the pubic hair OR the eyelashes. YAY!
mmkw
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:39 pm: [report]
Last bit, I swear, but maybe instead of using shampoo, JDV’s lady friends and anyone else afraid of the smell should consider a more mild soap, like dove bar soap. It’s a soap so it will still kill any odor causing microbes in the raging jungle of love, but it contains fewer harsh chemicals that would upset the oh-so-delicate balance of yeast in your vagina. I’m pretty sure it’s pH balanced as well (also important for those budding yeast infections).
Leo's Bird
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:45 pm: [report]
I think I have wussy hair, because it is easy and painfree for me to shave, and I do it out of habit because it actually takes less time than trimming. Swish-swish-done in the shower! I like the look, it is comfy, and I don’t think I look like a kid. (ew)
But I’ve never have had any partner say a damn thing about my hair (whether bald or not) unless I brought it up, except for one boyfriend who wanted to know if I’d like him to shave as well. I said that I didn’t care, and I don’t. Course, I haven’t come across a frightening man-jungle yet…
secretstevie
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:46 pm: [report]
i have to say, just because a man likes to see a woman bare doesn’t make him a pedophile like so many of you are suggesting. i think the appeal is in getting to see more of the vagina.
i agree that it is a very personal decision (mine personally stays bare or trimmed, depending on how much work i feel like putting in to it). nobody should feel pressured in to doing something because they think the opposite sex will like it better. and at the same time, nobody should be ostracized for having an opinion that is outside the majority.
freepeople1986
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 08:20 pm: [report]
I hate hair. To me, it’s freaking nasty. I could give a damn about what the guy thinks, I just HATE it. Go to a nice Russian lady every 4 weeks for my wax, love seeing her.
A guy going down on me with a bush? I am completely horrified by the thought! GROSS!!!!!
I don’t care what guys want- but I want a nice smooth you know what.
MondimNebel
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 09:04 pm: [report]
I use my epilator and get rid of all of it. If my s/o requested anything different than what I had, I would not hesitate to try it out (I won’t go back to only trimming the sides though). If I don’t like it for myself, at least I can say I tried it. (Same can be said for my boyfriend; we’ll both try almost anything once at the other’s request.)
But really, I do feel SO much more down there being completely bare than when I had hair. It makes foreplay and sex so much better.
And if you think you (or she) look pre-pubescent when you’re bare, you’ve never seen what a little girl looks like (either your own or you have never changed a diaper)
Heatherer
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 09:21 pm: [report]
I think it’s ridiculous that some of the people on here who like pubic hair are basically attacking the people who like it bare down there. All guys who like it are pedophiles, and all girls who like it are manipulated by society and porn??? That’s one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard! It says more about you then anyone else if the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of a bare vagina is a young girl or pedophiles.
Oreo
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 10:30 pm: [report]
Amen to MondimNebel and Heatherer.
The “pre-pubescent” comments are the “Adam & Steve” cliche argument of people who don’t care for a bare vagina. I’m sure that the people who make this argument don’t make the same argument to allow their puberty to show on their legs and armpits. It’s utter nonsense.
There’s no right or wrong here. It’s all a matter of personal preference, but the comments about pedophilia are hypocritical and asinine.
AnitaBath
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 10:59 pm: [report]
I prefer not to shave or wax, but I don’t really agree with the prepubescent argument either. I once heard someone say something along the lines of, “Honey, nothing else about me looks like a twelve year old.” I think it’s the equivalent of calling someone a pedophile because a women doesn’t have breasts or doesn’t have hips. Okay, so maybe it’s not completely the same, but it’s similar.
catmcroy
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 07:18 am: [report]
I find that the hair “muffles” sensation so going bare means I feel everything more intensely. I shave FOR ME and I like the look - plus I know from experience that it’s way nicer going down on a girl who’s shaved than one who’s not (hair in the teeth is ICKY).
bettyboo
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 09:26 am: [report]
well said John :0) each to there own and all that but to me no pubic hair on either sex just looks wrong and icky and I’ve resented (and broken up with) the couple of guys who’ve tried to get me to remove it, the second one was out was dumped with amazing speed as his comment that ‘he wasn;t going down there unless i waxed’ definitely did not make me feel desirable… fortunately I’m with a very sexy guy who feels the same as John, and loves me au naturel and good ‘stinky’ :0)
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 09:45 am: [report]
full bush. “booty drunk” is the PERFECT description of what i feel when i smell our sex… if she wants to clean up the edges, i dont care, but let the bush grow! once in awhile shell surprise me with a full shave, and thats new and novel, but within a week or two i ask her to grow it back.
bettyboo
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 10:43 am: [report]
have to say i don;t get the big ‘hair in the mouth’ problem lots of the pro-shavers are worried about.. I’ve never been down in a girl, but when i go down on my guy, even when i lick and suck his balls, I rarely get a hair in my mouth, and when i do it’s no big deal, I just pull it out.. :0) I love burying my face in his hairy bits and he seems to enjoy returning the favour (and has never complained about hair in the mouth either..) :0)
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 10:55 am: [report]
hair in the mouth is overrated. if it happens, take it out. big deal. i get her hair in my mouth during missionary sex too. should i ask her to shave her head?
bettyboo
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 11:02 am: [report]
good point, I get my head hair in his and my own mouth far more often I should think.. when I’m bouncing around on top my long locks definitely starts to do their own thing.. ;0)
bogart4017
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 11:03 am: [report]
To each his own and let her do what she wants to do. I’m used to “bush” but if she decided to shave i wouldnt complain (and i have no worries that she will so its easy to be easy).
As long as shes not asking me to shave. I have enough problems with ingrown hairs and my face abd neck without having to grit my teeth at work!
tamra'a
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 11:48 am: [report]
Thank you, John!! I shaved it ONCE and felt like a 10 year old, and anyone attracted to that is just plain creepy. Now, I just keep it neat around the edges so nothing hangs out. If HE doesn’t like it, too bad.
KatWilder
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 11:54 am: [report]
You know, it’s a matter of preference that should take into account your partner’s preference, too.
I agree it’s an odd look, but I like that being bare brings our “nasty bits” a bit closer (his is bare, too). And, for oral sex, well, ‘nuff said (or should I say muff said!).
Odd you should say
Women are already doing that (with your help); they’re called sperm banks!
Kat Wilder’s My so-called midlife blog
bettyboo
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 11:59 am: [report]
ewww.. bald balls..? definitely no! my first boyf once shaved the base of his cock (to make it look bigger he said.. for who? I asked, seeing I’d seen,played with and bounced ontop of it for some time by then, an extra visual inch made no difference to me.. other than looking a bit strange and feeling scratchy which was not a turn on) my mental map of adults of both sexes definitely seems to include a little furry triangle at the top of the legs, anything else just looks like a wierd child adult combo or sexless barbie/action man doll to me
Memphis Blues
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]
Can somebody please explain the infantilism thing?
I mean really, in a culture where most women shave their armpits and legs, is shaving between the legs really that much different?
If a woman perfers her man with a clean shaven face is she infantilizing him?
Or is it possible that this is a just about personal preferences and the infantalism tag is just a slur aimed at people with differing preferences?
silvergurl
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 12:31 pm: [report]
john devore can john devour me anytime.
DancerNinja
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 02:26 pm: [report]
I shave. All of it. I will not grow it back and I did not do it for a dude. (1) Texas college campus = sweat everywhere = I don’t like the smell. (2) I felt like tights and leotards gave me noogies (3) I just prefer it.
Hell, I already shave my pits and legs, so what’s another several seconds every 3-4 days?
Destiny
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 05:26 pm: [report]
I had a bf about 5 years ago that asked me to shave it all off and I obliged him in doing so. I loved the feel of it, not to mention, my pubes no longer got stuck to the sticky side of a pad or pantiliner (now that’s killer-I’ve never waxed it, just shaved)My husband recently requested that I grow it out…so now I have a teeny triangle, that he absolutely loves. My opinion is that he is the one that has to look at it and eat it, so why not oblige him and his wants…all I do is wash it and wipe when I use the potty. I don’t sit around naked looking in the mirror and telling myself how pretty it is. My husband can do that!
Molly Jean
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 06:26 pm: [report]
I take a seasonal approach to grooming down there (bare in the spring/summer & not so much in the winter). Or if I have a special occasion (blind date/interview/research presentation) I will shave completely…I don’t know - it adds a mysterious little spring to my step.
I find it interesting to hear the discussion about bare in terms of a contemporary preference (b/c of porn, etc). I’m doing some art history research on the depiction of the female body through time, & before the 1960s/70s, just by looking at art, you wouldn’t have known pubic hair on females existed at all. Just another way in which the female body was objectified & idealized to keep mortal woman feeling less than adequate, I think.
Anyway, I understand the appeal of not grooming, & that’s great, but I would recommend going bare, at least once, if you never have, for the following reasons:
1) You can actually see your own vagina, & in turn, appreciate how pretty she is, &
2) It grows back so silky & shiny & beautiful!
Lord, I’ve got to stop reading The Frisky, I always end up sharing WAY too much info!!! LOL.
Leesa
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 09:45 pm: [report]
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I think a shaved ‘gina is utterly creepy and anyone who does has a Lolita thing going on.
killer
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 11:16 pm: [report]
why is it so imp to shave it ir trip it.. when it grows back it really sticks into ur panties and irritates..what men like even they don’t know…only prob comes when the flow of mood is real good n u get hair down the throat!!!
Oreo
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 06:59 am: [report]
Leesa: I expect that you don’t shave your legs or armpits either, lest anyone thing you have a “Lolita thing going on.”
eleigh
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 08:59 am: [report]
@ Oreo & Memphis Blues
I’m not going to get into why or why not other grooming practices should or should not be held to the same standards as pubic grooming.
All I can say is that the first time I saw a woman bare, my first gut reaction was to be repulsed that her hairless vulva looked like mine did when I was seven. My second reaction was to be highly disturbed that men found it a turn-on to see an adult woman’s vulva transformed into something resembling a seven year-old’s. I don’t have those same reactions to seeing shaved legs or armpits. My guess is that similar experiences probably are where the “infantilizing,” “Lolita,” etc. comments are coming from.
Specifically for Oreo: Children have leg hair, so I don’t agree with your argument that a woman shaving her legs also leads her to look pre-pubescent.
Mainer
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 09:02 am: [report]
Just a point of clarification. The reason males find less hair attractive is strictly evolutionary. The more hair a woman has, the more testosterone they have and the less likely they are to have a billion babies. Today, we obviously don’t mate for the same reasons, but men are still wired the same way as they were a thousand years ago. This is why most women shave their legs too. Less hair = higher levels of estrogen = more baby making power.
This is also why we find the ass so attractive. The nicer the ass the wider the hips the more babies you can punch out. All this crap doesn’t apply to today’s world, but we are all programed the same as we have always been.
MondimNebel
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 09:52 am: [report]
It really does look different from a child’s vulva, even when shaved. Don’t you remember what you looked like? It would be like saying if a man is shaved, he looks like HE did when he was a boy, which is also far from the case.
And don’t you think evolution still applies to today’s world- we are still a species, aren’t we?
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 10:00 am: [report]
having never seen a childs vulva, nor wanting to, SOMETIMES it is nice when the gf surprises me with a shaving. i can see details better. i like it when the outer labia swell and get darker, and it looks different and hot bald. sometimes. usually i prefer hair. a lot of it.
spatula
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 10:09 am: [report]
I’m surprised by all the comments, if a guy I was sleeping with (even if he was my husband) ever made a ‘request’ about my down-there hair….I don’t think I would take it well.
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 10:21 am: [report]
@spat - really? i take requests for bedroom issues all the time. equate it with going down on him. if he made a special request about a technique or position would it bug you? well if something specific about your pubic hair turns him on, why not give it a try? its just hair. itll grow back (or you can shave it off when youre sick of it). it seems like a lot of women are so ready to act defensive… youre just gonna scare your SO away from letting you know what hes into. imo.
SCRMOM
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 10:40 am: [report]
@spatula: In general, I agree with MuchoMacho’s reply. There’s not much that my husband could suggest that would bother me after this much time together.
IRL, do people tell you that you look like Lacey Chabert?
Suse
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 11:38 am: [report]
Thank-you! I love my hair, I love men with hair down there. Happy trails, mmmm…What’s with this whole bald thing? It doesn’t feel better…Doesn’t LOOK better (actually a hairless vag makes me think of that animal killed by those kids in panama) I look at hair growth as part of the natural maturation of the human body. I’ve actually stopped seeing men because of this…Not because of my not shaving, never had a complaint, but because they insisted on shaving themselves. Yuck.
bettyboo
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:05 pm: [report]
I’m with spatula.. and it is different somehow for me than any other bedroom request (on everything else I’m very GGG in the Dan Savage way, I’ll try anything once.. ;0)) I think it’s partly because I came under sustained pressure from a very manipulative boyfriend to shave it when I was in my teens and let him once and felt VERY wrong, and partly because requesting a change there is a request to change how I look, which implies I’m not as attractive to them without adjustments which i find insulting especially on something so personal.. I’d liken a request for a major change such as going bald to asking for a major change of hair colour, yes, it’s just hair, but wanting you to change from brunette to blonde (as same BF also requested, and I didn’t give in to fortunately) is a big deal… that said, if it didn’t change how I look to myself in the mirror, i.e. i kept the fluffy bit on the mons that make me look like a woman to me, I would theortically be happy to remove any between my legs where I can’t actually see it.. esp if i was convinced it’d be sexy :0P Fortunately this is all academic as my guy loves it just as it is and as I evidentally have very high oestrogen levels I’m not exactly hursuite so it’s not even necessary to lightly prune for swimming cossies etc..
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:11 pm: [report]
pubes grow back in a week. it isnt quite the same as dying or cutting off your hair.
Kiki T
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:13 pm: [report]
John DeVore you rock!!!!! Yeah for real men that aren’t scared of the bush!!!!!!!
spatula
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:18 pm: [report]
I guess i view it as more of an appearance thing, than a sexual thing. (which is silly, now that i think about it). I’ll make the appearance decisions myself, thankyouverymuch, and you can do the same.
But I guess I wasn’t thinking of the hair’s effect on the sexual experience. If it were pointed out to me that way I’d be wayyy more receptive than if it were an appearance issue. Because I will certainly take (at least consider) nearly any sexual rquest that comes my way (within reason and with a comfortable partner blah blah blah).
I’m just a stubborn #&@$%, probably.
and @SCRMOM- I wish!! I get Tori Spelling sometimes, but never Lacey..
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]
You aren’t bumping uglies unless you do a bit of trimming, otherwise you’re just bumping hair.
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]
yeah. my gf was a shaver for her entire sexual life until we started dating and i asked her to grow the bush. she was surprised. she thought “all guys liked it to be shaved.” i informed her she was incorrect. she gave it a try and decided whatever her “style” was never really bothered her so shed just do whatever turned me on the most. mighty kind of her
bettyboo
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:29 pm: [report]
@MuchoMacho just explaining why i feel how i feel.. prepared to accept i may not be totally rational (who’d have thought it, a woman not always rational? ;0) ) but since getting alot of pressure from Mr Manipulative (later Mr Abusive :0( ) it represents something I was made to do and had alot of stress over which is never sexy.. and Igenuinely think it looks odd bald so it’s love me, love my furry little bush.. :o) slightly tempted to revisit the idea with the hair on my lips i can’t see if i catch a view in the mirror tho, cos I can see how smooth skin there might be kinda horny… (contradictory too aren’t i? ;0) )
MuchoMacho
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:46 pm: [report]
sounds hot! hey im not playing devils advocate. i am pro-bush (vaginal, not presidential). im just more pro-give stuff a chance… you never know if youll be into it. u have a past, as do we all, and i respect where your feelings come from. maybe with a new bf you care deeply for who cares for you the same way you might be comfy trying a razor? maybe not, and its all good. vaginas are super regardless of haircut.
bettyboo
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 01:24 pm: [report]
Maybe, I love lots of other stuff with my current guy that I thought Mr Manipulative had put me off for life.. (a peek at other comments I’ve written in different articles might give you a clue or 2 on what ;0) ) but seeing as when I wandered downstairs in a towel the other day and announced I was ‘all clean and shiny and had shaved everything I was supposed to’ he was relieved when he took a peek that it was all still there I don’t think he’s gonna ask.. ;0)
sunara_rayne
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 02:52 pm: [report]
Waxes are expensive..so I wax at home. You can buy a wax & warmer at a beauty supply store for the same price as you would pay for a one-time wax at a salon. I also pluck..which is time-consuming and annoying..but it does leave me VERY smooth, with no bumps or itching..and use a hair-trimmer for the area btwn my legs. Hair-trimmers are AWESOME..even if you don’t wax, trimmers can help with ‘down-there maintenance’ without ever leaving any bumps or irritation. Plus they are easy to use when you’re in a hurry or don’t feel like putting half an hour into maintenance. I do go through a ridiculous amount of hassle I must admit, to make sure that I’m ‘smooth’ [for my boyfriend]..not because he’s ever asked for it, but simply because it makes me feel more confident when he’s plundering around my nether regions- and not just that, but it makes me more confident in general knowing I have all this goodness down there, lol. When my down-there is cleanly smooth, I feel very sexy. I also follow my de-hairing rituals by exfoliating in the shower immediately after (with an apricot or oatmeal scrub), and then I moisturize with pure shea butter. Oh yeah, I blow dry btwn my legs also when I get out of the shower, which I believe is actually gyno-recommended to make sure no moisture stays down there.. Even though there is quite a bit of work involved, I go through it to make myself feel better. HOWEVER, when I’m not in a relationship, I only use a trimmer every now again, so I don’t grow a jungle down there—because I don’t like seeing it even when it’s just me that has to look at it.
onewriter
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 04:32 pm: [report]
@michele we’re not going to know if he still will, ask HIM!
develange
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 05:14 pm: [report]
@ Mainrer’s comment - while I believe in evolution, I’m not convinced that’s the reason behind favoring a hairless vagina. Especially since a certain amount of hair is an indicator that you’re sexually mature. So saying that less hair is more attractive doesn’t make sense. From an evolutionary standpoint, we used to be a helluva lot hairier (naturally). Today, there are women who are SUPER hairy (which follows the testosterone thing), but most of us have a noticeable amount of hair on our legs/armpits/vag when we put down the razor and the wax.
In America, the bare vag is a relatively new trend…is it not?
develange
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 05:16 pm: [report]
*Mainer. Ugh, sorry. Always the typos.
HappyDude
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 07:16 pm: [report]
Is “Mind of Man” supposed to reflect the “average guy”, or merely be the musings of one dude who seems to disagree with normal guys on just about every issue?
Seriously, both men and women need to trim their pubes if they expect anyone else to see them. I’m not that into 100% bare anymore (there was a time it was new and exciting, but it’s recently gotten old for me), but in the same way we all cut our hair, (should) pluck our unibrows and men don’t keep crazy mountain man beards, everyone should at least make some effort to keep things neat down there.
Obviously opinions differ. I like a little less hair downstairs than my gf, and we met somewhere in the middle and are both happy. But a full bush is one of those dealbreakers that a lot of guys won’t admit was the reason he stopped calling.
Mainer
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 08:18 pm: [report]
@ develange - agreed, women were a lot hairier back in the day, but then again they weren’t exactly equipped to deal with their hair issues (razors, wax, etc). The point I was making was that back in the day, since the capability of hiding the hairiness of oneself (i.e. shaving) was not possible, mates were selected based upon what was visible (i.e. how much hair they had, among other things). Women who had more hair than others where not first in line for males looking for a mate to pump out babies, since more hair was an indication of more testosterone, thus not ideal for baby making. So over time, males have been internally programed to look for these “indicators” in women in selecting their proper mates. This is also why we are attracted to the ass so much. Nice ass = nice hip ratio = more babies you can pop out. So the hair thing, though not applicable in todays standards, still holds true subconsciously. Men thrive on women with less hair. And you are right, a hairless vag is a relatively new concept. Up until this, methods for indicating how little hair one had was limited to arm pit and leg shaving. Perhaps this is a subconscious attempt for women to further attract a mate by removing yet more hair from their bodies.
onewriter
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 07:36 am: [report]
@eleigh you said…
“All I can say is that the first time I saw a woman bare, my first gut reaction was to be repulsed that her hairless vulva looked like mine did when I was seven. My second reaction was to be highly disturbed that men found it a turn-on to see an adult woman’s vulva transformed into something resembling a seven year-old’s”
and then you said…
“Specifically for Oreo: Children have leg hair, so I don’t agree with your argument that a woman shaving her legs also leads her to look pre-pubescent.”
sooo which is it, or did you realize you were being obtuse and contrary…?
Larry
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 09:51 am: [report]
bare = weird/somewhat creepy - I am not a child molester
wild = perfectly acceptable, but shows you aren’t looking for much attention down there
trimmed = just right
Temujin
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 10:34 pm: [report]
Well, I definitely don’t think the waxing is necessary but trimming is nice because I love to eat out, and long hairs can get in the way. Same works for guys i try to keep things trimmed, she doesn’t need to get hairs in her teeth. I also think it makes things look bigger down there. I think the bush works if a woman washes it well. I have been with woman who didn’t keep it clean and I guess I am just not man enough but I didn’t have the stomach to dive in. One thing though that I am not really into is women shaving their legs. Our society really expects it to the point where this illusion almost seems a fact, women don’t have hair on their lege jsut like they don’t have penises or adams apples or beards(maybe just a little moustache) I knew a girl who never shaved her legs who was plenty hot and I would find a woman who didn’t shave her legs and took care of herself perfectly attractive
og217
wrote on November 15 2009 @ 12:00 pm: [report]
I kinda feel like the article was written by a woman, because I truly can’t imagine a man liking that. The smell, the dampness, the dreadlocks - eeew. Oral would have to be completely out of the question. The very idea is horrifying to me. Hair traps skin cells, urine, vaginal secretions, sweat, etc., etc., etc. Showering is not going to take care of that unless you always shower 2 minutes before sex. If like a normal person, you shower in the morning, go to work, run some errands, come home and have sex, thats like 12 hours and several trips to a toilet - gag! Chomping though a brillo-like forest doesn’t sound good. I had mine lasered into a tidy triangle and can’t imagine being with a man who has doesn’t trim. I have a gag reflex for hairs and its just unacceptable to not groom.
lilliest
wrote on November 15 2009 @ 09:39 pm: [report]
No one has mentioned it, but Nair is a nice shortcut from waxing and shaving. It is cheap ($6/bottle), super easy, quick, painless, etc. Like most chemicals, don’t get it inside. Some people can react poorly to the formula, but I have really sensitive skin (could not tolerate waxing) and have used Nair for years as a substitute without a problem. I focus mainly on the pubic mound area, but have occasionally used it for the full otherwise-would-be-waxed area. I urge the ladies to give it a try.
My personal preference for fellas is clean and as hairless as poss re oral ease, so I don’t mind returning the favor.
bettyboo
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 05:24 am: [report]
@og217 - I doubt it.. partly cos Jon’s written plenty and would have been exposed as a girl before now (and it woulod kind of defeat the point of having a view into ‘the mind of man’ if it was a girl pretending.. and mostly because my guy would have written exactly the same.. and, I fail to see how a little less hair would make you significantly less stinky if you;ve had a heavy physical day.. if anything I’d think the hair might serve to wick sweat away from the body a little? (just hypothosizing here.. but it strikes me that pretty hairless bits get just as sweaty, but tend to get sticky and cause chaffing which hair may protect against?) and if you’ve had a normal day, those extra trapped pheromones might be just the thing to drive your guy wild.. ;0)
yaybug20
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 06:56 am: [report]
Okay, I am a long time reader, but only now decided to register to comment.
I have to say, the pedo argument does not hold water for me. Honestly, it offends me…if my husband likes it bare so he can see more of what I have to offer, that does not make him a perv. And it is individual to each person, while Jane Doe 1 may not feel extra sensation, Jane Doe 2 very well may feel a lot more. Consider me Jane Doe 2. And it’s not coldness because my cookie needs a blanket. lol
Honestly, I just prefer it, it’s easier than trimming for me, it makes my period a whole lot more tidy, (blood and hair can create mats and I no longer have to deal with that) and I do not have to worry about smells from damp hair. Yes, hair traps bacteria, it also traps urine and *can* cause a not so nice aroma. Not saying for everyone, mind you, but I had to chime in with my .02
I don’t judge women who choose to let their bush run free, and I don’t think women who prefer to keep theirs bare should be considered weird or accused of catering to pedophile tendencies in their partners. A mature vulva is a whole lot different than when we were children. I really am extremely tired of the “twelve year old girl” or Lolita argument.
And again, just my opinion, but the sensitivity is so heightened when I’m freshly shaven, and I feel better about myself too, which we all know always leads to a better time for all involved.
And I have been with my husband long enough to not get upset if he communicates desires to me and makes a request in the bedroom or grooming dept. I mean, seriously. Bare does not mean perversion, cannot say this enough.
Long and short, I’ll trim my lawn, you trim yours. Or not.
In all seriousness, let’s not judge the fellas who prefer this, I know I don’t judge the ones who prefer full bush.
Nice to “meet” you all, btw. :D
mmkw
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 07:28 am: [report]
@mainer: I’m not sure about pubic hair, but I know that your theory doesn’t hold for leg hair. Woman began shaving their legs during world war one when the nylon for stockings was in short supply. Instead of stockings, they shaved and drew a line up the back of their legs to give the appearance of stockings. After that, the trend stuck.
This is just my two cents the evolutionary adaptations of pubic hair: a woman with a higher amount of testosterone would have more hair, thats true, but she would also likely have a higher sex drive as well, therefore the biological imperative to procreate (bow chica bow wow) would be stronger. Since it was the woman who choose who to mate with based on strength of their partner and his ability to provide for her and her offspring (hunting down the woolly mammoths and all), I would say that higher testosterone and thus more hair probably was evolutionarily advantageous. Finally, extra hairy woman were better equipped to survive the winters and procreated more, passing on the hairy gene to their offspring (okay, this last bit may be a stretch but once you get the wheels turning in my brain…)
Molly Jean
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 09:14 am: [report]
Well said, yaybug20! I’m annoyed with the direction of the comments! I thought this column’s tone was a very liberating 1 (despite whether or not I agree with all of the points), with the message: don’t feel like you have to make your body appear a certain way to appeal to men. I also thought a lot of the comments were in a different (judgmental!) spirit.
And the Lolita argument is crap. I’m petite (I know 12-year-olds bigger than me), so I suppose that makes every man I’ve been with a creep? I have a sneaking suspicion, too, that if the writer here promoted bare down there, then everyone would have been on that bandwagon. Oh, well, people who judge what I do with my body or how the man I’m sleeping with reacts to it: get over yourselves.
Oh & p.s.: the only thing more pleasant than having a stranger judge you for your personal decisions regarding your body (that affect nobody else), is finding out that that judgmental stranger is a also a woman. Ick.
Oreo
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 01:41 pm: [report]
Seriously, the Lolita argument amounts to a fancy way of saying “I don’t want to shave my vulva, but I’m insecure about my decision, so I have to belittle the women who do and the men who find it attractive.”
onewriter
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 01:54 pm: [report]
@everyone Okay, I give up…What the heck is “lolita”?
Molly Jean
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:00 pm: [report]
it’s a famous book about a man & his 12-year-old lover, Lolita
Riley
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:02 pm: [report]
@onewriter - Google it…I’m sure you’ll find plenty of colorful examples. Probably get Chris Hansen showing up at your house too.
onewriter
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:04 pm: [report]
12 year old lover? I’ll bet SHE was mixed up for LIFE. Damn! you don’t mess around with someone’s sexuality, not to mention their head! MPD anyone?
bettyboo
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:16 pm: [report]
ok, I got the lolita reference.. but what is MPD?
onewriter
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:21 pm: [report]
Multiple Personality Disorder. Very interesting way of coping with massive abuse, usually caused in big part by sexual abuse. fascinating topic. Very sad. Not always fixable. And the time it takes TO fix the problem is immense. The minds of Billy Milligan is a good one to read. But if you can stomach it, When Rabbit Howls is fascinating…sick, and sad, but the way she fractured, and how the parts worked together (sometimes) to make her able to function to a high degree is amazing. I’d like the brains they have to have to be able to do that, but I don’t want to have the trauma that brings it out. Ach! And I’ve spouted a tome! sorry all
bettyboo
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:33 pm: [report]
I was actually going to guess that, but then, not knowing the abuse link, I assumed it was just a text speak thing like BFF, DH etc that I didn’t get (incidentally, not 100% sure on either of them.. :oP) Very sad (MPD not my inability to do textspeak obviously) that someone can mess someone else up like that… I suppose (vereing back to the convo) on the remote chance that some of the pro-shaving completely guys are turned on by the little girl look as some suggest (which I doubt is the case in 99.99999% of cases, I suspect seeing it in porn is much more likely) at least it means they’re not messing up the lives of actual little girls..
sexcandyfireflies87
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 08:04 pm: [report]
@og217 ICA! I hate having hair down there because it builds up sweat and other body smells, which for me, I was “blessed” with my father’s sweat glands and I’m a woman, so I’m uber embarrassed all the time of my smell down there. It’s more of a strong under arm smell then a lovely lady smell a good 80% of the time, even in the dead of winter. I shower everyday, even sometimes have to wash up before bed. I’ve always noticed that when I don’t have any hair down there, I actually feel cleaner and not so smelly. I’m looking to fix this problem someday, but for now I have to just shave my bikini line all the time or personally just wax the half down by my hoo-ha. I just sweat very easily that’s all. It’s one of the reasons why I freak out if a guy suggests going down on me or having sex in general…