Life Is, Like, SO Hard For Beautiful People

tracy122683
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 08:28 am: [report]

You know I really don’t appreciate the mockery from this writer. No matter if it’s being pretty, ugly, fat, or smart, people ARE constantly judged and it hurts, I don’t think we should make fun of that. It’s childish! I’m a “pretty girl” and have (on more than one occasion) been not taken seriously at job interviews, and it’s very upsetting. I also consider myself quite smart, so it hurts when someone won’t even take the time to see that. We shouldn’t mock or make fun of anyone for their feelings. (Or if we’re just jealous, as the case may be.)

Lynn
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 08:32 am: [report]

I don’t know if we should mock them so much. I mean, yes they are pretty, and it seems silly when pretty people complain about being pretty. But can you really say that it *wouldn’t* sting if people were shocked you got an English award? or if the only thing 99% of the guys in the world want from you is some poon? I do feel bad for them that they have to deal with that.

But I have to say….while no one in the clip was especially ugly, they weren’t all blowing me away with their attractiveness, either. About half of them just looked like regular people to me.

Squidtermz
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 08:52 am: [report]

Just wait until they’re older. Self-esteem Deflation, along with their boobs, and their desire to live. And that dude who said he’s flown on a private jet. WTF are u serious? Guy looks like the crocodile hunter, after the stingray.

bumbler
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 08:57 am: [report]

@ Lynn I agree I thought they looked like normal people I would see on the street.  Most of them youngish and well maintained obviously but no second coming of Monica Bellucci among them.  More cute than anything.

While it can be annoying to be stereotyped for any reason I have to say that they are unlikely to make me weep for them.  I’m a young, in shape, attractive girl.  I’m also well-read with a mind of my own which I do not let people forget.  My life is happy, it’s true sometimes people expect me to be a certain way based on appearance but everyone faces these snap judgments whether they’re gorgeous, cute, average or ugly.  People only continue to believe these assumptions about you if you allow them to.

Squidtermz
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 08:59 am: [report]

Directed by Mark McKinney!!! WHOA WHOA WHOA WHOA,... hold on a second… From Kids in The Hall!!! and yes I just IMDB’ed it… and yes it is him… Strrrrrrange. Says this film was done in 2006 too.

vanillalatte
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:00 am: [report]

one night i was hanging with a couple friends at a bar and one of them told me “you know everybody calls you the ice queen?” this was everyone in my circle. people i know hang out with. the nickname was started by one guy who i didn’t ‘sleep’ with. first of all, he’s dirty. the worst part was that he told the guy i was dating “to be careful with that one, she’s an ice queen” he told me and asked me what he meant about it. i didn’t know. it either really hurt me or pissed me off because this guy doesn’t really know who i am and what i’m about and to be telling people that is messed up.

i think people are quick to judge and don’t realize that there are shy people. it doesn’t mean they’re being conceited or anything because they’re not all bubbly in your face. i just think a lot of peole confuse my shyness with me being conceited and it sucks. then after a while after getting to know me they’re like oh, you’re actually cool.

bumbler
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:04 am: [report]

@vanillalatte Haha I had a guy friend go around to guys at a party warning them “she’s beautiful but beware” because apparently after he had graced me with his attentions I was obligated to spread my legs for him and just expecting a friendship without flirting or sexual expectations was ridiculous.  You just have to laugh at these people it says much more about their issues than anything about you.

AjSeven
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:11 am: [report]

I’m sorry to have to be out of the majority on this one, but I thought this clip was a riot. Thought the music was great, along with them slowly turning their heads towards the camera! & the girl that started sobbing had me in stiches.
I often have the same problems, but you won’t catch me crying about it! More than anything I am greatful, and appreciate when people compliment me. I have never really found that being “attractive” impeded people from aknowledging my intelligence. Besides all that life is far too short to worry about what assumptions people make of you, when you don’t even know them.

@Squidtermz ” Guy looks like the crocodile hunter, after the stingray.” HAHAHA agree!!

vanillalatte
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:16 am: [report]

@bumbler yeah i’ve kinda learned to ignore it. i’m not going to stop being myself for people. if they don’t want to get to know me, then i probably don’t want to know them either. i’m just the nice person. i don’t know.

sadie
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:23 am: [report]

Having people gawk at you and say lewd things to you frequently is really stressful. I live in a city (lots of walking and lots of people around) and usually feel just a teeny bit unsafe going any place alone at any time of day because I feel threatened when people treat me this way and it happens a lot. I do sometimes find myself wishing I could shape shift into a shriveled old man or something when I’m out and about.

Wendy can you honestly say men never do this to you or that when they do you love it?

elizabethmarley
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:26 am: [report]

I wonder if you all have seen arthurkade.com. Seriously.

Riley
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:46 am: [report]

Next we’ll see a documentary on how hard life is for the rich.  Give me a break.  The problems outlined by these people are the same that everyone faces.  I think they are conceited because they believe their plight is something unique.

jimnist10
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:48 am: [report]

I also do not like the mocking tone of this article. If you’re pretty and that the ONLY thing you’ve got, I guess it’s great, but most people who are attractive have BRAINS too and it’s so frustrating when people are suprised that you’re smart.

I’m not being conceited when I say I’m beautiful. I’ve been told that my entire life and it DOES get frustrating, especially when you’re opinionated, smart and well-read. I once dated a guy who said that eventhough I wasn’t the thinnest person he’s dated, I had the most beautiful face and that me losing weight might affect it, so he was “willing to trade off some extra weight” for my face. Yeah, I was 120lbs. Or another guy I dated who said that when he saw me standing outside the restaruant where we first met, he said I just had that “f*@k me” look on my face and he just HAD to “do” me and it was “such a pleasant suprise” that I went to Smith.  OR another time my first-year at Smith, I ran into a guy at a Smith party who was a year ahead of me in high school and he said, “What are you doing here?” “I go here.” “YOU go to Smith? But this is a good school….I just thought you were…like a C student because you had boyfriends and stuff…” I think THAT comment will always stick with me out of all the others because apparently having guys pay attention to you means you’re not intelligent. Give me my Elaine Pagles and Umberto Eco any day over lipstick.

No one likes assumptions made about them, and I find that, like Wendy, people will MOCK you because what they see as a “postitive” thing CANNOT possible be negative. I understand people’s comments can only affect you as much as you let them, but c’mon, would you tell an overweight person “Wow, you’re eating a salad! I thought FOR SURE you would be downing a burger and fries!”

Wendy Atterberry
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 10:05 am: [report]

@Sadie, I live in NYC - Any remotely attractive young woman who lives in the city gets unwelcome stares and lewd comments ALL THE TIME. Add red hair and big boobs into the mix, and the attention magnifies tenfold. No, I don’t love it, but I’d never ever in a million years complain about being attractive. Please! Attractive people have it SO MUCH BETTER than unattractive people. The people who complain and cry about how they hate the attention their good looks get them are the same ones who are going to miss it when they’re old.

What I found most hilarious about this film was the idea that if you’re the “pretty one” you can’t be the “smart one” or the “funny one.” Um, yeah you can…but you have to actually BE smart and funny. You can’t expect to get by on your looks alone and then gets pissed when no one else sees you for more.

retro chic
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 10:17 am: [report]

[Running fingers thru my hair] “Don’t hate me because I’m beau-ti-ful”...
I’ve found the best way to deal with people is with humor, otherwise, you just make their opinion more accurate. There are more important things to worry about. Keep it light, people.

sadie
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 10:33 am: [report]

I guess I just empathize with some of the complaints in the film because I know I don’t like dealing with stalking/gawking/following/cat-calling/etc. I am not arguing pretty people don’t have a lot of perks. They definitely do, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say there are also some down sides.

It’s kind of the same for famous people. Yes they get money and admiration etc, but the trade off is they get no privacy. Would it be nice to have their fortune and go to the fun parties they get to attend, probably? Would it be a huge drag to be unable to eat a popsicle without paps snapping pics and making BJ jokes. Most definitely.

Humble Bee
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 10:59 am: [report]

To me, looks don’t make a person attractive. I’ve seen many people who at first glance look great, but once you get to know them, they are the ugliest people ever.
It’s probabaly hard for some people to be “beautiful” because they revolve their world around how they look instead of focusing on other things. The things that me beautiful are everything but my looks. I’m not the type of person who stares at themselves in the mirror and takes a million pictures of themselves, because i’m confortable with who I am on the inside, so i feel like it mostly projects it on the outside too.

Humble Bee
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 11:08 am: [report]

*make

GreenAura
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 11:40 am: [report]

Well, I used to live in Vegas, and most people there are good looking (or try really hard to be) so I never got any stares or comments out of the ordinary.  But since I moved to a VERY small town in AZ, I definitely get treated differently.  Being from a town where looks are “important”, I learned to dress nice and take good care of myself.  The women in this small town don’t put in as much effort, so I stand out in my blouse, trousers and heels when they all wear overalls, sweatshirts and tennies.  Sometimes the attention has been nice (I have gotten a couple free things), but sometimes its been really creepy (I heard a guy behind me in line @ a store tell his friend that he wanted to get me in his truck).  I’m no Charlize Theron, but I almost feel like I need to tone myself down just because I do stand out.

However, I whole-heartedly disagree with one of the commentors on the film saying that the pretty girl can never be the smart girl or the funny girl.  Maybe she just thinks that she doesnt have to try because she can fall back on her looks.  THAT SUCKS!! Even if I was drop dead gorgeous, I would strive to be the best human I could and would never count on my looks.  When your looks eventually wane—and they will for sure—what are you left with??

powplz
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:00 pm: [report]

@GreenAura - where in AZ did you move to?  I’ve been here over two years and have yet to see a women in overalls lol.

GreenAura
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:03 pm: [report]

@ joyy: Chino Valley.  The armpit of AZ.

powplz
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:10 pm: [report]

@GreenAura - I’m in Flag (sup neighbor!) and I travel all over n. Az for work.  Chino Valley may feel like the armpit of AZ, but there are much, much worse places around here, trust me

GreenAura
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:24 pm: [report]

@ joyy: I love Flag!! I guess Chino beats Show Low though!! haha

powplz
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:27 pm: [report]

@GreenAura - I’ve been to a lot of the little, little towns in the northern half of the state - ShowLow isn’t even on the bottom of my list lol!  Also, I’m pretty sure the awesome heirloom tomatoes I got at our famer’s market were from Chino Valley, so make the most of your location and hunt those suckers down lol.

Kiki T
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:32 pm: [report]

Whatever, pretty, ugly, fat, skinny… whiners sucks in any package them come in!

GreenAura
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 12:37 pm: [report]

@ joyy: I will for sure!

Pamela
wrote on July 17 2009 @ 09:17 pm: [report]

sometimes its good sometimes its bad, its like everything in life

but if it were up to me to decide between being ugly or pretty, i will definitely will go for the pretty option

so far i get VIP access, free drinks and bottles at clubs; so yeah, theres not much complaining on my part

Oliveira
wrote on July 18 2009 @ 06:48 am: [report]

Life is so much easier when you’re attractive. I’m, well, pretty attractive. I value that, expecially because I know it won’t last forever. Sometimes I get favoured because of it, sometimes I hate the fact that people treat me like a beautiful face on a beautiful body and not much else. But I know who I am inside, and I don’t need people in my social circle who judge others on appearance alone, so in a way it comes handy.

There actually is a way for “pretty girls” to make yourselves NOT attract men at all times, and that way is: skip make-up, get a buzz-cut, wear oversized clothes. I know that it may feel unfair to have to deal with attention this way, but imagine how much more unfair it is to never get any attention regardles of what you’re wearing and however hard you try.

(Nevertheless, the tone of the original article is rather unpleasant and smacks of teen envy.)

40yrolddad
wrote on July 18 2009 @ 08:20 am: [report]

o.k., I finally broke down & watched it - what’s funnier/more pathetic than hot people “woe is me”-ing?  marginally attractive people who THINK they’re hot enough for it to adversely affect their lives!  unless you look like Tricia Helfer or Mary-Louise Parker (which nobody in the video did) if the truly smart people don’t take you seriously it’s far more likely you have intellectual delusions of grandeur.  there’s been studies that clearly show inverse relationships between actual & perceived knowledge/intelligence (put simply:  the smarter you think you are the dumber you are more likely to actually be).

Symian
wrote on July 21 2009 @ 01:18 pm: [report]

I don’t consider my looks below average, and they’ve gotten me free meals, VIP to some of Vegas’ awesome clubs, free show tickets, and a few other things.  I would never complain about how I look.  People blessed with anything are so quick to complain that people only see “this”.  Beautiful people want to be taken seriously, rich people want to be seen as down-to-earth, famous people want to be seen as the guy/girl-next-door.

Its not this beauty or money or whatever keeping people in their sorrow bubble, it’s their interaction with people.  When I went into the automotive feild in 2000, no one took me seriously.  I had big boobs, I like to doodle on everything, and I love cartoons.  When I began to interact with people in the shop they saw me in a different way than they did in the office.  I showed them that this smile doesn’t rebuild engines, these hands do.  These boobs don’t diagnose, this mind does.  There were some people who didn’t like me because I rebuffed their advances (I’m there to work on cars not plan dates) and those people are going to be there in almmost any situation for anyone.  The same people that hate you because you’re beautiful, hate this guy because he’s smart or rich or tall.  Maybe instead of batting your eyes and staying coy (I’m NOT saying ALL “pretties do this!!!!) go up to a guy at the bar and ask him who’s winning the game or how he feels about anti-matter or some other strange thing.  If you initiate and control the conversation people will usually be too busy thinking to get stuck on how you look.  There will still be nay-sayers, and in those cases, turn yourself around and walk away because he’s going to miss out on your beautiful brain, spirit, AND body!

Netty
wrote on July 21 2009 @ 01:36 pm: [report]

Wow, I am completely awestruck of the stupidity that is that 2 minute documentary. I hope they were paid actors.

Most of them were just average looking people, maybe cute. No one I would call beautiful or “gasp worthy”. And what a lame thing to bi.tch about.

What is wrong with society? We now complain of the good attributes we have. Gosh, soon people will be whining cause they’re too smart to have conversations with “normal” people or too athletic to be seen in the YMCA.

Cry me a river.

Netty
wrote on July 21 2009 @ 01:39 pm: [report]

Oh, I’d also like to add not just attractive women are verbally harassed. Lots of women of varying looks are hooted and hollered at. Everyone from the ugly to the gorgeous I have seen being eye raped or getting comments about their butts or breasts.

Lynn
wrote on July 21 2009 @ 03:39 pm: [report]

@ Netty - ITA. Cat calls are nothing new. I could lose an arm and I’m pretty sure I’d still get some pretty disgusting things said to me. That’s no measure of whether I’m hot or not!

DancerNinja
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 04:55 pm: [report]

Whats up with the blonde “dewy” chick doing all her glamor shot, Blue Steel camera looks? Stop whining. If being cute is that hard, stop with the make-up. You’re welcome. Otherwise, dude, free food rocks MY face off!

PinkRanger
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 06:00 pm: [report]

Well….to the girl crying because men look at her like an object..those same men that are shallow enough to do that to her, look at unattractive women as objects too, just useless ones. Which is worse? Does it even matter? The problem is just the way people are perceived in general.

SJ
wrote on July 23 2009 @ 10:54 pm: [report]

1) 40yrolddad hit the nail on the head! If people have gotten to know you and still think you’re not smart it’s probably because you’re not! Anyway, these people are a bunch of 6.5’s at best! It’s funny to watch people complain about being beautiful when they’re really just average. They must be from small towns because… wow! Hahaha!

2) That being said, being attractive really can be annoying. Being stared at can be really creepy and nothing is more frustrating than trying to get from Point A to Point B and constantly being stopped because someone one wants to hit on you. It’s nice to be complimented but sometimes you just don’t want to be bothered.

5)Bothersome as it can be, being told you’re gorgeous never, ever gets old! Ever. Even when you’re out and friends ask, “Oh my God, how many times a day do you hear ‘you’re pretty’?” because you hear it that much and you’ve been hearing it since elementary, it still never gets old (side note: the cutest compliment I ever got was from a little boy who said, “Wow, I can’t believe you’re real,” how adorable is that?!) .  It only gets bad if you never get complimented on anything else.

5)I rarely have men say anything lewd to me (and I live on a college campus!). I think it has to do with how you carry yourself. Men disrespect you because you look like you’ll take it, not because you’re pretty. Hate to break it to ya.

6)Honestly, the hardest thing about being pretty is not just people assuming you’re dumb (I once had a guy say, ” I can’t believe you actually have a brain!”) or conceited, it’s the constant expectation to look good. When people think of you as “the beautiful one” it’s almost embarrassing to be seen looking bad. People coming up to you and asking if you’re sick or if you feel ok makes it worse.

All that being said, none of these people would elect to be less attractive if given the opportunity. Being pretty is a lot less terrible than being ugly!

dogstar2389
wrote on September 16 2009 @ 05:03 pm: [report]

I don’t like the mockery of this article either. I’ve been told i’m pretty good looking before (not to toot my own horn or anything) and i’m not saying i’m not grateful or that i don’t like the fact i’m pretty, but it really does leave a person paranoid from it. In one year i’ve had two stalkers cause of what i look like.  I think if this video wanted to be taken seriously something like that should have been mentioned. I know i’m not the only one who’s been stalked before. I know 2 other people who’ve been stalked in the last year as well cause of what they look like. one of those stalkers is in jail and when he’s released has already told the judge he will continue to stalk her.

Its nice to be pretty when there’s no problems involved. If you’ve never had the “problems of being pretty” then you wouldn’t understand how upsetting and scary things like that are. And its not a situation you even want the chance of having.

tttongue_tied
wrote on September 28 2009 @ 06:53 pm: [report]

I also don’t like the mockery of this article. I think the video might have been a little more pretentious and put-upon than it meant to be, but there are ups and downs to every side. Yeah, I’ve been given things for free, like if I say hi to a maintenance guy restocking the soda machine. But you have to understand that if you are skinny and pretty, you will be stereotyped and objectified.

I don’t have very many girl friends, because none will talk to me. They automatically think I’m bitchy or intimidating. The close girl friends I have? All of them are from grade school, before I was pretty. I can’t have any guy friends, because the ones I do all only started hanging out with me because they wanted in my pants. People used to think I was anorexic, even though I was just naturally skinny. I’m also celibate, and everyone assumes I’m either a party girl, a slut, or wildly smooth with the opposite sex. When I tell them I’m waiting until marriage, I get “YOU? Really?” and “That’s a waste.”

It can be disheartening, especially when you can’t vent your frustrations out to people, because they will just get mad at you for complaining about being pretty. Oh, and for the thing about complaining about being rich? Better hope you don’t win the lottery: most winners have their lives torn down because people who come to them hinting for some free cash who get turned away think that you’re a stingy ass.

Try trusting people when they either want to hit it and quit it, or use you as an ATM. I don’t have personal experience with the latter, but the saying is so true: The grass is always greener on the other side.