5 Kinda Lame Things Single Women Do That Are Actually Fun

Humble Bee
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 10:43 am: [report]

I agree with all of them. I love spending time with myself. Sometimes its better to have no company than bad company. I even do more productive things when I’m alone. I love popping open a bottle of wine and cleaning my house top to bottom. Sometimes I love having dinner all by myself, its the most liberating thing ever, going to the beach is awesome too, you just sit there and comtemplate life, look back on things, check out guys asses, ahhh its the best.

mutam
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 10:49 am: [report]

I was just thinking about this the other day now that I’ve been living with my guy for 6 months!  I miss some of those single girl things that I would be mortified of if my boyfriend ever caught me doing.  I loved staying in on Friday night’s to scrub my kitchen and dance to my ipod all while eating some crappy junk food! I definitely miss that haha!  Great article!

GAgirlinNYC
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 10:56 am: [report]

This is one of my favorite posts on here! I love them all! My favorite time in the world is when I stay in on the weekends to wear a face mask, crest white strips, wax whatever hair I feel like waxing at the moment, and self tan the crap out of myself. I’m usually doing all of this while changing my sheets and cleaning out the fridge. Gosh I love being a woman.

Jessica Wakeman
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]

Yes, I forgot to mention wearing my REN face mask, although I do do that while he is around, but I just forbid him from looking at me.

DancerNinja
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 11:08 am: [report]

Wine, underwear, nail painting, and a movie I can recite by heart on the TV. On a Friday night.

Waking up, having breakfast, falling back asleep on the couch. Couch naps are the best.

Breakfast for breakfast. Breakfast for lunch. Breakfast for dinner. Same day.

I could come up with a million more, too. Ain’t life grand?

bethylane
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 11:18 am: [report]

@mutam, I always feel great dancing around and cleaning! I’m not a super-neat-freak, but when the mood strikes, I bring up iTunes and yes, dance around and sing with rubber gloves on; and yes I shake my tush while bending over to BrilloPad the hell out of my tub. Woohoo! And once the tub’s clean, it’s nice to hop in for a shower and some frisky time with myself!

joyy
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 11:23 am: [report]

Fantastic!  I was hungry pretty early yesterday, so I totally pulled a chips & french onion dip thing for my meal ... even though I made a big veggie/black bean shepard’s pie later that evening before going to my softball game.  I still haven’t eaten any of it, I just dutifully packed away the leftovers (2/3 to the freezer, 1/3 to the fridge). 

I lovelovelove cooking, but I still love me some chips and dip.  I also love certain terrible-for-you foods (totino’s pizza/rolls anyone?) that I wouldn’t dare try to pass off as food for my bf, but I scarf it down as a work lunch or dinner when the bf isn’t around.

I’m not much of a cleaner (that’s what I have a bf for!), but I like to throw a movie or a long tv show on and make a bunch of breakfast burritos for my freezer.  I actually enjoy doing it, and my bf is absolutely baffled by the idea that it is “something to do” on a weekend for me ... even though he eats them and won’t shut up about how much he loves them.

I also need to paint my toenails.  badly.

MissChaotic
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 11:33 am: [report]

Hi, I am single, and I am a serial bathtub bleacher. Seriously, I cannot and will not take a shower without at least rinsing the tub out with scalding hot water to ensure that there are no bits of grime that will touch me.

jimnist10
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 11:49 am: [report]

My bf and I are currnetly doing the long-distance thing and I miss him so much, but there is no way in hell that he will ever see me in “single-girl mode”.  Waxing my upper lip, eating my “dinner” of instant rice with baby spinach and soy sauce out of a an extra-large coffe cup in front of the TV in my underwear while watching Law & Order, NCIS, or…HSN. I could watch HSN for HOURS. I’ll be sad to let these nights/days go when he finally moves back here, but for now, I’m going to enjoy it and revel in it.

greggy
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 02:08 pm: [report]

I can totally relate to #3, sadly enough. When my bf and I were on a year long break, if I fantasized about him during my alone time (which is honestly my favorite fantasy), I’d be really depressed afterwards and would end up crying. It was really pathetic, so I eventually stopped doing it.

Other than that, I loved everything else about being single and I would have no problem going back to all that (which is, I think, how our relationship is actually functioning now).

GreenAura
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 02:26 pm: [report]

My husband is currently 250 miles away for the next 2 months because he couldn’t find work in our po-dunk town, and I have ZERO friends here, so my time away from work is spent in a variety of single girl ways: I lay up on the couch for hours watching What Not To Wear and eating homemade pizza, I clean my house top to bottom while rocking out to the Judds (lmao!), I try on all my clothes just to look at myself in the mirror and to coordinate different outfits, I wear sweats with no makeup, paint my toenails completely obnoxious colors like neon yellow and I watch porn for hours.  Oh and I must say that having TOTAL CONTROL OF THE REMOTE is almost orgasmic.

Yellow
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 04:09 pm: [report]

I’m in the long distance thing too! As much as it sucks being apart from my BF, I love that I get both my embarrassing single girl behavior time, and all the perks that come with having a partner. If only he could see me here now, watching the food network with my glasses on, and dorky tooth whitening trays in, wearing PJs, and contemplating popsicles for dinner…

Ellis
wrote on June 25 2009 @ 08:12 pm: [report]

This is why I love being single - it’s so hard to give up having real time to just spend with yourself.  Wine, sweats, and a good movie make for an amazing night.

SEMI-girl
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 08:08 am: [report]

I have the best boyfriend in the world.  The last time he spent the night out without me I came home to find a package of microwave burritos in the freezer and a six-pack of my favorite microbrew in the fridge!  He wanted me to fully enjoy my marathon of Buffy: The Vampire Slayer on Hulu.

CraftLass
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 08:28 am: [report]

I’ve actually found a way to both live with my BF and have my girl time.  Probably wouldn’t work for most people with normal hours, but I sleep very little and stay up hours later than he does and take full advantage when I’m not using the time to work.  He shuts his eyes, I break out the face masks and embarassing snacks.  The funny thing is that he borrows my masks, so I don’t know why I wait until he’s asleep, but it’s just habit to hide these things, I suppose.

Somewhat ironically, though, my favorite me-time is playing video games, which most people seem to consider more of a bachelor thing than bachelorette. lol!  Fun to play with him, more fun to dive into my own little fantasy world.

Love the list, though, especially the last bit.  Lingerie is so much more for our own pleasure than men’s!

arwen
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 08:32 am: [report]

What a timely article for me to read. My GF and I did the “long distance” (1200 miles) thing for the last year because of her job, and in February I found out that she had been having an affair for the previous 3 months. She is now home, as the temporary job assignment has ended, but continuing the affair (long distance) and declaring she is “in love” with the other woman. In fact, my GF is spending the long 4th of July weekend with her new friend and our “best friends” (HA!) at a romantic B&B;. Next week she has an appointment with an attorney (we are legally civilly unioned in NJ). I am not giving up on the relationship in spite of what she says- infatuations do pass and I think she is having a mid-life crisis. But, I need to take care of me, and after 16 years of being one half of a couple but I have forgotten how to be single and have fun. I don’t want to date or sleep around, as I still consider myself married, even if she doesn’t…

retro chic
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 11:35 am: [report]

What a happy article, and fun time for me. During my Lost Girls phase in my 20s, long before momdom, I had my first apartment. Rearranging the furniture, dying my hair, experimental baking or buying armloads of chocolaty desserts—then consuming them all in one sitting—and, doing laundry during the night, was all in a day’s work for me, but dialed it down when I had a BF over.

Shameful now, but during the hot summer months here in LA, I’d come home from work to ritualistically eat an entire pint of Coffee Haagen Daz ice cream *for dinner* in a lone chair pulled up to the crappy wall AC with my top tented over it—even zapping frozen dinners would be out of the question. The BFs didn’t know about this.

Sometimes setting up my Single Girl Command Post in the living room equipped for sleeping, eating, beautification, reading with the TV on, semi-watching cable or VHS after VHS of my favorite movies, alternating with music tapes. I was always possessive of my space, so I’d go to my BFs’ houses if I wanted to connect in their world.

For a time, my place was alive 24/7, a remnant of college all-nighters during Art and Composition-writing projects/finals. It never interfered with my lovelife since there was something for everybody, and my place precursored Café life we now know, and was sooo opposite to how I was raised. Truly Good Times…

Green_Viking
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 11:51 am: [report]

“I’m not a super-neat-freak, but when the mood strikes, I bring up iTunes and yes, dance around and sing with rubber gloves on; and yes I shake my tush while bending over to BrilloPad the hell out of my tub.” -Bethylane

“Yes, I forgot to mention wearing my REN face mask, although I do do that while he is around, but I just forbid him from looking at me.” -Jessica

@Jessica: 1) Does REN refer to a cosmetics company? 2) Why should you be embarrassed about something that you believe will help you be beautiful? I don’t feel embarrassed when I lift heavy weights to be strong and have a nice ass for girls like Humble Bee to look at Even though I apparently make funny faces and noises.

@Bethylane: You are referring to your level of neat-freakness in comparison to other women right? Most of the guys I know would probably not link casual cleaning with BrilloPad scrubbing the tub.

To all the wine drinking girls: What is so different between downing a six pack of beer and a bottle of wine for relaxation? If anything, the bottle of wine probably has more alcohol over all than say a sixer of Corona!

@SEMI-Girl: That is a thoughtful action!

None of the stuff listed seems lame to me, it just seems normal. This seems like the kind of line of thought that leads women to run into another room to fart even when they have been seeing a guy for a long time. Seriously,
if you boyfriend would be disturbed by you wearing sweats,
maybe it is time to find another one. Not all guys are that shallow. (I think).

writergirl
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]

This article brings back memories….now I can’t wait for my husband to travel so I can indulge in ‘single girl behavior’ occasionally.  I feed the kid and send him to bed, then have a junk food dinner (goes against the mommy principal’s to let HIM have a junk food dinner with me) read trashy books, do my facial stuff, watch hours of girl TV my husband can’t stand….ah….I wonder when he’s leaving again?

alphabete
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 03:24 pm: [report]

I love “lame” single-girl things!  It’s comfortable and you’re alone or if not, usually with another girl.

If I ever become involved in a relationship again it’s going to be tough to give up the single-girl things because they’re pretty much the only kinds of things I do now.  I *guess* it might be worth it for some company, however to be honest I’ll probably just do the same things.  No new tricks for this (somewhat) old dog!

cadyms
wrote on June 26 2009 @ 09:27 pm: [report]

This is really helpful.  My bf and I were in a long-distance relationship (due to work) for sometime, and the last 6 months we’ve been living together.  Now he’s gone for a week, and I’m lonely as he**!  It’s good to be reminded of the good parts of being single.  We may have to do the long-distance thing again for a good while, and I’m looking at this week as good practice.  But I’ve got to say, on the whole, while I miss my ice cream dinners/grandma jammies/taking up the whole bed while he’s gone, I’d rather he be here.

Girl_Friday
wrote on June 27 2009 @ 03:28 am: [report]

# 4 and #5 are spot on for me. Most of my girlfriends spend their friday nights clubbing, but not me. I spend mine on my hands and knees scrubbing my toilet, lol. Can you get any lamer than that??

mividavegan
wrote on June 27 2009 @ 09:42 pm: [report]

@GreenAura
I love it! I’m in a very similar situation with my boyfriend and those things sound great!

brackishfaun
wrote on June 28 2009 @ 09:45 am: [report]

I’m studying abroad right now and my bf is back in the US, and while being apart sucks, I love doing some of the embarrassing single girl stuff. Like doing full out manicures at least twice a week or eating popcorn for dinner. My favorite thing is eating dinner out of the pot I cooked it in. I hate having to wash more dishes then necessary.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on June 28 2009 @ 09:58 am: [report]

@Mividavegan: May I just say, kudos. The avatar pic is a splendid choice.

Sara.B
wrote on June 28 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]

Real nice to know I’m not alone here. When he is away on a fishing trip or something, I cherish my at home all-nighters.

I love late summer nights alone with a light cool breeze floating through the windows. Everything so quiet and calm, just me and the vampires. I too will clean the tub and bathroom then after a shower I’ll do the moisturizing thing, Pile my hair in a bun or something, grab a new pair a cotton bikinis and one of his xl tank tops. Then I’ll clean the bedroom, reorganize my closet (and my thoughts)or clean the refrigerator - listen to oldies like Peggy Lee or Tammy Wynette (stuff he hates). I try not to get stuck watching TV because it makes this special time fly by too fast. Food is always ice cream, cookies or anything with chocolate.

thefishinthebowl143
wrote on June 30 2009 @ 11:01 pm: [report]

no matter what’s going on in my life wether I’m pulling doubles at work or hanging with friends I always take time out at the begining of the week to give my self a pedicure. it makes me fee lgirly wehn i have to takeonthe world monday morning.

One Big Voice
wrote on July 8 2009 @ 08:04 am: [report]

@ Jessica - re #3: Still have it in you? LMAO

Debbie Downer
wrote on July 27 2009 @ 07:01 pm: [report]

more of a barbecue type myself, but i feel you.

LuckyChica
wrote on August 14 2009 @ 02:47 pm: [report]

I love all these comments.  Especially since I am reading them while dipping Hershey’s Miniatures into the peanut butter jar. 
Ah yes, single girl time can really be a joy. We should all remember to appreciate these little things when we find ourselves between men. 

LuckyChica
http://www.thathappenedtome.com

ciarabug
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 02:33 pm: [report]

@ green aura

watching porn for hours is the single best thing about being home alone XD

Frisky Noetic
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 11:30 am: [report]

Alone time is good for everyone. Not just fun, but needful, too!
Women and men need a reminder of who we are as an individual (pre full time relationship days), so reverting back to those simple (bizarre, gross, lame, etc) behaviors can provide that much needed quality time with ourselves.

Even if you’re not doing anything all that different than when you are with your significant other, it can just feel extra good to do it on your own.

I like to stay home and sleep in late (or take naps), crank up the music, watch hot guy laden movies/porn, masturbate (many times), eat a buffet of junk food in my undies, consume extra strong beverages, engage in very slow paced self-care such as taking a super long bath, slathering hair with conditioner, putting on a face mask, engaging in body hair removal and having fun with nail polish.
Just a “single” girl enjoying some alone time, doing simple things with out interruption.
Very healthy for all.

freepeople1986
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 02:53 pm: [report]

During the week I find myself running to the supermarket in boxer shorts and UGGs, picking up TGIFriday’s mozz sticks and an assortment of dipping sauces.  That’s my thing. 

I almost had a heart attack last night because I got water in my Comet and it hardened up.  I was banging it against the tub trying to loosen the solution. 

It woke my roommate up. Yes, I was cleaning at midnight. I had Ojon oil in my hair, which was wrapped in a bright blue shower cap. She goes “Is it Halloween?  Why do you look like a surgeon?” 

And I have a boyfriend, he’s just moved to another city for grad school.  So I get to be a neurotic female all week and I kind of love it. 

My other favorite thing is getting terrible magazines like Cosmo and passing judgment on everyone in it.

sportzriter13
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 03:03 pm: [report]

I’m taken, but my boyfriend lives in his dorm, and I live at home, so I have plenty of “me” time. Of which 80% goes to volunteering and college. No wonder my room looks like s***, lol!
Sometimes I visit him during the week, (we’re both in southern, RI…it doesn’t get closer then that, lol) I like having time to work on stuff without interruptions. Does that mean I get much of the “important” stuff done? maybe not, but at least I can play sims uninterrupted.

SamL
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 03:22 pm: [report]

Oh I can totally relate to ALL of these! Plus about a thousand others that include the words Hagen Daz, Baileys and DVD!

CJ1432
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 03:31 pm: [report]

@freepeople:  I’ve cleaned at midnight too!  And my roommate I thought I was crazy.
Sometimes its just nice to stay in friday night and get things done, all while blasting the stereo like your having a party.  Then taking a nice long bubble bath with a good book after you’ve got that tub spick and span.

SCRMOM
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 04:09 pm: [report]

I’m married, and some of these still apply!!  LOL

Shriekback68
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 08:41 pm: [report]

What’s with all the masturbation and crying?? You people are NOT doing it right. LMAO

spatula
wrote on October 13 2009 @ 08:46 am: [report]

@DancerNinja’s were my favorite. Now THAT’s a weekend

one tough kitty
wrote on October 13 2009 @ 09:21 am: [report]

#3 is an outstanding way to spend an evening. as long as you have an ivibe…

Sami
wrote on October 13 2009 @ 02:32 pm: [report]

When I am alone I watche Tv, do exercises to keep in shape and cook(yes actually cook) my own food, then I do my homework and fall to sleep on the coush watching reruns of Discovery or History channel programs; but on the upside I have NO std’s because to top it of I am a happy 21 yr old virgin because I have NO sex drive which makes my life much easier in my opinion…

kad
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 08:58 pm: [report]

I guess I’m a lucky guy.

I met my girl online almost three years ago playing a damn game.  I would agree that staying home and watching TV isn’t going to improve chances of a relationship, but disagree that face time in a bar-like setting is what people need, as the post seems to imply.

Get a HOBBY.  Paint.  Write.  Dance.  Be an amateur astronomer.  Play a game and like it, get to know the people you play with (they aren’t all 12 years old). Join groups that focus on those activities.  Volunteer at the food bank.  There are a hundred ways to have face time without doing the teenager schtick of going to a bar.  I know my American friends generally wait until 21 before legal access.  To me that is extending teenager-hood.  A bar is easy, lazy, and ultimately unsatisfying.

My lady is the opposite of high maintenance (except where it really matters - she is a lady with her hygiene and with her man) and a self-described poor housekeeper.  I tend to do most of the domestic stuff, but I consider it a fair trade for the massages that morph into sex.  She wants at least one partial and one full massage every day.

That works into my schedule nicely. 

We were talking about ‘V’ tonight, and I mentioned how humans seem to like the idea of a galactic invasion.  Just look at the movies.  She told me I could invade her any time I wanted.  We practiced different invasion techniques to see which ones resulted in complete surrender.

Sounds geeky sure, but if it works, why mess with it?

Still, she gets her girl time, and I get my guy time.  And she loves the cheap flowers I bring home for her.  My brother accidentally got in #&@$% last week when his GF mentioned that she never got flowers, after commenting on how nice the $5 bouquet looked.  Oops.  I’ll have to take my brother shopping and show him some value options for proving to your girl you think about her even when she is not there.

I once asked her about ‘Bob’ and she said it wasn’t the same.  The real thing is much better.

I enjoyed being single for a long time and having no-commitment hookups once in a while.  I suppose I got older, or more experienced, but it seems odd to me to worry about singlehood.  All you have to do is one thing that makes you happy, but also makes you publicly available.  Chances are you will meet someone who will try for you.