Just Do It: Deleting A Guy’s Number
Posted by: Leonora Epstein | Filed in: Relationships
12:00PM, Wednesday June 25th 2008
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I’m a numbers girl.
I take pride in my cell’s large phone book as much as I take pride in amassing new Facebook friends, Tumblr followers, and page views. I’m sorry, but in this day and age, the higher the numbers get, the cooler one looks.
This creates a problem, however, when there are just certain people to whom one shouldn’t be linked—past lovers. Naturally, the Internet makes it hard to completely escape from the counterpart of your failed relationship. But, in some sort of sick backwards logic, I tend to increase this hardship by keeping them around in the digital arena for longer than necessary.
It’s clearly an unhealthy habit, seeing as in the past three months, I have:
Today, I finally managed to chuck out the trash after seeing a past date’s AIM Away Message as simply, “YouPorn.com.” Dear lord, I did not need to see that. Delete.
I found with the first one gone, it became easier, and before I knew it, my cell phone had lost some serious weight. (Yet, I do secretly admit that I can’t wait until one does text and I get to respond, “Um, who is this?” as if I ever gave a damn).
More level-headed women, like my roommate, concede that there’s a three to four week grace period before the last interaction and final deletion. At that point, erasure is the best way to move on and face the music: Dude just isn’t going to call.
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Kiki T
[report]wrote on June 25 2008 @ 12:31 pm:
drugs all have expiration dates and after that, it’s just dangerous to use them!!! deletion all the way!
Deirdre
[report]wrote on June 25 2008 @ 12:33 pm:
I am a phone number hoarder too- I have so many random numbers (this took years to collect okay- no judgements!) that I really have no idea who these people are anymore. I have a phone number for a “Norman”. Who the eff is Norman I ask myself? Time to delete…
Elle
[report]wrote on June 25 2008 @ 07:51 pm:
I delete numbers and AIM names almost immediately after ending it with someone. It’s not worth keeping them on file. I also go to great pains to keep my privacy online and won’t use my real name anywhere because I don’t want to be found. My policy is, if I want to talk you I will find you, not the other way around.
Moneypenny
[report]wrote on June 26 2008 @ 08:14 am:
Even better - when an ex calls and their number has been deleted, there’s that tone of your voice when you answer that call - *if* they call - because only their number is listed and you have no clue who in the world they are...not exactly welcoming.
Meg
[report]wrote on June 26 2008 @ 01:01 pm:
Better yet, when he calls and calls, and you laugh as you listen to the desperate messages. And change phone numbers to be forever rid of the lying bastard.
stephdub
[report]wrote on June 26 2008 @ 03:22 pm:
i always face this dilemma as well, however… ultimately i usually decide to keep the number in my phone because too many times the boy will call/text… the number comes in as a number, and then i have to say who is this? its actually more embarrassing to say that to someone you hooked up with. and it feels really good when those texts do come in, you know who it is from, and knowingly do not respond.
admittedly, when i go out for drinks, i know really early on if i’m going to text someone i shouldn’t. at that time i ask myself how i would feel in the morning if i texted him tonight. if sober tomorrow would be fine i do it. if tomorrow would be mortifying then i make up my mind before i am drunk that i will not drunk text.
its taken practice. but it works.
<3 stephdub
bruinmccon
[report]wrote on June 26 2008 @ 04:28 pm:
You have much more control than I do. When it’s over, I always start by writing the guy’s name and number on one of my business cards, then shoving it in the middle of a pile that houses every business card I’ve ever been given in my work life. Then I take his number out. That way, if I ever really need to call him, I can get his number, but it would take so long to find his number in my mess of business cards that I can’t ever commit a drunken text foul.
ZZZ3
[report]wrote on June 27 2008 @ 02:24 am:
The dating world is clearly a selfish and cruel place, as usual.
Yeah, I think some things I do not need to hear or read.Feel the need to comment, Relate to someone else...it should be obvious if the interests is lost.
By her or I not calling. That is enough for me. Details will make you stronger, ideally in a positive way, not often enough though....
ela
[report]wrote on June 27 2008 @ 04:48 am:
after the fall of my 5 yr highschool/college relationship fiasco i completely vanished- deleted myspace, facebook, number, changed phone numbers and changed my daily route to school- yeah i even moved...no contact works..and i got over it.........eventually.
AnnikaH
[report]wrote on July 01 2008 @ 10:33 am:
I delete phone numbers also, although most I’ve memorized, because then I get time to think if this late night call is a good idea while I’m dialing the 10 numbers.
lucy0417
[report]wrote on July 02 2008 @ 09:27 am:
Yes this seems as a very good idea. And I started doing this with a previous hookup’s number. But then I realized after a few alcoholic beverages that my roommate has his number as well, in which I usually trick her into giving me. This not only results in waking up to 3-4 drunken text messages that he did not reply to but also I have now almost memorized his number. This is due to the fact that I delete and re-enter it so many times. DANGEROUS! I have no idea how to get past this, so any advice would be greatly appreciated. Sooner or later I will have the number implanted in my brain so hurry, my dignity is at stake!
Budlight Lime Gal
[report]wrote on July 23 2008 @ 09:34 am:
I deleteted a former hookup’s #, then I’m laying in bed with my boyfriend when I get a txt from a number not programmed into my phone. Asking me if I want to get naked. I say out loud WTF? Which of course grabs my bf’s attn. I later on found out who it was, then had to explain to my bf that whoever it was must have not been important enough for me to keep in my phone… My boyfriend to this day still doesn’t know who was txting me.