Itty Bitty Titties Get Their Own Small Boob Support Group
Posted by: Jessica Wakeman
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11:30AM, Tuesday May 26th 2009
Drinking. Depression. Widowhood. Small boobs. Yes, there are support groups for all kinds of things…
Usually when you talks about supporting your AAs, you mean the feats of architectural wonder accomplished by the Victoria’s Secret Miracle Bra. But on the message boards for Bust magazine, there is actually a Small Breast Support Group.
Before we read a bunch of the messages, we were skeptical. Judgmental, even. A support group for women who don’t need a bra sounds so vain and shallow. The act of convening a support group implies the women are calling their smaller breasts a problem, rather than just saying “screw it” and loving their bodies the way they are. Besides, it seems like the worst thing for small-breasted women—or really, any woman whose bodies aren’t “ideal”—would be to get a bunch of complainers together and fuel each other’s insecurities. That wouldn’t make anyone feel better about their bodies or stop the cycle of body self-criticism.
But the Small Boob Support Group is not like that at all! Instead of mammary moaning, the message board is really positive! For example, read this message posted by a high schooler who calls herself “KeraBear” is friggin’ heartbreaking and the way other women on the board jump to her support, just like big sisters would, is inspiring:
“Hey gals. I am looking for some sage words of wisdom. Can any of you offer up any advice on going through high school with tiny breasts? I get teased A LOT because of it. I am 16-years-old and don’t even fit into a AA cup. They seem like they are in that quasi-“almost boob” stage of an 11-year-old. I am also short, skinny, with a boyish figure. Every time i seem to get to the point where I am getting close to loving my body for what it is, somebody seems to tear me down about it. Interestingly enough, it’s mostly other GIRLS and not the guys. Why do you suppose that is?
Did you get teased? What are some constructive ways of dealing? I am sorta conflicted. On one hand, I REALLY want my breasts to grow over the summer. On the other, I shouldn’t HAVE to have or want bigger breasts in order to validate myself as a woman, you know?
Also, please tell me things will get better after high school. Thanks!”
Here’s what “Erica” told her on May 26th:
“I’m 29 now and the older I get the more I realize how much MOST (almost all) guys don’t care about the size of a woman’s breasts. I’m a size A and I’ve never had a problem with a guy saying they’re too small or anything. The thing I like about having small breasts is guys don’t STARE right at my chest instead of looking me in the eye. I appreciate other good things about having small breasts—like no back pain, clothes generally hang better when you’ve got small breasts. There are a lot of advantages to having small breasts if you actually stop and think about it.”
And here’s what Aithinne said on May 24th:
“DON’T let people make you feel like you’re deformed or lacking or abnormal. You are not. Don’t give in to the ideal woman BS! Thinking negatively about your body gets you absolutely nowhere, and is such a waste of energy and time that it’s completely laughable.
Very cool! We wish we’d had support like this (in addition to our push-ups) in our pre-growth spurt days in high school.
Do you agree that an online message board like this is good for women? Would you still feel the same way if it were a “big thighs” or “large butt” support group? Tell us in the comments section below…
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Emi
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 11:46 am: [report]
I thought the same thing at first. Small Breast Support Group? pffft, whatever. But I looked and they were really great messages!
They’re right.. big breasts have given me back pain, and it’s tough to find decent shirts sometimes. I actually *try* to find things to make my boobs look smaller!
Perceptible
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 12:09 pm: [report]
I always liked my B cups before I had kids. After kids I was left with small A’s and complained about it for years. Just recently my BF’s ex was diagnosed with breast cancer and is having a double mastectomy this Friday. Suddenly I am very happy with my breasts –– because they’re healthy and because they’re mine. Amazing what a little perspective can do. I’ll rock a padded push up bra and be happy doing it.
subpar
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 12:11 pm: [report]
It seems like a great community. I’m a straight B, and my breasts feel just right for my body (not teensy, but not busty by any means). Can’t validate participating on that message board, personally, but glad that it exists…
That being said, I’d like to propose a Muffin Top Support Group. Any takers?
Jessica
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]
@subpar hahahahahaha I knew someone was going to suggest that!
sam04
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 12:24 pm: [report]
The grass is always greener on the other side. Girls without them long for cleavage. Girls with them long to be able to run down the stairs braless without the fear of knocking themselves out.
As a 32C, I do resent the attention they draw. I get tired of creepy men leering at me. Even in crew neck T-shirts!
Anniekins
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 01:27 pm: [report]
When I first met my husband, we were watching something on television where some girl was complaining about her small breasts.
I said, “Mine may be on the small side, but they look good, and they’re exactly where they’re supposed to be. Let’s hear it for the B cups!”
He just looked at me and said “That’s awesome!”
lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 01:35 pm: [report]
I used to have nice full C cup breasts before I lost some weight and now am an A cup. I joke and say that I didn’t loose weight, I lost my tits! I sure miss them, but being at a better weight makes it ok. My BF sure doesn’t seem to mind, LOL.
Lynn
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 02:04 pm: [report]
@sam04 - haha, that running down the stairs thing is so true. Even in my best bras, I still hold them with my hands if I need to dash down the steps particularly quickly (at home, of course!)
Tarvold
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 02:13 pm: [report]
Having dated girls from A to F, I can honestly say that cup sizes don’t matter… at least not to me. In fact, there’s nothing more attractive than a woman who’s comfortable in her own skin, regardless of cup size.
Muffin tops, however…. no.
Bad Breakup
wrote on May 26 2009 @ 08:07 pm: [report]
I’ll agree with Tarvold on this one. As long as a woman is proud of what she’s got, it’s ok with me. Muffin tops, those are ok sometimes as well. I’m sorry, but some of you ladies have a skewed image of what “healthy” and “attractive” look like. It’s ok to be curvy, in fact, it can be downright sexy if the woman embraces it. Support groups for bigger thighs and booty’s would be great also, as long as they’re not encouraging an unhealthy lifestyle, such as embracing a lack of exercise or over-eating.
hereshestands
wrote on May 27 2009 @ 03:44 am: [report]
I used to hate my boobs I mean they weren’t even boobs. I was just like that girl in the first article. Because well everyone else had boobs but me. Until I realised that I should be happy with them. I mean my sister has double D’s and she doesn’t stop winging about back pain so I guess being an A isn’t so bad hey. And my boyfriend doesn’t seem to mind.
That support group is a brilliant idea!
friskyman68
wrote on May 27 2009 @ 05:40 am: [report]
small boob girls tend to be sexier, I find.
hanabira
wrote on May 27 2009 @ 07:20 am: [report]
i always thought the use of the term “womanly” to describe bustier/larger women wasnt helpful to those smaller girls when trying to feel feminine and good about themselves. people dont think of how the language they use could have hidden pragmatic insults which may be damaging to somebody else’s self esteem.
retro chic
wrote on May 27 2009 @ 07:30 am: [report]
Haha. I should tell my neighbor. She has really small ones. I’d think the humor part in the support groups would be the best. There are a lot of jokes made about her breasts, but SHE tells them all! [Now I’m telling… I’ll paraphrase as best as I can]
* “Sagging? Gravity has no effect on MY breasts—gravity doesn’t even KNOW about them!”
* “My sister got the boobs, and I got the ass. Between the two of us, we make one hot bitch!”
* “I think my boobs were switched with someone else’s at birth—there’s someone out there with huge tits searching for me.”
* “At least my [super-padded] bra is bullet-proof!” [it’s LA]
* “I will never be able to hold a pencil under MY breasts!” [feigned gloating]
demi-angel
wrote on May 27 2009 @ 08:03 pm: [report]
@ retro chick, lol, that is so totally my friend
when i saw the title it reminded me of her, she has an AA, totally confortable in her skin, and she loves to joke around about them, but the thing that really struck me (and i’m sooo not even making this up) she desperatly wants a shirt that says “itsy bitsy tity comittee” lol
Cocoa Fly
wrote on June 3 2009 @ 11:57 am: [report]
That’s great. I love my itty bitty boobs too!
http://cocoafly.blogspot.com/2009/05/loving-my-itty-bitty-boobies.html
tltba
wrote on June 19 2009 @ 07:25 pm: [report]
I am learning to be OK with them. AS I age, I care less and I tend not to look at every other women’s breasts to compare with mine. I am happy that they are healthy (let’s knock on wood) although I am up for the last try to make them bigger ((just an itty bitty bit!!!)).
http://www.living-with-small-a-cup-breasts.com
Edriisxe
wrote on June 21 2009 @ 08:07 pm: [report]
I am a size A and it took me a long time to be happy with my size. My past generations with woman, they all started out small and when they had kids, BAM! Backaches, size D’s. They are also heavyweight, every one of them. I plan to stay small and keep my nice small breast.
My best friend, who happens to be a guy, compliments me all the time. I know for sure he isn’t one of those perverts and treats me right. He looked at my breasts one day and said, “They look like they’re getting bigger.” I was ecstatic! He builds up my self esteem with words like the continuation of precipitation!
bathukolpian
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 02:14 pm: [report]
Um, did you ask the people on this board if they minded having their posts copied and discussed? I know everything posted on the internet is public, but given the personal nature of these posts I find this article a little bit…. tacky.