Is There Value In Playing Hard To Get?

ChoJinn
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 09:30 am: [report]

Sure, I would be suspicious if a girl was TOO available (without cause, of course).  Presuming we all have jobs and separate social lives, you should have other things to do.

There is something to be said for, in the presence of good old fashioned chemistry, being slightly unavailable.  However, anyone worth his/her salt will have other things to do (i.e. other men and women), so you don’t want to be too unavailable lest you get forgotten about.

Personally, I am pretty direct.  If I like someone I contact her and try to set something up.  About two ambiguously failed attempts and I’m out, or at best she gets regulated to hearing about my other exploits.

snap
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 09:35 am: [report]

i’m hard to get, and i LOVE persistent men.

Lynn
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 11:00 am: [report]

I don’t play games and don’t want them played with me. If it seems like a guy doesn’t have interest in me, or is losing it quickly, I just move the #&@$% on. No sense in wasting time. So if they are playing games with me, they just eff it up for themselves.

retro chic
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 01:05 pm: [report]

If someone’s into me, he must show it, and I’ll do the same. There will be plenty of other real mysteries to solve and cat-and-mouse about, if you’re into that.

philosophyme
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 01:03 am: [report]

Oh come on, not all relationships have to be so serious.  They’re fun, remember?  If you both agree to the rules of the game, playing hard to get can be a lot of fun too.  Winning a small pot is good, but winning the bigger pot is always better.  You’ve just got to be willing to gamble with what you have (or as retro chic put it, “cat-and-mouse about.)  You’ve just got to know what it is you’re denying to the other person that makes them come back for more, and you’ve got to be prepared to show it to them when he’s ready to see it.  Just like in Texas, every time a bet is made another card is revealed.  The ones who keep betting have a good hand, but the whole point of the game is to see whose hand is better.  Sure, some men fold early - but others don’t - and the latter will almost always promise you a good game as long as you’re willing to play by the rules.

bogart4017
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 11:18 am: [report]

Why does everything have to be such a game? If i’m interested in you i’m going to tell you. Be direct with me and let me know what you want or don’t want. Anyone i’ve ever been with has a job and a life so its not like they were going to just move in with me. I’ve never had real bad relationships and always parted as friends because i insist to whoever im with to leave the games to milton bradley.