Is Housework The New Porn?
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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10:40AM, Thursday October 22nd 2009
OK, fess up: how many of you think it’s sexy when your partner does housework? Yeah, me neither. I mean, I appreciate it, for sure. But does it get me hot and bothered when my husband runs a vacuum over the living room rug or does a couple loads of laundry? No, not really. But according to a new study of 6,877 married couples, there’s a strong link for both women and men between watching their spouses do housework and getting turned on. One explanation for the correlation is that “housework may be a proxy for a general willingness to invest in shared interests, a symbol of commitment to home and hearth.” I’ve only been married for three months, so what the hell do I know, but good God, shoot me now if there’s a day in my future when “shared interests” refers to sparkling kitchen floors and freshly scrubbed toilet bowls. [via WSJ]
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*sam*
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 09:43 am: [report]
lol I think the “shared interest” really means a “shared interest in not living in a pig sty”
FrzKey
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 09:48 am: [report]
Dishes? No, but watching a guy crush a spider for me, change my oil or do something else little and macho (which I could rightly do myself) without being asked a million times? Totally hot.
workerbee
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 09:55 am: [report]
I hate to break it to you but once you have a kid, seeing your man do the dishes for you really is like porn.
Wendy Atterberry
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 09:59 am: [report]
@workerbee No! Say it’s not true! Then again, if it gets you hot, it’s not such a bad thing. I guess?
Queen Frostine
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:09 am: [report]
My husband actually cleans often, so it’s never a thrill. It would only be sexy if he was nakey whilst tidying up.
lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:10 am: [report]
The few times my BF did the dishes without being asked first was SO HOT! Needless to say the dishes never got done, he he.
Lynn
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:24 am: [report]
I would guess that it’s because women usually do the most housework, even if they also have fulltime jobs themselves. So it’s not really right, but if a guy is doing it, you might see him as “rescuing” you from it.
retro chic
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:25 am: [report]
I’m used to the SO doing the dishes altho he likes to handwash them, I like the DW. He irons, I don’t. He’s a good cook even if his choices aren’t necessarily my taste. That scores points. It’s when he does all those things better than I can, then that is hot! When I don’t feel like doing anything after a big day, and he just does it… major porn.
Agree with @workerbee: much hotter after the child came.
writergirl
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:31 am: [report]
Exactly what retro chic and workerbee said—MUCH more impressive after the child came. Because from the day we got married to the time the child arrived, my husband apparently forgot how to do everything around the house, including opening the hamper.
Mine still sucks at doing stuff around the house though I am much more apt to be all disgustingly gushy and thanking him a million times when he does.
workerbee
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:46 am: [report]
Sorry Wendy! It looks like I have others agreeing too. There’s just something about seeing a man clean up around the house after you’ve been home with a baby all day and are exhausted that is hot. You suddenly find that extra burst of energy to show him how sexy you find it (and him).
intuition
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 10:57 am: [report]
I would say it depends on the chore.
“Oh baby, you really know how to handle that toilet brush.”
Wendy Atterberry
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 11:37 am: [report]
@workerbee, Ha, ha. I suppose there are worse things than being turned on by your husband, no matter how you may get there.
Visolela
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 12:44 pm: [report]
For me I find it a turn on to find out that he’s gone out of his way to do something, or is working on stuff without me having to nag or ask. Even more so when its something that is normally my job to do. It dings in my head as him thinking of me, which makes me think of him and ways to properly show said appreciation. Think of it as a way of saying “I love you” and am thinking about you without words.
Rokkor
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 02:18 pm: [report]
After living alone for a long time (and just generally being extremely anal about keeping everything clean), I’m usually the one to do the housework first, so I think it’s lost some of it’s appeal. Either that or it’s just not sexy to watch someone fold laundry.
bogart4017
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 02:19 pm: [report]
Yeah sure. Honey can sit down all day long and be turned on by my housecleaning. She’s turned on all day Saturday every Saturday. She’s oversexed i tell ya!
Secret Story Time
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 02:46 pm: [report]
Some women probably get more excited by housework that by their husband’s amorous advances. They may be tired of his boring dick, but they never get tried of a clean house.
Secretia
stephoney22
wrote on October 23 2009 @ 10:18 am: [report]
My SO and I will be really flirty in the kitchen when we’re cooking or cleaning up. I think it has something to do with the sexiness of being thrust onto a counter for some lovin’. Plus it’s sexy knowing he’s scrubbed his tub cause it means I can take a bath
draymond
wrote on October 24 2009 @ 11:47 am: [report]
Well I can definitly say that the opposite it true, that If I’m not carrying my share of the stuff to do then most definitly my chances of getting some loving go down dramatically.
Shasta
wrote on October 25 2009 @ 07:03 pm: [report]
That is so depressing for us single girls.
I realize that the honeymoon ends, but Jesus, is that what it comes to?
No wonder so many couples are into online porn or Lifetime Movies.
Harrie@lovehoney
wrote on October 26 2009 @ 05:28 am: [report]
I’ve yet to have a boyfriend who did any housework but just larft it to me/his housemates/his mum. So who knows, maybe i would find it rather hot!
curlygirl
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 09:42 pm: [report]
I think it’s hot! I like a man who can take care of himself when I’m not around. I’m not his mom and I sure as hell don’t want to do his laundry. But what it really comes down to for me is his attitude. If he does things around the house because he knows I appreciate it, then he’s doing it to make me happy and ease my load. A man who WANTS to make me happy is pretty damn sexy!
moonblossom
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 10:01 pm: [report]
After being married for the better part of a decade…and now divorced…I think I know what the link is. Its not really that seeing a man do housework is hot. The problem is when you start getting taken advantage of and overworked. Women do that majority of the housework anyways. Eventually, after work and school and dinner and everything else, you are kinda sick of cleaning up and it bothers you when its not cleaned up and you can’t relax and you sure as hell don’t want sex from the same man who left his dirty laundry in a pile next to the bed.
The hotness really comes when the chores are done and you are relaxed and you know that part of why you are relaxes is because he cared enough to help…even if the piles of dirty laundry don’t bother him as much as they bother you. And you don’t feel like you are being treated like a maid. Then you appreciate him…and you respond accordingly.