I Love You, But…
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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3:30PM, Wednesday February 4th 2009
I still remember the day I realized my first love wasn’t perfect. We’d been together for about 2- 1/2 months and decided to go camping for the weekend. I wasn’t much of an outdoorsy person and ended up wearing, like, Keds on our long hike up to the campsite (which really wasn’t a campsite, but more of a clearing in the woods with enough room to pitch a tent). Rather than slow his pace and enjoy the beautiful day with me, my boyfriend laughed at my footwear and sped off, keeping a good ½ mile ahead of me all afternoon. It was then that I realized I loved him, but he hiked too damn fast (and was really kind of a jerk).
Loveyoubut.com celebrates exactly this kind of realization in a relationship. Created by Alex Holder and Ross Neil, the site is a “picture book about the moment in a relationship when you realize you don’t love someone completely, because there is just one little thing that keeps bothering you.” While I’d argue it’s often that one little thing that makes you realize just how unconditionally you do love someone—seriously, if you can love your man despite his hairy back or the loud slurpy sound he makes when he drinks beer, that’s when you know it’s real—the site is totally worth checking out. Filled with funky, hand-drawn portraits and great quips like, “I love you, but you still read articles about Princess Diana,” and “I love you, but you say ‘pacific’ instead of ‘specific’,” loveyoubut.com reminds us that no one is perfect, and sometimes what we don’t like about someone says a lot more about us than it does about the other person.
What’s your “I love you, but” quote? [via Nothing But Bonfires]
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Tamara
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 03:54 pm: [report]
“I love you but I haven’t been in love with for quite sometime, you obviously have feelings for someone that are not going away and I think it’s time you were free to explore them. You’re not happy and I’m not happy, it doesn’t seem right” -Said by me to my fiance at the time while he was taking a piss and I was shaving my legs.
greggy
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 04:57 pm: [report]
To my current bf: “I love you, but you are so shallow, judgemental, and a little too metrosexual for my taste.” I have yet to say the entire sentence, I’ve only gotten through the shallow part.
par3
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 05:00 pm: [report]
‘i love you but you’re a primitive man-child who has a completely inappropriate relationship with his mother and will never grow and backbone to pick her out of his ass with. also, i might be gay. this is why we can’t get married. the end.’ i heard this from a friend of a friend.
Alison Wonderland
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 07:04 pm: [report]
“I love you but you’re so disorganized. Please start writing down when you have appointments and work so when I invite you to come do something with me you actually tell me if you can/can’t (do/don’t want to) go. Then, please take note of the date and time so I don’t have to remind you every day and still have you tell me you can’t go the night before. Plus, would it kill you to plan us a date?”
Also, and more serious, “I love you but I can’t stand your family.” Doh. Sorry BF.
Chelle
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 07:21 pm: [report]
“I love you but I’m running out of time to waste”-That was me
lilo
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 07:36 pm: [report]
To my ex: “I love you. Sex isn’t really important to me.” Not true!
Eva
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 08:06 pm: [report]
I love you but you insist in describing in great detail every television show or movie that you watch. I don’t care or I would have watched it too!
Lynn
wrote on February 4 2009 @ 09:16 pm: [report]
I love you but your mood swings wear me thin
Tamara
wrote on February 5 2009 @ 12:28 am: [report]
@Chelle- I may have to use that line eventually, but never really knew how to say it. Now I do, awesome.
juliePS
wrote on February 5 2009 @ 08:43 am: [report]
some of these comments are so heavy! I’m going to try and post some mildly amusing not-breakup-type ones (okay, funny to me, at least in retrospect.) (and no, these are not all the same person!):
“I love you, but you cry whenever we have sex.”
“I love you, but you fell asleep while we were making out for the first time.”
“I love you, but the first time you stayed over and I made you breakfast, you said ‘actually, I prefer my eggs poached.’” (*disclaimer: nothing wrong with poached eggs, but damn, a woman is making you breakfast and you’re going to complain that she doesn’t know how to poach an egg?)
“I love you, but you won’t call our cat by his name because it’s ‘too gay.’”
“I love you, but when you tried to sweep me off my feet and carry me into the bedroom, you ran me into the doorframe.”
Wendy Atterberry
wrote on February 5 2009 @ 10:09 am: [report]
Those are really funny, Julie.
Here’s another:
I love you, but you don’t refill the Brita pitcher before you put it back in the fridge.
Amelia
wrote on February 5 2009 @ 10:21 am: [report]
I love you but telling people you have “west coast girlfriends too” is pretty effing lame, loser.
CuteCora
wrote on February 5 2009 @ 10:26 am: [report]
I love you but lately the sound of your voice erks me.. maybe this wont work… SAID BY ME!
D-mann
wrote on February 5 2009 @ 12:36 pm: [report]
I love you but the word IDEA and IDEAL are not the same word. or
I love you but not telling me the whole truth doesn’t help me.
Nice Eyes
wrote on February 6 2009 @ 01:47 pm: [report]
I love you but…being unemployeed, lazy, and smoking pot all day does not equal to YOU moving to be in the same city as me. Said by me.
skarlettgrl
wrote on February 7 2009 @ 01:14 am: [report]
I love you, but… your hobbit feet make me cringe!
lilo
wrote on February 7 2009 @ 06:54 am: [report]
I love you, but…I love my dog too, and she’s sleeping on the bed!
mikeyellenlee
wrote on February 7 2009 @ 07:56 pm: [report]
I love you but you knocked up my best friend.
Megs
wrote on February 7 2009 @ 08:13 pm: [report]
I love you but you are just NOT that into me.
lanceypantsy
wrote on February 8 2009 @ 09:37 am: [report]
i love you but, you’re 25 years old, and you get grounded if you don’t go to church on sundays. you need to get out of your parents house, and out of their control.
hawaiianpeach
wrote on February 8 2009 @ 09:38 pm: [report]
I love you but that’s not enough.
Angieliz
wrote on February 8 2009 @ 09:49 pm: [report]
I love you but I don’t trust you around my girlfriends. And I’m pretty sure I hate you as a person.
Little Lamb
wrote on February 9 2009 @ 03:17 pm: [report]
I love you, but…it’s not always my fault there is a communication problem.
leesha
wrote on February 9 2009 @ 04:27 pm: [report]
I love you, but you have to get over your ex sometime…she’s just using you.
shelleatualive
wrote on February 10 2009 @ 11:33 am: [report]
I love you, but you will have to let me know Im not wasting my time soon…
Stop being terrified we are moving too fast, and realize that Im terrified we aren’t moving at all…
shelleatualive
wrote on February 10 2009 @ 11:39 am: [report]
oh yea, also
“I love you, but your unwillingness to discuss the future has forced me to prepare myself for the day we aren’t together anymore..”
Im pretty positive you love me with everything in you, and reading that would hurt you, but would you really drop dead if you talked about your feelings?