How’d You Meet Your Last Significant Other?
Posted by: Annika Harris
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11:00AM, Friday November 7th 2008
We all know dating is difficult, but man hunting is even more difficult. Sure there’s a bunch of advice out there on where to meet men, but can you really trust advice that hasn’t been put into practice? So we thought it would be helpful to let you know how we met our last significant others. And there’s definitely something to be said about hooking up with a friend of a friend. In the spirit of helping a fellow sister, tell us and other readers how you met your last main squeeze, in the comments.
I met my last significant other…
...through a friend. He was her coworker.
...through a friend, but he was an acquaintance until we hung out at a bar.
...at a New Year’s party, where we made out when the ball dropped and then somehow were together for nearly five years from then on.
...on my college campus. We hung out in a large group.
...at a bar. And we’ve been friends ever since.
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Blueclover56
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:21 am: [report]
As cliched as it is, at work. Though we started as friends. We have remained friends after the split.
Leese
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:21 am: [report]
I met my future husband on Craiglist, believe it or not.
Olivia
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:32 am: [report]
I met my ex through my best friend, who lives in another state. We were kinda sorta together for almost 2 years, even w/ the long distance. I don’t know if I reccommend that though…
Pixie
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:38 am: [report]
I met my ex at work. He was in an entirely different department (yawn: accounting).
Perceptible
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:40 am: [report]
My ex husband introduced us! My ex husband was dating my BF’s nanny. (It works for us but it’s so not recommended, just sharing for laughs.)
Amberly
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:42 am: [report]
My boyfriend and I met at the library where we went to school - then we sent letters back and forth over the summer before getting together the next fall.
It’s been 3 years and counting.
Kiki T
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 11:45 am: [report]
at a bar…like many of them in the past…
Rosa
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:03 pm: [report]
Through my best friend, he is her cousin. I already know all her family, so we missed all of the awkward meet the parents moments!
Bittermelon
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:15 pm: [report]
He was my sister’s friend from college, she brought him home with a bunch of other friends. When I went to visit her at college (I was still in hs), I jumped him. Almost 8 years later we got married and now it’s been over 19 years since we first met. As we both like to say, 19 very LONG years
Elle
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:26 pm: [report]
at work…I was his intern…scandalous.
HarlemGirl
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:32 pm: [report]
At the Fat Black Pussycat
Pipi
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:38 pm: [report]
I actually met my last ex on myspace. But funny part is, he went to the same hs as my bestfriend and I was at many events that he was. And then a few years later I worked with a girl who’s brother was his bestfriend. She always invited me to parties at her house which he was at but I never met and he randomly found me on myspace.
I used to think it was fate that we finally met, but now I think the universe why trying to keep us apart but failed.
Avah
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:49 pm: [report]
We hung out with the same group of people and were good friends for 4 yeara before we began dating - that was 5 years ago now and we are still going strong. He is my best friend and I must say how nice it was to date someone who I already knew inside-out.
Raeann
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:52 pm: [report]
okcupid.com! We’re getting married next August.
Reena
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 12:59 pm: [report]
My current BF I met at a New Year’s Eve party. It was his best friend’s and the best friend’s girlfriend’s party. and my roommate was the best friend of the girlfriend… kinda complex, but whatever. It ended up getting REALLY complicated because they all wanted to know what me & my BF were up to all the time, ugh!
but other exes I basically met through friends. Met a guy through my bff’s study abroad program, another through a friend who brought somebody to a party, etc etc.
gillybeans
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 02:06 pm: [report]
One in the campus library after I ogled him for a while, one through the restaurant we worked at together, one through my ex-bf (they were friends but not afterwards…definitely not recommended) and current one through work scene/same social scene/his ex and my ex were good friends. Gross, I need a chemical shower.
woo
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 02:23 pm: [report]
At a 4th of July party. I didn’t even want to go, but my friend dragged me to the party so she could meet up with a guy she was casually dating. My guy’s opening line was “Would you like a cheeseburger?” It’s like he KNEW me! My friend and the guy she was seeing broke it off a couple weeks later, but my boyfriend and I are still going strong 15 months later! And our favorite date nights are checking out new burger joints around the city in search for the perfect cheeseburger.
carolina
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 02:46 pm: [report]
@Lisa Marie
I also met my future husband in craiglist. Although I placed a platonic friends ad for a distraction from a recent breakup not a dating ad. He responded and we hung out for about 2 months and got to know each other. I could never get over my ex and got back together with him (horrible mistake). One year later, we met up again and became good friends. (even tho I was still dating the horrible ex) After I realized that my ex was a waste of my time, I dumped him and we got back together (not at first but when I was entirely over the ex) and are planning a wedding next year.
It feels odd to say that I met him online, but for some people it works. And trust me, not all the people you meet online are creeps. You meet creeps at bars too! I just got sick of the bar scene and wanted to try something new. Especially since I needed a huge distraction for a breakup. We still joke around about craigslist but you find lots of great things on there! apts, jobs, and apparently husbands!
Em
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 03:25 pm: [report]
I met my ex in grad school. It was great while it lasted…but now I get to see him every single day. I’d try dating in a larger pool.
OnlineGal
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 03:26 pm: [report]
I met my current boyfriend of a year and a half on eHarmony. It actually did work for me. Although, my friends have had mixed results with it. So, I guess it depends on the individual and how serious a relationship you are looking for. Definitely not the place to look for casual relationships.
Nice Eyes
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 03:43 pm: [report]
I met my ex at a friend’s friend’s graduation party. It didn’t last very long but the crazy thing is we went to middle school together and didn’t even know it (we were both going to college in a different city at the time). It’s a small world after all…
jules
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 03:59 pm: [report]
LOL.. I meet mine thru my ex husband . . which when I met him we were still married. Oh nothing happened then. He waited until we divorces and almost a year after that he finally asked me out.. Has been a awesome 4 + months
Karmatir
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 04:05 pm: [report]
On Plentyoffish.com. Its worked so far. Strange. The ex before him was myspace and before him okcupid…I need to get an “offline” life.
HitOrMissJudy
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 04:05 pm: [report]
I met mine online. My friends fixed me up with sociopaths or nearly homeless people and the only men I ever met in bars were alkies. So online was a godsend for me.
rochelle
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 04:44 pm: [report]
at a halloween party last year:)
bislane
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 05:45 pm: [report]
Lisa Marie: yes! i was hoping someone would say it before me…
miss dee
wrote on November 7 2008 @ 07:16 pm: [report]
OkCupid.
Buuuuut he just dumped me about a half hour ago so take that how you will.
juliePS
wrote on November 8 2008 @ 08:48 am: [report]
the guy I went out with last night I originally met playing card games in a coffee shop! It was cute. Mostly though, I meet people online. I meet people through friends but I typically try not to date them because I hate that—every time we break up, it’s then a great big friend trainwreck.
I also meet a lot of people at concerts.
Meg
wrote on November 8 2008 @ 08:55 am: [report]
I met my current guy and the last one both through friends. Luckily both (last guy and friend) moved away and out of my social circle before things could get awkward.
I am happy with my current guy, we have been together almost 2 years.
Alex
wrote on November 8 2008 @ 07:09 pm: [report]
Glad to see I’m not the only one to meet my current on OkCupid! It’s a little embarrassing to admit that, but I’m glad I found him.
abbylyn
wrote on November 8 2008 @ 08:12 pm: [report]
My most recent ex I met at work (and then had to work with him every day for a week straight right after he broke up with me). Before that… I moved halfway across the country and moved in with 2 guys I had never met before… ended up dating one of them for 3 years. Funny how life works!
Sarah
wrote on November 8 2008 @ 11:13 pm: [report]
I met my current boyfriend when meeting a then-friend before college. He was my then-friends roommate at the time. While that friendship didn’t last, I’m very happy to stay this relationship has and has been going strong for over a year now.
Christie
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 05:03 pm: [report]
I met my last boyfriend at a bar. I stepped up next to him and started a conversation and before the night was over he asked for my number. He called a few days later and we dated for about two months. Didn’t work out but we are still friends.
anne
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 05:41 pm: [report]
public. transportation. Found him on the metro and didn’t let go… Best one I’ve picked yet!
Vidya
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 08:23 pm: [report]
I actually met my boyfriend of nine months on Craigslist… he posted an ad under “strictly platonic” and offered to buy movie tix and dinner. As a broke grad student, I was all about a free movie. I walked away getting to know a really great guy.
TouchDown
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 08:52 pm: [report]
I meet my better half at a fast food joint. I worked their and a then-friend told me that guy had a crush on her. Knowing she was a compulsive liar and being me i challenged that and tried to get his number but she made him drive off (i worked the drive thru) so the nxt time he came i was like “you know you want my number and i want your so here is mines and give me yours” he did and i gloated and she got mad and told me he’d always compare me to her…..i’m 5’1 95lbs brown skinned with pretty eyes and can move my body like a snake and every other boneless critter u can name…she 5’2 about 200 sumthing really dark skinned with crooked teeth and the front ones pop out AND she’s a compulsive liar…..Who is he comparing?
So three years later we’re living together with our beautiful daughter and planning on haveing atleast 4 more children (although i’d prefer more)”
Righteous Metal Broad
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 10:26 pm: [report]
Oddly enough, I met him on a dating site specifically for geeks.
yay for geeklove…
ditch_witch
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 10:40 pm: [report]
Met my current boyfriend while in a smoking area outside where we both lived. Played poker that night and have been together for 9 months ever since.
Onotse
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 11:10 pm: [report]
i was walking down the street and he whistled. i know its cheesy but the whistle was kinda cute sorta lame but it worked. its been a year
Laughing cheetah
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 11:53 pm: [report]
I met my current in his workshop. He is a custom woodworker, and I went in to see if he could make a design I had i mind. He did !! We were attracted to each other instantly, He’s my best friend, and all that I’ve ever desired in a mate. Three years and going strong.
Wubba Wubba
wrote on November 9 2008 @ 11:55 pm: [report]
I’m a college professor and he was (an older student) in my class. He seemed obnoxious at first but eventually I realized that he was genuine and kind. We started talking one night after class and forbidden love ensued. It turned out OK; we’re celebrating our first wedding anniversary soon.
Lisa
wrote on November 10 2008 @ 02:58 am: [report]
I met my husband New Years Eve,10 yrs ago.After I walked out on my husband of 13 yrs (the Cheater). My best friends had a party and his brother showed up, I Got really drunk, told him if he caught me, he could have me. he did catch me .we have been married almost 9 year now, and have a beautiful daughter. Sometimes you gotta do what you feel is right and the future will unfold.
heather
wrote on November 10 2008 @ 09:29 am: [report]
my story is weird…my boyfriend first saw me coming out of the woods….from relieving *ahem* pressure after consuming too many beers in a traffic jam that was backed up for hours (hey i live in the south). I had a friend with me, and he still laughs about it. A few months later we met up through friends but didn’t start really talking until after him and one of my buddies decided to prank call me along with other people. Apparently i was the only one that played back with the text pranks. We have been together ever since. He says he likes me because he has no clue what i will end up doing next.
joy
wrote on November 10 2008 @ 01:19 pm: [report]
My current bf and I met on vacation. We were at a really popular climbing destination where lots of people from an online community (which is mostly based on real-life friendships) ended up going that time of year. We hadn’t talked beforehand, so it wasn’t quite an ‘online dating’ thing. We just met and then kept the friendship going online (he had a gf at the time). It turns out that after 2 weeks of amazing chemistry we both went home and thought “THAT is what I’ve been looking for.”
The next year we went back to the same spot for vacation and after not having found anyone as awesome back home, started dating long distance and kept it up (despite me going to Mongolia for 3 months) until we moved in together in AZ after I graduated out east (always wanted to move west). This Christmas will be 3 years together.
Rochelle
wrote on November 10 2008 @ 03:37 pm: [report]
a friend set us up; she invited him to a bar with the guy shed been seeing for a few weeks. they broke up a few days later, but me and him are still together; he treats me like a princess.
i guess you can find a decent guy in a bar afterall
bricandy
wrote on November 10 2008 @ 09:38 pm: [report]
we lifeguarded over the summer together on our breaks from school… i thought he was cute and had just broken up with my super lame boyfriend from college and had no intention of dating anyone but he was absolutely perfect in so many ways…
5 mo. later we are fabulous and are counting down until he is finished with grad school and i’m done with undergrad so we can be together all the time (we are 4 hours apart)
Reagan
wrote on November 11 2008 @ 09:44 am: [report]
I’m a radio dj and I met my ex through a contest our radio station put on called “Hometown Hotties” (he was a contestant and I was a judge)...interestingly enough, he didn’t win but came in second…it was definitely infatuation at first sight.
BKjazzed
wrote on November 11 2008 @ 02:17 pm: [report]
I picked him after screening scanning hundreds of profiles on match.com.
Lyndsay
wrote on November 11 2008 @ 04:02 pm: [report]
I met my boyfriend at a New Years eve party almost two years ago. We were both dragged there at the last minute because we had nothing else to do. I was convinced to drive the hour to go w/my best friend to the party, and he went with his brother (who I was supposed to be set up with). Good prevailed over evil so to speak, and we ended up drunk, making out on the floor. When we woke up still cuddling on the floor in our make shift sleeping area, we never looked back. He’s the greatest guy in the world, and the keeper of the stars certainly lined them up for me that night. Thank goodness he thinks the same thing…
shannac02
wrote on November 11 2008 @ 05:46 pm: [report]
I met my most recent ex two years ago at 2:00 am in a taco bell parking lot… that should have been such a red flag as to the fate of our relationship… oh well, two years of a hard learned lesson…
ghotisgirl
wrote on November 11 2008 @ 05:50 pm: [report]
I met my current love at work.I hired him and fell in love about 3 months later…then he kicked my now ex-husband out of my house,forced him to leave the state and we have been together ever since.Ex-hubby liked to talk with his fists and current love wiped away many many tears and bandaged many wounds.As scary as it was,it was the best thing to ever happen to me.Had I not been so afraid of the hubby,I may not have wanted to work so much,therefore never meeting current love.Odd how things like this happen.Other than not beating the heck out of the ex,I wouldn’t change a day in the past 2+ years!It is such a joy to know that pain is gone forever.
angel
wrote on November 12 2008 @ 07:10 am: [report]
I MET MY CURRENT BOYFRIEND AT A GAS STATION AFTER HE FLIRTED WITH ME,THEN I WALKED BACKED OUTSIDE TO FIND HIM TALKING TO SOMEONE ELSE SO I YELLED AT HIM AND TOLD HIM ALL MEN WERE DOGS!(I WAS HAVING A BAD NIGHT) NEEDLESS TO SAY HE CONVINCED ME ALL GUYS WERE NOT DOGS, WE TALKED FOR 4 HOURS AND WERE STILL TOGETHER I FOUND OUT HES A GREAT GUY:)TREATS ME WITH LOTS OF RESPECT.