How To Tactfully Hit On A Cute Guy At Thanksgiving Dinner
Posted by: ShawnTe Pierce
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11:00AM, Thursday November 26th 2009
Thanksgiving is a time to spend with family and friends. Sometimes this family event may have an unexpected guest: a cute, single guy. When such a treat comes your way, seize the moment in a feminine, ladylike fashion.
Seating. Right away, you will want to be seated next to this hottie; however, this is a bad idea. A major part of flirting is conversation and body language. Both of these are difficult to display if you’re sitting side by side. Try positioning yourself across from him for the best effect.
Introductions. If introductions have not been made before reaching the table, take this as an opportunity to place yourself on his radar. Before you take your seat, introduce yourself and offer him your hand to shake. When he shakes your hand, hold his gaze and smile. You should disengage from the handshake first so you don’t come on too strong (a girl who won’t let go is creepy). Glance down as you take your seat, then back up again at him with a slight smile on your lips and in your eyes.
Conversation. Of course you want to make small talk with this guy. However, there are other people at the dinner, so talking only to the hottie will come across as too obvious and quite rude; plus, your uncles will probably tease you endlessly for such conspicuous flirting. Start a conversation with the people sitting next to you. Check to see if he is listening, and then include him in the discussion. If he makes an interesting comment, slightly narrow your eyes to show you are paying attention, and nod. When you see opportunities to do so, interject a response to what he says.
Physical contact. If a serving dish containing an item of food you like is near him, ask him to pass it to you, and gently let your hand brush against his as he sets it down. Or stretch your legs under the table to “accidentally” give him a gentle kick. To drive this home, it is best to slowly glance up at him smiling and mouth or whisper that you’re sorry. After all, it is an accident.
Even when you’re flirting, you should show everyone seated respect. Remember what Usher said he likes: “a lady in the street and a freak in the bed.” The dinner table is not the bedroom, so act like a lady.
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freepeople1986
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 11:42 am: [report]
Why would there be a random cute guy at a family function?
Goldfinch86
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 12:01 pm: [report]
I know thats what I was thinking, with any luck it will turn out to be a cousin that you haven’t seen in 10 years and you’ll act the fool hitting on them. Gross.
powplz
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 12:24 pm: [report]
Uh, you guys realize that a lot of people celebrate with friends and (or instead of) family, right?
mayorbubbles
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 12:45 pm: [report]
I don’t think it’ll work for thanksgiving but it MAY work for other social functions. niceee
Goldfinch86
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 12:45 pm: [report]
Joy it’s a joke go have a beer.
melissaann
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 12:49 pm: [report]
This is sound advice, rather than the “How to hook up” or whatever it was posted by YourTango. And this also makes me want pumpkin pie.
powplz
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 01:25 pm: [report]
@goldfinch - the hooch run is gonna have to wait til after my last pie is done. but don’t worry, I’m on it.
OutOfLine
wrote on November 26 2009 @ 01:55 pm: [report]
@melissaann
I’m glad i’m not the only one who was checking out the pie photo
adamjs
wrote on November 27 2009 @ 01:29 am: [report]
See also: how to flirt during Uncle Frank’s funeral, little Susie’s Christening, little Johnny’s first day of school, Grandma’s 80th birthday, and other family events.
majicksand
wrote on November 27 2009 @ 01:05 pm: [report]
I’m so glad I’m naturally outgoing. If I were shy and tried to do all of this stuff, I’d end up crying in a corner and begging someone to kill me. Can you just picture a “novice” trying to figure out how much to talk and what to say, most likely mumbling these tips to herself under her breath? Then she gets nervous asking him to pass the gravy and fumbles it, so it spills all over her, him and the table. Then she nearly cracks his shin trying to “gently” kick him under the table…
People who are capable of the level of flirting described in this article already know how to do it.
Professional flirters only; don’t try this at home.
bogart4017
wrote on November 28 2009 @ 09:48 am: [report]
See also: previous postings related to totally obvious clues that go over mens heads.
I can just see me now on the ride home asking one of my brothers “who was the talky dame that kept kicking me under the table?”
Yodar Critch
wrote on December 1 2009 @ 12:54 pm: [report]
I echo the other comments about a holiday like this and meeting a cute single. I guess if the host invites single people, it might work.
But the chance of hitting on someone who is in a relationship with a family member is too risky. Nothing wrong with talking to him/her and getting to know them, but starting out flirting at a “family” holiday?
powplz
wrote on December 1 2009 @ 01:00 pm: [report]
@yodar - seriously, go to a dinner that isn’t family centered and it’s not that hard (why this article is written from a how to do this at a family gig is beyond me). If I were single, I could have hooked up at my Thanksgiving (I’m not, so I didn’t!). The host of the party absolutely did though. Talk about happy holidays