How To Date A Tall Chick

FrzKey
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:16 pm: [report]

So… Do we get a how to date short women now?

bethlynn00
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

Yeah, I actually think tall women are more insecure about dating short men than short men are about dating tall women, so this article could easily have been addressed to the tall women rather than men.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

I’m all over the Cheesy lines. These are for you Susannah.

“You must be a model!”
“Now there’s a tree I’d like to climb.”
“I could eat my way to the top.”

Chebs
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:22 pm: [report]

I would like to add to #3, do not see if your face is in line with my cleavage when standing.  It’s not funny, and you’re not original.

mokti
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 01:36 pm: [report]

I’ve never had a problem with tall women…

@Chebs: Sometimes (oftentimes with me) its not intentional. I remember one gal was extremely offended I was staring at her cleavage when, despite how lovely it really was, all I was doing was staring off into space (IE, thinking) and her chest was just in my (defocused) eyeline.

Heh, she never forgave me either. Spoke to my date a few weeks later when he happened to be in the same bar… 30 seconds later… *poof*

Ah well… I’m a bit bitter, of course, but not because she was tall. Certainly not.

MsMami
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 02:23 pm: [report]

Love #5. I am a bit taller than my Boyfriend, but he doesnt mind, he feels like he won the lottery. Im the one who is a bit insecure and uncomfortable.
#4.. I hate when my feet dangle of the bed and his dont! (ok im exaggerating) But this is an issue for me.. but the sex makes up for it.

Princess_Diana
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 02:41 pm: [report]

my ex was shorter than me and was always insecure about the height difference.. especially since im around 6ft in heels. #5 was always an issue. he cared more about what other thought than anything else.. and the tall jokes.. please. i have heard them all lol. Honestly there is nothing hotter than a tall woman that is confident.

B1ll
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 02:51 pm: [report]

Amen to you Princess Diana, on your last sentence.

spanishbutterfly
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 03:29 pm: [report]

i had this one dipshit follow behind me with a ruler tryin to measure how long my legs were… wtf was that supposed to impress me?? Im more confident with my height now then when i was younger thanks to my first pair of stilettos{i felt soo super sexy in them}. Lil boys are always mean to the tall undevolped girl, i was a late bloomer.

HappyDude
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 03:37 pm: [report]

I’m 6’2”. I dated a woman who is 6” for a little over a month. We broke up because she wasn’t over her ex, blah blah blah…

I can actually say that I like kissing women who are only a couple inches shorter than me, either biologically or in heels. As for sex, equal heights make some positions a lot easier, although a man just can’t throw a 6’ woman around the same way he can a 5’3” woman of similar proportion. Most shorter women seem to perceive taller women as more glamorous and sophisticated.

I theory personality should matter more than height for dating, but given that experience, I don’t think I could date a woman who is taller than me, although it’s never actually come up. Not surprisingly, the majority of women I’ve dated are in that “average” 5’5” to 5’7” range. I have a 5’8” friend who gets genuinely angry when she sees 5-foot-nothing ladies with 6’+ dudes. She wants a man who is taller than her, and can’t understand why shorter women can’t go after all the attractive, single, 5’6” men out there.

Matt
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 04:10 pm: [report]

I’m a tall guy…somewhere between 6’5” and 6’6” depending on what I ate for lunch. Oddly enough, I’ve heard all the same lines, especially the basketball one. I have what I consider to be a somewhat brilliant response….I simply say, “Depends. Do you play miniature golf?” As if our size always determined our destiny. Seriously.

Anyway, great post. I think the key is to not freak out over the height. Easy for me. Since I’m so tall, I use the same lines on tall women that I use on everyone else…I have yet to meet a woman taller than me, although I’m sure they do exist. I will mention that while I agree with your comment on the horizontal mambo, kissing while standing is obviously much easier if there is less of a height difference. The goodnight kiss is much less awkward if it’s comfortable.

joyful
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 04:38 pm: [report]

@bethlynn…what exactly are you basing that on? In 99% of cases I’d say tall women don’t date shorter men because the man is intimidated/uncomfortable with it. I fail to see why you think this article should’ve been directed at tall women instead - we’ve been tall our whole lives, so we kinda already know how to treat ourselves. But thanks.

Anyway…THANK YOU for writing this, Susannah! I’m the same height as you, 6’1, and it’s never ceased to amaze me how every guy in every nightclub/shopping mall/street corner in the world thinks he’s the first to inform me that I am, in fact, tall. If that’s the only line you can come up with, dude…keep walking. Although I do love when guys just walk up to me and say “You’re tall…that’s hot.” Haha, that one is ok. And it’s so true that all we want is to be treated like a girl. My boyfriend is great for this - he loves when I wear heels, and tells me all the time that shorter girls would kill to have my legs.

And you’re definitely right about the sex, I’ve been with guys from 6’8 to probably about 5’10 and I’ve never noticed any problems either way…although it is nice to be with a super tall/strong guy who can throw me around and make me feel tiny, but that’s only happened a couple times. My longtime boyfriend is the same height as me and also the most well-endowed of any guy I’ve slept with…so I guess point #5 is true too!

becknee
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 05:21 pm: [report]

@bethlynn I disagree that the height hangup is more often the woman’s. I think @joyful has it right - many tall women are a little gun-shy because short men have unloaded insecurities on them before. Even at 5’9”, which I will readily admit is not that tall, I’ve been down that road - with a guy only an inch shorter than me.

This, to me, is a strong argument that it’s less about the size discrepancy between the partners than it is about the magnitude of the insecure partner’s issues with the size thing.

That said, size preference doesn’t make you a bad person - I’ve never dated a guy with whom I had more than an inch height difference. I just prefer being with someone my own size. It would only be a problem if I were intimidated to be with someone of a really different height - and I think that principle applies to guys as well.

jessie6121
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 06:26 pm: [report]

I am in love with my man… well he doesn’t know that yet, but I am, and he is five inches shorter than me.  I am 5’10.5 and he has to look up to kiss me!  We have known each other since we were 13, he lived up the street from me and was in a band.  He was a little (haha) punk rock boy growing up.  Now he’s practically a pro snowboarder and still heavily involved in the music scene.  He has become a man, and more of a man than any tall guy that I’ve ever been with.  When I first began seeing him I was a litttle self conscious, for him and I. But he’s such an amazing lover and has admitted to being infatuated with me since we were young (and yes, he is well endowed below the waist).  He knew even then that he deserved me and that his height was of no importance.

I do agree with the notion that maybe short guys haven’t dated as much due to lack of height and that’s why they tend to treat women better.  However, my man hasn’t had any problems dating (taller women even) and holds more non-superficial confidence than I can imagine.  I have always prided myself on being a very tall and beautiful woman yet I have never found a man who can truly love me.  My short man has finally done just that
When he holds me as we walk down the street he knows that I can be with a taller guy, but that they can’t possibly give me what he does.  It’s such a turn on.  He’ll say, “those guys just totally checked you out. I don’t blame ‘em,” with a smile.  Then I’ll grab his hand and he’ll lean up and kiss me with the most amazing kiss I’ve ever had in my life.

news_kat
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 06:42 pm: [report]

Find a tall friend to go out with.  For some reason, guys go crazy when there’s two of you.

retro chic
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 06:54 pm: [report]

“...although a man just can’t throw a 6’ woman around the same way he can a 5’3” woman…”

We shorter girls reeeaaally appreciate that one too. I guess a girl can’t win, ie, have human, nonobjectified standing (pun intended) unless she’s in the middle height range.

DancingGeek
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 07:58 pm: [report]

@Matt OMG that’s a great line!

Great list , susannah!

I’m <only> 5’9” and I get called amazon. (I do love my heels)

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 10:02 pm: [report]

I guess I’m a liberated male. I don’t see the problem with dating a woman who is a lot taller than I am. (I’m 5’10”.) I’ve been attracted to tall women, to short women, and to average height women. I also don’t get why women go to all the trouble of wearing high heels. It seems so painful and uncomfortable and awkward, but I guess I don’t know since I never tried it myself.

@Matt You could also ask if the guy if he’s a jockey.

_jsw_
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 10:19 pm: [report]

So, in summary, to date tall women, you treat them as women and as fellow human beings.

Hmmm. Odd. I’m not sure I buy it.

squib
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 12:30 am: [report]

I’m a short guy (5’5”) and I LOVE tall women (5’8”+)! Quite frankly (sorry for the language) being with a tall woman makes me feel so pimp! Sadly I have experienced wants gets in my way of seriously dating tall/taller women is their friends. The stigma around being a tall woman it is equaled to the stigma of being a short guy. So my question to you is would you consider dating a guy who was short (-5’7”)?

mmkw
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 02:07 am: [report]

@Matt: My response
(confused look)
“Aren’t you really busy around this time of year?”
“umm ... what?”
“You know ... wrapping Christmas presents?”

@TheUnusualSuspect: I’ve used that line too

@Joyful: I completely agree about liking strong men because it makes me feel smaller. I’m also a 6’1 (maybe more now…) female so making me feel small is a rare thing. It was one of the few things I really liked about my ex, he made my size 11 feet look small, hahaha! On the other hand, I agree that I have no issues dating a shorter man who has the confidence to pull it off. Its when they become uncomfortable that I become uncomfortable…and it all goes downhill.

One thing that no other tall people mentioned that kills me is when people DEMAND that I take off my shoes. So they can see how tall I really am. Because obviously I was lying when I said 6’1.

Loved this entry!

luke15chick
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 07:39 am: [report]

I do back up the need for a short woman article. I am barely 5’2 (ok so I really might be less but never going to admit it) I get a lot of “wow you’re short” (as if I never knew) or “how tall are you?” ( as if that makes me want to date you, already feeling judged) Many comments about me being small, tiny on and on.

majicksand
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 08:09 am: [report]

My sister-in-law is 6’2”.  I don’t think she’s ever been with a guy over 5’10”.  Most of the time it doesn’t seem to matter.  She has made certain allowances though.  When she got married, she wore flats, and he wore a tophat.

I seem to recall her biggest complaints were when she was in school.  Her family is military, so they were “professional new kids”.  She got called “Sasquatch”, there was always somebody wanting to fight her to prove they were the bad-ass, and if she wore the same skirt that everyone else was wearing, she got suspended because it was 4” shorter on her.

At 5’6”, I’ve dated a couple really tall guys.  6’5”/6’6” range.  It was kind of funny to stand a step higher on the porch to kiss goodnight.  One of them came from a whole family of really tall people.  I always felt like a midget with them even though I’m one of the tallest women in my family.  It was comical.  They actually had a warning sign over one of the doors to remind everyone that the clearance was only 6’2”.  That family was way cool.  Too bad the guy was an idiot.

vtgirl1993
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 09:01 am: [report]

HappyDude@ I can completely understand your 5’8 friend. I’m 5’9 and live in DC where it seems most men are around 5’7. Most of my female friends are about 5’5-5’7, so they should be dating those guys since the field is wide open for them. It’s very frustrating as a tall woman who wants to date a tall man to see a 6’2 guy with a 5’1 woman. The only thing I can chalk it up to is that he has issues and a need to dominate. Might not be true for most, but it certainly helps me feel better and less frustrated.

For the record, I have tried dating shorter men. While technically it shouldn’t be an issue, I just don’t find them attractive. I wouldn’t say this goes for all short men, but I have found the ones I’ve dated do have Napolean Complexes which made their personalities unappealing. After about four of them, I swore off short guys.

mce
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 10:35 am: [report]

What about the short girls? I’m 4’10”.

squib
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 11:49 am: [report]

I read these comments about short girls and 1st thought women who are short really never have a problem dating. What Vtgirl said is pretty true. I see tall men with short to very tiny women all the time.
I know a woman who is 4’10 who has never had a problem with meeting guys or dating. Where she does run into problems is in dealing with a world designed for the average height person which makes things like getting something from the top shelf at the store is embarrassing. There is nothing dignified in having to climb up a shelf to reach your favorite cereal at the grocery store. But that’s a whole other topic.

And Vtgirl do you think the guys you’ve dated that were short were aggressive? To say you sworn off people who meet a curtain criteria is acting on a stereo type. It would be similar to saying no to black guys because they’re all gang bangers.

John Thacker
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 12:25 pm: [report]

Short guys (including myself, 5’5.5”) get at least as upset at the short girl/tall guy combination as tall girls.  After all, plenty of short or average height guys have a tall girl fetish.  (Plenty of guys have a short girl fetish, too.)  That can certainly be annoying, I’ll grant, but it’s better than the opposite.  Pretty much no girls specifically seek out short guys, and many of them refuse to date shorter guys straight out.  jessie6121 is more the exception than the rule.

It’s just always seemed to me that tall girls at least get advantages to go with any disadvantages, but for short guys it’s pretty much all disadvantages.

bogart4017
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 12:45 pm: [report]

Lucky for me i stayed real short right up to my last year in high school so reading this post was like a stroll down memory lane for me. The above rules were what i had to live by all those years because EVERY girl was taller than me. In a funny way i kinda miss those days because once i made 6 feet 1 it was a wrap as far as taller women were concerned. But if you read those rules above real close you will never have a problem dating a taller woman. I was never lonely.

@msmami—if you don’t want your feet to dangle off the bed sleep as if you are pulling your knees close to your chest(almost like a fetal position). This also contains as well as throws out body heat. I’ve had to do it for years and believe me your partner will love you for it.

Kiki T
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 12:52 pm: [report]

OMG, I AM SO JEALOUS! I always wanted to be tall!!!!!! Even in heels, standing on a table, I would still be short! WAH!

bigred1961
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 01:22 pm: [report]

I am 6’4”, 240 pounds and have dated short women (5’4”) and tall women (6’2”). My ex-wife is 5’11”. Physically, for me, taller works better, but pretty much requires a king size bed!
I like being able to slow dance cheek to cheek and that ain’t possible with a woman a foot shorter then me.
Plus my size thirteen feet seems to make tall women feel small and petite.
Susannah, if you ever make it to Austin, Texas, look me up!

beretta
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 01:25 pm: [report]

As a 6’3” guy,I am also asked if I play basketball or how is the weather up there.
If someone munchkin asks if I play basketball,
I say no,are you a jockey?
As for the weather up here,spit and tell them it’s raining.

majicksand
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 01:50 pm: [report]

Is it always insulting to ask a really tall guy how tall he is?  I do it all the time.  I don’t use dumb lines though.  It’s usually something like, “wow, you are tall.  That’s awesome.  How tall are you anyway?”  I’ve never gotten the impression anyone was offended.  I also ask people where their family name comes from if it’s unusual.  For me it’s just a conversation starter the same as when people ask if I’m a natural redhead.  That doesn’t bother me as long as it’s respectful and doesn’t devolve into, “does the carpet match the drapes?”

hlnbabe
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 01:55 pm: [report]

I’m 6’1” as well, and to be honest, I’m totally cool with my height. It made me a stellar athlete, command presence, and allowed rare freedom from being scared of “dangerous situations”.

That being said, it’s not insecurity or anything. At the end of the day, a woman just wants to feel sexy. Period. A lot of women find sexiness comes from being small.

I wear 3 inch heels, I wear whaevert I want, I don’t care. Why? Because I feel sexy no matter what. I’ve dated 6’5” men and 5’10” men, at the end of the day, as long as I was happy that’s all that matter.

When you’ve got a great personality and looks to boot, guys don’t care. And if they do, $10 all their girlfriends look identical (clearly a type).

Ferd Berfel
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 02:10 pm: [report]

“4. We’re all the same height in bed.”

Yeah. Right. When you’re nose-to-nose, your toes is in it; when you’re toes-to-toes, you’re nose is in it.

tenderlumpling
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 03:19 pm: [report]

@FrzKey: You know, that would be a FANTASTIC article. And I’m 4’11”, so I’ve heard the whole spiel before: “Are you a Hobbit?” “Jeez, how short are you?” “Can we have hot midget-sex after the movie?” (Okay, I think the Hobbit line is cute, but the others… Blech.)

spatula
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 03:37 pm: [report]

I’m 5’6”, and always seem to have men in my life right around the same height. SOmetimes it bothers them (not me ) when I wear my beloved 4 inch heels and am taller, but it’s never been a big deal. However, when I was a bridesmaid in July an my girlfriend (the bride) asked me which of her groomsmen I wanted to be paired with for the walk, my only requirement was “taller than me in my wedding heels”! But that was for the pictures.

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:01 pm: [report]

@mmkw I wish I could take credit for the “Are you a jockey?” line, but I got it from the HBO show Dream On some years ago!

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:07 pm: [report]

@mce Short girls can be just as cute and sexy (and kind and funny and intelligent and passionate and interesting) as tall girls and average height girls.

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:18 pm: [report]

I guess people will always find a reason to stare, to wonder what a tall girl like her sees in a short guy like him, what a thin guy like him sees in a voluptuous girl like her, blah, blah, blah… Let ‘em stare. And wonder. Maybe they’ll get it someday, maybe not. If not, that’s their problem.

Jenbug
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 04:29 pm: [report]

Why I wish I were tall

* you don’t have alter every pair of jeans you buy   because there is 5” of extra material at  
  the bottom.
* you don’t get stepped on in crowds
* you can walk about three times as fast
* If you gain 10 pounds your pants size doesn’t change

Oasce
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 06:01 pm: [report]

“Honestly, I don’t totally get why men get so flummoxed about wooing skyscraper-sized women.”

Well honestly, very few non-tall guys get this chance because most women are extremely biased about height.  It’s just habit, because your average tall woman treats a guy shorter than her as if he’s offending her just by existing.  Perhaps you don’t, but the vast majority of women are incredibly shallow when it comes to height.

Antiquity
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 08:33 pm: [report]

Oh my god! I love this article… Totally made my night. I’m 6’0 (got an official dr. reading a couple days ago) and I the hear dumb sports things all the time. I don’t mind it so much as weird creepers who have like an amazon fetish. I don’t hate my height nor do I love it. I’m just… myself. This list is true though.  Just treat me like any other girl and no one gets stepped on.

saysay
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 08:55 pm: [report]

I used to be totally against dating a guy who’s shorter than me, then I realized it doesn’t really matter… If he’s man enough it won’t even be an issue.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 09:30 pm: [report]

Well I’m not uber tall…more like 5’ 10”....well more like 5’ 9 1/2”....and I’d kinda like to toss a lady around…so let me dammit.

badbilly
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 09:32 pm: [report]

I was married to a tall chick
when we were nose to nose my toes was in it,
and when we were toe to toe my nose was in it.

retro chic
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 09:58 pm: [report]

@CheeeeEEEEse: For maximum rush, just make sure she flops lifeless in your arms with vacant doll-eyes staring back at you as she lets out a sigh…
Oh wait… it is a doll. With an air-leak.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 10:01 pm: [report]

@retro chic: You should see the awesome comic Air Doll. You would be more correct that you would know….yes, ew.

retro chic
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 10:12 pm: [report]

I 100% trust your word on that, @CheeeeEEEEse…

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on September 30 2009 @ 10:19 pm: [report]

F*ck, it was “Sky Doll”.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sky_Doll

mmkw
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 12:54 am: [report]

@Jenbug: I actually can’t even buy my jeans in stores, I have to order them online because nobody carries a long enough inseam in stores. I actually wish I could alter my jeans to make them longer but there usually isn’t enough fabric to work with. Even worse, I’ve had a couple of pairs of stretch jeans shorten on me after a few washes (yeah, I’m looking at you Tommy Hilfiger).
As for walking fast, it can be killer in crowded areas. I’ve actually had to leave the farmer’s market before because I was SO irritated with having to take tiny, slow steps the entire time. Not to mention my 5’4 friend yells at me a lot for walking to fast. On the other hand, my 6’1 friend and I like to pretend we’re in a game of frogger in crowds. THAT is fun.

@Majicksand: I don’t think it’s irritating to be asked my height, its when it’s followed up by some lame line like “how was basketball practice?” or when they are blatantly rude about it.

Obloodyhell
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 03:53 am: [report]

As someone who dated a very tall girl in high school (she was 5’11, and I luckily by that time, was 6’. As an added benefit, it was the 70s, when men’s boots[non-Western] were in fashion, so even in heels we were no more than eye to eye).

She was always self-conscious about it—denied she was 5’11 and claimed 5’10 because that was on her DL. She had a tendency to slouch a bit to decrease her height as well, as many tall women seem to do.

The fact is, I suspect, without any actual investigation, that most of the guys who like tall women are leg men (which, if you look into the psychology of it, is supposed to be “the best ones”)—because hey, if a girl is tall, it means she’s probably got more leg than her compatriots, so, wow—long legs??—Naww, I can’t see why any guy would appreciate that!! :oP

To the tall women, I am put in mind of a line I’d heard of as a response when a very tall man gets asked if he plays basketball (yeah, it’s not just women): “No, do you play miniature golf?” A nice bit of snark, it lets you get rid of some of the ire, while making the point as well.

Take comfort in the fact that any guy who likes tall women can’t be too insecure, and is probably a leg man… so you’re getting two freebie downchecks just by the fact that they are interested.

Obloodyhell
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 03:56 am: [report]

> (Okay, I think the Hobbit line is cute, but the others… Blech.)

As long as you don’t think they’re commenting on you having oversized feet, that’s cool. :oD

Obloodyhell
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 04:01 am: [report]

Matt: I didn’t hear it from you—

“No, do you play miniature golf?”
- Uwe Seyler, a 6’9” German attending the ‘International Tall Club’ meeting in California, when asked by a short person if he played basketball. -

I forget where I saw the above. A magazine.
So if you came up with it on your own, power to ya. ;oP

Obloodyhell
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 04:09 am: [report]

> I also don’t get why women go to all the trouble of wearing high heels. It seems so painful and uncomfortable and awkward, but I guess I don’t know since I never tried it myself.

Revealing that he is NOT a leg man :oP

While I can’t say women SHOULD wear heels, there is no question that they usually have a great effect on a woman’s legs—they add apparent length (kind of how a wall of mirrors makes a room *feel* bigger), and they tense the calves and thighs making them look firmer.

They’re generally bad for the feet (esp. given women’s tendencies to wear shoes a size or so too small, anyway) increasing hammer toes, bunions, and other toe problems, and obviously increase the chances of an ankle problem, both catastrophic (i.e., broken) and later in life with general wear and tear.

So it’s a tradeoff. You have to decide, as a woman, which is more valuable to you. It seems as though women side with the better looks, and to hell with the problems. But I can see both sides of it.

tenderlumpling
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 08:27 am: [report]

@Obloodyhell: Nope, I wear a 7-1/2 shoe.

ZoeCat
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 10:04 am: [report]

Okay, I haven’t commented here before, but this set me off a little and I have to say something about it.

Bagging a six-footer is big-game hunting.

Really?  *facepalm*  I am 6’ and I am not “big game” to be “bagged.”  Give me a break.  If a man is thinking that when he’s with a tall woman, he’s really no better than the jackass who asks her how the weather is up there.

How about all of us tall women just move to Holland?  People are taller there; we’ll fit right in!  (No, really, it’s true.  My boyfriend is Dutch and doesn’t give my height a second thought…it’s normal to him.)

vtgirl1993
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 10:59 am: [report]

Jennbug@ Being taller isn’t all that great. I, too, have to alter all my clothes b/c to get them long enough in the leg or top, I have to buy things at least one size larger than I am. Or I need to have things professionally made for me. It get extremely expensive…and I’m not even that tall at 5’9.

People will stomp on you in crowds regardless of height. Trust me, I just went to a U2 concert the other night and no one though anything of crushing my feet or having their boyfriends put them on his shoulders, which completely obstructed my view. Nice!

I don’t get to walk fast b/c I’m usually walking w/ shorter people, who can’t walk as fast. My tall friends and I always joke about finally being able to walk at a normal speed when we’re together.

My size changes if I gain 10lbs. The only good thing about being tall and gaining weight is that people usually can’t tell. The flip side is that you have to lose a lot of weight for people to notice.

Squib@ I also have to deal w/ a world designed for “average” people. Most counters are too short for me and after a long time, it REALLY kills my back and knees to bend over or squat all the time. Also, it’s very annoying to use public bathrooms and always feel like you’re going to fall into the toilet. Being too short or too tall has both its advantages and disadvantages.

Yes, most of the short men I know and/or have dated are very aggressive, which seems to me to be their way of making up for what they lack in height. I can tolerate that in a friendship, but whenever I’ve tried a romantic relationship, it just hasn’t worked out, so experience has made me wary and I shy away from dating them. I’m not saying this is ALL short men—just the ones I know. Personally, I find taller men more attractive anyway, so that’s probably more the reason that I avoid short men romantically.

GudrunBrangwen
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 02:22 pm: [report]

I would just like to add:  Don’t comment endlessly on the woman’s shoe choice, e.g., “why are you wearing heels?  Aren’t you tall enough already?” or “how tall are you in heels?” (how would I know the answer to that?  But I get it all the time.)

I’m 5’10” & wear high heels when I go out, because I love the shoes themselves, and they make my curvy legs look more long & shapely.  I don’t wear pumps to appear taller, I don’t think most women do.  I’ve had lots of dumbass guys comment about how intimidating it is, as if I should wear flats to make them feel more comfortable.  If the shorter ladies get to wear all the fun shoes they want, why shouldn’t I?

“Although a man just can’t throw a 6’ woman around the same way he can a 5’3” woman of similar proportion.”  Says you!  He can if he’s good at it.

freddymerckx
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 02:28 pm: [report]

Tall women , who cares. THAT’S fine. As long as she is not way too self centered or a complete bitch.

Derekj123
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 03:36 pm: [report]

#4 is great…I think a woman with extended legs, means more icing on the cake! Can’t imagine anyone that would take this blessing as an unattractive factor.

jillybeaner
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 04:11 pm: [report]

I’ve been 6’2” since high school and that was in the 70’s.  I have never once wished I were shorter—although having size 12 feet it was REALLY tough finding shoes back then.

As far as comments, hasn’t anyone else ever heard: “Boy,  you’re tall!  Are you gay?”  (For the record, I don’t have very short hair and I don’t look butch, whatever that is.  Please don’t lambast me for being prejudiced!)

painted_lady
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 06:55 pm: [report]

@GudrunBrangwen - Thank you!!! I HATE when people ask me why I would wear heels because I’m already so tall.  I haven’t come up with a sufficient answer for that (any ideas???).

I was really lucky, though, when I was in high school, to have two really great experiences with guys who made me feel great about my height.  One guy was my height exactly and would ask me to wear heels both because he knew I loved them and because he actually liked me to tower over him - he thought it was hot!  The other was a full seven inches shorter than me, and he was incredibly witty and confident.  He came up with a million different height-related jokes - aimed at each of us equally - that eventually got me to lighten up about my insecurity over my height.  No one could ever give us a hard time about the height difference when he was calling me “Amazon freak” and I was calling him “my little gnome” in front of all of our friends.

There are comments about my height that I still find irritating, and there are times that I wish my boyfriend, who’s half an inch taller than me, were either taller or I were shorter, but if given the choice between his being taller and his throwing away all shirts with pit stains, I’d happily reconcile myself to a 5’11 1/2” guy free of pit stains.  Besides, I’ve had some unfortunate experiences with men who were significantly taller than me, and I would gladly take a man who treats me like a queen and needs to stand on a chair to kiss me over a guy who can throw me around like a rag doll and acts like he’s doing me some huge favor by gracing me with his presence any day of the week. 

Also, @John Thacker, I totally feel your pain and can see where that might be the case in some senses, but trust me, there’s something so intriguingly sexy about a short guy who’s got a great sense of humor and confidence regarding his height.  Rock whatever height you stand at - as long as you keep an open mind as well, there’s going to be some Amazon who thinks you’re not just cute but sexy.  I was one of those women - my hot little gnome remains one of the great loves of my life.

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 10:17 pm: [report]

@Obloodyhell No, I am not a “Leg Man.” It isn’t like a cafeteria—it’s the entire package or nothing at all. Do I have favorite aspects of women? Yes, but I would rather find someone who in her entirety is someone I want to be with instead of looking for a woman who has great legs, and then hoping (or assuming) that since she has great legs, everything else will work itself out.

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 10:20 pm: [report]

@painted_lady “I HATE when people ask me why I would wear heels because I’m already so tall.  I haven’t come up with a sufficient answer for that (any ideas???).”

How about: “The better to step on you with.”

beepbeep
wrote on October 8 2009 @ 09:09 am: [report]

I’m glad there are other girls out there who are 6’1 and really not tryin to hide it anytime soon.
I’ve always towered above my peers and I’ve never been self-conscious about it. Though, I have to say, if one more person makes a basketball joke I might consider taking up the sport just to shove this person in the hoop.

I MIGHT venture to disagree about the “same height in bed” thing, because I almost hooked up with a guy who was 5’7, and it was sufficiently awkward.

crazydiamond
wrote on October 14 2009 @ 01:04 pm: [report]

i had to join up in here after reading this just to say thanks for the heads up so to speak. i love tall women and then on heels too??? ohhyeah!

Sky1983
wrote on October 14 2009 @ 09:40 pm: [report]

i love tall women! u don’t need to bea model to be hot, but i always felt attracted to taller women then me 4 some reason. i’m nto a mind reader but i always felt deep admiration from others when i dance with a tall women at the club…not that awkward i you can dance n got the confidence….

Sky1983
wrote on October 14 2009 @ 09:47 pm: [report]

@John Thacker maybe it’s the way you carry yourself and the way you dress? here i see many women with short guys and guys their size.. maybe it’s only in california…a tall women and a short guy is common nowadays i the women is over 5’11

pat21
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 12:23 am: [report]

I agree with one statement before and say that the height “problem” seems to me an American obsession. I only have the European comparison, but they don’t seem to make such a big deal of it. In fact, I am 5.11 (female; European) and just recently (in the U.S.) learned that I am considered not only tall, but big as well (I cannot be more than 138 pounds). Seeing all these comments to this weird essay clarifies a lot.

GirlieKJ
wrote on October 23 2009 @ 10:56 am: [report]

This article is AWESOME! I’m 5’10” and was always a little insecure about being the tall girl (the jokes from family members, friends and jerks in bars never helped). Now I wear heels (admittedly not super high ones)and love it! I’m in a relationship with a man who says he’s 6’2” but he’s really not ha ha and when i wear heels he is def not used to being with a girl his same height but he likes it! a good, true man who loves you will care about you even if you’re 7 feet tall. But height is so minimal in a real relationship. And the tall jokes? they get annoying. When people say “wow you’re tall!” i respond with “WOW you’re OBSERVANT”.
Thanks for writing this article, for both the guys & the tall ladies out there!

DMcLean
wrote on October 27 2009 @ 09:50 am: [report]

I must say that this article has made my day.  I’m a short guy and girlfriend is taller than me.  recently we’ve spoke about dancing and things such, and i’ve been quite self conscious about it.. however your post just confirmed everything she’s already told me - it doesnt matter to her that i am shorter…

I’d like to ask everyone, got any tips on [slow] dancing with taller girls?  i have about 17 left feet so cant dance to start with, but every little helps right? xx

jonathanthom
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 01:39 am: [report]

I am going to have to disagree with the whole we are the same height in bed thing. Anatomically on the whole sure, but unless you stick with the standard face to face sexual positions the a large height differential makes some of the common standby positions such as doggy style a bit more difficult. I am 5’10” and a 6’2” woman is just tall enough to make it impossible to rest on your knees and too short to stand. This leaves you in a semi-bent leg position which is not only uncomfortable it can become quite taxing. The 69 position can also be quite strenuous for the taller partner if the torso height difference is significant. It makes the whole one leg up and against the wall next to impossible without a stepping stool. Now dont get me wrong I LOVE TALL women. It drives me crazy. When I look at a women I like to see someone that can pin you down and keep you there. Not butch bertha but a beautiful, attractive and tall women. Just my two cents… You probably wondering if I love tall women so much then what do I do? I get a freakin’ stepping stool.

dlws8607
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 07:36 am: [report]

I get a kick out of the comments from tall females (and females in general) that it is short men who have a problem dating tall females.  Based on what?  If you expect men to provide data, as seems to be the case with Joyful with her 99%, then provide real data yourself, not some made-up statistic.  I can just as easily say, and will say, that I have never heard a short man say he would never date a taller female, but I have heard many females of all heights say they would never date a short man.  And then they whine about there being no good men.  Poor babies, if you use stuperficial (Spelled intentionally here) characteristics, you get what you deserve. 

I did an experiment using a popular dating site that provides reverse matches.  It is funny how few females were interested in men below 5’11”; interest peaked at 6’1” and remained high until 7’6”.  This is with all other characteristics held constant and in multiple parts of the United States.  There is a need for a frisky article asking females, “Hey femidiots, why do you think a man’s height is so important?”  Be woman enough to date shorter men or grow up and quit complaining that you cannot find a good man.

If I’ve offended you or you feel insulted, get over it, woman up, and be a real woman.

MuchoMacho
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 09:45 am: [report]

im 5’11”...  i have to squat pretty low to hit my 5’1” gf from behind…  and when i dated a 5’10” chick, she brought her hips lower to match our parts up.  if tall women couldnt have sex with short men, mankind would have figured it out long ago.

DMcLean
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 09:47 am: [report]

i agree with muchomacho: i’m short at 5’4” and my gf is about 5’8”, you just need to be a bit creative, or take them from the side of the bed

JohnnyK
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 11:38 am: [report]

So I found this article on CNN.com today, and actually came over here and created an account just to comment.  I keep my internet ramblings to a minimum, so believe me I felt this was important.

I do a lot of internet dating.  I’m a big introvert and therefore I’ve been on every single dating site there is.  Match, Plentyoffish, Craigslist, Geek2Geek, you name it, I’ve done it.  I can say, without question, that as a man who’s 5’7”, I feel like I have some sort of disease.

It’s often done quite brazenly after a few emails are exchanged…the little PS at the bottom….“by the way, how tall are you?”  My previous experiences urge me to reply, going over-the-top, regaling them with stories about how I am no less than thirty-one feet tall, and tower over the world like a colossus.

But each and every time, I swallow my pride, and reply honestly.  And without fail, it’s like opening a soda and looking at the cap to find the word “loser” spelled out for you, only much harder to swallow.  The inevitable follow-up email is usually one sentence, wishing me the best of luck in the future.  This is truly the grown-up version of a child, waiting in line for hours at Disneyland, only to then be told he’s too short.

I did scan through the other comments on this story, and I have to echo the sentiments of other men here.  I find it exponentially more common that tall women refuse to date shorter men, rather than the other way around.  Truly, if there is some vast untapped market of disillusioned tall women out there somewhere, just waiting for short guys to approach them, someone please steer me in the right direction.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying life is easy for tall women, standing head and shoulders above your peers.  It just seems furtive to explain the issues taller women have in the jungle of the dating world when shorter men, in my experience, have been more than willing to step up to the plate, only to be sent back to the dugout without a fair chance at bat.

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 12:41 pm: [report]

@dlws8607

1. Lighten up.
2. I agree with what you said, if not with the way in which you said it.

whitbug
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 02:30 pm: [report]

I’m 6 feet tall, and couldn’t be more proud of my height. It also doesn’t bother me if someone asks me if I play basketball or volleyball. Maybe because I did/do play volleyball…but regardless, can you really fault someone for trying to make conversation?

I married a man who is taller than me, but I know deep in my heart that his height is a minuscule reason I fell in love with him.  Sometimes, we set qualifications for the person we believe we are meant to love, but in the back of our minds we know that the one we give our hearts to will always be an exception.

TheUnusualSuspect
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 10:15 pm: [report]

@JohnnyK

I find it exponentially more common that tall women refuse to date shorter men, rather than the other way around.

I agree. I would have no problem having a woman tower over me.

in my experience, have been more than willing to step up to the plate, only to be sent back to the dugout without a fair chance at bat.

I couldn’t have said it any better than that. I feel your pain.

aries3_04
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 10:30 pm: [report]

I find that the guys who I date (which by the way are usually shorter than me) are very confident guys. And I can’t speak for all of us tall girls, but it is kind of sexy when there aren’t hang ups about height differences (and I haven’t worn heels since I was about 12 so there shouldn’t be complaints). Plus, guys shorter than us have easier access to kissing our necks. 5’11” represent