How Long Until You Let A New Guy See You Without Makeup?

Perceptible
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:01 pm: [report]

Well, since I never wear makeup, this is an easy one. Whew!

Riley
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:01 pm: [report]

First time you sleep over. 

Unless you are a Hollywood makeup artist, we already know about the complexion and zits.  In the end, it is whatever makes you comfortable.  I’d rather you spent the extra hour with me instead of applying makeup.

Revolutionary Girl
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:01 pm: [report]

Seriously?!! Sleeping with your make-up on? I’m pretty sure the first night I spent with my guy (because it wasn’t exactly planned) I didn’t have any make-up the next morning which means he saw me bare-faced right away. It was actually ok! I was worried at first but he was such a sweet-heart and didn’t seem to care. It made it easier to get comfortable with him.

This said, I always try to not let that happen too often and its been almost a year together and I still put on make up even if its weekends and I’m watching the football game with him at his place. He always asks me why I put it on which means he doesn’t care what I look like but I have always thought its a nice insentive to look your best for the ones you love. I mean if a guy dumps you for having uneven skin is he really worth it? ... I didn’t think so either!

Jillybean
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:04 pm: [report]

He probably met me sans makeup - so it’s not an issue for me. If I was staying over at his I’d definitely take all my make up off before bed.

Leonora - I’m sure you’re not that hideous. Have a little faith

joyy
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]

Wow - you sleep in your makeup?  I rarely wear any makeup, and since I first met my bf on a two-week camping trip with my brother in the desert, my answer for when the bf was still “a new guy” would be: how long did he have to date me before he actually saw me WEARING makeup?

Jessalyn
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:08 pm: [report]

I’m super-lazy about makeup and don’t wear much to begin with, but I agree with Riley. And I’d add that if you’re doing something not conducive to wearing makeup gracefully (which, in my mind, means most outdoor activities, from exercising together to attending sporting events), you’re more likely to be comfortable not wearing it. Like Revolutionary Girl said, he’s not worth it if he dumps you for having uneven skin.

Kiki T
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:15 pm: [report]

make-up melts off during sex..once you do me, you see me in me natural form….even my hair deflates!

Alison Wonderland
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:21 pm: [report]

Kiki- And sex smudge face is usually worse than none at all!

unbounded
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:29 pm: [report]

I fall into the no-makeup category, so I never worry about this!  I get more worked up over kissing with morning breath

amandabear
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:29 pm: [report]

All I wear on a daily basis is mascara, blush, and chapstick, so this isn’t too much of an issue. But I feel like it’s kind of ridiculous to sleep with your makeup on. Once he’s in my bed he sees me without the face paint.

Queen Frostine
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:39 pm: [report]

Nearly everyone meets me sans makeup. When I do wear basic makeup, it’s usually very natural looking, in an undetectable way. Most people can’t tell and I think that’s the key to good day-to-day makeup.

Lynn
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 12:59 pm: [report]

I might sleep in my makeup if I just had like concealer and mascara on, but lipstick and eyeshadow? I’d head for the soap for sure.

I think I’d let anybody see me without makeup the first time there’s a sleepover. If you like him enough to let him put it in you, you have to like him enough to let him see that your eyelashes are not really that long.

PinkRanger
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 01:05 pm: [report]

When you get to the point that you are afraid for people to see you without makeup on, that’s the point when makeup isn’t fun anymore.  No one should feel like they can’t leave the house without painting themselves up! Trust me, I’m a makeup artist, and unless you’re going for an evening sex-pot look, 90 percent of women that wear makeup, wear wayyyy too much.  Feel good in your own skin ladies!

juljul
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 01:12 pm: [report]

wow… everyone is so au natural!  i have worn the make-up to bed, but then it’s a lose - lose situation for my complexion anyways :(

whatshesays
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 01:32 pm: [report]

@PinkRanger- completely agree! I’m a reformed too-much-makeup wearer, and I finally listened to the lady who was giving me my first facial (because she was about twice my age, and her skin looked better than mine…)

but anyway, she put me on a toner-cleanser-moisturizer regimen with the occasional exfoliant and my skin looks amazing. I don’t go in for facials that often cause they’re expensive, but honestly, at this point I only wear eye makeup.

bethlynn00
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 01:33 pm: [report]

Yeah, add me to the rarely wearing make-up group.  It takes too much time, so I don’t even bother.  And sleeping with it on, just makes your skin worse, which might be why your so dependent on it to make you look good.  Your stuck in a nasty cycle!  I actually hate me in makeup most of the time, because it has always been a challenge for me to find a foundation to even come close to matching my skin tone, and even the one I use now, sometimes looks weird. Plus I’m lazy, who has time to do that when I can sleep an extra 10-15 minutes?

BlueGarnet
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 01:52 pm: [report]

Don’t generally have a mask.

Due to my blonde eyebrows and eyelashes, and my pale skin, I look like a completely different person with make up on (a person I don’t actually like to look at in the mirror - who is that clown with my hair?). So I think I probably swiped on a bit of powder for my first date with my current partner but that was it.

And of course, a month or so after we started dating I got the flu and he took care of me. No chance of any pretty illusions there anyway.

peanut0988
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 02:01 pm: [report]

i think it’s whatever makes you comfortable. personally, i think if you’ve reached the point that your comfortable enough to see each other naked in the shower or have a sleepover together, it’s time to show him your “real” face. besides,if this is a guy who’s said that he really cares about you, he’ll find you just as beautiful sans make up. i use to be the same way - face done to the nines even on bummy movie nights in - till my current (and amazing boyfriend) quickly got me out of that habit. plus, then on the nights you get all dolled up it’s a little more special.

QTKT
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 02:15 pm: [report]

I totally understand. Even in my late 20s I deal with spots and uneven skin. When my guy and I first got together I would wait until the last possible moment to wash my face - basically right before we would turn off the light to go to sleep. I wouldn’t sleep with make-up on because it will really mess with my skin! That being said, he would always see me the next morning without make-up and with bed-head and still think I was beautiful. I wear make-up almost everyday but I don’t feel pressure to cover up for him. I wear it because it makes me feel good to pass a window/mirror and not see dark circles and uneven skin but a put together me

Ardnek10
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 02:24 pm: [report]

Seriously, who are these girls that never wear makeup?!  I wear makeup religiously!  I don’t even like to go swimming because it’ll wash my face off. 

As for the matter at hand?  I have no idea!  I just got involved with a guy and I have no idea when I’m going to let him see me sans makeup.  We have sleep overs at least once a week, and I suck it up and sleep in my makeup.  Of course a bunch of it wears off during the sleeping (both figurative and literal), but I usually still got a comfortable amount on in the morning.
I think after the two of you move in together and he’s stuck in a situation where he can’t leave once you reveal your true face to him.

workerbee
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 02:28 pm: [report]

I’m like QTKT, I don’t wear makeup for men, I wear it because I like looking more awake and alive.  I’m fine with my splotchy self but I know I look better with makeup and I act accordingly.  That said, I don’t think about when a new guy sees me without makeup, it just happens.  I"m more worried about sex splotch!

AnitaBath
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 03:23 pm: [report]

I never wear lipstick and hardly ever wear eyeshadow, so it’s not like it’s a drastic change when he sees me without. I think the first time I took it off was the second or third time I slept over at his place. I was self-conscious, but I felt better in the morning having taken it off and letting him see me clean and barefaced than with last night’s mascara smeared around my eyes.

Lynn
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 03:46 pm: [report]

@Ardnek10 - seriously? I would hate to think that you’re missing out on the fun of swimming just for the sake of your makeup! Even if you had a huge birthmark or scar on your face, I don’t think anyone is going to hold it against you. No woman in the pool “has her face on.” Also - I’m pretty sure no guy is going to leave you because of your “true face” so there’s no need to trap him into living with you first.

driftingfocus
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:16 pm: [report]

I’m so glad that I don’t have to worry about this.  I’ve never worn makeup a day in my life.

If a guy would judge you for having a pimple or a few more lines, they’re not someone you should be pursuing anyway.

Lilypie
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:29 pm: [report]

Luckily, one of the better genes I inherited was for good skin, so I never wear foundation.  A little mascara and eyeliner and some lip gloss is as made up as I get.  I don’t look a whole lot different without makeup than I so with it, so I don’t really care who sees me without it.

fallenangel915
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 04:52 pm: [report]

I also never wear make up. I think I look better without it. The most I wear is lip gloss, and that comes off at some point during sex, anyway, if not before (during foreplay).

Jillybean
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 05:01 pm: [report]

@ Ardnek10 - that reminds me of a time I was working in Tobago and one of the gals kept diving with full makeup on. By week two she gave up.

I think I’m very lucky with the skin I have - and I always feel very done up with makeup so wearing it makes me more self conscious.

If you’re going to sleep in make up I recommend the mineral stuff (Bare Essentials or i.d.) because it’s brilliant. It’s also very natural looking so you’ll be able to ease out of it so to speak :D

CaityB
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 07:39 pm: [report]

I wish I could not wear makeup. I have horrible red scars from acne that I can’t seem to get rid of. I am super self conscious about my uneven complexion, I hardly let anyone see me without at least some concealer on my scars. It’s a pain in the ass, and I can’t wait for them to go away! So I definitely understand the sleeping with makeup on- I’ve done the same, although it’s not my full-on makeup face.

eightieslingo
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 08:00 pm: [report]

I’ve been married for over three years, but if I have a big red zit I’ll put Bare Escentuals Rare Minerals Blemish Therapy on it. It conceals but it’s ok to wear at night. Give it a try! If my face is clear, though, I won’t wear any makeup if we’re just lounging at the house. But I always wear makeup if I leave the house.

develange
wrote on November 2 2009 @ 11:28 pm: [report]

definitely think I look better with makeup (eyeliner, mascara, some light powder). But my freshly washed face will ALWAYS look better than makeup does after staying out late, heavy drinking, or wild sex.

If I fall asleep in makeup, I wake up looking like a prostitute zombie.

LostInStars
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 12:29 am: [report]

My current boyfriend rarely sees me wear it, because I rarely rare it. We live together. I want to spend time with him, not in the bathroom painting a face on that he knows isn’t mine. He loves it without make up, and it’s a special treat when I get super dressed up and girly.

As for when we first met, I made sure not to wear any so if we ended up dating, he knew exactly what he was getting into. XD

bbblondie
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 04:18 am: [report]

I’m definitely a make-up girl, but the first time I spend a whole night with someone, they’re seeing me without make-up. Even if I left the makeup on at night, it’s getting washed off in the shower the next morning. I don’t think it’s too traumatic. I only get concerned if I’ve got a wicked pimple happening- I still don’t want my boyfriend to see those, and the dude’s been around for two and a half years now… not like he’s unaware of them! lol

AlisonNoelle
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 10:49 am: [report]

I wear make up but not much. If I like the guy enough to spend the night with him then he can see me bare faced. Besides I’m not going to risk a break out just to look perfect. But since I’m married and my hubby has seen me give birth (not pretty at all!) then its pretty much a moot point then isn’t it?

BlueVibe
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 01:23 pm: [report]

I almost never wear makeup.  He’s never seen me WITH it.

Sorry, if his expectations are so high that the idea of him seeing me without makeup is stressful, then it’s not a good match.

Sweet Cheeks
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

When I was younger I wore the whole mask, foundation included, on a daily basis. You couldn’t catch me outside without makeup and my skin is the clearest! Now that I’m 26, I feel the need to wear less. I don’t wear foundation and usually go with the natural look with the exception of dramatic eyes when I go out.

@Lynn & Ardnek10: I’m guilty of wearing makeup to the pool as well: concealer for dark circles, light mascara, bronzer & lip gloss. Anything more would be too much to even get in the water, which would be a waste! You’re out there to swim, not sweat!

Lynn
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 04:08 pm: [report]

@Sweet Cheeks - I’ll wear a little bit of makeup to the pool as well, especially if I think we might hang out a little before taking a dip. I just meant, it’s awful that anyone would not actually go swimming in the pool JUST because they didn’t want to ruin their makeup!

belongsomewhere
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 06:12 pm: [report]

I never, ever wear makeup, and when I do, I only wear lipstick and eyeliner. My boyfriend met me sans makeup, as did every other guy I’ve ever been on a date with.

mywittyscreenname
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 06:23 pm: [report]

Depends.  Ever since I can remember, I’ve had an issue with trichotillomania, aka the inexplicable urge to pull out eyelashes/eyebrows.  I’ve learned to control it a lot more as I’ve gotten older, but you can bet your patoot there have been plenty of times when I didn’t really let anyone, much less a new guy, see me without some sort of eye makeup on. 

Even now, even with a fiance whose brain wouldn’t register a physical flaw of mine even if I pointed it out, there’re times when I feel better with a little eyebrow pencil and eyeliner.

meredith806
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 08:28 pm: [report]

If I slept in make up my skin would have a full on MELTDOWN. That said I don’t usually wear any except on my eyes anyway.  I’m not a primpy kind of girl.  90% of the time he takes longer to get ready than me..and changes his clothes about 2 more times than me

Nora
wrote on November 3 2009 @ 09:12 pm: [report]

These comments annoy me a bit. Can you seriously admit you’re not even the slightest bit worried about him seeing you without make-up? Then I’d say you are one of them models from Neutrogena, or maybe a little butch. Sorry, no offence to anyone, that just really baffles me.
I am worried about things like that, of course! I want to look my best, and even though I have quite good skin, I have horrible dark circles under my eyes (even if I sleep for 10 hours!). I love make-up, and I feel way sexier with it. I’d wait till I was sure he wasn’t gonna run away, like till I was sure he really liked me. I slept with make-up on this weekend! Ohh beauty-sin.. But totally worth it. I am worried about my far-from-perfect body and my very dry skin, I would at least like to know my face is alright when spending the night with a guy.

titsmagee
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 06:36 am: [report]

Ehh I wear makeup but sometimes if I’m running late to work I do it at my desk (not a bad thing as we can do whatever we want while answering calls). So since I met my bf at work…he definitely saw me without makeup before we started dating.

And Leonora, he might think that the prettier you is you withOUT makeup. I know for a fact that my skin is softer without makeup on and my bf loves that—maybe yours is the same way?

spatula
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 09:04 am: [report]

I wear makeup, every day. But I aint riskin a zit for no man!

SO I"m with @Riley, the first time I’m in your bed (or you’re in mine) you get the no makeup face!

danila
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 09:51 am: [report]

I only wear eye make-up and lip gloss. I take great pride in my skin. Maybe to the point of obsession. lol. But if he’s seeing you in the buff, I doubt he’s worried about your make-up. We put so much effort into make-up, nail polish and all the other little girly things and most guys couldn’t care less. WASH YOUR FACE!!!

driftingfocus
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:01 am: [report]

@Nora - If my guy thought I was ugly without makeup, I wouldn’t be dating him, so I see it as an automatic test.  Why would you want to be with someone who only likes the fake you?

I’ve never worn makeup a day in my life, and I have never had trouble finding quality guys.  Guys care about makeup far less than most women think they do.

unbounded
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:12 am: [report]

@Nora: I think it’s all just personal preference, with a little bit of how one was raised and I also think where people live makes a difference. I live out west (mountains,  not coast), and it’s pretty common for women not to wear makeup at all, or just a little bit, and to not give a damn about it.  Most guys out here don’t seem to care one way or another, and if anything prefer a more natural look.  Not wearing makeup doesn’t mean I don’t care how I look (or that I’m a model or butch, LOL!), it just means I’m used to my face without it and I think I look pretty darn good!  To each their own.

Frederica Bimble
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 01:30 pm: [report]

I used to wear so much make-up I looked like a clown but now, good ol’ dependable laziness has set in, along with not giving a toss what men think about my face and voila!  No more make-up so the question doesn’t apply here. 

I was seeing a guy back in the days when I put on my make-up with a trowel and he asked me:  “Why do you wear so much make-up?”  I answered him:  “Because I like it.  If you don’t like it, then don’t look at it.”  Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha…..

Gloom
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 12:20 pm: [report]

I like to wear make-up to go out, but not everyday. I don’t have the patience.

My skin is bad and acne can get bad, sometimes, when I’m on my period. But there’s no way I would hide my face and put tons of make-up on just to make a guy feel happy. If he likes me and if he wants me, he will have to deal with my bad skin. I also have to deal with everyone’s flaws; that’s how it works. No one is perfect.

Tamara
wrote on November 5 2009 @ 09:34 pm: [report]

I’ve become lazy or well, maybe I just don’t care, either way I don’t put a time limit on it. I used to worry about being seen without makeup, but I just don’t care now. More often then not these days if you see me I probably don’t have make up on, I don’t see a point in worrying about it.

Fyndy
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 06:16 pm: [report]

I wear just the basic foundation to even my skin tone out and some eyeshadow and mascara….but my boyfriend saw my face sans makeup the first night he slept over. My complexion would break out so bad if I slept with any makeup on, it’s too sensitive for that. And really, I didn’t really give a #&@$%. My bf was mature enough to not care what I looked like in the morning. Even after the first time he slept over, he still told me I was beautiful.

wetwet20
wrote on November 7 2009 @ 02:57 pm: [report]

I wear just the basics myself. Some foundation, a little blush to make my cheeks rosey and mascara. I was really insecure when I first met my fiance so whenever I knew I would see him I would make sure I was done up real pretty. But after the first night we “slept” together he woke up the next morning to see me au natural and told me how beautiful I was without it. Ever since then I only wear makeup when we go out or see the family. And sometimes for work.

metro_mello
wrote on November 8 2009 @ 12:56 am: [report]

girls you are beautiful just the way you are. You shouldn’t wear makeup. In fact so many guys and people have told me i look so pretty without makeup. Ive noticed that since ive stopped wearing makeup i get hit on everyday. A true guy will love you just the way you are even if you have pimples or uneven skin tone. Trust me I know Im mixed so my skin tone can be uneven sometimes.

canadiancutie
wrote on November 9 2009 @ 04:08 am: [report]

Yeah, that’s never going to happen.  For me, a little makeup is a good thing, even if it’s just a little eyeliner and chapstick. The same way my boyfriend really never needs to see me taking a crap or going pee, I feel like he never needs to see me completely 100% barefaced. Maintaining a little bit of the fantasy and a little mystery keeps things sexy and exciting in my experience. I’m sure the no-makeup police will be jumping on me for saying this in 3… 2……..

Nora
wrote on November 9 2009 @ 10:19 am: [report]

@CanadianCute I totally agree! I would like to keep a bit of mystery and always try my best to look my best for my man. Of course, not in a demeaning anti-feminist sort of way, but always try my best, you know? Yes, I am quite insecure about my self, but I also know my strengths. I never get spots and I’ve heard from several guys when I actually do get to that stage that I take off my make-up, that I look beautiful when I wake up in the morning bare-faced. I still try my best to look my best, like removing make-up after sexy times, or just keep a bit of foundation on to reduce the dark circles under my eyes. If you use a good brand, it wont damage your skin. But when I eventually do get to that point, I just make sure to take really good care of my skin and use good-quality skin products morning and night.

But yeah, as someone else said as well, we all have different backgrounds and upbringing, so I don’t think two women could ever agree on this. And it has everything to do with confidence as well. I could never go outside the house with no make-up on, but you know, kudos if you can. I feel better if I feel like I look my best.