Guys Say The Meanest Things

shannac02
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:18 am: [report]

“But, I like big girls…”
WTF? Seriously?

Arty
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:23 am: [report]

“You couldn’t last in a real 40 hour a week job for three months.”

Going on ten, baby!

almost perfect
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:26 am: [report]

“Hey remember when I said you were losing weight and looking really good? I lied you’re still a fat whore!”

Those words courtesy of my EX Husband

Galilea
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:39 am: [report]

“I have to get over a huge energy-hill before I want to #&@$% you. It’s an engineering problem, trying to make your butt look all tight.”

How I could live with him—or him with me—for two years is completely unbelievable in retrospect.

DancerNinja
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:40 am: [report]

Ex 1)“I’m really just looking for someone to follow me on my career and raise my children.” (After two years together while I was looking into PhD programs.)

Ex 2) “Like you’re doing so great, you’re on the edge of just getting your Master’s rather than a PhD!” (I did bail out, I hated it, and this douche only had a GED.)

jubee
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:48 am: [report]

“What it comes down to is, I feel like the more time I spend with you, the more I am just settling.”

ot2b2009
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:54 am: [report]

“You know, I’ve thought about it and I just don’t think God wants us to be together…”

Gee, how can you argue against THAT logic???

lalaland
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:59 am: [report]

“I thought this was coming… that’s why I didn’t really want to do anything big for Valentine’s day. Why waste the money.”
His response as we were breaking up

retro chic
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 08:00 am: [report]

Cold! Foul!, MEAN! Those rounds are intentionally inflicted, ladies, even if nicely phrased (catty, actually). That’s not upbringing or some new Dating Tourette’s Syndrome [tic]. It’s schoolyard bullying of the worst order… to those that care the most and least likely to fight back. So sorry. I wish I had a doozie, but they were never that creative! Sssssss!

I grew up with a dad with the foulest temper and mean mouth. So, I don’t allow even the snide or inept, or do it either. If there’s even a hint that someone’s working up to that sh*t, they’re gone, or I just smile and give ‘em the “go ahead… just try it” look.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 08:13 am: [report]

Ahh, these people you refer to make me feel better about myself. Thanks Frisky peeps!

wawmama
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 08:13 am: [report]

“You’re more suited to be a mistress than a wife any way.”

“Quit being a cu.t. You’re the one who wanted those kids.”

“I think that university is a scam.”

....All my ex husband.

sklut
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 08:22 am: [report]

“If I had game like him I wouldn’t be with you.”

I’m not easily hurt or offended by men because I have an older brother that has used phrases like “I will skull F@#! your mother” But when my boyfriend said that to me… I was crushed because he said it with no hesitation or explanation.

Buhri
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 08:37 am: [report]

I’ve grown up with my dad and brother constantly spewing vile things to me so I can;t even begin to say what i’ve heard. But mostly it was stupid bit.ch. Dumb effing cu.nt and so on.

Now I don’t allow anyone to say anything like that. If my bf were to saying anything near that, he’d be gone in a heartbeat.

lilo
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:18 am: [report]

In my early 20s, from my college professor boyfriend, who was 11 years older, when I wasn’t sure about my career path: “Stop acting like a child!” This, from the dude, who kept dating younger and younger women after I dumped him.

Same dude later, after we’d broken up, and were talking about what we thought our futures would hold, “You’ll probably just have a chain of monogamous relationships and never really settle down.” This, from the dude who is now on his third marriage.

What an a$$

Muttface
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:25 am: [report]

@sklut- Wow, thats cold. You sure your boyfriend wasn’t Darth Vader or something?

alliecat
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:28 am: [report]

“Do you realize you have better chances of getting hit by lightning than getting hired by the FBI?”—After I told the guy I had dated for a month that I don’t want to get married or have kids until I’m done with school and have my foot in the door at the FBI, my dream job. Yeah, he was history by the weekend.

“When you cry over your mom, I just wanna hit you.”—My beloved ex who would get bent out of shape because I lost my mom when I was 19 and I still occassionally have moments of weakness and cry because I miss her.

And the one that still stings…
“You’re a bitch just like your mother!”—My father, a couple months after my mom passed away. Our relationship was never the same after that, and he passed away himself before we could patch anything up.

develange
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:32 am: [report]

I really want to post something here. There’s too many to choose from the barrel of mean, offensive, terrible things guys have said to me. Hopefully I’ll come back later with a good one.

IrishErin
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:35 am: [report]

“I just don’t think we fit” (he later retracted that statement upon realization that two people cannot attempt to “fit” if one is withholding all his feelings from the other…smart boy)

“If we stay together I’m just going to #&@$% someone else” (well good riddance then)

vanya
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:38 am: [report]

“It’s just that you’re really not attractive” - from the guy who turned out to be gay.

mayfaire
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:42 am: [report]

All from the same guy:

“I wouldn’t like you as much if you weighed more.”

“You’re a girl, you’re not supposed to be as good at (reading maps, math, running, parking) as me.”

(after sex) “Just so you know, I don’t love you.”

(when I was depressed, and told him I needed help) “I like you better when you’re happy.”

And oh so many more…

Lynn
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:50 am: [report]

When I asked him the rhetorical question of whether I was ever going to be a priority for him: “Of course not.”

I appreciate the honesty, but damn…you could have sugar-coated that a little.

bislane
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 09:51 am: [report]

@mayfaire: i audibly “woooow”-ed at your (after sex) one. some of these are really awful!

writergirl
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 10:01 am: [report]

When I asked my husband if he would get a vasectomy instead of me getting a tubal he replied with, “You know….I kinda want to keep my options open.”

NOW I can laugh about it…but then?  Wow.  He paid for that one for a LONG time.

Katrina
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 10:31 am: [report]

“There’s book sense and there’s real sense. Just because you have book sense doesn’t mean you have any common sense.”

This from the man who told me to get A’s…my lovely father. I use him as a model of what I DON’T want in a man.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 10:54 am: [report]

@Katrina: That perfectly describes my brother.

Beckimudd
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 10:59 am: [report]

“You don’t deserver to be in my life!”

From my Ex once I realized we couldn’t be friends. Needless to say he confirmed that.

becktasm
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 11:00 am: [report]

“Well maybe you deserved to be cheated on.”
- my charming ex, trying to cover his ass

“I don’t like having to explain things to you, because I have to speak slowly and e-nuuun-ceee-ate. In case you don’t know what enunciate means, I’m calling you stupid.”
- my older brother (who I love, but god DAMN can he be a dick)

“I didn’t pay child support because you kids didn’t need it and I did, and your mother’s a whore anyway.”
- guess.

gillybeans
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 11:26 am: [report]

In college: “I’ve only dated skinny girls before you.” (I’m pretty slim so I’m guessing he was dating some sexy rexys)

Stoli_Star
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 11:28 am: [report]

“You have a nice ass…but it looks like it’s losing it’s shape.”

This, coming from my Ex that was fat, out of shape and had a beer gut…and I’m a workout freak! The nerve! Good riddance.

sophie19
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 11:56 am: [report]

“You’re not worth enough to get angry at.” This said by the man who later called me a princess when I told him things weren’t working out between us (exact words) a couple days later. He swore at me and hung up the phone. Then, a couple days later, texted me asking if we were still dating. Awesome!

ChoJinn
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 12:05 pm: [report]

Not sure what is more awful: those comments, or the fact that guys of that quality were able to share the lives of these women.  Today’s lesson, guys: treat women like dog meat.

elizabethmarley
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 12:06 pm: [report]

His response after I caught him cheating, red handed: “It doesn’t count.”

lindseylee21
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 12:36 pm: [report]

I told my boyfriend I wanted to try out for the local rollergirls team. He replied, “You’re stupid.”

retro chic
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 01:25 pm: [report]

These are just plain *inhumane!* Are they just mean or mentally defective? Don’t they know it only reflects badly on them? Or that they’ll get their karmic comeuppance?

@alliecat, email msg for you.

Audi
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 01:45 pm: [report]

“That’s the first thing you’ve said right,” when I said I wasn’t interested in getting married. I didn’t realize that everything I’d said before that had been deemed ‘wrong’ somehow.

erinl_12
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 01:51 pm: [report]

“None of my friends are pretty enough for me to date.”

Total ahole I was in love with during college. I was one of the not-pretty-enough friends, still holding out hope that he would change his mind.

sunrise
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 02:02 pm: [report]

“Now that I’ve gotten to know you more, I realized I don’t like you as much as I thought I did.”

NdlovukaziThor
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 02:06 pm: [report]

“I can’t keep thinking you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.  I could find the person I’m supposed to be with tomorrow.”

wazu
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 02:07 pm: [report]

“You’re just not the type of girl that guys marry”—sleazy ex who I dated for one month when I was 19

“It bothers me that you’re not as thin as other girls” and “I don’t think I love you as much as you love me”—different ex, who later married someone heavier than me

“F—- you!”—during a fight, from my ex, who I was with for 5.5 years.  I will NEVER be with someone who speaks to me that way again.

“You have no common sense!  Quit being an idiot!”—my dad, who I do get along with better now that I am older

DesertLorelei
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 02:48 pm: [report]

“If you don’t stay small and petite, you’ll never find anyone who will love you.”
“You have to learn to be quiet and not make men feel stupid all the time, or no one will love you.”
—my dad

“You’re a fat c..t/b…h/w…e and when you talk, I just want to hit you.”
—ex-boyfriend who lasted two weeks

“You’re everything I could want in a relationship, but I’m just not good enough for you.  And I’ve been sleeping with your roommate for two months.”
—ex-boyfriend who lasted six months

PS
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 02:53 pm: [report]

“Your an ass with a person attached to it.” This was given as a compliment… and I admit, I got over it, and I use it to this day.

Lynn
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 03:01 pm: [report]

@sunrise - ah! I’ve gotten that too! Thank god it was just with a summer fling that I didn’t get too bent up about.

@wazu - I find it interesting that the “F—- you” comment was the one that made you say you would never be with someone like that again. I’d be much more hurt to hear any of the other comments you listed. I guess when I hear “F—- you” I don’t take it seriously because I say that to anything I’m frustrated with. Laptop acting up? “F you, laptop!”

feistygg
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 03:21 pm: [report]

I love you except for the nose, the tattoo’s and the fact that your mom hasn’t aged well. I don’t think I could marry someone that I’m not always attracted to. And I’ve always been attracted to tiny girls.
-soon to be ex

I see you and feel nothing but loathing.
-same soon to be ex

I’m never going to marry you.

chouette
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 03:47 pm: [report]

“I should marry you just so I can get your dad’s money”

wildwildwest
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 04:14 pm: [report]

My ex use to call me his “little Jessica Simpson”, meaning that I was an idiot.

cranberridreamer
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 04:15 pm: [report]

it was a pity f**k.. i felt sorry for you..

shoot me and drag me through the street already

vanillalatte
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 04:20 pm: [report]

when he was breaking up with me over the dumbest thing he said a lot of wicked things. he didn’t even have the balls to call me. he texted me. the one that really hurt the most was “i always told you that you were selfish”

anyway he regrets it now. i want to date a man not a boy. and i deserve someone who is going to treat me right and respect me as an individual no matter how i am. i am me. if you can’t handle it, then i’m sorry you don’t deserve me.

sunrise
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 04:39 pm: [report]

@ Lynn: yeah, but I was half in love with him at the time, and it crushed me… it still hs lingering effects with guys now, but I’m getting over it.

redvixen
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 04:53 pm: [report]

“I am already seeing another blonde. You took too long” because I hadnt had sex with him in the two or three weeks since i met him.

jessicaroks
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 06:44 pm: [report]

Long after we broke up I told my ex I was seeing someone else. My ex told me that I was weak and a whore and I could never be without a boyfriend. And apparently after a two year relationship he claimed he was only a rebound guy. 

Once I went out while were both cramming for a test and brought him McDonalds. He opens his cheeseburger with all the fixins’ and screams ” Did you do this or did the cashier?” I asked what he was talking about. He screamed “You know I like my cheeseburgers plain and it’s the fact that you can’t remember details like this that proves you don’t love me.” He threw the cheeseburger on the table. What an effin psycho.

Alex V
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:10 pm: [report]

File under “mean things people say”... My ex 2 days after my Dad had died, “I remember when you two didn’t get along so well.”

Ultraviolet
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 07:30 pm: [report]

@becktasm. I’m sorry but I totally laughed at what your brother said as it’s something I would say to my brothers(totally joking manner of course). Totally dickish if said in all seriousness though.

“Other people turn me on, movies turn me on, magazines turn me on but you don’t”
said to me after once again he was unable to keep it up and was blaming me. What can I say? I was 19, first boyfriend and thought it was normal(and my fault)that he was unable to maintain it for longer than 30 secs. Never again.

“I guess I must be attracted to you”
a friend of a friend’s psuedo boyfriend after having sex with her for the first time. I don’t really like her but Ouch! That’s mean!!

ki4910
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 10:49 pm: [report]

My ex told me, “You’re going to die alone.”

november82
wrote on May 8 2009 @ 11:32 pm: [report]

“I thought we could go Dutch tonight” said my prom date, at pre prom dinner to me, a dutch girl.

mikeyellenlee
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 02:05 am: [report]

“You stupid c*nt, I should get tested for aids.” Coming from the guy that had “loved” me for 3 years and cheated on me with my best friend which had his abortion.

AmethystSoul
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 04:58 am: [report]

“I don’t date girls taller than me.” This from the first guy I ever worked up the guts to ask out. Wow, man, inferiority complex much?

Nefret
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 05:34 am: [report]

“I hope he comes home to you in a box.”

- the parting shot from the guy I was living with who tried to stop me from going to a college reunion because my college sweetheart, who deployed to Afghanistan two days later, was going to be there. I moved out the day I got back.

Fast Eddie
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 05:41 am: [report]

She invited me to dinner.  I said “It’s obvious that we aren’t going anywhere”.  While that was true, I could bite off my tongue.  She would have liked to do that for me.

I’m sorry Maryann, you deserved better.

MissJennLynn
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 05:48 am: [report]

I’m shocked… where are the guys coming from??? They must all be related in some way… Ive never had the misfortune to meet a guy like this, but my boyfriend has said some hurtful things “Quit NAGGING me” Oooh that got me pretty upset… but that’s probably the worst.

crustee
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 06:50 am: [report]

“Why do you need to be there?  Don’t you have, like, two lines?”

Said by my EX-boyfriend the day before opening night of my first off-Broadway play as I was expressing my exhaustion from millions of rehearsals.

lostitearly
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 11:28 am: [report]

“I have trouble with sexually assertive women.”

After he could barely get it up and certainly couldn’t keep it there…....so it’s my fault I know how to give head?  He sure as h*ll didn’t!  Pilot with short-man syndrome….

omgemilyissohot
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 12:17 pm: [report]

“I was thinking about getting back together, but now I realize you’re a whore.”-That came because I made out with someone else a month after we broke up and he wasn’t done deciding whether or not I was worth a long distance relationship.

MoonBabye
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 07:31 pm: [report]

I feel certain I’d have a litany of lawsuits/battery charges if I were to encounter any of these men. The worst thing my ex ever said was “Why are you being so needy?!?” It hurt my feelings but at the time, I was feeling needy because I had my monthly visitor. Of course, being in that state, I huffed and stormed off.

marv3mania
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 08:37 pm: [report]

One loser said to my sister “I hope you burn in Hell, like you’re dad” (he had died a couple years earlier, and she was still torn up about it). My family had to restrain me from finding the douchebag and smashing his face through a window.

fallonthecity
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 09:08 pm: [report]

In his hometown, on the way to dinner where we were meeting one of his old friends from school:  “Oh, yeah, you’ll love her.  She’s great, really classy.  I would leave you for her in a heartbeat if I thought she was interested.”

I still have no idea what made him think that was acceptable.

freddie_my_love
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 09:17 pm: [report]

after my (then) boyfriend stood me up for dinner for the fourth time in a row, and I asked him what happened, he said “We’re seriously going to talk about this now? How about you just work up a schedule of how often you want to go to dinner a month, with some price ranges, and I’ll just write you a check.”

I was so so hurt, because really, I just wanted to spend time with him, and he couldn’t even do that.

ameyo
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 09:31 pm: [report]

“you can’t be seriously mad at me, i’m a really nice person”

rsonnack
wrote on May 9 2009 @ 11:25 pm: [report]

a guy who was trying to flirt with me at a party, after i told him i already had a boyfriend:
“What are you doing here then?! You’re completely worthless!!”

Apollogirl
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 01:20 am: [report]

I love my current boyfriend and i want tomake a future with him but he’s has a nasty temper and often says mean and hurtful things. But after reading this i’m glad i’m not alone.

- Go f**k yourself (once after a huge fight about him spending too much time with his friends and not enough with me. he apologized after….good boy)

- “I don’t want to be somethered” or “What? You want me to turn on a dime for you?” (i do for you all the time, and you cant give a little?)

- When you get older, i don’t want you to get to fat. I have to have something to be attracted too, you know” (he nearly died after that one)

And another one was: “you’re so retarded/ such an idiot/you\re an airhead”

They’re all horribly harsh i noe, and sometimes it makes me wonder…does this guy even wana be with me? How can you say you love some one you just called retarded…and trust me, it’s not like in one of those joking moods, he’s seriously calling me an idiot because i dont know something about sports or comedy…its just low…..

lain
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 03:44 am: [report]

My then boyfriend had a plethora of insulting one-liners including:

“You’re smart but not intelligent”
“I don’t see a future with you, ever”

but my ultimate favorite one was:

“I see you having my children but not raising them”

Yes, my then boyfriend was real classy…  That pretty much sealed his faith.

laineygirl
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 05:14 am: [report]

“Fix me a gin and tonic, please.”

—A call I received on our house phone (while reading a book in my living room) from my husband using his cell….. he was calling from downstairs, sprawled in a chair watching t.v. 

*sigh*

indieblu
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 07:13 am: [report]

” I’m sorry, but you wouldn’t give me head that morning”

My lovely ex’s justification for sleeping with a “friend” that he swore was purely platonic. Safe to say the relationship was down hill from there.

aries3_04
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 09:41 am: [report]

Note: These quotes are all from one a**hole, I mean, guy:

“If you cut your hair or lose weight, I’m dumping you.”

“I’m not sure if I want to break up with you or not.”

“Your sister is kind of a whore.”

“I don’t want to meet your friend. She doesn’t have morals.” (she had a baby before she got married).

“Remember that I’m not like other guys. I’m one of a million; I’m special.” (he said this 2 seconds after he told me it was over)

“I do want to be friends with you - you can meet my new girlfriend sometime and we can hang out.” (about 2 weeks after the break up)

aries3_04
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 09:47 am: [report]

oh, one more (yes, the same guy):

“YOUR PEOPLE make bad decisions; why do you think there are so many black babies in the foster care system? And your women walk so lazily sometimes.”

PinkRanger
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 09:58 am: [report]

After some drunk guy at a party felt me up as I walked by: “Just kidding!!!”

I wanted to punch him right in the face-
but my friends all beat me to it

sailor_girl
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 11:47 am: [report]

While I was on a date with a guy from Match.com he gave me kind of a back-handed compliment: “You know when I came here tonight I wasn’t expecting much.  Girls as pretty as you are, aren’t normally very intelligent.”  Ha.

Another one said “Is it really necessary that you wear heels?  You’re already an amazon; please don’t wear them ever again.” -I always do what d-bags I go out with once say.

Anaxa
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 01:58 pm: [report]

this one was sent to me as a text message from a guy who was dumping me at the time:

“I really think we got into this too fast and should go back to being friends a little bit longer first”

That would have been okay if he hadn’t followed it with this:

“I only asked you out in the first place because I was desperate and knew you’d say yes.”

Majorly an a**hole.

Apollogirl
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 03:12 pm: [report]

This is probably one of the longest posts of comments ever. I think it’s because men don’t realize that what they say is hurtful or they are just completes a$$es. i mean what gives you the right to talk to us like that when we dont to you? I wonder what this page would look like if the topic was: GIRLS SAY THE MEANEST THINGS EVER!

Ha, i would love to see that! It would probably be something like: “oh, my girl wouldn’t get me a beer from the fridge and told me to do it myself”

Lynn
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 03:14 pm: [report]

@Apollogirl - if anyone ever really told me I was stupid or retarded, there is no way I would spend a future with him. If I were you I would seriously rethink this. I mean, most of the comments on here are from exes for a reason…girls got out and away from guys who were treating them that way!

Apollogirl
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 03:21 pm: [report]

It would seem so…but i think he’s learned the art of apologizing. He’ll only say it when we get into fights or I ask alot of questions. I’m not tryna justify it, but i noe his apologizes are real. Still, you’re right, he doesn’t have a right to do that.

specialk351
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 04:11 pm: [report]

A guy explaining to me why after a few weeks of dating he chose to go steady with another girl:

“Sara and I just click, you know? You still have a far better figure though.”

Never replied to his text and never talked to him again.

indieblu
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 06:21 pm: [report]

@ Apillogirl
While i agree that men seem to say just plain stupid & hurtful things ....it’s not entirely on them. Us women also know how to throw a lasting zinger to scar a guy pretty badly .After my brother chased around a girl for 1 year and with her leading him on (He even drove 4 hrs to see her at college to be blown off when he got there) He came home one night saying he was done with romance and ready to play because she broke his heart for the last time. Lets face it, if were in the right situation we also know what buttons to press to hurt a guy just as badly.I’d be interested to see what the comments in a “Girls Say the Meanest Things” column.

Fla_girl
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 06:29 pm: [report]

Come on ladies… you all have never cut a guy with barbs just as hurtful? Let’s be realistic… breaking up can bring out a terrifing angry monster in both men and woman. I to have been told pretty mean things pre-break up, during and after, but I too have said some horrid, mean and hurtful things too.

adenosine
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 09:07 pm: [report]

There are several mean things the guys in my past have said to me, but one that got to me (funny in hindsight, but it still stings) was what the guy DIDN’T say- here’s the scenario:

I’m single at the time, and out with friends at a bar.  A guy walks up to me and starts flirting with me.  We go through the usual ice-breaking conversation, and then he asks me, “So, what do you do?”  I replied, ” I’m a grad student”.  “Oh, yeah, what are you studying?”  “Microbiology.”  At that point, he gets a twitchy look on his face, grins, and says, “So you’re getting your masters, that’s pretty cool.”  I said, ” Actually, I’m working on my doctorate.”

At that point, he excuses himself for a minute, and I never see him again.  What a confident dude.

So ladies, you are probably just as smart or smarter than the men you meet in your life, and they very well may be threatened by that.  Whatever you do, don’t dumb yourself down for a guy.  If they’re worth it, they’ll overcome their confidence issues, and you’ll have a grand old time.

LoLliPop
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 09:25 pm: [report]

Geesh…
I can hear you getting fatter

from my still boyfriend…

aimeeleelee
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 09:30 pm: [report]

this was at the end of a very harsh 2 page Email from my ex:
you’ve turned into someone i dont know or like or want to know anymore, if the old Aimee comes back id like her in my life, but if not i want nothing more to do with you, if you want me in your life then reply to this letter if not then im washing my hands of you.

funnily enough i didnt reply, the whole email was him going off his rocker at me because we had broken up at least 6 months earlier and i started dating someone else!!

metro_mello
wrote on May 10 2009 @ 11:30 pm: [report]

hmm guys dont realy say mean things to me
its a matter of respect
they respect me so they dont say shiz
and if they do i punch them in the face
and ladies who let these men say things to them..how horrible
YOIU GOT TO TRAIN YOUR MEN
he says something mean spray him with water or give him a good punch in the gonads
see him say sme shiz to you like that again

iscream4icecream
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 03:10 am: [report]

i need to kick u off your thrown. your not all that special as u might think. actually your plain average

wonder_bread
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 08:06 am: [report]

Adenosine thats funny and ashame.. that guy is missing out on a very accomplished woman..serves him right then

Countess Mariska
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 08:53 am: [report]

I can’t count the number of times I’ve been interested in a guy who ends up saying something like “You’re too smart, it’s scary,” or “Stop reading so much!” Sometimes they’re only teasing (tackily), sometimes they’re serious, and while I’m still friends with some of the foot-in-mouth guys, nothing kills my romantic interest faster than realizing someone’s just another power-tripping jerk who’s afraid of an intelligent woman.

joyy
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 08:56 am: [report]

“You didn’t get fat like I thought you would.”
- my father, when I was about 13-14. 

He genuinely thought it was a compliment.

Perceptible
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 09:11 am: [report]

When I’d get “dressed up”, my ex-husband would usually say, “Oh, you’re going to wear that?” Nothing I wore was ever “sexy” or “pretty” enough for him. (Skirts had to be short and tight, anything lacy was “granny”, shirts had to cling.) He’d say he was “helping me” to look better. Of course, he didn’t start doing this until after the wedding. Took me years after our divorce to regain my self confidence. A$$hole.

HitOrMissJudy
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 09:25 am: [report]

I was in bed crying one night because my mom was in the hospital and about to die.

Him: Why are you crying?

Me: Because my mom is dying!

Him: I don’t know what you expect me to do about it.

Lynn
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 09:38 am: [report]

Perceptible - I got the same comment (“You’re going to wear that?”) but for the opposite reason. I swear, if I wasn’t in a turtleneck cable knit sweater and a floor-length skirt, I was too skanky for my ex boyfriend. I go to great pains to not be skanky but apparently if I ever showed my collar bone or the tops of the knees, I was just super embarassing to be seen with.

jojo32
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 01:40 pm: [report]

During my ultrasound, my (now ex-) husband was visibly upset when the tech said it was a girl.  I asked him “are you disappointed because it’s a girl?”  And he said “Hell Yes I am!” and walked out of the room.  Yeah, never got over that one. 

Then there was the time I asked him if he was going anywhere for the weekend and he said “Yeah, wherever you’re not going to be”

And once, during one of his frequent temper tantrums, he threw a bunch of stuff off the kitchen table onto the floor and I asked him “Did that make you feel better?” and he said “I wish it was you that I pushed on the floor”.  Moved out the next day. 

We were married during all of these comments.  And no, they didnt just start after we were married.  Oh well, live and learn…

jojo32
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 01:44 pm: [report]

Forgot to add my dad’s comment.  I’ve always been a little insecure because I have pretty wide shoulders for a female, and I know he thought he was being helpful when he told me:
“It’s good that you have wide shoulders.  That way, if your @ss gets big, it wont be as noticable”

Ahhh…my dad. 

jayc
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 03:17 pm: [report]

“We need to talk. Lately when we hang out, I feel like there’s nothing between us…like I’m just hanging out with a friend.” followed by..“Your a great girl and one of my best friends.”...When I asked him did he just feel like we were friends when we were havin sex he said “And when was the last time we had sex?” he claims he didn’t feel this way due to the lack of sex but if that’s the only time you feel like we’re more than friends then hellloooo. asswipe. And this wasn’t a few months kinda relatonship. it was years.

jayc
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 03:20 pm: [report]

oh yeah. also, i had lost weight and he didnt like it. he missed the curves. so we went out to eat and were talkin about gettin fat when we get old and i said “well when i was on that diet you wanted me to eat so im eating”...he followed that up by saying well take it down a notch.” he said i heard him wrong.

Stoli_Star
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 03:52 pm: [report]

“Quit talking! You’re just making things worse!”

“I love you but I’m not in love with you”

“Things in your life are never going to turn around.”

“Just because you survived a nervous breakdown, you think you desreve a medal?!”

wawmama
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 04:02 pm: [report]

@stoli_star, my response to the guy who said the last one is: “Da.n straight. You do realize you said survived, didn’t you?”

Stoli_Star
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 04:19 pm: [report]

@ wawmama… he sucks… and he was a big contributor to that. So glad I broke up with him. What a jerk!

Launch180
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 08:05 pm: [report]

From my husband who is wonderful but talks out of his butt sometimes. He said this after I stayed home all day and cleaned the house and yard and he went to work for three hours then went and hung out with his buddies.

“I worked today. You didn’t, you hung around the house all day.”

Launch180
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 08:31 pm: [report]

And also from my ex who I still talk to occasionally after I told him he was stupid for getting high and cheating on his then girlfriend.

“Your just jealous because your still in love with my and I dumped your fat stupid ass. You just don’t like to have fun and you had to settle for a loser that is so clingy to you he follows you around like a dog.”

It is true he did break up with me and it was the best thing he had ever done. He was also referring to me telling him my now husband comes home early every night so we can watch a movie and snuggle before we go to bed. Personally I like that kind of clingy. lol.

ChoJinn
wrote on May 11 2009 @ 09:11 pm: [report]

““We need to talk. Lately when we hang out, I feel like there’s nothing between us…like I’m just hanging out with a friend.” followed by..“Your a great girl and one of my best friends.”...When I asked him did he just feel like we were friends when we were havin sex he said “And when was the last time we had sex?” “

LOL didn’t see this coming?  Come on now.  He needed more, I guess.

luckypin
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 12:18 am: [report]

i have a 34G cup size. i wish it was smaller. my best friend, ramsey, says to me “but if you didn’t have such a big rack, no guy would ever like you.” yeah, thnx ram!

i always make bets with my boyfriend and i almost always lose, so he says “when you lose this one, you have to take me out to dinner. but not a cheap one, you have to actually look nice. like even wear makeup.” i always wear makeup and look nice for him.

this too from my boyfriend: “you’ve been putting on some weight. whats up with that? i thought you said you were gonna try to lose some.”  yeah, i had put on a whopping 4 lbs. and this coming from the guy who’s pushing 250. not saying i’m skinny, but he’s got almost 100 lbs on me. but i love him to death and we’re going to get married. oh and he won’t let me have a reduction yet. he says “maybe you can get them done when they’re all saggy and gross.” god, i love him.

theattack
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 12:24 am: [report]

luckypin:
Just a bit of advice, It’s your body. No matter who he is or how in love you are, no one else should be able to tell you what to do with your milk cartons but you. If you want to reduce, by God, REDUCE! I don’t have much myself, but from what I understand, large breasts are quite a hassle, and painful. Developing back problems isn’t really a fair exchange for a visual stimulation.

hiyahails
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 04:18 am: [report]

“I blank you because, i don’t want to talk to you because you’re irritating, not because i’m being stuborn”

sigh.

estrellada
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 08:18 am: [report]

“you will be a terrible mother, please don’t have kids for their own sake”

that was my best friend.

And from my ex breaking up with me: “you just whine too much”.

Yeah, don’t worry babe, it’s not like i lost my job, have no money to pay college, my computer crashed, my cellphone got damaged and it was 3 days before valentine’s…ALL IN THE SAME WEEK.
Great, GREAT time to say I whine too much.

Lynn
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 09:11 am: [report]

@luckypin - I agree with theattack. There was actually something on Frisky about that topic a while ago. It was a popular one if I remember, I bet you could find it with a search.

He doesn’t have to “let” you do anything. Is he your prison ward? Are you 5 years old and he is your dad? If the answer to both of those questions is “no” then do whatever the hell you want with your body.

bethylane
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 12:03 pm: [report]

I call my ex Degree because at first I had to remind him to wear deodorant. (That should have been the end of it, in retrospect!)

He was one who would say things like, “Why do you look so nice?” when I’d go out to a coffee shop by myself. “Are you meeting up with some dude?”

When we were fighting he looked on the history of my internet explorer, saw a guy’s facebook profile and said, “That’s it I’m out. You’re f—kin’ putting him on the back burner, lining him up for when I’m gone..”
I’d get upset about him being late for rent and he’d say, “Let it go, you’re a fool. Do some yoga or punch a bag.”

I learned my lesson quick. Finally I’m dating someone who’s considerate, treats me well, wears deodorant (!!!), and allows me to have friends.

Why is it that so many women get sucked into destructive relationships and think that it’s impossible to get out? I was with Degree for a year, a completely wasted year! But I am certain I will never, ever make that mistake again. One red flag and that’s IT. No more BS.

barstar
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 12:22 pm: [report]

I was at a wedding and was meeting some of my boyfriend’s family for the first time. His cousin, who I had just met, asked me what I did for a living,and before I could say anything, my bf piped up and told them I was uneducated..  after 3 years of University!!! Ironically enough, his current girlfriend just got her high school G.E.D a few years ago. And I’M the uneducated one???

Hanners
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 06:11 pm: [report]

@Nefret I feel your pain—when my current boyfriend was deploying to Iraq, my ex fiance(who had left me a year prior) said “He’ll probably die. I don’t want to hear you cry, either. You know what you signed up for.”

Other comments said ex made:

“If you marry him you’ll never be anything but some waste of life military wife stay at home mommy.”

Reason for leaving me after 2 1/2 years: “You’re not capable of doing anything without me. I’m doing you a favor.”

Reaction any time I did not understand a statement the first time it was made: “Never mind. It’s not worth explaining to you.”

Nickname for the first year of our relationship: Dog girl(which he thought was a genuinely affectionate nickname, complete with petting hair, scratching under the chin, and jokes about buying me a leash)

Random statement circa the six month mark: “You should feel special. I’ve been thinking about a reason to leave you all day, and I can’t come up with one.”

—-

I *still* feel like an idiot for almost marrying the man. Luckily, I wound a guy who is totally sweet and respectful and would step up to the plate if anyone, even a stranger, considered saying that nasty to me.

sam04
wrote on May 12 2009 @ 06:25 pm: [report]

I’m sure I’ve had lots of nasty things said to me by members of both sexes, but the only thing that really sticks in my head is that every time my ex and I would be in an argument, he’d use some obscure word.  He’d stop in the middle of his diatribe, and ask “Do you even know what that means?”  90% of the time, I DID, as I have a pretty swell grasp of the english language, but just the thought that he would go out of his way to try to appear more intelligent than me in the hopes of making me feel stupid was incredibly obnoxious.

bethylane
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 06:07 am: [report]

I forgot one—
My boyfriend died in a car accident out of the blue several years ago. Several months later I was beginning to see this other guy, “J.J.”, not too interested in him but trying to escape the pain of the loss I think.
I was walking to my car after class and two of my guy friends walked by talking, and one of them said to the other loud enough for me to hear, “Hey I heard J.J. died in a car accident.”

WHOA.

I ran up to him bawling and told him where to go and he was shocked and genuinely apologetic, but damn!! How can someone say things like that??

On a lighter note, I made organic cookies for my boyfriend and his friends one time. They ate them and said they tasted like sand. They went on to make fun of them for a good long while and laughed so hard about it that they almost cried.
Rule Number Four: Do not make fun of a girl’s cookies.
Note: Organic cookies probably wasn’t such a good idea anyway, but STILL…

daisylaze
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 08:53 am: [report]

Said during an argument with my ex:
“You should have been an abortion.”

And to think I stayed with him for 2 more years and then felt bad about leaving to move to another country!(Where thankfully I met a really nice man who is now my husband, and would never think about saying anything so cruel.)

resullins
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 02:37 pm: [report]

@Apollo… good luck with your guy… I would get out if I were you, but I’m not, so I will just wish you good luck.

I had my ex tell me that he never really loved me (after 2 years), that I deserved to be cheated on, that I was just a whore that didn’t deserve anyone to ever love me, and that he was glad I’d miscarried his child because I would have made a horrible mother… among other things.

I actually did hit him more than once. Although I think the meanest thing I ever did to him was after two years of NEVER once having the big “O”, and faking it every single time, was TELLING him that I had been faking it. I’ve never heard such a quiet phone connection. <mischeveous grin>

theultimateabomb
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

My all time favorite…

“I would have asked you to marry me like 5 times by now if I were physically attracted to you.”

I mean, REALLY??!!!

happyw/youngerlatinman
wrote on May 13 2009 @ 06:04 pm: [report]

my ex (i met on online dating btw) was a perfect gentleman & romantic- until i saw his true colors- his mother (a kind sweet woman) died of cancer- on the very day she passed away he starts acting strange, pulls me into a private area, and tells me ” i have to tell you, something, but you’ll break up with me…” hearing my heart in my eardrums i push away telling him to not tell me- he proceeds to tell me he has FOUR children and a psychotic ex wife-
that was my line in the sand- i could take kids but not another psychotic ex- she had found out his mom passed & called to pay her respects-he only told me because he thot she “might show up” for the funeral- she had stalked his other girlfriends resulting in his frequent moves- we had been inseperable for over four months & had talked about marriage a few times- i felt at the time we were a perfect couple- but i was now sitting with a liar and a stranger- i felt betrayed- i had cried about his mother dying- and now this…

then i break up with him about a week later -due to all the lies (and MY safety) and he has the nerve to tell me he doesn’t feel i am “stable” - in the end a restraining order is filed because (drumroll) HE has criminal recordS from his repeated domestic abuse…he picked me up with holds he learned in the army- and took the skin off the top of my foot- after i told him the door (old house rough wood) was cutting my foot- he rammed it more- unbelievable…but i wasn’t “stable”...omg

my ONE and ONLY never to be revisited experience with ONLINE dating…and NOT checking a guy’s criminal records for that matter- in the beginning he was sooo sweet and charming…thank God that #&@$%’s over…it’s a miracle i’m not dead- FOUR kids and a psychotic ex-wife…indeed…what do i look like- i’ll tell you what i don’t look like - UNSTABLE!!! i don’t have a speeding ticket on my record let alone any criminal activity- thanks to my breaking up with him due to MY INSTABILITY- if that means I’M not stable - God love me- guess i’m proud of it…
i thank GOD for my current boyfriend - he doesn’t lie to me- and even more thankfully doesn’t have a psychotic ex or kids…

i’ll leave that FUN for the online daters…the STABLE ones…

starduzt88
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 02:45 am: [report]

“maybe I COULD love you if you weren’t such a f*#king b*tch!”

“you or my weed? no contest. The weed.”

“you know what grosses me out about you? Your thighs touch sometimes. maybe you could do some squats and buy some longer shorts in the meantime. guhh.”

guys are losers…

Lynn
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 12:40 pm: [report]

“your thighs touch sometimes” - WHAT?? Anyone over 90 pounds has thighs that touch sometimes. Mine touch all the time and my BF loves them!

og217
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 12:56 pm: [report]

On a date set up by my friend (who was the guy’s boss): So what country are you from again?  Is that like, in Russia (Yes, it’s like a country INSIDE Russia.)  Is it true that all women there are prostitutes?  (Whaaaaaa????)  Are you?  (standing up) Ever think about it? (Running out for a cab)
He then told my friend (his boss) that he was disappointed he didn’t get any since he paid for two drinks (mine and his after I ran away) but that he would consider seeing me again, since I looked (acceptable) if sex was guaranteed.  The dude looked like a paunchy Larry Bird, too.

Stubborn
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 01:06 pm: [report]

“I think you like me more than I like you.  Oh, and…I may be moving to China.”

bethylane
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 01:14 pm: [report]

@starduzt:  I had a guy say almost that exact thing to me, about my thighs touching. GROSS. I weith 135 at 5’8”, and if I lost the weight in my thighs I would look sick and feel sick. I don’t understand guys who don’t want a little something to squeeze… Do they really want to fool around with someone who looks like they could snap like a twig?

Anyway, this same guy also suggested that I get a boob job.
And then I also found out that he had abandoned his two kids and his wife.
And then he told me that he is actually a “shaman”.

Irresponsible psycho douche.

Stubborn
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 01:18 pm: [report]

Forgot to mention: Right after this he suggested that he stay over at my place.  Ha!  Silly boy.

bloomoon
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 07:15 pm: [report]

Oh yeah, I’ve got a GREAT one! A few years ago, my now-ex-husband asked for a divorce the day after Christmas. (We survived this bomb somehow, don’t ask how, cuz I’m not sure).

The next night we were standing in our bedroom while he dressed for “dinner” with her at her married daughter’s home. (Yeah, I can hear the groans already…). He looked at me and said “I think she just might be the one.”

Oh yeah… what a guy!!

neverlearns
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 07:31 pm: [report]

After we argued for a bit, I asked him if he knew what my interests were.  His response:  “I’m your interest” 
VOMIT!

Natasha
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 08:29 pm: [report]

Sex with you is like the ICE AGE… for a few minutes the Crustacean period hit but then it’s back to Ice

Natasha
wrote on May 14 2009 @ 08:31 pm: [report]

@ Vanya
Holy #&@$% I have heard that EXACT comment come from a soon to be out of the closet

bethylane
wrote on May 15 2009 @ 06:09 am: [report]

I thought of an off-the-wall hilarious one this morning:

When my last relationship was circling the drain, my boyfriend and I got in my car to go somewhere and I had left a Fiona Apple CD in the car and it started playing wherever it left off.
He was so intimidated by the fact that I was listening to her, and he was insulted, and he said “How can you listen to this stupid sh**? She’s just an angry little girl who can’t keep a man.”

Whoooo, boy…

LeeKendall
wrote on May 15 2009 @ 01:10 pm: [report]

All from the same ex:

His justification for demanding a threesome (that he never got) after only eight months of dating me:
“Your body is boring. A hole is just a hole is just a hole.”

Then, about a year later, he wanted an open relationship to sow his oats before we eventually got married (that never happened of course)....he wanted one group of friends to think we were together fully, and to tell another group that we were completely broken up “because those girls are more likely to have sex with me”

The irony? After six months of this, and begging for our relationship to become “closed” again, I went on vacay to Costa Rica and made out with a guy during our “open” time and then broke up with him for being a complete douche. Vengeance was sweet.

chichi von b
wrote on May 29 2009 @ 02:49 pm: [report]

My pops always told me - “if a man (er, boy) wants to dish it out, serve that mess right the hell on back, to hell with all that womanly charm crap”

I work in a male dominated field, went to school almost exclusively with males and learned that Pops wasn’t lying. 

(Some) Men will try and test your metal every chance they can get, and if you let them make you cry or shame you in public or PRIVATE, you will NEVER have that respect again, as a lover, friend, co-worker, colleague, whatever.

I don’t care who he is, boss, boyfriend, lover, friend, stranger at the supermarket, if he wants to try to talk to me like I’m some stupid b*tch, best believe he will get clowned; in front of his colleagues, friends, family or only me - and guess what?  They won’t feel sorry for him, they will be laughing at his sorry ass (becasue I KNOW how to play THAT lil verbal game), he will feel hella stupid - but guess what, he won’t ever talk to me like that AGAIN.

You don’t have to raise your voice, scream or carry-on, just break out your verbal razor…all my male friends have confirmed that this is an acceptable and even encouraged way keep and maintain one’s level of respect - in or out of the bedroom.

Emasaurus
wrote on May 31 2009 @ 04:49 am: [report]

well these are horrible!! my worst one wasn’t so much what he said but what he did:
“oh my flatmates here. I’ll go and chat to him” ...1 minute,literally, after finishing having sex with me!!! made me feel like a hooker. can’t believe I forgave him but I’m with a lovely post-coital cuddler now

zmartini
wrote on June 5 2009 @ 03:59 pm: [report]

@Adenosine
That guy really missed out.  I find it surprising how many guys are intimidated by intelligent women.  My girlfriend is in my class in vet school with me, and she has a much better GPA than I do.  I find it incredibly sexy.

rydiawednesday
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 04:38 am: [report]

After I called him out on making out with my best friend (while I was busy planning him a birthday party in Vegas, and after he’d alread messed up and come back to apologize twice in the past couple months): “Well, life’s a bitch and so are you.”

Different guy, started calling me names.  When I said “Don’t talk to me like that,” told me if you weren’t this and that I wouldn’t have to talk to you this way!

Same guy, after cheating on me for the second time, told me I should be happy for him and I’m being a bad friend.

My biological father, all when I was a kid (think 8-10 years old): “Choke on blood!”, “You’re crazy/an idiot”, “Hollywood wants Barbie dolls and you’re just not a Barbie”, “Don’t show me your cartwheels/sing a song for me until it’s perfect, no messing up and starting over” (not like I was even in voice lessons)...you catch the drift?

I want to know how everyone else has gotten over their experiences and moved on, because mine still hurt like hell (at least the very first one I wrote does).  And also, how do you forgive yourself for being so stupid and allowing your boyfriends to treat you that way?  I struggle with both of these things.

bethylane
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 06:19 am: [report]

@rydiawednesday,
I just had to pick my dropped jaw off the floor after reading your post. Those are some unbelievable and truly damaging things.. I’m sending you an e-hug.

When it comes to moving on, and especially when it comes to mean comments that have been made, my method is to understand that the person making the comment must be REALLY messed up in the head or depressed, or just plain ‘ol Mean, in order to allow such awful things to come out of his/her mouth.

When people say mean things, I take it as a helpful hint to encourage me to remove them from my life. So when someone says something awful, my thought is “Alright thanks buddy, now I know not to bother with you anymore.”

It’s hard to get over some things for sure, especially if you’ve gotten into a relationship that is destructive with a mean guy and you keep making excuses and giving him third and fourth chances. I was in one of those relationships for a year… and believe me, I felt like a fool and I STILL feel like a fool for staying with the jerk for so long.

BUT, as long as you recognize that you truly do deserve a good relationship, you can step back and look @ your bad experience, shrug, and say “Well OK, there’s that mistake. I got it out of the way and now I know better than to make it again.”
Learn to recognize the signs of a jerk and to cut him out of your life as soon as it begins to get even just a little bit ugly. It might sound harsh, but when you raise the bar and set high standards, you’ll begin to notice all the wonderful and mature guys out there who are willing to meet your standards.

Try not to listen to that caretaker instinct so many of us girls have. You don’t need a fixer-upper or someone to save. You deserve a man who’s already grown up and doesn’t need your help to do it.

Wow, this is a long reply. Sorry to have been preaching for so long! I do have just one more thing, and it’s another big important one:

Always, always, always recognize the following fact: You Do Have Worth.

bethylane
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 06:21 am: [report]

(P.S. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever take back a cheater. No matter what. Not if they offer you the world on a silver platter.)

CAIS
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 08:24 am: [report]

From a guy who claimed to really like me (what a way of showing it): You’re like an old car that’s hard to start, runs great for a bit and then sputters to a stop.

Same guy: You’re so awkward. Do you have some form of autism?

Same guy when I informed him I would never wear an ‘‘adult costume’’ (think ‘‘slutty nurse’’ costume) out to a bar or club: Why don’t you just join a nunnery right now then?

The list is endless…

Yeah,I was offended at the time, but then shared these comments with friends and we mocked him relentlessly :o).

I spent ages single, despite being lonely and bored, because even the thought of dating a guy who said such idiotic things made actually want to join a nunnery. Now I am very, very lucky because I have a wonderful fiance who never says mean things to me, even when he’s angry. Lesson learned: don’t settle for idiocy and thoughtlessness.

joyy
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 08:41 am: [report]

@rydiawednesday: you learn from what happened to you and don’t let people like that back in your life, or new people of that caliber in your life to begin with.  note: some people view this as holding a grudge, I simply view it as holding people accountable for their actions.

smcg1976
wrote on June 11 2009 @ 10:15 am: [report]

Ok i know im a guy and after women out there have read all this they dont want hear crap from me. I will admit i have said some very hurtful things in the past to women who didnt deserve it, or maybe they did. Example- After 3 yrs of dating this woman she tells me, “I dont make enough money for her and she just cant raise another womens child” after reading stories to him at bedtime and telling me she really enjoyed that and spending huge amounts of time with BOTH of us. The outings were usually her idea. I did come back with “Your going to die alone because you cant make a commitment to anything in your life”. This is after her breaking up with me twice and once moving to another state. She never REALLY broke up with me and kept stringing me along online and over the phone, and her once every 3-6 mo visit. I usually had to make every choice for her ordering off the menu, getting her to try something new something she didnt like when she was little was a fight, picking a place to eat, or just simply deciding how to kill some time. I dont have a problem with making the decisions but dont shoot every idea i have down if you cant come up with something on your own. Now going even further back into my 1st marriage my ex was truely the queen of mean. Shes Mexican/German, nice mix huh? She was more physically abusive than verbally. I never did anything physical to her except wrestle her down and pin her til she calmed down. Her children will back me up on this. But Ill never forget what she said to me the night i left after we hadnt been closer than 3 ft from each other in the last 6 mo we were together and she found out I was leaving. “Well its a good thing Ive been sleeping with someone else.” And when she saw I didnt care she popped off with “And your son isnt yours” and walked into the bedroom and locked the door. Well after 8 yrs of marriage and allowing me to think that the wonderful 7 yr old that slept in the other room wasnt mine. I wanted her dead. Who wouldnt? Women are lucky we cant pull that crap on them. Well I let my emotions get the better of me and literally ran thru the bedroom door like some kind of hulk, not just breaking it down or slightly damaging it. I splintered it into tiny pieces all over the bedroom. I still get a little shaky just typing this 5 yrs later. Lets just say Im glad the cops showed up before it went further. I find myself grabbing some of my d-bag friends by the back of the neck and taking them off to the side for a little “talk” about how to treat women. But ive seen the way women treat men as well and this constant neverending circle jerk has got to stop somewhere. Walk away and dont fight! Argue calmly and think about every word that comes out of your mouth. And some battles just are NOT worth fighting. Agree to disagree and move on! I just wonder how many of these were said in retaliation to something that was said before. Men dont forget either and women want to forget what they might have said when they are JUST asked what was said to THEM. And yes ladies there are just as many stupid a@@ women out there as there are men so go let them find their TRUE soul mate. You will find yours just stop looking so hard. Dont LOOOOK but be open that casual conversation in the grocery store, be prepared for anything. And im sorry to say it but dating sites are still the best place to see whats out there. Ive gotten some real wack jobs but i also ran into the some great women i am still friends with and the love of hopefully the rest of my life on…... yes Myspace. We got married in May and during conversations found out we had met a few times before. So talk more than anything, if they cant have a long conversation with you over the phone(not online) then hes probably empty anyway and just wants to get his rocks off or check another 1 off his list. And BTW just in case anyone was wondering i do have full custody of my son and he lives with me. Not my mother

toaster325
wrote on June 15 2009 @ 11:18 pm: [report]

All from my o so lovely ex: “You make me want to kill myself so I dont have to deal with you anymore.”

After I caught him cheating: “If it makes you feel better, you’re better in bed then she is.”

“I’ll never love you because you don’t deserve to be loved.”

“You’re so worthless, you don’t deserve to be treated any better, you should be lucky that I still want you.”

“You should go f*** my brother. He thinks you’re cute and you’re a whore anyways.”

“Get the f*** out of my house. So and so is coming over and I wanna get laid tonight.”

“I don’t introduce you as my girlfriend because you’re not good enough to be seen with me and I like to be available when I go to the bar.”

“I got my other girlfriend pregnant and she’s moving in with me so we’re done now.”

“You’re just mad because she’s everything you will never be, and nobody will ever love you, or marry you, or want to be with you. You’ll grow up and die alone. You should be thankful for what I gave you.”

And that’s just some of the things he said. I had extremely low self esteem and he made me believe that I was that worthless. But I’ve stopped talking to him and am now in a wonderful relationship with someone who loves me and treats me nice and always has something sweet to say to me, and never says anything harsh, even when we argue. I’m thankful that I found him.

Britrz
wrote on June 16 2009 @ 12:43 am: [report]

I know it is late in this post, but I thought I would share anyway.  From an ex that was emotionally abusive for years during a conversation about why he hadn’t changed after 4 months of therapy:

“Sometimes I feel like I don’t have to change, because I know you will never leave me.”

To anyone who has ever been in an emotionally abusive situation believing the other person will get “better” you can understand how much this killed me.  Anyway, he’s finally gone now.  Never been happier

zmartini
wrote on June 16 2009 @ 06:48 am: [report]

You ladies can cut pretty deep, too.  I really like the girl I’m with right now, but sometimes she doesn’t think about what she says before she says it.

We were watching a sappy chick flick with a bunch of her friends, and she said “I hope I can find a guy like that when I start looking for something permanent.”

Ouch.  It was months ago, but I still cringe when I think about it.

alleigh
wrote on June 17 2009 @ 10:06 pm: [report]

Ex that I remained friends with after we had broken up 6 years ago said this about me dating another guy:

“F*ck you, you c*ck guzzling wh*re”

..and “I just want you to know that I hate you. There is someone in this world that hates you this much.”

..He’s delusional.. He thinks we’ve been dating on/off for the last 6 years! Hilarious. Considering I repeatedly told him we would NEVER get back together. I’ll think twice now about remaining friends with exes..

luvlost
wrote on June 21 2009 @ 10:21 pm: [report]

@lostitearly you shouldnt be expressing your head giving skills so publicly no wonder he left yu but my heart goes out to the rest of you

luvlost
wrote on June 21 2009 @ 10:26 pm: [report]

omg this guy asked me for advice right so i guess i told him somethin he didnt want to hear and he said"i dont even know why i asked you,you haven’t even been in a real relationship to know what youre talking bout so mind your business

eskim00ninja
wrote on June 21 2009 @ 11:23 pm: [report]

I asked him what he thought the first time he saw me naked.  His reply “I was like ‘she’s not fat’”.  At the time I thought it sounded more like “She’s…not fat”.  You know, he made it sound like he really did think I was fat, but it was really a misunderstanding and my own insecurities.

Another gem “Was your nose ever broken?” a serious question!

TCU1793
wrote on June 21 2009 @ 11:53 pm: [report]

“Wow… you looked a LOT prettier last night.” I can’t stand my ex.

LeeKendall
wrote on June 22 2009 @ 09:51 am: [report]

@luvlost I think its incredibly rude that you would put someone down on this thread, especially saying something like “no wonder he left you”. She didn’t even say anything that offensive.

luvlost
wrote on June 22 2009 @ 01:41 pm: [report]

@leekendall when i said that i meant no man wants a woman who displays their sexual business all out in the open like that which ios why i said that

owleyes1918
wrote on June 23 2009 @ 04:43 pm: [report]

“You’re a selfish, psychotic piece of #&@$% waste of human being.”

“It’s not entirely my fault; you should’ve been more forceful saying ‘no’.”

“You make everyone around you miserable.”

“I don’t want you to come with me.”
“Why?” - me
“Because I want to have a good time.”

ALL FROM THE SAME a**hole.  Still pissed.

Mademoiselle
wrote on June 23 2009 @ 05:49 pm: [report]

Although I find it amazing that any women have had to listen to the stupid comments that have been posted here, it is refreshing to hear that I’m not the only one who has *unfortunately* been subjected to it.  I dated the same guy for 5ish years - needless to say it should have only been maybe a few months.  Typical when it’s good its good, when it’s bad it’s hell kind of relationship.  In addition to the normal insults, “you’re fat”, ‘jokes’ about me being a prostitute (he thought he was hilarious), etc. These two are the most hurtful that I think I was ever on the receiving end of:

“Your Dad left because of you.”  - This being said after my parents had a nasty divorce, and I had an almost total loss of communication with my father.

“Your brother is an #&@$%.” - My brother is one of my favorite people in this world, and he was being called an #&@$% only because he was smart enough to see through my bf.

In the future, I’m not putting up with this crap.  Frankly, I don’t know why I did for so long.

bethylane
wrote on June 24 2009 @ 05:57 am: [report]

My current guy called me a wench the other day when we were playing a board game with his roommate. I basically let it go, but it has stuck with me and now I’m increasingly upset about it.

owleyes1918
wrote on June 24 2009 @ 06:07 am: [report]

@Britrz I was in an emotionally abusive relationship too for four years.  The worst thing he could’ve possibly said a month after we broke up and he was seeing someone else: “I can be a good guy. I just needed to be with the right girl.”

OUCH.

I totally get where you’re coming from.  My sympathies to you.

thatangrykid
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 05:49 pm: [report]

Recently, my boyfriend left me. Normally, I’m not the type to really care or think twice if it’s something painful. But, this guy got me pregnant and I had to get an abortion in order to quell his fears and mine. The only problem with that is that I’m 16; I ended up going to a hack job. Now I’m sterile (I’m not sure if that’s the correct word). To top things off, my heart’s collapsing and there’s really nothing that can be done about it. Those things don’t compare to what he did though, not even close. The day he decided to break up with me, he told me he didn’t care at all anymore and that I could die. Now that I am dying, I don’t know what to think anymore.

_jsw_
wrote on July 6 2009 @ 08:16 pm: [report]

@thatangrykid - When you say your heart is collapsing, do you mean you have an actual physical issue, or that you’re heartbroken over what happened? I’m sorry about all that transpired, but it sure sounds like you found out he was the wrong guy. At least you’ll know better than to ever want him back.

Molly Jean
wrote on July 8 2009 @ 02:10 pm: [report]

WTF?  This might be the saddest thing I’ve ever read!

thatangrykid
wrote on July 9 2009 @ 02:36 pm: [report]

@_jsw_ - I do have a literal broken heart. I mean, it’s not going to break into pieces, but it’s got some weak valves and if I can’t find some miraculous way to strengthen them, I’ll need a heart transplant I can’t afford. But at least it seems like relationship-wise, things look so much better now that he’s gone.

Amaya
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 08:30 pm: [report]

This is after a 2 year relationship with the biggest a$$hole I’ve ever met in my life.

We were in the midst of breaking up and he told me that he was only faithful for a total of one whole month the entire time we were together, and it was humiliating leaving the house with me because i was so disgusting he didn’t want anybody thinking that he might actually enjoy having sex with somebody that looked me. As i was “escorting” him out of my house a few days later he looked at me and had the nerve to say “I feel sorry for the man that ends up with you for the rest of his life.” and ” You’ll never find anyone that is quite like me ever again.”

Yeah…I followed that up with “I sure hope not.”

_jsw_
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 08:55 pm: [report]

@thatangrykid; I’m sorry that I didn’t see your reply until now, and I’m sorrier to hear about your heart. For what it’s worth, a friend of mine has had similar heart valve issues but is doing very well. Advances occur on a daily basis. Health care policies are changing. And, before you know it, you will likely, one way or another, have insurance. Hang in there. And while you’re doing that, find a non-#&@$% to spend your time with, K?

@Amaya: I apologize on behalf of my sex. That’s unconscionable. He will get what’s coming to him - please realize that not all men are so horrific.

thatangrykid
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 04:19 pm: [report]

@_jsw_ - It means a lot what you’ve said. Thanks so much.

_jsw_
wrote on July 12 2009 @ 04:28 pm: [report]

@thatangrykid: I’m glad it helped. Hang in there, and it’ll turn out just fine. You’ll appreciate each day more than others your age who assume they’re immortal -but you’ll live just as long as they do. And one day (soon, or in a while), you’ll find someone who you’ll share those days with and who appreciates you for who you are.

explody
wrote on July 13 2009 @ 01:07 am: [report]

Well, let’s see. I can think of a few that haven’t been posted yet.

When I was 18, from long-ago-ex:
“I don’t compliment you because I don’t want you to get an ego.”

“You’re not upset that I cheated, you’re just upset that I bruised your ego.”

When my cat was sick and I was upset: “Why don’t you cry over ME?”

That’s not even the worst of it (physical abuse). These men know how to zero in on women with low/no self esteem.

Obvious RED FLAGS I should have been aware of:

He lived with his mom (he was in his 20s), was jobless for months at a time, paid no bills, bought no food, spent all his money on drugs, stole his mom’s drugs (yeah), his dad (who raised him) beat and psychologically abused his mom, as well as framed her for a crime he committed which put her in jail for a significant time.

Oh, and he was a musician who craved any and all attention. Need we say more?

Anyway, once I gained self respect, I met one amazing man after the other and am now married to someone who I can wholeheartedly say is perfect for me. I think you reach a point where you raise your standards and demand respect and these kind of lowlife men know you’re off limits.

My only advice: Don’t waste another second with the loser and get into yourself. Respect yourself and people will respect you. Respect yourself a lot, and like-minded individuals will flock to you.

fotophrk
wrote on July 15 2009 @ 06:29 am: [report]

On the phone…

“Uh. Could you leave the apartment for a couple of hours so I can bring my friend, Constance, there for a little while. We just want to study.”

6 months later he was my Ex-husband.

_jsw_
wrote on July 16 2009 @ 09:38 pm: [report]

@Katharine Seeber: Nice guy. You should tell him it’s not the hall’s fault the sausage is so tiny.

iriza
wrote on July 21 2009 @ 07:12 pm: [report]

During a discussion on how we want to raise our future kids (not for another, at least, 3-5 years)..
“You think i want another you?”

Melusine
wrote on July 24 2009 @ 08:37 pm: [report]

From my ex-fiance:

-“You can move out and we’ll just casually date.” (Um..so you’re going to throw me out of our house and I’m going to still date you? Ha!)

-“No body cares what you think!”

From an boyfriend who described himself as a “middle-aged, fat man”:

-“I only fall asleep when you are bl*wing me because I’m so relaxed.”

-“I don’t want to have sex with you because then you might get attached to me” (We had been living together for six months then)

As I was breaking up with him: “I figured, since you’re almost 30 and no one else seems interested, we’d just eventually get married.”

From my last boyfriend (who was recycled high school sweetheart (10 years after we graduated) that I sent a letter to while he was in Iraq. After we were together for six months we went home for Christmas and he abandoned me in a hotel, checked into another hotel with another girl, that he just met, and called me two days later to say he wanted to take a “break”.

-“Fat girls try harder!”
-“How do you know when a woman has an orgasm? WHO CARES!” (His favorite joke.)
-“Get away from me, you’re unclean!” (Any time I was having “girl time”)
-“I have three or four other women that would commit to me if that was what I wanted.” (He wasn’t kidding either, he was cheating on me with at least three other women, all of whom he claimed were lesbian friends of his. I don’t know any straight men with that many lesbian friends)
-“I wouldn’t have to push on your head if you knew what you were doing.” (Really? If that was a simulated expulsion of metallic tasting fluid then he is far more talented that I thought.)
-“If I was given the choice between Sarah (Palin) and you, I’d do her.”
-“Are you hormonal?” (Any time I said something that he thought was unruly)
-“A scientist in England did a study and determined that swallowing sperm is an anti-depressant.” (Really jerk, then you choke down a big ol’ cup full of it and tell me how happy you feel afterwards!)
-“Your breasts are small, but I’m really not interested in them anyway. I prefer your big fat ass.”
-“Oh, and I suppose this means you want me to perform oral sex on you now too?”
-“I didn’t realize that you really meant that you didn’t want me having sex with other women.”
-“I haven’t had sex with any new women” (When he was asked if he had slept with anyone else in the 8 months we had not seen each other.)

I’m sure there are more from him. He thought he was just fabulous. I didn’t mind so much that he was overweight. Or even that he never (and I mean never) took his shirt or socks off when we were together. But really, what kind of prize are you when I notice that the skid marks on your jeans are actually starting to show on the outside. At 30, one should be able to properly clean themselves and at least come close to hitting the toilet when they pee sober. I wasted two years of my life on a lying, cheating, worm-headed sack of monkey crap who, when he was being nice, could make me feel like I was the most beautiful woman in the world, and in an instant could turn on me and completely destroy my self-esteem.  After years of being unhappy with my weight I had finally gotten to the point where I was happy with myself. Then he came along and tried to undo it. Well he is the loser now. He tossed away someone who is independent, self-sufficient, smart and has a good job. So what if I’m not a size 4. He certainly wasn’t Brad Pitt. I am happy with myself and I don’t need a loser like him bringing me down. If I may borrow a line from Pam Anderson…he can “Suck it!”

Stinkerbell
wrote on August 29 2009 @ 07:35 pm: [report]

I’ve heard a lot of similar comments from my last ex. We were together a little over 2 years. It wasn’t a complete waste- I certainly learned a lot about what I will NOT tolerate from a man EVER again.

A few highlights:

“I’m not telling my friends we’re dating because, well, they find you annoying.” (His friends were pretty much into World of Warcraft and D&D; the fact that they had some really exalted standards is, in hindsight, laughable- apparently they gave him crap for my weight and the way I dress.)

“Tell you the truth, you do embarrass me. You’re overweight, talk too much, and are overly opinionated.”

I do want to marry you eventually… but you really need to lose weight first.”

He really had a thing about my weight now that I think about it. Wonder why he had me living with him to begin with if he was so dreadfully unhappy with me.

Anyway, the ‘relationship’ limped along. I took a separate bedroom (his snoring was horrendous), paid part of the bills, cleaned the house regularly, cooked meals, did his laundry, and put up with his newly divorced, obnoxious dad who moved in on top of us. Oh, and I worked full-time as well. Intimacy was non-existent; sex was a favor I did for him, on his terms, when he wanted it (which was almost never). Why he would beg me to stay every time I tried to move out I have no idea. Why I stayed is an even bigger mystery; I think I must have believed that my love for him would have eventually made him start treating him right. (Um, no. That doesn’t happen.)

I did finally call it quits for good. He spent the next year trying to get me to come back, probably out of loneliness. I don’t talk to him now, nor do I care to. I’ve moved on (4 years after the fact) and found a nicer guy who respects me as a person and with whom I’m much more compatible.

VAgirl
wrote on August 30 2009 @ 06:58 pm: [report]

From my now ex husband after gaining some weight (so did he)-
“Oh, it’s you coming down the stairs.  I thought it was a herd of elephants.”

VAgirl
wrote on August 30 2009 @ 07:43 pm: [report]

Also from my ex-“Shut the hell up you f*cking b*tch” (yelled at me).  We were newlyweds and we had just come back from the doctor’s office because he had health issues and found out he had high cholesterol (he was 24).  He promptly sat down and ate a bunch of fried and unhealthy food.  I simply asked him why he was eating those foods especially after what he just found out.  I said I would love it if he ate healthier food.  He told me to mind my own business and I said that I don’t want to be a widow at 40.  Then he yelled that at me.  Now I don’t give a f*ck what happens to him.  He abused me and our pets (didn’t know that at the time) for 4 years.

VAgirl
wrote on August 30 2009 @ 08:03 pm: [report]

Ironically even though I dealt with abuse from this former wonderful man, the harshest thing I heard (other than that he was cheating on me with two other women when it seemed he was working on the marriage during our separation) was when he looked me dead in the eye, inches away from my face after flying me out to see him around my birthday and making love to me and after being together 6 years and said “I don’t want to be with you anymore.”  I’ll never forget that feeling.

VAgirl
wrote on August 30 2009 @ 08:10 pm: [report]

Oooh, I’m sorry-one more doozy-“No one is ever going to want you.  You’re lucky I put up with your sh*t.”  My sh*t?  Wanting to own a few dogs and cats and only being a semi decent housekeeper.  I always treated him well, never yelled, always worked, etc.  He would go off about how lucky I was to have him and how I would be alone the rest of my life if it weren’t for him.  I’ve now been dating a wonderful man for 3 years who loves me no matter what, including my weight, my housekeeping skills, and my pets. Guess he was wrong about that one!  Piece of crap.  Gosh this is cathartic!

VAgirl
wrote on August 30 2009 @ 11:46 pm: [report]

Reading through all of these has triggered more memories.  Nothing it seemed was ever good enough for my ex.  He told me, before we were married, that his mom was trying to hook him up with a girl from back home that she worked with.  He said that I had to have unprotected sex with him or else we were over and he would probably give the other girl a shot.  I was scared as hell about losing him so I did.  I popped 2 birth control pills afterwards, but I did.  I felt like I had sold my soul.  Needless to say, I did not enjoy that intimate encounter.  If I remember correctly, I cried.  I felt like he was raping me.  That was the worst I’ve ever felt in my life.
I might as well group all of these together so there’s not 20 postings from me.  Like I said, nothing was ever good enough.  Once we got married he would make empty threats, although at the time I didn’t know they were empty.  If I wasn’t fast enough or good enough at something he would say the same thing.  “Clean the house or else we’re over.”  “Register the car now or else we’re over.”  “Get a job now or else we’re over.” (when I had just lost my last job a week or two earlier.)  Stuff like that.
During our marriage we had separate bank accounts (his idea of course).  I had no access to his money.  He would pay for his truck payment, rent, and car insurance for both of us.  I would pay all the other bills, food, vet bills, magazine subscriptions, clothes, dry cleaning, etc., even though he was making 3 times what I made!  When our relationship really hit the fan (the same time my car did) I not only had to pay for the same things that I was paying for already but had to add a new car payment to that and also-half the rent!  This was for the last 6 months we were together.  He said that he was doing me a favor by staying there and helping out with the bills.  By this time I had moved on to another job that was my best paying job so far, but it was commission only (door to door sales).  I don’t know how I came up with all that money to pay everything I had to pay.  Our rent was $1300 and he also said that he was doing me a favor by making me pay only $600 while he paid $700.  Meanwhile, he was still earning more money than me working for the military. (So he also had a nice, steady paycheck).  The housing allowance that they had given us was just a little more than the rent.  So meanwhile, he’s pocketing the $600/month that should have gone towards rent, since he’s making me pay for it!
The ironic thing is, that he promised to take care of me financially after the divorce.  He promised me a lump sum that I had to agree to or else I wouldn’t have seen any money.  (I didn’t go through the courts for several reasons.)  I haven’t seen a single cent from him in the 4 years we’ve been divorced.  Shocker.
Later, after we separated but were still in touch, he told me that he had gotten this statue of two pigs (his mom collects pigs) and that they looked like they were doing it.  She decided to name one his name and the other one, the name of the girl that she wanted him with (which was one of the two girls he cheated on me with).  I was like thaaaaaaaaaaanks.  That’s the weekend that he looked me in the eyes and said he didn’t want to be with me anymore.  I was an idiot for staying the whole weekend, seeing as he told me that almost immediately.  And you flew me down here and then made love to me why???  Oh yeahhhhh, because your two hoes are across the country…  I’m sure there will be more on him to come…

VAgirl
wrote on August 31 2009 @ 12:06 am: [report]

Okay, so I get rid of this loser and actually start dating again.  What was I thinking?  I met one guy online and we started talking.  He acted pretty nuts one night when he thought I was going to come over earlier in the evening than I had planned, to meet for the first time, and I hadn’t shown up yet.  He actually SOBBED on the phone and said “But I think I’m falling in love with you!” when he thought I wasn’t going to come over at all.  Girls-RED FLAG!!!  When someone who barely knows you says that, RUN.  Anyway, I felt so bad for him that I went over to his place and hung out with him and kissed him.  A week later we got together again and ended up sleeping together.  By this time I was a goner.  He had already told me he loved me a few times and we had already done the deed, so I told him I loved him too.  Bad self esteem much?  The next day we were on a date and I simply said “I love you.” and his response was “Why do you have to make things so serious?  We’re on a date, let’s just have fun.”  I was like okaaaay, that was weird.  That kinda hurt.  Is this the same guy that emasculated himself a week before to someone he’s never met?  A few days later he said that he met someone else online and had already lined a date up with her before he met me and while he had strong feelings for me, he felt obligated to uphold his part of the deal.  After their date he called me and said that he had more fun than he thought he would, that she was attractive and now he was really confused.  Not wanting to be too clingy, and kinda afraid of being in a serious relationship again, I told him that as long as I could still go out on dates with him, that I understood him wanting to date around.  (He was a recent divorcee himself and hadn’t dated much.)  He thanked me and said what an awesome girl I was, etc, etc.  Well, I talked to him once or twice more and then never heard from him again.  A HOLE!  That actually messed me up for a while.  I was mad at myself for letting my guard down so quickly.

VAgirl
wrote on August 31 2009 @ 12:20 am: [report]

After everything I was still desperate for love (which is actually when you shouldn’t be looking for it!) so I continued meeting guys online (I work alone, don’t really socialize much).  This one dude and I were supposed to meet at a restaurant.  He was running late and convinced me to meet him outside the restaurant so our first awkward meeting wouldn’t be in front of a bunch of strangers.  Made sense, I guess.  I was walking around by the parking lot, on my cell phone with him describing what I was wearing so he would know which one I was.  He said he saw me and was headed my way.  I waited and waited and waited.  I kept calling his cell but no answer.  Then finally he answers but doesn’t say anything.  It sounds like he’s in his car with the stereo on.  I’m confused but I give up and go home.  The next day I finally get ahold of him and he said that I wasn’t his type.  (so he just left me standing there!)  The kicker was when he asked if I had a friend because while I wasn’t good enough to date, I was good enough for a threesome.  Needless to say, I never spoke to him again.

Aidra
wrote on August 31 2009 @ 10:13 am: [report]

After reading a portion of these stories, I realize how lucky I am. My one serious ex never called me fat or called me names. He made me cry once because he started screaming at me for informing a boss of mine a fellow employee was stealing. He said I didn’t have the right to possibly ruin this guy and get him fired. If a guy friend ever gave me something, like a CD or messaged me online, my ex would tell me guys only give things to girls because they want sex. Funny, considering we were together for 2 of my birthdays, two anniversaries and several holidays and I never got a thing from him. I’m so fortunate to have found my husband.

Aidra
wrote on August 31 2009 @ 10:24 am: [report]

That’s not true, he would call me a bitch if we were fighting, but I was being a bitch. He started hanging out with the girl he dated immediatelyafterme a month before we broke up. I moved out of our apartment because we thought we wouldn’t fight so much if I did. I lived 20 minutes from his place. He visited me once a week during that month because I “lived in the city” but he had no problem visiting his future girlfriend at work 15-20 minutes away. I later found out he was telling this girl he loved her a month after they were together, but he didn’t tell me he loved me for to 10 months. I also didn’t have a car while we lived together because I was a 30 minute walk from work, or a 3 minute drive. He hated picking me up from work, even when it was 11 at night, which I rarely asked him because we worked different schedules. He told me I owed him gas money… for a total of 5-6 minutes of driving. The dude was WORTHLESS.

Aidra
wrote on August 31 2009 @ 12:25 pm: [report]

Sorry, sorry, I now remember the worst thing a guy ever called me: a Scientologist. Oooh, burn. When in fact I am not and never have been one… just raised around them.

astra830
wrote on August 31 2009 @ 01:03 pm: [report]

After reading through all of these I realized what jerks a lot of guys can be- for a long time I thought it was just my ex-fiance.  He was horribly mean and narcissitic and of course in his eyes, i was never good enough…  Here are some of my favorites:

- How can you expect to be anything in life if you can’t get THIS right? (i accidently bought chicken thighs instead of breasts).

- I never really liked you when i met you, i just wanted to f*ck you cuz you have a hot body… I guess you won me over though. (a year into our engagement).

- I know i’m good looking and successful so its strange that I dont usually go for a good looking girl, you’re no exception. (i thought he was joking).

- i think it would have been the biggest mistake of my life to marry you…. but i’m ready to be married so do you want to do this? (trying to ‘patch things up’ after i moved out).

i could go on for days.  but i’ll spare you.  it took me a while to figure out that my current boyfriend really means his compliments.  guess 3 years of being treated like something stuck to a guys shoe had made me a bit jaded.

Tart and Soul
wrote on September 4 2009 @ 08:49 am: [report]

“Can I pee on you?”

Of course the answer was negative.

shewholaughslast
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 01:52 pm: [report]

“Do you have an hot, thin friends to hook me up with, since I am smaller than you, and it would make sense for me to be with someone more like me”

“you’re fat and an ugly woman who will find someone just like you”

ugh….all of this from the same guy who was being intentionally mean cause I decided I didn’t want to meet up with him, and kept calling at random hours… it came as a text….mind you, he was smaller than me (much shorter), and a divorced, unemployed 36 year father of two living with his parents as he decided to go back to school full time for a second bachelors!!!...

Then, there are always the guys who tell me how hot I am, and how much they are into me, but not for a relationship!!!

I’m sorry…this making me rant beyond belief, but it’s just where do these guys get off behaving as they do… Some days I feel so lonely being single, but then I think to myself, its better than having to deal with #&@$% like that

DancingGeek
wrote on September 9 2009 @ 08:31 pm: [report]

I could certainly add to this list (22 years of marriage to an alcoholic bully) but I don’t feel the need to rehash it all, plus its sad enough already.

@shewholaughslast- yeah sister! After reading all that I am celebrating my singlehood!

kr070707
wrote on September 11 2009 @ 08:15 pm: [report]

These comments make me realize how lucky I am both with my ex-boyfriends and current bf. I’ve NEVER been called any of the names listed above, and I think the worst thing my bf has said (after 2 years of dating) is: “I like your little stomach. It’s cute!”

Unfortunately, I did hear some awful comments from my (usually) wonderful and kind father. Things like this gem of a conversation:
-“A woman will never become president.”
-“What about me, Dad?”
-“You’re a woman, you’ll never be president, or a CEO. Look at all the CEO’s of big companies: men. You know why? Because women aren’t as smart or talented as men and never will be. It’s a biological fact.”

Conversations like that happened when I was about 10-12 years old: the prime formative years of self-confidence and esteem. Great. To this day it’s hard to reconcile these comments with the same man that told me I could do anything I wanted to in life if I worked hard enough, that he had total faith in me to succeed, and many other uplifting and encouraging things. Maybe my dad just had a mean streak?

Still, I realize how lucky I am.

Typewriter
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 06:34 pm: [report]

My first real boyfriend, the guy I lost my virginity to, who was six years older than me:
“I don’t love you.”
“I’m ashamed that we ever went out.”
“Our friends talk #&@$% about you whenever you’re not around.”
“You’re such a fake.” (I was a fake. Probably because I always had to act a certain way so he wouldn’t leave me.)
“F*ck off. If you don’t knock it off, I’m probably going to cheat on you.”
(Upon his return from a stint as a camp counselor in Philadelphia all summer) “It was hard, and I thought about it a lot, but I didn’t cheat.”
A year later, this lie was revealed when he stated…
“I cheated on you. A lot. But you probably deserved it.”
“You were never very good in bed.”
“I didn’t even think of you, I had to look at the other girls from camp just to get off.”

I was just a terrible, insecure little thing when I was with him. Now I’m with someone who actually respects and loves me and I can tell it kills my ex that I’m with a better man… Better-looking, respected by peers, financially successful, just generally well-liked. And he’s probably going to marry me. My ex won’t even talk to me now. Good riddance.

effing hickster
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 07:48 pm: [report]

Man, if I’d ever said any of those things, my mom would’ve slapped me into the middle of next week.

SCRMOM
wrote on September 20 2009 @ 10:48 pm: [report]

@eh:  Man, if I ever heard any man say any of those things, I would’ve slapped him into the middle of next week!

VAgirl
wrote on September 24 2009 @ 09:08 pm: [report]

Aidra-thanks for reminding me.  My ex stopped giving me stuff on important days after the crap hit the fan.  Even when things were good he still forgot my birthday.  I’m glad you’re with a better guy now.  I can’t believe your ex asked for half the gas money!

Jitterbugs232
wrote on September 24 2009 @ 09:13 pm: [report]

I told him he was becoming one of my bestfriends, he told me “yea but I’m JUST your boyfriend, lets not complicate things much”

VAgirl
wrote on September 24 2009 @ 09:17 pm: [report]

The guy I’m with now is pretty wonderful for the most part but he’s got a bad temper.  He yells and screams at me and has called me a whore once and a bitch three times (over 3 years).  He came up with the idea on his own just this morning to go to counseling for his anger issues.  Hopefully it will work.  I will not have kids with someone who treats me the way he does.

VAgirl
wrote on September 24 2009 @ 09:19 pm: [report]

Jitterbugs-DAMN!

humminbird
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 03:52 pm: [report]

My current fiance has said “I’m a better writer than you, and I’m smarter than you. You’ll never get anywhere because you always have writer’s block. I write all the time. Why don’t you ever have any common sense?”
He aplogized later and said he didn’t mean any of it, he was drunk…but it hurt my feelings and pissed me off. Honestly, he’s brilliant with writing, but I’m better. But at the same time, I don’t EVER throw that in his face. When he would whine that I was better at it, I would always encourage him and tell him he was fantastic…and I meant it. He could have thrown me a freaking bone, man.

humminbird
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 04:07 pm: [report]

Wait, I’ve got a better one. Dude I met on Myspace was local. He told me he was looking for wife material, when he was only about 18 or so. I was a year older. Anyway, he shows up on this gorgeous Harley…and he’s really cute…and I’d just gotten out of a relationship with my current fiance (we broke up for six months, timeframe I met this guy in). Guy gets all clingy and tells me he wants to be exclusive. I said okay, but only if we could keep it casual. When I told him I wasn’t high maintenance, he said, “Sweet, that means you’re cheap and I NEVER have to buy you ANY gifts.” Since HE was the one who wanted kids, we started talking hypothetically and he told me he’d never sell his bike if his kids needed medicine, because his bike meant more to him…and the clincher. He dumped me for a fourteen-year-old, and told me his mother said she didn’t want him having kids with me because I would “infect them.” Because I have a disability. Nice, right?

VAgirl
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 05:40 pm: [report]

Humminbird-about the second entry-OMG!!!  That left me with my mouth agape!  For your first entry-I hope what your fiance told you was the worst thing he’s ever said.

VAgirl
wrote on September 25 2009 @ 05:41 pm: [report]

My boyfriend brings up a good point everyone-why is Joey Lawrence’s picture at the top of this page? 

humminbird
wrote on September 26 2009 @ 01:42 am: [report]

Yeah, it was the worst thing. He doesn’t usually say things like that. But that other one was just the worst thing anyone’s ever said about me, period. And he later backed it up. Joey Lawrence’s picture is on the page because he’s eye candy! Lol. I don’t know. Maybe he played a jerk in a movie?

resullins
wrote on September 28 2009 @ 07:55 am: [report]

@VAgirl… that looks more like Joey Fatone to me… I always had the biggest crush on Joey Lawrence when I was a kod!

Miss Mia
wrote on October 1 2009 @ 11:49 pm: [report]

I was at a wedding with the guy I’m dating, and an hour before the function ended his ex showed up. From the moment she arrived to the moment we left his undivided attention was on her. Needless to say I was left looking like an idiot at the same table where he was ‘talking’ to her. To not make a scene I kept my composure as best as I could and pretended everything was fine when indeed everyone noticed I was irate.

When we finally left he had the nerve to ask “are you mad at me?” and moments later after I expressed how his actions were a complete disrespect towards me he said I was making the relationship “a chore”. Needless to say, I grabbed my purse and stormed out, but not before he threw in “grow up”.

Knitter79
wrote on October 3 2009 @ 12:45 pm: [report]

‘I wasted my 20s on you.’

VAgirl
wrote on October 3 2009 @ 04:02 pm: [report]

resullins-Look closer-it’s obviously Joey Lawrence.    Looks like from his “Blossom” days.  BTW-LOVE your avatar! 

Shriekback68
wrote on October 4 2009 @ 03:28 am: [report]

I’ve never had ANY of my exes say anything close to the nasty garbage I’ve seen in this thread. Perhaps that’s why I’m still friends with all of them. Or maybe I’ve just had good luck with women… *shrug*

CJ1432
wrote on October 4 2009 @ 08:16 pm: [report]

“I have a fat chick for a girlfriend.”
“You’ll never find anybody else as good as me.”
“He sounds like a douche bag.”-after the funeral of a childhood friend of mine that was killed by a drunk driver.

All from my ex that I dated for 2 years after high.  Looking back now I wonder what I saw in him in the first place.

“All you talk about is lip gloss and earrings.” -That was a couple days after I had asked him if I left them at his house.  He jokingly said he was going to keep them, and I jokingly said back he couldn’t because they were my favorites.
“Your just not what I’m looking for.”- as he was breaking up with me in a bar.

CJ1432
wrote on October 4 2009 @ 08:25 pm: [report]

Oh, and I can’t believe I forgot this one- “I don’t trust anything that bleeds for a week and doesn’t die.”  That was from a guy who was on his 3rd marriage at 32 and lied about having cancer…..apparently you can cure it in a month with a pill.

resullins
wrote on October 4 2009 @ 09:07 pm: [report]

@VAGirl… Nope… too old and the hair is all wrong!

He was adorable in the Blossom days!

And thanks!

AlisonNoelle
wrote on October 5 2009 @ 05:57 pm: [report]

I cheated on you and her baby might be mine. OUCH!

ThatGirlH
wrote on October 6 2009 @ 02:51 am: [report]

I’m so sorry to hear about everyone terribles expereinces and how men have said such nasty things…they didn’t deserve you. 

Some things said to me…I’m lucky I was never called Bi**h but:

My ex-fiancee said to me the day he broke up with me:  “When I find another woman, I want to be able to call you and ask for your opinion of her!”  also, when I asked him if he ever loved me, he replied “love comes after marriage.”

My current bf…but we have to break up soon because he is from a culture where they arrange marriages…he has to marry his cousin…so he says to me, after I ask him if he meet her yet:  “I’ll f*** her on the wedding night.” I guess in other words he won’t until the wedding night see her.  Still it hurts to know he will be with someone else and they will have him..it just added insult to injury.

Lastly, I never actually had sex with him, but after what we did do…he told me, I failed…and it wasn’t real sex.  I’m trying to respect myself and not give myself to someone who can’t marry me…I still love him…but I am glad I stood my ground.  He’s not so bad…but says mean things when he is in a bad mood ....

bebe1234
wrote on October 10 2009 @ 07:16 pm: [report]

Well my ex asked why do i hate him?  So i hope he reads this blog and finds out. He started dating my sister . He first started giving her a front on things like i cant because of your sister, and your sister is a great friend,  i dont want her to feel bad. All the mean while my sister was flirting with him when we were dating. I dont speak to my sister because i had already told her I was dating him and to back off, she still continued to flirt, and i wont until she kicks the guy out of the curve could be one of her fads. Anyways, one of the times we went out he called me old, fat, and ugly. I told my sister this when we broke up which I ended it right away . I dont take abusive behaviour nicely.  and the very next day they were up to flirting and doing the whole date deal. and the man wants to know why i hate him .

misspestilence
wrote on October 10 2009 @ 08:00 pm: [report]

“you’re unlovable”(1mth realtionship)
“I’ve hated you for the past year” (3yr relationship)
“Hey fatty. Go eat some more”(3yr relationship, and im 113lbs)
“You look like a whore” (my father)

dantesgirl
wrote on October 12 2009 @ 12:59 pm: [report]

i’ve gotten lucky i guess…the worst thing that my bf (internet relationship of 7 months) has said to me is “you don’t care about me” and “you live behind that front so much i’m not sure i really know you” both things which were said in an argument..

kbabii99
wrote on October 17 2009 @ 07:39 pm: [report]

I brought the guy I was seeing for 4 months to my cousins wedding.. (Please Note he broke up with his ex about 6 months ago, and still talks about her and I cant stand when guys do that) I personlly love wedding’s and always puts me in the best mood, I love seeing peole in love! And we all stand up just as the bride was about to walk in. The doors opend and fist thing out of his mouth…. “OH My God that looks like Jen!”... Whome was his ex that he broke up with 6 months earlier….and the whole night sayin, “Oh that bride is to cute..” Basically saying his ex was cute… the whole night… Talk about a way to ruin a woman’s night…

CatsLaffN
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 10:22 am: [report]

2 years after separation I began dating a local business man almost 12 years older than me. As my 40th birthday party approached, he announced that he did not want to attend because “What’s the point? I’m never going to see any of these people again anyway.” Hmmm, is there something you’d like to tell me??!!!!
To make matters worse, after we split he turned out to still be married, not separated as he claimed.

Lynn
wrote on October 19 2009 @ 11:06 am: [report]

@kbabii99 - was that recently? You need to get out of that mess. If he broke up with a girl 2 months before you two got together, and he talks about her that much, it’s not fair to you.

brokenever
wrote on October 21 2009 @ 04:35 am: [report]

“If you died, I’d probably mourn for about a week and then move on.”

And more recently:

“Your cat probably won’t be alive much longer anyway.” (keeping in mind that I ADORE my cat, as most pet-owners do) Redeeming quality of the last one, after he saw the hurt look on my face he was all “oh shi—I didn’t mean it that way, I’m sorry!”

The other one never apologized or seemed to realize what a jerk he was.

catmcroy
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 02:27 am: [report]

1. My high school boyfriend “God told me that I’m getting in the way of your relationship with him…so I have to break up with you.”
2. My ex-husband “It’s your fault I’m not interested in meeting your needs. If you were thinner and smarter, I’d be interested.” (side note: he’s in a 5x size and I wear a size 10 and I’m 5’11”. And my IQ is 10 points higher)

On the plus side, they really let me appreciate my amazing current partner who is always complimenting me and treats me like the goddess I am.

resullins
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 09:16 am: [report]

@Cat:

I have to say, I’m pretty sure that you dodged a HUGE bullet on #1. He sounds a little fruity to me.

misspestilence
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 12:59 pm: [report]

“you’re only good when you spread your legs.” (1mth relationship)
“dating you is like babysitting.” (3yr relationship)
“don’t f**king touch me in public. i don’t want people to think i’d be with someone like you.” (1mth relationship)

Lola610
wrote on November 6 2009 @ 08:31 pm: [report]

His favorite thing to say “maybe I should go out and find another b!tch and maybe she’ll suck my #&@$%”

but the worst one…“I liked the feeling of having you under control and under my power, wondering and guessing if my #&@$% was in another b!tch…how stupid do you feel? me??? it feels great to know I can fool your stupid a$$ about anything for however long I want.” after finally telling me the truth of sleeping with my supposid best friend for 7 months…yup, out of a two year relationship…he lied about it for 7 months.

And…I’m probably going to get popcorn thrown at me…but we’re still together

brokenever
wrote on November 9 2009 @ 10:28 am: [report]

Lots of popcorn for Lola! That guy doesn’t deserve you in the least. :(

Lynn
wrote on November 9 2009 @ 11:23 am: [report]

@Lola610 - popcorn? try an anvil. Of course, if you stay after all that, I guess you have it coming.

resullins
wrote on November 9 2009 @ 11:55 am: [report]

@Lynn: I have to agree with that statement. I may become instantly disparaged here… but if a woman is stupid enough to stay with someone that treats her like this, she’s making her own decidions and deserves whatever she gets.

It’s no different than making the choice to get behind the wheel when you’re wasted. You’re making a concious choice and are aware of the possible consequences!

That being said, I hope Lola gets out… but if she stays, I can’t feel sorry for her.

escarole
wrote on November 10 2009 @ 08:13 pm: [report]

My ex friend with benefit, who I was totally in love with, asked me (rhetorically) “Who couldn’t fall in love with you?”

You, jackass. Shut your mouth.

fotophrk
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 09:09 am: [report]

Ugh! Beautiful. Did you say, “apparently you”? I would have.

MaryP
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 11:57 am: [report]

Okay Ladies, here’s a couple,

Ten years after my miscarriage - and during the divorce (go figure) I’m cruel because….

I did not go to comfort him.

Given the fact that dr said I should come closer to hospital, was dropped off at my friend’s ‘near’ the hospital with no car and he left because he had to work the next day…  and um.. wasn’t there, didn’t come back ??? after loss of baby???

During divorce, we decided together.. best for girls to be with mom and boy to be with dad.

He told kids… I love all my kids, mom doesn’t want you (to boy).

nice, eh?

Okay… here’s the last one…  Child support back pay ordered by the judge.  He says….

That lawyer is Jewishing us up for every dime !

Oh my goodness !!  Wait until the professional community he works in hears about that one???  Wonder if it will effect the business?

xdarlinlilsarax
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 06:35 pm: [report]

MOMENTS after proposing:
“wow I really didn’t think you would say yes because of all the other girls I’ve slept with”
haven’t seen him since!

Ariandre
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:17 pm: [report]

said by my boyfriend who I had just given my virginity to:  “now if I can just teach you right I could put you on the streets and earn some moolah.”  Wow, did not see that coming….we weren’t together after that and I still feel cringy when I think about it.

ootie grl
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 01:43 pm: [report]

my ex said: I cant get over my exgirlfriend she s just better than you. Were so close, thats why i cant stay away from her. 0.0     And thats the first time i punched a guy in the face.  He had been cheating on me with her.

sanguisuga
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 01:44 pm: [report]

I was in a verbally abusive relationship for nearly five years…  It didn’t start out that way, of course.  But then the “b*tch”, and “you’re stupid” comments started.  I thought I could handle it, because they’re just words, right?  Worst thing was during the breakup.  “You know, some guys only go with fat girls because they know that there won’t be any competition.”  Uhh…  It’s five years later, and his words sometimes still affect me, even though we haven’t spoken in all that time.  I’ve met someone recently who is a delightful man in all respects, but I’m still amazed and a little suspicious of all the wonderful things he says to me.  It isn’t fair to him at all, but I can’t help it.

MariJye
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 02:08 pm: [report]

I remember there was a girl with the same name as me and high school and she liked this boy so her friends told him about her but left out her last name..Later that week he comes up to me and says sorry I don’t date girls that are bigger than me…This coming from a two hundred pound 6 ft 2 football player..and I was 130 pounds!and 5"8 my face was just fat..This is very ironic because after my chubby face went away he developed a crush on me and still to this day asks for my number when I see him.

bag_o_bellatrix
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 02:18 pm: [report]

I say, “I’m thinking of pursuing my master’s degree. I could be done in a year.”
He says, “What makes you think you could complete your master’s in a year when you can’t finish your bachelor’s in four”
I never told him I scored higher on the ACT when I was twelve than he did when he was eighteen.

xifeng882
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 02:19 pm: [report]

“No one else would be crazy enough to date you”. Broke up with him and the next day met a two new guys. Guess there are guys crazy enough.

ciarabug
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 02:43 pm: [report]

hmm. no guy has ever said anything to me that came even close to as mean as what my mother and my aunt say to me on a regular basis because they’re drunken freaking whores.

but the guy i’m still with now said that the reason he cheated on me was because things were too stressful for him—because i’d accidentally gotten pregnant and then coerced into an abortion i was dead-set against by him and my mother, and was afterward a shadow of my former self (which, incidentally, i warned him of ahead of time).

ironically, at the time, he said he had no idea why i was so traumatised by the whole thing and it really didn’t bother him as much. but a year later when i found the emails (which consisted of something like, my girlfriend is always at work and hey, i don’t have a job, so you can come over whenever you want! *who* was stressed out?) he was way too stressed by the whole thing to be able to deal properly.

and yes, i made him suffer for that one. much time and therapy later he’s done a lot of growing up and i’ve done a lot of calling-out-of-bullsh*t.

ciarabug
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 03:12 pm: [report]

oh! my best friend, who i love to death and who i lost my virginity with many a year ago in college, called me to ask some advice on a girl who he’s been dating seriously for a few years. she wants him to go to another country with her indefinitely to work there with her parents. he’s torn, because he’s in grad school and has his own plans.

he says to me, “i really do love her. but i love me more.”

i didn’t stop laughing—it was so candid and so damn near sociopathically detached—for a good few minutes. not necessarily a mean guy line, but totally insensitive and kinda funny.

wren2911
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 11:52 am: [report]

All from the same (and current, at least for now) boyfriend:

“I just never fell head over heels for you [like he did with his last gf…someone he only dated for a few months and long distance at that and she broke up with him].”

“You should shave.” -this while we were in the middle of having sex!  and it’s not like it’s a giant bush or anything, it was trimmed- but he likes it bald…ick. Now whenever I shave I think of what he said and the way he said it. 

“You remind me of my ex, I had to buy her a new watch too.” - when he said he didn’t like that I would wear my sports watch with fancier clothes and decided to buy me one for Christmas, so now when I look at the time I remember that.

karmakaze
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 09:53 pm: [report]

I was in high school and some douche-bag flipped a coin, leered at me and said “Dance for me, whore.”

The same jackass said, “you look like the type of person that would shoot up a school.”

I know it was high school, but I doubt that this moron has changed much.

Since1981
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 10:03 pm: [report]

You remind me of my ex wife

zappafrank
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 10:36 pm: [report]

“You’re like a sister to me.”—Leslie

Oh, please…I’m betting guys are told they’re more like brothers than girls are told they’re like sisters.

colasj
wrote on November 15 2009 @ 12:10 am: [report]

My ex-boyfriend…first, he refused to break up with me and our mutual best friend had to force him to confront me about it. 

“It’s not you.  I just can’t do anything I don’t really feel like doing.” —dating me was apparently putting far too much strain on his life.

And later.

“You just weren’t attractive enough to lose my virginity to.”

And he gave all of our mutual friends total permission to fool around with me:

“If she’ll blow you, dude, go for it.  It’s not like she’s all that good at it anyway.”

leerob
wrote on November 15 2009 @ 01:22 pm: [report]

It’s so weird… I was in a relationship for years when I heard those words that make you say WTF, life’s too short, I’m out of here.
After all, where’s that pride in me that my mother always talked about.

Well, I’m reading each one of these posts and relating my situation with every comment when the phone rings.

I’ve got caller ID!!! It’s my ex!!!
I answer the phone with my happy voice. (we were done, so no need to be mad).

He says he’s calling to apologize. Oh please, after nine months, WTF!!

He says he was wrong to have said those mean things to me!!! And he wants me to forgive him!!!!

He’ll call me next week!! WTF!!!

atypicaljames
wrote on November 15 2009 @ 07:33 pm: [report]

@Lynn and @resullins, I must politely disagree: with perhaps few exceptions, nobody has it coming, even if they remain in an abusive relationship. On another note, I find the number of cruel remarks by fathers noted by commenters surprising and sad.

resullins
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 09:04 am: [report]

You can disagree all you want. I never said that anyone had it coming… no one deserves that treatment. But if you then become AWARE that you are going to get abused daily, and you STICK AROUND, do not expect me to have any sympathy for you.

At that point YOU have made a choice, YOU are no longer the victim, and I will NOT feel sorry for you anymore.

~GeekGirl~
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

My Favorite:

~“I am a successful white male with a college degree and a huge c@ck not just you, but society OWES me!”

and an dishonorable mention:

~“if I marry you know its just going to be to shut you up”

sunara_rayne
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 03:00 pm: [report]

My then-boyfriend was with his best friend - and didn’t hang up his phone properly at the end of our conversation - I heard him say to his friend “I just deal with her so I don’t have to stay at my mom’s.”

As if that didn’t give me a clue, he also frequently called me names..and constantly asked for money.

When we broke up (4 years later) he also said, “F**k you I hope you die.”

Thanks for the good times, I guess???

showbiiiz
wrote on November 16 2009 @ 04:07 pm: [report]

After Sonia Sotomayor was confirmed as a Supreme Court Justice, he (a cocky Dominican) told me (a full-blooded Native American) that her being the first Latina made his entire race/heritage superior to mine because “there are tons of successful/wealthy/famous Latinos all over the world, and do you ever see successful/wealthy/famous Native Americans? No!”

I’m only 21 and my monthly net pay at that time was almost $4000 (still is), meanwhile he worked as a part-time cashier at the mall… Now he’s unemployed & imprisoned.

Eliza
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 01:12 pm: [report]

before we started dating:
“I’m not concerned with looks, if I cared about looks I’d be dating Angelina Jolie or something.”

after we broke up:
“Go ahead and f**k other guys with your f**ked up vagina.”

Lola
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 05:34 pm: [report]

You’ll never be the “meat”... you will always be the potatoes or the side salad.

tweakerbell
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 05:38 pm: [report]

this one really cut deep:

“you’re such a stupid fat bitch, no wonder your dad used to beat the #&@$% out of you.”
i’m still not over it.

mudge
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 11:28 pm: [report]

“you’re just not the kind of girl that guys fall in love with…”

sukoshi
wrote on November 18 2009 @ 02:54 am: [report]

all from my first relationship (lasted 7 years):

“i wonder if my ex would give me a sympathy #&@$%”

“i can’t stand the thought that you’ll be the only chick i’ll f**k for the rest of my life”

“everything bad in my life is your fault”

“i wish i didn’t love you”

“i prayed god would make the baby die” - his brother, i lost the baby when i was 5 months pregnant

StephanieE
wrote on November 18 2009 @ 07:14 am: [report]

after a guy came up trying to talk to my friend and i, i was trying to be friendly to the guy as my friend blatantly ignored him til she whispered to me lets move away from this kid…so i dismissed the boy…20 minutes later:

“next time someone comes up trying to talk to you and your friend, don’t assume they are talking to you, because you are so ugly no one would ever want to talk to you or hook up with you”

and that’s when i got him kicked out of the bar and sent my boyfriend his way…

Oni_
wrote on November 18 2009 @ 11:22 am: [report]

WoW…so depressing that guys like to release their feelings of frustration for us in such a disrespectful and disgusting manner.

I have gotten called stupid and you really need help to make it in this world…blah, blah, blah…whatever…

330kotbd
wrote on November 19 2009 @ 12:14 pm: [report]

After 6 years: “I really love you and want to marry you; I can’t see marrying anyone else, but I just can’t be with you right now.”  (He told me he felt like he was missing out, and wanted to date other people before marrying me.)
This was also after telling me that “When my dad told me that I should marry you and never let you go it was the coolest thing he ever said to me—I started crying.”

I wasn’t initially sure if I should give him points for honesty, or say, “WTF—do you think I’m an idiot?”

He actually told me that he wanted to stay friends, and really really didn’t want to lose me over “this”.  As his plan was that he and I could still talk and hang out and that I could be friends with him and his new girlfriend(s), I, not being a masochist, said no. 
He accused me of “throwing away 6 years”, to which I had to point out, HE was the one throwing it away, not me.

I think I was more stunned than hurt that he thought I would be ok with waiting in the wings until he decided he was ready to settle for me…

jstavixxxen
wrote on November 19 2009 @ 03:55 pm: [report]

Wow, I have so many but, the one that sticks with me is what my ex said after we had split and I asked for complete honesty. I asked him if I had been a 120 pound blond if he would have ignored me like he did, (which ultimately resulted in our split, one can only be ignored for so long before they know it’s time to leave)
And he smiled and said”
Of course not, I just figured with your self esteem issues and all I was safe, you would never leave me”

Ha ha, jokes on you, asshat!!!!! I DID leave!!!

RetroChica
wrote on November 20 2009 @ 03:36 pm: [report]

Guy I dated when I was younger:“I wonder what it is about you that I can’t fall in love with you.  I’ve fallen in love with every other girl I’ve dated… not you though…”