Eight Signs You Should Confess Your Crush
Posted by: Simcha Whitehill
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10:00AM, Friday March 20th 2009
So, you’re sweating a dude like he’s a spin class. Girl, you know you got it baaaaaaaad! It’s exciting to crush on a dude, but it’s also potentially ego crushing and stupid. When you can’t stop thinking about a man, you have to add some reason to those dirty thoughts or you could get hurt. Love might be blind, however, there are some eye opening clues that can help you decide whether he’s feeling you too! You should tell your crush you like him if (and that’s a big IF)...
1.You’re Willing To Tell Him Face-To-Face: If you don’t feel like you need to hide behind IM, Facebook, email, or text, that you can tell him in person, then it’ll show your love can also for real.
2. You Pair Off: If you’re out with friends, the two of you have a private, flirtatious convo going on, even if it’s just with your eyes.
3.You Can Imagine Having Sex With Him: Do you have an idea of what it would be like? Would he clash with your style? If you can dream it, you can do it!
4. You Communicate Before You’re Drunk: Do you talk? And I don’t mean just by text. If he only tries to find you late night, he’s not crushing on you, he’s circling you like a buzzard with a boner. So either do him or don’t, just keep your feelings out of it.
5. He Makes You Feel Cool: Sure, he makes you smile, but are you struggling to make him happy too? Do you have to waltz around half naked or say something super funny just to show him you’re worth the time of day? If you feel like you have to jump through hoops to get his attention, he’s not paying you any. Forget him!
6. You Can Be Real: If you’ve been stalking his Facebook 24/7, doodling “Mrs. Your Name + His Last Name,” or told everyone but him that you’ve got a crush, you’re waaaaay too into him. First of all, why are you so scared of telling him your feelings? Because you know one of you would freak out and that person is probably you. Secondly, even if he does want to date you, your relationship will never be able to live up to the energy you have spent crushing on him. Sadly, it’s doomed between the two of you. Obsess over celebs, but remember that life isn’t a movie.
7. He’s Giving It To You: Does he offer you some of his Oreos? Will he help you fix your Internet problem? Does he go the extra mile to give you something special? Well, he’s looking for a similar sign from you, so give him something he can feel!
8. You Can Get Close Enough To Kiss Him: Does he hug you hello and goodbye? And, if so, is there a second’s worth of tension where maybe, just maybe, if you looked at him, he would plant one on you (or vice versa)? The long bear hug means he wants to hold onto you too.
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Chelle
wrote on March 20 2009 @ 10:20 am: [report]
Thank you for posting this, you have perfect timing! I’m 100% sure this guy likes me too but I think we’re both too scared to say anything yet. I was thinking of acting on it first and needed some reassurance. The Frisky is awesome!
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on March 20 2009 @ 12:12 pm: [report]
I have fixed so many girls’ email/computers/internet/router setting/etc….
Dr. V
wrote on March 20 2009 @ 12:53 pm: [report]
Go for it Chelle! And then tell me how it goes
CthisSunshine
wrote on March 20 2009 @ 05:23 pm: [report]
If 2, 4,7& 8 are all true for me and my crush, then how the HELL have I been placed in “Friend Zone”? Probably too available?... I feel like I’ve been put on a pedestal that I can’t get off.
Cut him some slack or cut him loose?...So far, I’ve deleted him from my phone to strike a balance and reassess.
CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on March 20 2009 @ 10:54 pm: [report]
My crush and I in high school, not recently, (around a 8 months ago) confessed that we had mutual crushes on each other. She had a long term boyfriend at the time, 3 years I think, with plans of marriage which didn’t work out, wandering eye, was what I thought was what happened. Now she is in what seems is another long term relationship ‘to be’ (knowing the guy from several years in college). I feel like the odd man out, always knowing but never participating. I’ve only seen her once since graduation, and it really saddens me.
SamanthaH
wrote on March 23 2009 @ 05:04 am: [report]
@Cicelicious
Sometimes the same “signs” we think a guy puts off for more than a friendship are also the same signs for a guy accepting you as a really close friend.
a great friend told me that if a guy was interested, no matter whether he was shy or not, he would actively go after what he wanted. nothing would stop him from trying to get what he wanted.
as for being too available - yea this could be a cause. i’ve been like this too. guys like a challenge to some degree.
misspixie
wrote on March 23 2009 @ 06:39 am: [report]
My crush is well aware that I refer to him as The Crush. I plan on getting close enough to kiss him as soon as I have the opportunity…
Chelle
wrote on March 23 2009 @ 03:38 pm: [report]
@Dr. V- I told him. He definitely likes me too and wants to do something about it. However, he wants to wait for a yet to be determined period of time because I broke up with my ex a month and a half ago. He said something about wounds healing. I’m ready to move on so that was a bit frustrating. Isn’t a month and a half between guys long enough?
undecisive
wrote on March 23 2009 @ 04:45 pm: [report]
@Chelle - I’m just about at the same place you’re at. Thanks so much for sharing cuz it definately gave me some hope. This article definately came out at the right time! Thanks!