Don’t Pull An Angelina: 20 Things You Should Never Do Without Consulting Your Significant Other

Posted by: Kate Torgovnick Filed in: relationships
3:30PM, Wednesday November 11th 2009

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Angelina Supposedly Didn't Consult Brad About Adopting

Earlier today, we shared with you OK! magazine’s report that Angelina Jolie is adopting a seventh child, this time from Syria. Behind Brad Pitt‘s back. The story has yet to be confirmed and it sounds kinda far-fetched to me, but if it does turn out to be true, it’s interesting for two reasons. First, why does Angelina think she needs to adopt the whole world? And second, adopting a kid is something you absolutely, 100 percent completely need to have your spouse’s approval on before you go and do it. Similarly, on last night’s episode of “The Hills,” Spencer went to go get a vasectomy without telling Heidi. Luckily (or unluckily), he got scared off when the doc explained the procedure.

Here are 20 things you should discuss with your partner first.

Getting your tubes tied
Going off the pill
Seeing other people
Investing your joint savings in a combination fried chicken and sushi restaurant
Erasing everything off the DVR
Buying a house or new car, especially if it’s a Hummer
Telling people you are engaged or pregnant
Quitting your job
Adopting a puppy/kitten/ferret
Signing up for a shared credit card or bank account
Throwing out all the boxes of frozen Girl Scout cookies in the freezer
Moving the furniture around in the bedroom, especially if your significant other is blind
Erasing everything on your computer’s desktop
Selling drugs out of your apartment
Getting their name tattooed on you
Hanging out with the ex you still pine over
Donating all your stuff to charity
Joining the Church of Scientology
Agreeing to go on vacation with your parents
Moving to a different city

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FrzKey
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:40 pm: [report]

Not really in Angelina’s case. She was adopting children well before Brad came along and though the two have a romantic and parenting bond, as an individual Angelina is completely capable of taking emotional and financial responsibility for her children, both of her body and those she’s adopted, she doesn’t Have To consult Brad about a damn thing.

It’s a polite courtesy but it isn’t mandatory and considering the entirely unorthodox nature of their relationship, outside speculation on what is or isn’t acceptable for them is laughable.

For the rest of us, it’s a different matter entirely. Last I heard adoption agencies frown on single parent adoptions unless that person has the means available to provide for the child alone.

spatula
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:43 pm: [report]

That’s a definite UNLUCKILY in the case of Spencer Pratt and the Too-Scary Vasectomy.

AnitaBath
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:47 pm: [report]

As much as I wish Spencer Pratt and Heidi were unable to have spawn, we all knew he wasn’t going to go through with it. Of course the script would call for him to change his mind at the last minute, it makes things more intense!

qnzmami718
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:49 pm: [report]

@frzkey
wtf are u talkin about lol
so ur sayin if u had money coming out of your a** like angie, & u decied to adopt a kid u wouldnt consult your spouse? thts f*ckin stupid

qnzmami718
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:50 pm: [report]

how are u gonna bring another person (even worse a child!) into ur household & not discuss it with ur spouse?

minerva682
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:54 pm: [report]

Some countries have laws that unmarried couples cannot adopt, thus women will adopt as a singleton.

LilMissSunshine
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:55 pm: [report]

Throwing away boxes of uneaten cookies would make me re-think the relationship. It’s just pure insanity.

SouthOC
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 03:58 pm: [report]

@Kate: Great list! A lot of the Frisky lists are a bit silly, but I loved this one!

cymbelene
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:03 pm: [report]

i’ve never watched the hills so I don’t really know the specifics on this one…
but too bad spencer pratt didn’t go through with that vasectomy and save some poor child the horrific fate of being the off-spring of those two wackjobs.

sparklestar
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:18 pm: [report]

Um, no social worker would approve the adoption without the father’s consent. That’s what being married means!! If she was SINGLE then that’s fine but she still has to undergo the same checks as everybody else.

spatula
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:23 pm: [report]

@sparklestar to my knowledge Angie and Brad are not in fact married. So, she really has no legal obligation to tell him, I don’t think.

It just makes her sort of an a**hole.

majicksand
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:35 pm: [report]

Considering that Brad and Angie were planning their next adoption shortly after the twins were born, I find it hard to believe she doing anything behind his back. The tabloids have been swearing their relationship is in it’s death throws since the beginning because it sells magazines. Reality is never a factor.

MissPepper
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:45 pm: [report]

Oh my god! Who would throw out Girl Scout cookies?!

luke15chick
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:47 pm: [report]

spectacular, I have done one of the above but yes i do feel remorse and it was a one time occasion.

Buhri
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:48 pm: [report]

It’s “reportedly” for a reason, there are plenty of reports out there from silly magazines, that doesn’t mean they’re true. I couldn’t care less what Angelina does, I won’t adopt a child behind my partner’s back and that’s all that matters to me.

Florenza Loverme
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 04:59 pm: [report]

#21 wearing tights as pants

retro chic
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 05:21 pm: [report]

It’s one thing to poach someone else’s husband behind his own back, but quite another to “adopt” a baby behind it too.

relright
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 06:24 pm: [report]

well…
From my understanding adoption like what this is saying does not exist in the Middle East due to Islam.

So I looked it up aaaaaaaand
http://damascus.usembassy.gov/adoption.html
The US Embassy in Damascus’ official position is that adoption does not exist in Syria and essentially says that it’s almost impossible.

So unless Jolie is going to pull a Madonna (which she quite vehemently and publicly opposed) I’m not sure how well this will go. Besides the fact that I can see the Syrian government and/or a court atempting to make an example out of this.

casablancas
wrote on November 11 2009 @ 08:13 pm: [report]

#11 - people would DIE.

ootie grl
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 08:11 am: [report]

That list is funny. Wouldnt adopting a child be pretty hard to conceal?

fireflyeyes
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 08:15 am: [report]

I think there’s a definite different one what you need to consult your SO on if you are living together in a semi-permanent arrangement then if you are just dating and maintaining essentially separate lives. I would not necessarily need to discuss with a non-live-in boyfriend getting a pet or quitting a job (I would tell him, but not feel the need for his approval). A child is trickier, and while it would still be my decision if he didn’t like it something like that could mean the end of the relationship.

However living together, especially with finances pooled, mean you do need to talk to your SO (whether you’re male or female) and cannot just quit jobs, or bring people or animals into the house without the other’s consent to some degree. I’m SURE this rumor isn’t true but its not like Angie could bring a baby into their home and be like “Okay Brad, you don’t have to help with or acknowledge this one, just the other six. He’ll just be mine, and then the others will be ours.”

bogart4017
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 08:27 am: [report]

She would have to adopt as a single parent since they are not married. If thats what she wants to do, let her.
And never ever throw away or donate a man’s clothing with his prior knowledge.

mineola
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 09:26 am: [report]

I wish Angelina would adopt ME. I really don’t care if she tells Brad, or not. :D

p.s. cute list

rockerchicka
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 02:34 pm: [report]

angeline is awesome, hey is better for the kid, they at least get to have a family with siblings
and if she loves them allthe same and can handle one more then good for her,

but i still think she should tell brad, just in cosideration, but she can still adopt if she wants to it doesnt have to be based on brads decision entirely, its her decision in the end, if she can cover the expence of another kid and still love them all the same then she can

ur awesome angeline :D

Ariandre
wrote on November 12 2009 @ 05:28 pm: [report]

#19- so true, so true; nothing makes your SO a grouchy grouchy as a surprise vacation with the in laws

Mary Berry
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:17 pm: [report]

This list is sexist. Just some more ways in which women are encouraged to be subservient to men.

Kate134
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 12:49 pm: [report]

Yeah this def. isn’t happening Adoption DOESN’T exist in Muslim countries especially not for single women and absolutely not for single women shacking up with a man while not being married. Syria also technically doesn’t have relations with the US, so there can’t be an adoption. Period.

MariJye
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 01:04 pm: [report]

Adding to #19 telling your in laws that they can live with you…yeah I think that would be so much worse…

C.Munro
wrote on November 13 2009 @ 01:23 pm: [report]

I didn’t throw out that frozen box of thin mints. That’s just what I told you so you wouldn’t be mad at me for eating them all.

spark
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 12:41 pm: [report]

GOING OFF THE PILL?!?!?!!? Um, it’s my body. Isn’t this a my-body-my-choice website? I don’t need his consent, approval, or permission to go on or off the pill.

Btw, the reason Angelina adopts the kids on her own is because some of the foreign countries won’t adopt to an unmarried couple. So Angelina adopts the child in that country, and once the adoption is finalized in America, Brad adopts the baby in America. I’m SURE they at least discussed the matter over dinner!

C.Munro
wrote on November 14 2009 @ 01:11 pm: [report]

Yeah, it’s your body. But what happens as a result of unprotected intercourse affects both partners. You don’t need his consent to go off the pill, but to do it without so much as telling your guy is both inconsiderate and unethical.

MXCP
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 10:36 am: [report]

I WOULD be pissed about the cookies.

Yodar Critch
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 11:04 am: [report]

It might be interesting to get a Vasectomy and not tell the spouse….. until after she is pregers.

Since I have always been clear that I have no interest in kids, I wonder if I would tell her about a Vasectomy?

If she is faithful what’s the harm (my body, right ladies). If she is unfaithful…..

thickasawhaleomelette
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 02:26 pm: [report]

This already fantastic list was made so much better by including #11. =)

ciarabug
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 03:24 pm: [report]

i’m pretty sure i don’t need anyone’s permission to tell people if i was pregnant. is this 1950?

powplz
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 03:38 pm: [report]

Uh, the list isn’t about what you need someone’s permission or approval to do - it specifically says “20 things you should discuss with your partner first.”

Discussing something means having a conversation, whether it’s one that leads to a final decision or one that informs them of your decision. I would hope that the father of a baby isn’t finding out he’s the dad through the grapevine. Going off the pill affects the person you’re schtupping, so giving them a timely heads up is only fair.

Obviously some of these make no sense if the item in question isn’t shared property (fridge, laptop, etc). My bf called me (in a panic) when he realized he had to quit his job that day. I had no say in it, nor should I have, but we live together so he told me immediately. It’s courtesy.

Pamela
wrote on November 17 2009 @ 07:37 pm: [report]

Seriously??? You are taking seriously a report from OK Magazine?
First of all, if Angelina wants to continue adopting, why would anyone care? For all I know that kid will have tons of opportunities he/she would have never gotten if he/she hadn’t been adopted by Angelina

secondly, how can OK Magazine know something as private as that, can’t you realize it’s just a bunch of rumors made for them to look bad? I know I’m sounding way too defensive, but come on, now im starting to doubt that if OKMagazine or any other magazine for the matter says that Pink elephants many people would be quick to believe that as true

Oni_
wrote on November 18 2009 @ 09:40 am: [report]

Okay, I can understand consulting a husband but a significant other…please…