Doin’ It With Dr. V: Tossing Salad
Posted by: Dr. V
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3:00PM, Friday March 27th 2009
Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…
This week, I got a letter from a lady looking for tips on how to toss her man’s salad aka analingus or rimming. Yes, I know, it’s always lunchtime somewhere. Anyway, no matter what you call it there’s one way to do it. So, I’m going to help her perfect her tushie-tonguing technique. As for the rest of you, keep those letters coming! You know I love to read your smut too! To send me a question or suggest a topic for a future “Doin’ It With Dr. V,” email me! Now, here’s her letter…
“I’ve been hitting the sack with this guy for a couple of months. We seem to have great sexual chemistry and have tried a LOT of stuff. There is one thing that completely throws me off though… most of the time, when I give him a blow job, I usually kinda stimulate his, err, you know, hole with my tongue while my hands are occupied with his member. He loves this and will accommodate his body for easier and deeper access. That’s where I’m confused… does he want me to ‘go in,’ as in with my tongue/finger/anything? He doesn’t say it, so I am not sure if that’s what he wants. I don’t want to break our momentum or kill the mood…should I just do it? Also, is it true that’s where to find a guy’s G-spot? And how do I stimulate it properly? Any tips, ideas, suggestions?”
Hot stuff, by combining a handy with a rim job, you’ve already got the advanced multitasking down. Look at you go! But now it’s time to get back to basics. So here are the six steps to help you score with your rim shot!
1. Come Clean: Doin’ the butt can be dirty in a good way, but there’s also the bad bacteria way. So, make sure he thoroughly wipes up with soap and water or uses an enema a couple hours before the RJ (rim job). A sexy way to incorporate this into sex is by taking a bath or shower together and soap up his booty yourself. Although, I think the best way to protect yourself from germs is to just use a dental dam when you’re back there.
2. In A Good Position: To gain back door access, you’ve got to find a way in.
Doggy Style: Getting the rimee on their hands and knees provides the easiest access for parting cheeks and going in deep.
Stand Up: With the rimee standing, get on your knees and go to town.
Sit Down: Spread the rimee’s legs and bend them over a table or desk (talk about NSFW!). Then you sit at the edge of your chair while you explore the edge of their seat.
Sit On My Face: The rimee squats over your face naturally giving your mouth access to their butt. You can fly solo or 69 style. Either way, this position let’s you use both your hands for other things, like an HJ, groping, or spanking. Bonus.
3. Baby Get Back: Your butt needs foreplay too! Tease and tickle the ass area—lick it, kiss it, flick it or circle it with your tongue. Don’t even think about going in there until the rimee is relaxed and warmed up.
4. Work Your Way In: Why stay on the sidelines? In the game of love, you gotta get in there girl! And YES, you should absolutely French kiss his derrière. Okay, so you’re headed to the part that holds the most risk for having traces of, um, excrement, but it’s the best way to get to the most pleasure centers! There’s no chance you’ll hit the prostate with just your tongue, but the inside ring of the sphincter is sensitive. If you slip him your tongue, you’ll have him oohing and ahhing. If you don’t feel like using your tongue, you can add a finger massage and keep licking the rim. But this step is the key to unlocking his back door erogenous zone!
5. Finish Line: While rimming can be orgasmic, it doesn’t actually give an orgasm. However, it can be that extra oomph that makes an O ecstatic. It is also essential step if you’re gonna shove anything bigger than a finger up there.
6. Traveling Show: You can never go from the back to the front—from the booty to the vagina or the penis. Regardless, after you’ve licked it, it’s a good idea to rinse out your mouth with mouthwash, before you kick it. There’s no proof that this kills the germs, but at least your breath won’t smell like ass.
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develange
wrote on March 27 2009 @ 08:24 pm: [report]
analingus/ man assplay totally creeped me out at first. I reluctantly tried it on my boyfriend and now I LOVE it. It’s especially useful if you want to make your guy come fast when you’re giving him head. . . TMI?
Shasta
wrote on March 27 2009 @ 08:31 pm: [report]
Hey Develange:
How do you analing while BJing? Or do you use your finger on the backdoor?
par3
wrote on March 28 2009 @ 02:44 am: [report]
develange: there’s no such thing as TMI when it comes to sex threads so don’t worry.
shasta: while he’s laying on his back make him put his knees up and get down near his junk- after some mouth play- use your hand for a bit and do some salad tossing at the same time- i guarantee he won’t last longer than a minute.
retro chic
wrote on March 28 2009 @ 08:11 am: [report]
Dr V and others: I love the openness and tech advice, however I’m tentative for now. What tips for similar play using plugs, etc? Or are you saving yourself for another post about boy-toys? Thank you, thank you.
develange
wrote on March 28 2009 @ 02:08 pm: [report]
shasta: yes, you can use the finger while BJing (i like your use of that as a verb). but of course, every guy is different…or so they say.
we need a post on man toys!! or boy toys.
Alexa
wrote on March 28 2009 @ 04:05 pm: [report]
There’s no reason to have an enema before a rim job. Enemas clean out the deep areas of the rectum/lower intestine. So long as you clean the anus, and maybe use a soapy finger inserted into the anus to clean it if you’re going to be pushing in, that’s all you need to worry about. An enema is way overkill for rimming.
One thing I like to do to teach someone how to rim correctly is to use ice cream topping. Spread it in the receiver’s ass crack and have the rimmer eat it out. Don’t use syrup or anything thin. The thickness of the topping causes the rimmer to have to work to get it out. That extra effort is what makes the rim job work. A rim job is more than just sticking your tongue in someone’s butt - it is like oral sex on the vagina, just…on the whole butt area instead. <3
pornqueen
wrote on March 31 2009 @ 08:52 am: [report]
Thanks for the response. I love doing this to him ‘cause it gets me off to know that he enjoys it so much. He cums so quick when I RJ and BJ-him simultenously. I can imagine if I go in… can’t wait to try it. The only thing holding me back is that I’m not sure when to do it. I know he’s super excited and ready to explode but I’m afraid if I go in with my finger (or but plug, and yes we need a discussion about sex toys for men…)he’s not going to like or freak out. I guess it’s more about timing than anything else. Should I bring this up in a conversation or just go in?
lmseagle
wrote on April 13 2009 @ 06:43 pm: [report]
First of all, I’d like to say I’m sorry for all of you like the whole rim job thing, but I think it’s just digusting. My boyfriend agrees too, I don’t want my mouth near anyones ass and he doesn’t want anyones mouth near his ass. I just don’t understand it, what’s the big deal?
lmseagle
wrote on April 13 2009 @ 06:45 pm: [report]
I meant to say I’m sorry to all of you, not for. I guess that’s what I get for not proofreading before I post.
danijerzygirl
wrote on April 18 2009 @ 05:19 am: [report]
Patience and practice while your lover is not around. First time made me cry and it hurt for days after. My g/f suggested that when I masturbate, I try putting a lubed finger in there too. She laughed and said it was like being a “tweeny” virgin all over. In a matter of no time I not only could take him easily, I actually liked it and would orgasm too. Practice, practice, practice; lots of lube, fingers and other things easily found around the bedroom and bathroom.