Do Skinny Women Really Have More Sex?

Lynn
wrote on January 14 2009 @ 08:22 pm: [report]

I recently heard about a study (I thought I heard it on here, but maybe not?) that said size 14 (or so…I forget the exact size, somewhere in the 12-16 range) had more sex than smaller women, and that it went down gradually - so, size 10 women had less than 12, 8 had less than 10, 6 had less than 8, etc.

og217
wrote on January 15 2009 @ 07:23 am: [report]

Obviously there are exceptions to every rule and all these stats do is show the general trend, but I would absolutely agree.  I’ll probably get an avalanche of flak, but thinner women are more attractive and have more opportunities to meet and date guys. And women who are fit feel more attractive, less self conscious and have more stamina, energy, and ability to move comfortably. I know that I personally do not feel like having lots more sex when I put on weight. I get uncomfortable, winded, or too focused on finding positions where I don’t look fat. I’m much more uninhibited, energetic, and interested when I am strong, fit, and know that I look good.  I am obviously not present to observe overweight women in their bedrooms, but I am in a gym locker room all the time, and the women who are covering up, changing with a towel wrapped around them and contorting themselves to put on a bra without taking off their shirt are pretty unequivically the overweight. They are hiding and embarassed. If thats any indication of how they behave in the bedroom, then I can’t imagine that they are having great sex, or frequent sex.

moogyboobles
wrote on January 15 2009 @ 07:30 am: [report]

Yep I’m as above, I hate it when put on weight as I’m too self concious to initiate anything and the worry about wobbling distracts me from the task in hand.  That makes me grumpy and frustrated and then I eat more!
Vicious circle!

EveryGirlsSecret
wrote on January 15 2009 @ 08:20 am: [report]

I was going to say, maybe it’s not that skinny girls have more sex…it’s that the sex is their exercise, and therefore they are skinny. “fat chicks” may not have as much sex, or complain that they feel unsexy, but in all honestly they are not getting as much exercise in general as the size 4 girls. I should know. I am not a 4.

focker81
wrote on January 15 2009 @ 08:42 am: [report]

But a size 8 isn’t fat!

vanya
wrote on January 15 2009 @ 09:53 am: [report]

Well, if thin = strong, fit, & healthy, then I think og217 may have a point about body confidence and physical health contributing to sexual desire.

But many of the thin women I know IRL - those who are size 00 or size 0 - are not strong, fit & healthy. They’re starving themselves, exercising maniacally, obsessively monitoring their caloric intake, and bursting into tears over their imaginary “fat rolls”. Not the kind of behaviour I normally associate with strong, fit, & healthy.

I can’t imagine these women are having great sex, either.  My friend’s husband told me & my dh that they haven’t had sex in over a year, because every time he initiates (she never does), my friend, who is a size 00, cries about how fat she is. 

Like Lynn, I have read recently that the opposite is actually true. 

Quite honestly, I think this has far more to do with an individual woman’s self-esteem, acceptance of her body, and attitude toward pleasure, than it has to do with the size printed on the label of her clothing.

Pipi
wrote on January 15 2009 @ 12:09 pm: [report]

I am fat and when I have a regular boyfriend have sex multiple times a day.I am flexible and have no problem doing any type of position. Sure I am not spinning around like a helicopter but who the hell is? If someone is having sex with you um they probably dont care if you are fat or skinny, they either a. are having sex with you just to have sex or b. they like you for you and dont give a #&@$% if your over weight.

I mean I seriously am tired of hearing all these stories about fat girls and sex, or fat girls this and fat girls that. Its no wonder a large percent of over weight girls have zero self esteem or hate their bodies. We are told we are ugly and unhealthy because we are over weight. We are told no guys would ever like us and that we shouldnt do things that are only acceptable if you are skinny like wearing shirts with no sleeves or dancing on the bar. We have to shop in special stores and pay more money for what? 2 more inches of fabric? Maybe if people started worrying more about empowering people of all shapes, sizes and creeds, #&@$% studies like this one would be kicked to the door and labled in bad taste.

Hey og217 ever think that those girls who cover up in the gym are modest? Or maybe dont want to deal with leering looks from girls like you?

Brooklyn
wrote on January 16 2009 @ 03:01 am: [report]

I rarely ever respond to articles such as these, but I felt compelled to chime in on this one. I wear a size 16 and I am not fat. I’m 5’3” and am curvy(full rack and hips), but I am fit and watch what I eat for the most part(Pepperidge Farm cookie addiction notwithstanding). I have seen women are three times my size with boyfriends and husbands and I am sure they were having more and better sex than me sometime. We need to stop giving creedence to these meaningless reports written by god knows whom and live our lives accordingly. Yes, there are large women who are gorgeous and sexy and body confident and there are skinny women who are unattractive and not remotely sexy.

It’s all about how you feel about you. Also, we have to stop giving into what is “pretty, sexy, hot” based on gossip rags and fashion magazines because that is all fantasy. So, go ahead and eat that Snickerdoodle with a smile on your face.

fallenangel915
wrote on January 17 2009 @ 05:14 am: [report]

*Sigh* For one, I am a size 14/16, and I get plenty of dick, even when I am not in a relationship. It may sound trite, but your outward appearance is not all that attracts men (or women, whatever your preference). It’s all in the way you carry yourself overall. I’ve seen women bigger than I am with attractive, fit men (and yes, a lot of “fit” men like heavier women), and the majority of the time these women dress well, take care of themselves, have positive attitudes, and don’t look down upon others based upon society’s opinion on what is and what is not “normal” or healthy. True, overweight people have more health problems, but one person’s “overweight” does not necessarily equal another person’s overweight.

For example, when I was 5’8” and weighed 180 lbs, I wore a size 10 and had a BMI of 24. That’s hardly overweight, but when people heard the number on the scale, they did double takes and said, “You need to lose weight.” Uh, no, you need to mind your damn business. At 150 lbs, I looked like hell.  Furthermore, like Pipi, I love sex even more now than I did when I was smaller, because I am also older and don’t have as many hangups as used to a few years ago. I don’t care about my love handles or my thighs being larger than his. I’m just as flexible now as I was then. And I am even more orgasmic now. I doubt that has anything to do with my weight, but a little confidence does indeed go a LOOONNNNG way.

grace
wrote on January 17 2009 @ 06:32 pm: [report]

when two people love each other, whether or not a woman is petite or large does not matter.  what does matter is that the man’s delicious part is the correct size for the woman’s.  and that the man is with the woman for the right reasons—united in the eyes of God.

i am a woman who is more petite than large.  i love sex & had a very enjoyable married sex life until i realized the sex was all that had kept our relationship together.  the man i was married to said goodbye after 15+ years of getting what he wanted from me in all aspects of life.  he gave no reason for the divorce except to say he no longer loved me and did not want to see or speak to me once i left the marital home.  i moved out for my own safety.  i totally fear this man. 

there is definitely more to life than sex.  i am the living proof, weak, but still one of God’s creatures.  now i am living in a bind because i am catholic and not free to remarry until he dies.  and because i would not wish that even for him, this means i must wait a very long time and keep busy to myself.  i lost what was my life before the divorce entirely.  i live on my own and am unsure about how to be around anyone at all.  most people my age are married with their own friends & the single people do not like me because i am so religious.  due to the stress of the divorce, i am unable to take care of myself they way most people take for granted. 

size does not matter.  it is love that matters.

Manda143
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 01:00 pm: [report]

og217—- the women in the locker room are hiding from judgmental women, not from interested men.

I’m a size 18-20 and I am proud to report that I get my freak on quite regularly, whether I’m in a relationship or not. My last serious boyfriend was actually quite fit and handsome, and he *liked* my body. Us fat ladies tend to have large breasts and plenty to hang onto in general, which is a big bonus for a lot of men.
I’ve never been self conscious about my rolls in front of a partner. If he wants to sleep with me, then they obviously don’t bother him that much. Why sleep with someone who’s going to judge me for the way I’m shaped, anyway?

And as far as fitness helping with the enjoyment of sex, I’ve never been fit, so I wouldn’t know. What I do know is that sex is my all-time favorite activity. Panting, jiggling, whatever; who cares?! If something like a little jelly keeps you from enjoying yourself then I’m really sorry for you. Especially because, as I understand it, the most important thing for the man is that you seem to be having as much fun as he is. Being fat should not be getting in the way of that.

rudyc
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 01:11 pm: [report]

Looks like most of the commenters are sizes 12+... no comments from skinnier girls. Where are they? Having sex?

writergirl
wrote on July 3 2009 @ 02:18 pm: [report]

@og217—my tendency to get dressed in the locker room as modestly as possible has nothing to do with how I feel about my body, but has to do with the fact that I am just modest! 

I’m a 14/16 and married, so I don’t even know if I can qualify on this.  When I am watching what I eat, and working out (and my husband is working out) the sex is better and more frequent.  Mostly because we just have more energy.  And probably because we “feel” better about ourselves, too.

I probably feel more self-confident *now* at my weight/size than I did when I was an 8/10.  Hell, I probably feel more confident than when I pulled that brief stint with anorexia and exercise bulemia and was a size 4/6.

Confidence is a state of mind, not necessarily one that can be reflected accurately in the mirror.

RunnerMom
wrote on July 11 2009 @ 10:32 pm: [report]

It all has to do with how you feel about yourself. If you feel great, it’s more likely you’re doing it more than someone uncomfortable with their body. But one thing I don’t buy, is someone saying they are 5’3 and a size 16 and they aren’t overweight. I don’t care what kind of build you have… I’m also 5’3. A size 16 at this height is fat. Period. I feel sorry for people compromising their health and giving excuses… and putting down people who work hard at maintaining beautiful figures and writing us off as anorexics. I’m sorry if you don’t feel good being thinner, most likely because you can’t maintain the discipline it takes in all honesty - but you can’t tell me being heavy feels that great either.

Idontknow
wrote on August 4 2009 @ 10:01 pm: [report]

First off, I am 5’2” and a size 2. I just wanted to say, you can be size 12, 14, 16 or whatever and still have plenty of sex, and you may feel pretty and be confident, and that’s great, I’m glad you’re happy, but those sizes are not healthy. You are not “curvy,” you’re overweight. I think people these days use the word “curvy” wrong. I have curves, because I have a small waist, and wider hips than other girls, and I have decent sized boobs. I think if you lose some weight, you’ll be even more happy. And still have lots of sex. I also want to add, that I think women who are skinny and women who are fat have equal amounts of sex, because anyone can get sex if they try hard enough, and it all depends on the personality of the woman.

P.S. If I offended anyone, I apologize, I just needed to say something about others comments.