Do Affairs Help Relationships?
Posted by: Catherine Strawn
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9:15AM, Tuesday June 10th 2008
In the recently published When Good People Have Affairs, author Mira Kirshenbaum writes that cheating on your spouse can be therapeutic and help people change. “You could think of it as a radical but necessary medical procedure,” she told British newspaper The Observer. “If your marriage is in cardiac arrest, an affair can be a defibrillator.” Interestingly enough, she believes that adulterers should never confess, even if their partner asks directly whether they’ve had an affair. In her mind, honestly is not the best policy, because the truth can be more painful than the lie. Does Mira know that sometimes the truth hurts? [The Telegraph, U.K.]
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Amelia
wrote on June 10 2008 @ 09:42 am: [report]
Are Mira and that guy who wrote that stupid New York Magazine article married?
LovesIt
wrote on June 10 2008 @ 12:36 pm: [report]
Yea, this lady is a dumbass. I bet it’s a best seller.
Elle
wrote on June 10 2008 @ 08:25 pm: [report]
“If your marriage is in cardiac arrest, an affair can be a defibrillator.”
I’m assuming she’s speaking for the adulterer and not the person being cheated on?
“In her mind, honestly is not the best policy, because the truth can be more painful than the lie.”
Well she would clearly have to think that considering she is condoning extra marital affairs. It’s incredibly selfish to think that cheating is ok no matter what the circumstances. If your relationship is in cardiac arrest you should probably just end it and move on instead of lying to your spouse and keeping your relationship on life support.
Amelia
wrote on June 10 2008 @ 08:35 pm: [report]
My whole issue is that if your relationship is in cardian arrest TWO people are involved. Major decisions which could effect the success of the relationship should be a joint decision.