What to Do After You Lose Weight

Diary Of A Former Fat Girl: Sex And The Scale

Posted by: YourTango.com Filed in: relationships
9:30AM, Saturday October 31st 2009

Tucks of skin trickled out from a pink, tropical bikini top. My half-naked body glared back at me from the unforgiving gleam of a fitting room mirror as I modeled a two-piece suit, gripped to the grooves of my body.

It was the day every woman dreads, the day we wish we hadn’t eaten that cheesecake the night before, the day we regret skipping last week’s workouts, the day we subject our naked bodies to bright lights and full-length mirrors. It was bathing suit shopping day. Staring perplexed at my reflection, I tugged at the corners of bikini number twelve. Eleven failed attempts at finding a sexy suit swung from plastic hangers on the hook of the door. Read more ...

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og217
wrote on October 31 2009 @ 08:39 am: [report]

That totally sucks, to lose all that weight and then have saggy breasts, totally unfair after all that work!

Little Lamb
wrote on October 31 2009 @ 11:48 am: [report]

I have never been “fat.” But after having my daughter (9 years ago), I was left with stretch marks and saggy breasts. I recently lost about 25 pounds and while I look and feel much better with clothes on, when they come off, it’s not so pretty. The stretched out skin on my tummy is even flabbier, and my boobs are even saggier. I’m still working on learning to love my body and feel sexy.

amorsalado
wrote on October 31 2009 @ 12:02 pm: [report]

I lost 80 pounds almost five years ago. I’ve kept it off, and I’m basically happy at how I look in clothes. I went from a size 20 to a size 8. I love the gym. I underwent complete dietary change. It didn’t make me as happy as I thought it would though. I still hate my stomach because of all the loose skin created by weight loss. At least I got to keep my double d’s. That’s something anyway.

mel_b
wrote on October 31 2009 @ 01:55 pm: [report]

I had to register to be able to reply to this particular article. I may not have lost 90 pounds but I just converted kilos to pounds and figured out I lost over 57 pounds and besides that difference this article could have been written by me. I don’t know what size I am in American sizes but I went from a 16 to be either an 8 or 6 in the local sizes here and like the writer of this article I still feel unattractive so often. I have the stretch marks and all those other nasties, but I am starting to believe it when my boyfriend tells me that not only am I beautiful and the sexiest woman around but that I’m thin too. I try to believe it when others tell me too. It is a process though. Thanks for a great article!

tattooed_redhead
wrote on October 31 2009 @ 05:09 pm: [report]

I’ve lost 75lb and am still losing. Despite everyone telling me how good I look, I still only see flaws. And as happy as I am that my DD girls have shrunk, they are on the saggy side now. Before, I hated them being so big, but at least they were perky! My friends don’t understand how I can still be down on how I look, but it’s more than just losing weight - it’s the way I’ve thought about myself for years. It’s not going to change overnight.

Secret Story Time
wrote on October 31 2009 @ 09:46 pm: [report]

That is an inspiring story. I am proud of her for writing it.

Secretia

speedygirl
wrote on November 1 2009 @ 07:55 am: [report]

saggy boobs, saggy tummy, even a lil sagging on the thighs..after losing 100# and keeping it off, I wear those as a badge of honor! (still working on toning up what will tone up tho!) I’d so much rather have those than be 100# heavier - if I can’t get over feeling ‘saggy’ for myself, I can’t expect the guy i’m with to either! I’ll take them over the added weight anyday!

C.Munro
wrote on November 1 2009 @ 11:51 am: [report]

OK, I’m going to be a clueless guy here, but why do women’s bathing suits always have to be sexy anyway? I mean, why don’t they make trunks for women, tops that aren’t totally form-fitting?

Because frankly, if I had to display my body the way women do just to go swimming, I think I’d probably be reluctant to get my feet wet too (in fact, I quit the swim team because I couldn’t stand the speedos).

I mean, if you want to wear that sexy bikini, by all means don’t let me stop you. I just don’t understand why there aren’t better options for those who’d prefer not to be shrink-wrapped into their swimwear.

CheeeeEEEEse
wrote on November 1 2009 @ 08:32 pm: [report]

@c.munro: I think girls in trunks and just a top are sexy. I dunno why, I like the look.

bbblondie
wrote on November 1 2009 @ 10:31 pm: [report]

Amazing article. And that last paragraph especially is true. Don’t we all do that? “If I just lost the weight, everything would be perfect.” Or “if I just had a boyfriend, I’d be really happy.” Or “if I made more money”, etc. It’s hard to just be satisfied with what you’ve got in life, and it’s even harder to acknowledge that a fantasy perfect life isn’t always possible in reality.

tvprofessor
wrote on November 1 2009 @ 11:24 pm: [report]

It’s almost as if I wrote this myself. I’m 21 and have been overweight since I was 8. I’ve lost quite a bit of weight and am so self conscious of my floppy breasts and rippling stomach that I leave a tank top on during sex. It bothers my boyfriend but I don’t think he understands how having my body look this way effects me.

When I was a freshman in high school, my sister was a senior. I have been told all my life how gorgeous my sister is and how she’s so perfect. She’s also skinny. Like the author of the article, I always felt that if I was skinny like her people would tell me I was perfect and I was gorgeous and that I would have a boyfriend.

What I’ve been trying to say all along in this comment is that this article really made me think about myself and how I feel about my body. My boyfriend always tells me I’m beautiful (first guy to ever say that to me) so why can’t I see myself as beautiful?