Debate This: Sweaty Sex—Hotter Than Hell Or Totally Gross?
Posted by: Jessica Wakeman
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11:00AM, Wednesday August 19th 2009
Lights on. Lights off. On the top. On the bottom. Cowgirl. Reverse cowgirl. Bra on. Bra off. Fondle the boobs. Fondle the boobs and you die. Yes, indeed, us ladies and our sexual preferences are complicated. But nothing divides ladies with lust in our hearts quite like the sweaty sex debate! I swear by romps in the sack with the thermostat ramped up, but Frisky editrix, Amelia, gags at the very thought of being in heat.
Lucky for me, biology appears to be on my side: Yvonne Fulbright, “sexpert” for Fox News, says sweaty sex not only burns more calories, but releases more “natural scents,” which act like aphrodisiacs. Nevertheless, Amelia insists that wiping a man’s sweat off her brow is an instant mood killer. For a thoughtful debate on this deeply important subject, read our arguments and then tell us what you think!
| You think hotboxing during sex is uncomfortable? Try to make whoopee while shivering your ta-tas off. I hate having sex in air conditioning. It's so awful. I'm not even one of those women who seem to be cold all the time, but when I take my bra and panties off in a cold room, my nipples and butt quickly become so cold that I just want my lady parts covered again. Then my body tenses up to try to warm itself and my movements are jerk-y. And worst of all, lube (even the warming kind!) and man-juices feel especially chilly, even clammy. But in a hot room, I really feel primed for action. I'm loosened up and relaxed, as if it's easier to move my body fluidly. When my guy and I are sweating so hard that our kisses taste a little salty, I just want to peel my bra and panties off and toss them to the floor where they belong. The heat does something to my sexual appetite, too: when the temperature rises, so does my libido! Some of the best sex I've ever had has been on sweltering nights in the summer months. And as far as I'm concerned, the sweatiness only makes each of us look, smell and taste even sexier. Besides, is there anything cuter than taking a post-coital shower together? Jessica, Assistant Editor |
Don't get me wrong. I love the heat. I consider the ideal temperature to be 85 degrees and sunny, with humidity. I don't mind sweating when I'm in a relaxed state, like lying on my roof while reading gossip mags. One of my favorite words in the English language is "balmy." However, I do not like being particularly active in the heat, which is why I hate bikhram yoga, and I despise other people's sweat, which is why I don't want it dripping on me while I'm bumping uglies. I'm a really neat and tidy person when it comes to my person and my surroundings. My bed is always made, I never leave dirty dishes in the sink, and 95 percent of the time I have an unchipped pedicure. I like sex raw and dirty, but only in the metaphorical sense. I'm cool with my OWN sweat, but someone else's body juices ladled all over me? No thank you. I just don't find other people's sweat touching me to be erotic, in fact, I find it distracting. The antidote is not to blast the AC -- rather, a nice cool breeze from a fan or an open window keeps me limber and dry. I'd rather be left gasping because the sex is that good, not because I'm so hot that I can't breathe. Amelia, Editor-in-Chief |
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writergirl
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:05 am: [report]
You know. I was about to say I was with Amelia on this one. Then I remember the few times I’ve had sex when it’s been hot as balls in the room—it was actually pretty intense.
Only problem is the neighbors hearing.
Kiki T
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:11 am: [report]
you can’t help it sometimes, no matter how cold it is in the room—the point is to have sex that can transcend it. i don’t like being all wet from sweat either, but if you’ve boning like donkeys in the middle of the mojave, it just happens.
gloriafretz
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:11 am: [report]
I think it is all about chemistry. With two of my exes, I couldn’t STAND if they got sweaty. I didn’t like their natural scent. With my boyfriend it is different. I love his natural man smell and it gets even better if we are hot and sweaty. I am with Jessica on this one, especially with the post-coital shower
joyy
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:12 am: [report]
When did hotboxing stop meaning to toke up a small, confined space?
Jessica Wakeman
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:20 am: [report]
@writergirl Good point! Yeah, if you’re having sweaty sex on a hot summer night and the windows are open, the neighbors are definitely gonna hear. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
xifeng882
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:27 am: [report]
I just like sweat in general. Is that super gross?
DancerNinja
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:49 am: [report]
I’m always over heated. My perfect day is about 65 and dry, and I still still sweat like a pig. So I’ll have to side with Amelia, because sex in the heat means soaked sheets and mattress. Gross.
MissMissy
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:58 am: [report]
Are you &^#$&*( kidding me? You’re (the general you here) ok with him on you, IN you, and all the juices therein (if he’s one of those, he gets YOU all over his chinny-chin-chin), and you don’t want the sweat from his brow (his chest, etc), the proof he’s workin’ it for you, to drip a smidge on you? Maybe I’m a dirty girl, but you must take the good with the slightly less than good when you’re doing the deed with your man (or A man). Keep condoms AND sweatbands in the bedside table, do we?
Wow ... need anyone be reminded that this is an intense activity, usually spanning 10 - 15 minutes (or more and I want his number), and one’s gonna work up a sweat? Get over it. And, yessirree - those apres showers are bliss.
AlisonNoelle
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 11:23 am: [report]
There is nothing like a hot sweaty romp! You get all slippery and its awesome! Then you can go shower it all off. I’m one of those gals who would rather be too hot than too cold. So bring on the hotbox!
ksdancer
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 12:32 pm: [report]
Some of the best sex is the hot, sweaty passionate kind! So keep a small towel handy (as one guy I’ve known does) because I only dislike it when his sweat drips from his brow INTO my eye and blinds me from seeing the beauty of his bod poised over me, while blissfully humping away…...........
or, if you get a hotel room, get one with 2 beds…one for the doing the dirty and the other to sleep in—on clean crisp dry sheets
Brooke
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 01:02 pm: [report]
I have had good sweaty sex and bad sweaty sex- with the same guy.
The bad occurred when big sweat droplets kept falling onto my face and into my eyes during a sexual experience I was only moderately “into”. The kind of night where, sure, I was horny… but I was hoping for a “quickie”.
The good was VERY good. We were both going crazy, I think both secretly pretending to be vampires (we had just watched an episode of True Blood) and there was lots and lots of sweat. Totally hot.
Lynn
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 01:56 pm: [report]
Eh, I’m in the middle. I like working up a sweat, but I’d rather most of the sweatiness happen at the end, so we can finish and lay down - off of each other - to cool off. A little sweat to show we’re working hard is hot, but honestly the times BF and I have gotten super sweaty, it just kind of gets gross and slippery and chafey after a while.
EarthGoddess
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 02:10 pm: [report]
No sweat. Ever. Gross. If he or I started to sweat, it would be a major mood killer for both of us. Good thing I married a man who likes to crank the AC in the summer, or crack the window in the winter, as much as I do. I actually get more hot and bothered during a blizzard than warm sunny day. I’d much rather have shivery sex than sweaty sex, and there’s definitely something to be said for getting close to stay warm.
LostInStars
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 02:37 pm: [report]
As long as the sweat isn’t stinky sweat.
ot2b2009
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 04:08 pm: [report]
I have to admit—I’ve only ever been with one guy (my current guy). God bless him, he is worse than a firehose during sex. He’s sweating all over me, all over himself, all over the sheets… And sometimes I’m laying there during sex thinking, “I need a towel! And not for a good reason!”
bronzebuttercup
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 04:30 pm: [report]
The best sex I’ve ever had was spur-of-the-moment-let’s-get-it-on-sweaty-as-all-get-out sex. And I loved every minute of it, his sweat was all over me and mine all over him… Sure, warm me up on a cold winter night but I mean really warm me up.
amandabear
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 05:51 pm: [report]
I hate the heat - my perfect temperature is about 55-65 and I’d wear a sweater every day if I could - so 97% of the time sex in a hot room is just not appealing AT ALL. I’d rather warm up by going at it and be able to comfortably cuddle afterwards.
maroon
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 06:05 pm: [report]
in in jess’ camp on this one. i think that if you’re both not hot, sweaty, and out of breath by the end, you’re not doing it right.
cbloon
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 06:12 pm: [report]
I have never worked up a sweat like I do with one of my current lovers. We’ve always been this way, whether the room is cold or hot. By the time we’re done, we’re soaked, the bed is soaked. We turn the ceiling fan on high and lie there as it cools us off. It’s not like this with anyone else, so it’s either him or the two of us together, but I like it. It’s hot. Literally.
ThatWeirdGamerChick
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 07:04 pm: [report]
Having Raynaud’s syndrome (a circulatory problem) causes my extremities to feel cold pretty much all of the time. My toes are chilly right now, and it’s midsummer in California!! Therefore, experiencing the feeling of heat, or even just warmth, feels really good. And hot enough to be sweaty = awesome. Maybe it’s just the novelty for me, but hot = HOT!
secretsquirrel
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 07:32 pm: [report]
Oh my gosh, I love that salty taste of sweaty shoulders, that slick feeling of skin sliding on skin. Being cold is the worst thing ever for me and the fastest mood killer ever unless that man is totally glommed onto me from neck to ankles.
MarieMacCee
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 08:09 pm: [report]
@ Lynn
that’s exactly how I’d put it
hotmom24
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 09:48 pm: [report]
well i like it just room temp. not too cold and not to hot either even before i begen i get the room comfy, if not then it just not gonna happen for us.
Aurora Indica
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 09:56 pm: [report]
Ooooh the sweaty sex. Never had I experienced it until I met my big burly bear of a boyfriend.
And boy do I love it.
We both get drenched. I actually enjoy feeling his sweat drip on my skin as we hit our climax.
And then laying there, covered, ac on, cuddled together, all slippery from the crazy hot sex we had.
Mmm.
*sam*
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:04 pm: [report]
I’m with Lynn on this one… I don’t want to start having sex when we’re both sweating like pigs, but I certainly don’t mind working one up in the process!!! (honestly, it’s the only situation that I don’t find sweat disgusting.. even my own. and it can’t be like, dripping sweat, just enough to make it obvious you’re working hard, lol.) that being said, I don’t want to have sex in a freezing cold room either, and having the ceiling fan on tends to dry me out… so, we typically start off w/ the temp set at 75 w/ the fan off, and turn it on if things start getting too sweaty.
*sam*
wrote on August 19 2009 @ 10:07 pm: [report]
lol wow, I just reread my comment, and realized, yeah, maybe I’m not in the middle… I really do just side with Amelia—totally gross.
ootie
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 07:24 am: [report]
i looove sweaty sex. i love the taste of it, and the smell, and the way we slip and slide on each others skin. it feels more natural to me, and more erotic. its true that i get winded and thirsty a lot faster, but i like feeling like im actually working—panting, falling down onto the bed, etc.
konstantine
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 09:00 am: [report]
I only have two conditions for sweaty sex: 1) we are dry when it begins. I am NOT one of those girls who goes wild at the sight of her man after a workout- nor do I feel like getting down and dirty after I’ve gotten all sweaty. and 2) it may not DRIP on me or be excessive. I prefer when I cant tell whose sweat is all over my body because we’re both so into it
stiffinp
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 09:05 am: [report]
Sweaty sex fires up the passion…....BIG time!
spanishbutterfly
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 09:29 am: [report]
im with Jessica ..... i love hot sweaty sex, My ladyparts for some reason do not like the cold air, if we are into and i feel a cool breeze i get dried up quik. me n my bf usally dont agree on this, he prefers to have the fan on. Weird thing i dont like sweat on me unless we are having sex,if ur sweaty from exercise /playn ball uggg DO NOT TOUCH ME .. i dont like smelly sweat ( nasty)
Jenn27549
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 09:49 am: [report]
I don’t really prefer it one way or the other, but I don’t care how cold it is or whether you have a fan going, if you are really going at it (or even moderately) its exercise and you will sweat. Period. Its just part of it. I would find it really strange if he/I didn’t.
Dreaming
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 10:54 am: [report]
Oooooh. I absolutely love hot and sweaty. The slip and slide of skin on skin, the taste, the wild look in his eyes. Yum. Cold sex is just that - cold and uncomfortable. But a hot, sweaty man right there with me? Oh, yeah. Though I do have a cut off point - if it gets too hot(say, 98 degrees), I just don’t feel like doing anything short of a cool shower.
wonderfultonight
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 12:45 pm: [report]
Oh, YES, YES! Slipping and sliding and the taste of your man = yummy. If you are having really hot sex, both of you will probably get a little sweaty. And the shower together is f-i-n-e.
If there is a beach near you and you can find a private spot, you can really go all out and then just jump in the water for a fun cool off. My fave on a hot summer night.
Those of you who don’t like a guy dripping all over you, reverse the action and get on top. There will still be some slipping and sliding, but at least the sweat won’t drip in your eyes or run down your body. To save the sheets, you can put down a large bath sheet or even better, save an old bedcover or comforter to put down before you start - if you have time.
santacruzin
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 01:47 pm: [report]
Oh no. I just got on a necessary medication last year that makes me sweat buckets whenever I’m not stock still. I haven’t had a boyfriend in awhile so I hadn’t even considered the sex factor. _I_ am going to be the one sweating all over the place, so I hope it’s not a turnoff for future men in my life!
lilrockgoddess4u
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 02:25 pm: [report]
Ok I am a Southern lady and we don’t sweat we “glow”. I don’t mind a nice fine all over body “glow” when we’re going at it, but not big fat drops!
turninnburnin3
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 04:09 pm: [report]
You know if I would have answered this question a few days ago I might have had a completely different answer. But now I would say that I LOVE, L-O-V-E, sweaty sex. But really the thing is it depends on the person, most of those people I have slept with are not that sweaty and I hate heat so usually I like to do it in cold. But I found a guy who sweat like crazy when we have sex and it is the hottest thing ever. I live in a very cold part of the country and I love having sex when it is cold outside, but it has never been sweaty, but I am pretty excited to try this when it is very, very cold out. (And my cold I do mean -30).
Red_Lady
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 05:17 pm: [report]
I love sweaty sex - its nice and slippery
And I’d agree with those that say you’re not doing it right if you’re not getting hot and sweaty. I very rarely sweat in general, but during sex I start glistening.
develange
wrote on August 20 2009 @ 11:18 pm: [report]
yes, yes. sweat. it DOES depend on the guy. but when it’s with the right one, holy hell.
Also…if you’re extremely horny, I’d like to think most people would suck it up and have sex in the hot as balls room and let sweat drip in their eyes.
Also, even if the room is cold…if you’re having sex for a decent amount of time, are highly aroused, and moving your body…isn’t sweat, you know, necessary and inevitable?
bogart4017
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 11:48 am: [report]
Someof the best sex i ever had was when summer came early in May (90 degrees) and i escaped to a former lover sapt in the Bronx abt 5pm. It had been closed up all day and she just had time to turn on the AC before hormones took over and she asked for and received a slow screw against the wall. I must’ve sweated 15 pounds ontop her livingroom floor.
brandyalexander
wrote on August 21 2009 @ 01:59 pm: [report]
Yes to hot… except for the aftermath when you are picking his chest hairs off of your sweaty boobs.
Today is a good day to be disgusting. You’re welcome.
Amelia13
wrote on August 22 2009 @ 05:18 pm: [report]
I am okay with the sweaty sex as long as we shower soon after. Where I live it has been like 90 degrees with 100% humidity the past few days. I was on top the other day and literally dripping with sweat while my husband was all but dry. After we finished, I said to something like “Wow, I am really sweaty!”. He replied with “Um yeah, I noticed while you were up there…”
Now I am wondering if he was more focused on the sex itself or the sweat dripping down by boobs.
I gotta say though, when it is hot I try and move everything to his side of the bed. Nothing is worse than laying on damp wrinkled sheets. Ewwww…..
wonderfultonight
wrote on August 25 2009 @ 01:58 pm: [report]
Amelia - some men like the sight of sweat or water dripping down a woman’s boobs. Unless he said he didn’t like it, he may have gotten a little extra turn-on from it.
cbloon
wrote on August 29 2009 @ 11:05 am: [report]
I just discovered another benefit—-my man went home a few hours ago, and I’ve been moving slowly today so I haven’t quite made it into the shower yet, but I can smell him on me. It’s the hot, sexy smell of him, not an offensive body odor. I like it…
babylaceface
wrote on September 8 2009 @ 01:00 am: [report]
i love hot sweaty sex with my boyfriend. he makes it sexy and he makes me feel sexy.
that was NOT the case with my x (who i lost my virginity to). he was a big guy ( 6’ 3”) and would seriously sweat bullets. no really, the size of bullets. It could be 50 degrees in the room and i would be freezing my butt off, but no i was covered in sweat because of him. never my own. gross. as you can tell it didnt work out…
so its just a matter of who you’re with and if it works with that person
OKSUNI
wrote on September 29 2009 @ 09:10 pm: [report]
sweaty back and chest is hot..sweat dripping off your nose on my face, not so much…but then again if its really good sex then I probably wont notice!