Debate This: Do You Like To Have Sex During Your Period?

Anon
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 10:29 am: [report]

Days 4 or 5? That must suck to have a day 4 or 5. I limit myself to 3 days tops! These women having periods that long really need to get on the pill, stat!

Amelia
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 10:32 am: [report]

@Anon I’m on the pill (well I was until this month) and my period were always a solid 5 days. Days four and five though were always light. I think it totally depends on the woman.

Kiki T
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 10:40 am: [report]

I am totally pro sex on the crimson wave or flag day, as they call it in japan (that is my fave…anyone that doesn’t know why, look at japan’s flag and you’ll get a good laugh.

and all those points given for pro sex on the rag, Yes! Yes! Yes!

plus, i think it’s hot and way evolved when a guy doesn’t care about it and even more evolved when he can go down on you during it. Although the first time it happened to me, I was uncomfortable thinking it smelled, etc., but he treated it like it was just so natural that I thought why do I have such a bug in my ass..then I just got over my own self-consciousness and enjoyed. Although I don’t require that for everyone, I do think that someone that accepts your body unconditionally, including yourself, is hot.

Lindsay A.
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 10:56 am: [report]

I consider myself open-minded, and I DO like having sex while I’m on my period…but oral sex while you’re on the rag? If I was a guy I would not be into a bunch of blood in my mouth.

theothergyllenhaal
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 10:59 am: [report]

@Kiki T: That sounds like a sub-plot on True Blood.

Deannea Jaye
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 11:45 am: [report]

I’m sorry, I just can’t get my mind to go there. It’s a smidgen too difficult to feel sexy with cramps, bloating and a craving for anything you can get your hands on! I’m with you on this T!

Reena
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 11:53 am: [report]

I’m totally fine with doing it on my period. Granted, I’d only done it with my current boyfriend but we did it the first month I had it. We weren’t even bf/gf for many many months after that, but we just have a strong physical connecting and neither of us minded too much, so I decided to go for it.

Though, I gotta say, I find it MUCH harder to orgasm while on my period. Actually, I almost never do or only when he’s been working me much longer than usual. I dunno, maybe that’s just me…

Wendy
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 12:33 pm: [report]

I give a pass on this one since I would not want to have sex with my man if he bled from his penis 5 days a month!

Amelia
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 12:39 pm: [report]

@Kiki T I agree it’s totallllly evolved. But I think it might be TOO evolved when a guy will go down during your period. I mean, that’s some Billy Bob Thorton s**t.

abbylyn
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 01:31 pm: [report]

orgasm = best cure for cramps EVER.

Lynn
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 02:47 pm: [report]

I’ll do it on day 4 or 5. The first couple days I feel like crap, and in the middle it’s still a bit too messy for me, but I can get down with it when my flow is lightening up. But I definitely don’t let him go down on me!

@anon - it took the pill to GET my periods down to 4 or 5 days. I was THRILLED to discover that hidden benefit!

Rachel Kramer Bussel
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 03:44 pm: [report]

I’m not necessarily pro- or anti- but I tend to feel SO AWFUL, both physically (hello, major cramps) and I just don’t feel sexy/in the mood, so I’d rather wait at least till the worst is over. I tend to be totally antisocial the first few days. But maybe you ladies who are saying it’s a good cure for cramps are onto something! Considering that now I seem to get my period (on a kinda random schedule) *every time* I see my long distance bf, I may have to change my tune.

starkitty50
wrote on October 23 2008 @ 10:45 pm: [report]

Sex actually helps my cramps, but day one is a no-no. I’d have to say no to oral sex on my period. I don’t know of many guys who would do that to a girl on the rag. Maybe some would.

Deedee
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 02:54 am: [report]

I don’t have any philosophical objections to sex while I have my period, but I don’t like the mess.  So I was very excited when I learned about soft tampons you can wear during sex to absorb the flow.  (see http://www.gynotex.com/ or http://soft-tampons.de/en/produkte.html )  I tried one of these tampons, and the sex was great - very comfortable and clean.  But I couldn’t retrieve the tampon afterwards - had to go to the doctor and have it removed.  Embarrassing!!  I’ve since tried it again and gotten the soft tampon out with no problem.  I think I may have put it in too deeply the first time.

tracy
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 06:42 am: [report]

Oh I love period sexy, it’s easier to come, more sensitive and it helps ease those period pains!

robf
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 02:05 pm: [report]

From a guy’s point of view, I’m willing if she’s willing.  Oral less so - just not my idea of exciting.

boobear
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 04:21 pm: [report]

I had never been with a guy who wasnt grossed out by it until my current BF.  So when I met him and he said he didnt care, I was shocked. It took some getting used to, but if hes not grossed out by it, then Im cool with it. Though usually the first day or 2 are off limits, cause I usually feel like crap and have zero sex drive anyway.

Happy and lucky
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 05:14 pm: [report]

Even oral can be clean when you’re OTR:  Just wash up and put in a fresh tampon right before you & your partner get started, and you’ll be good to go.  Sure, there will be a little string peeking out, but that’s nothing and it won’t get in the way of anything.  Plus, the endorphin release you get will actually help your cramps.

Lina
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 08:32 pm: [report]

Sex on your rag is great, you’re already lubed up and ready to go.  If you just put the thought of blood aside, it’s quite enjoyable and you forget you have cramps or bloating.  The only thing I can’t do is have him licky, licky, that’s just plain sick.

Rachel Kramer Bussel
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 08:37 pm: [report]

I know I already commented, but I forgot that while I don’t really want anyone touching me while I’m bleeding, I’d be up for touching someone else (I’m dating a guy right now but who knows what the future holds). My ex-gf was totally into it, and I would use my fingers on her and I remember once she was like “The tampon is like a sex toy.” She had a very light flow and I think liked the sensation, and it wasn’t a big deal at all.

KatieM.
wrote on October 24 2008 @ 08:54 pm: [report]

I’ve only had sex once while on my period. But that one time I totally had 5 orgasms. Once I let go of the “oh my god, gross” factor, it was amazing.

tricia
wrote on October 25 2008 @ 01:47 pm: [report]

well i’ve never done it but, i do agree that that is a lot of days out of your life to give up sex opportunities. so i would highly recommend doing what i do… take your birth control continuously (skip the placebo pills) or go on something like Seasonale and only have 4 periods a year… or less! it’s so wonderful

Anon
wrote on October 25 2008 @ 02:26 pm: [report]

My current bf who is not into period sex tried it with me.  As a heavy bleeder, I used an “Instead Cup” to catch the flow.  Well, we got a bit too rough and ended up messing up the sheets (we were long distance at the time and were at a hotel).  However, being comfortable with each other, he did not seem to care about the mess he saw and we just continued getting more of each other.

I am on Lybrel right now so I do not get my period anymore.  It was a choice I had to make due to having painful periods and missing too many classes (not a good thing when you are in grad school).  It is funny because my bf is more bothered by the fact I do not have a cycle than I am.

Having accepted my period as a part of me, the bf expects my period to come and does not mind period sex at all.  He does not go down on me during my cycle but I do not want him to… so, it works out.

Lisa
wrote on October 25 2008 @ 05:35 pm: [report]

As someone who works in the medical field and deals daily with patient who potentially have blood borne illnesses, I cannot believe people would even consider having sex with someone while on their period. There are so many nasty blood borne illnesses out there, HIV, HCV just to name a few.

Fact: 2/3 of people infected with Hepatitis C have no symptoms and do not know they have contracted the virus. Unless you are 100% sure your partner is clean, why take the risk?

lissa
wrote on October 26 2008 @ 07:49 pm: [report]

I think that it’s just mind over matter. If he doesn’t mind it doesn’t matter! I have to deal with it and if he wants to help me with cramps and give me a couple orgasms to boot then that is super.

brooksie
wrote on October 27 2008 @ 12:34 am: [report]

Eh, if it’s the orgasms that help the cramps, I’d rather masturbate. I feel way too icky most of the time to even be horny, though. Cramps, bloating, fatigue, bad mood… I get ‘em all. And I’m even on Yaz, the supposed miracle pill.

Bah

Success
wrote on October 27 2008 @ 07:04 am: [report]

Personally, i have never had sex while i was on my period, not to say that it won’t happen, but i really don’t see anything wrong having sex while you on your menstrual, to each its own, thats what i say!!!!

willie
wrote on October 27 2008 @ 08:35 am: [report]

I don’t look forward to it, but when it happens, it just would not stop me, I love to see my partner happy

mandi
wrote on October 27 2008 @ 09:19 am: [report]

ummm, “blood in his mouth”??  going down during period is just fine, because it’s supposed to be about your CLIT.  if he’s putting his tongue anywhere there’s blood, you’re probably not getting off.  why do men think oral is about simulating intercourse?  i’ve dumped guys because they wouldn’t go at it ‘when the painters were in.’  It’s a deal-breaker.  This is my body, love it or leave it.

Steph
wrote on October 28 2008 @ 12:25 am: [report]

So, my experience with OTR sex has been generally good, I totally agree with the points that it feels better and orgasms definitely help reduce my cramps.  And my bf will gladly go down on me while I’m on my cycle- like someone else commented, I just use a tampon and it’s not an issue.  Also, to the point someone made about blood-borne illnesses, you mentioned HIV and Hepatitis, can’t you get those from unprotected sex anyway?

CP
wrote on October 28 2008 @ 05:57 pm: [report]

i was just taking a poll on this issue amongst my friends!  i never turn down sex on my red days.  it makes a difference when both parties are comfortable…when the other person shows just as much attraction towards you and is just as enthusiastic to have sex and go down, as any other day.  some people dont mind the mess.  and i agree with mandi, the tongue should be focusing on the clit…

David
wrote on October 29 2008 @ 08:45 am: [report]

My partner and I regularly have sex while she is menstruating.  I have never had any conscious hang ups about it.  It is one of her favorite things in the world, for many of the reasons stated above.  She says that her body and mind become incredibly eroticized during this time and that she can more easily have orgasms.  I didn’t know that it could also reduce cramps! 

I do have one concern though.  Because of the physiological realities (the cycle of ovulation, etc.,) I have trusted her on the fact that pregnancy is next to impossible for ten days after she begins to bleed.  Is this true, or am I believing something that is not backed up by biological science?

Lynn
wrote on October 29 2008 @ 01:58 pm: [report]

@David - it’s definitely not true! Keep using birth control!!

A. Michelle
wrote on October 29 2008 @ 02:13 pm: [report]

“Instead” is a product in the feminine hygiene aisle. It is a little disk that acts like a period blocker. If you use this, it will block the flow for 8-12 hours. I just got word of this, tried it and it is phenominal. You might have a drop leak out while having sex on the heaviest of flows, but nothing like it could be. I recommend this to all my girlfriends and they love it, too!!

Anna
wrote on October 31 2008 @ 01:43 pm: [report]

BLOOD, people! HIV, HPV, Hepatitis, Herpes…
Heteros are not magically immune to bloodborne and fluid borne diseases. I don’t know when the safer-sex bandwagon passed you by, but this isn’t 1970 anymore. We’re not just talking about preventing pregnancy. ANYONE can get an STD, and a potentially life threatening one at that. Just because you’ve tested yourself & your partner, there’s no guarantee, espc if you’ve been with others within the year. HIV takes 6 months to show up on a screen, and there’s always the possibility of human error and false negatives. There’s so much we still don’t know about how certain diseases are transmitted as well. How about women who ejaculate? We don’t know if that can carry HIV.
I’m not trying to be an alarmist, but I think women need to realize that they are putting themselves at risk having unsafe sex at any point in their cycle.

CP
wrote on November 1 2008 @ 09:01 pm: [report]

To Anna, I think you are missing the point.  We need to lighten up.  This discussion is around the stigma attached to menstruation and the various feelings women have about sex while menstruating.  I am not minimizing the risks of unsafe sex.  However, it is somewhat patronizing to insinuate that the women/men here are unaware/uneducated regarding the transmission and incubation of STIs and other infectious diseases…with or without the involvement of blood.

Anna
wrote on November 3 2008 @ 09:29 pm: [report]

It’s not patronizing when people are admitting in this column to unprotected oral and penetrative sex, with or without their period, but especially during. “Lightening up” is what now makes young het women the #1 fastest growing group of HIV infectees in the US. Epidemiology, anyone?
This has nothing to do with uptightness. It has to do with saving lives and protecting your and your partner(s)health.
Great- #&@$% during your period- go ahead, I have nothing against that, but never once here has someone mentioned dental dams, nitrile gloves or condoms or even the phrase “safer sex”. I don’t think it’s assumed that these are the precautions everyone is taking. I lost many friends to AIDS in the 80’s & 90’s. It’s REAL.

Perspicuity
wrote on November 4 2008 @ 08:37 am: [report]

I can also throw in with all the information concerning safe sex on this board.  The problem is that I don’t think any of us are consciously arguing in favor of unprotected sex.  I think a more nuanced discussion would be very interesting.  For instance, birth control and profilatics are not either or phenomena.  There are all kinds of choices to make when deciding to use safer sex methods.  And just as some people choose not to put themselves at what they percieve as ‘unnecessary’ risk in terms of contracting an std, some people choose not to take birth control pills for other health reasons, which seem to me very valid: possiblities for cancer, concerns with synthetic materials coursing through their bloodstreams, etc.  If a person chooses not to take birth control pills, then the options for effective birth control become more narrow.  This changes any decision-making process. 

In terms of preventing std’s, the choices open to people almost all involve desensitizing materials, and many people see a direct correlation between sensitivity and intimacy.

These are all important concerns.  And while none of us, at least I would think, would advocate putting ourselves senselessly at risk, many interesting discussions could arise from a more detailed and thoughtful consideration of why people make the decisions they make.

Lambasting eachother will probably not be very effective, at any rate.

Anna
wrote on November 4 2008 @ 05:36 pm: [report]

Not lambasting- trying to save lives with some information. Take it or leave it, thems the facts.

Jamie
wrote on November 4 2008 @ 10:44 pm: [report]

Saving lives?  That’s self-important.  I agree, people should know the facts…but you’re never gonna “make a difference” by reprimanding people and using condescending language.  By the tone, I would never feel comfortable sharing that I have a STD with you.  Instead of gaining support, I’d get blamed and punished for my unfortunate circumstance.  Btw, HIV antibodies often appear within 3 months after infection, in some cases 6 months.   

Go Barack!!!

Owl Farm
wrote on November 5 2008 @ 11:52 am: [report]

This never really bothered me - I’m not all that into going down during her period although I have done it.

smellycats
wrote on December 14 2008 @ 03:08 pm: [report]

So I’ve never faced this decision myself, but I think after the first day or 2 I’m fine with it. Just being a little sexually aroused around my BF during that time helps my cramps. I plan to spend the rest of my life with him so he’s going to get to know my body as well as I do. The pace of learning my body is up to him.

suzybabies
wrote on December 15 2008 @ 12:22 pm: [report]

i have had sex on my blood work but it wasnt that hot.  i will ahve to go against but only because waiting makes the heart grow fonder. and that sex is well worth the wait.

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BrunetteBeauty
wrote on December 20 2008 @ 07:14 am: [report]

I’ve always wondered about this but never really knew how to approach the guy on asking…do you even ask?  Is it just like you’re there and oh yeah, hey..forgot to mention?  Hmmm.

Owl Farm
wrote on December 20 2008 @ 02:41 pm: [report]

Yeah - no need to make a big deal about it though.  But you might mention it a little sooner in case he starts to go down…

fallenangel915
wrote on December 22 2008 @ 09:39 am: [report]

Strangely enough, my flow is rather light on the first day, so I’m game for first day flow play, but days 2-5 are a no-no. The last two or three days (yes, my period is typically 7-8 days long) are just fine, as long as it’s done in the shower. It took an older man (I’m 27, he’s 36) to convince me it was okay to have sex while on my period, but he’s not enlightened enough to go down on me during that time.

Thursday
wrote on December 27 2008 @ 04:21 pm: [report]

It wasn’t until I met my current partner that I found a guy who was comfortable with surfing the crimson wave - every other guy had always treated it like leprosy. But for all the reasons above it makes for great sex, and I agree that if he’s comfortable going down then why not. With a little preparation it can be a lot of fun.

TCSMN
wrote on June 13 2009 @ 06:56 am: [report]

Hmmm, FK! I gotta say it does feel better when on my period (Masturbating that is. I’m a virgin.) but I’m usually constantly on pain meds since I have these… horrifying cramps. Not mild discomfort, but OH MY GOD MY INSIDES ARE #&@$% TORN APART AND I’M GOING TO PUKE ALL OVER YOU *Criiiiiiiiiiiiiiies* pain. Hm…

If I ever have a girlfriend I would definitely have sex with HER while she was on her period. Oral, too… I mean, it’s a less-creepy way to have blood. Someone else’s blood, too. Call me weird but DAMMIT blood is #&@$% tasty. So… Yeah.

Not sure if I’d let anyone nom on mine while /I/‘m bleeding. Unless, you know, they’re into blood clots.

Buhri
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 12:37 pm: [report]

Considering how I am always ready for some that time of the month, I’d be cool with it. My bf however, not a chance. I had forgotten to take the pill 2 days in a row and so I got a barely noticable flow going and when he pulled out he freaked. So period sex will be a no go with him.

thehighandlow
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 12:39 pm: [report]

Nope, not for me. I feel too gross to have sexy-time during period-time.

bostonbabe1234
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 12:58 pm: [report]

I love having sex on my period. Put a tampon in and I’m good to go.

ICYHOT338
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 12:59 pm: [report]

I’m way too turned on during my flo to say no.  I’ve had BF’s that weren’t into it but, i’ve managed to coax them into the shower…hee hee

k_roja
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 12:59 pm: [report]

I’ve had sex on my period before, but it’s mostly just uncomfortable.  I’m one that has no problem orgasming as it is, but when I’m having my period, everything tightens up and gets crampy.  The orgasms relieve the cramps for a few minutes, but then they come back stronger because they make my uterus contract!!  I’m not grossed out by the blood, just prefer to have more comfortable sex!

Jazzy4
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:01 pm: [report]

I always avoided sex on my period thinking it was gross. Then once I actually started while my bf and I were going at it! I was horrified, but my bf didn’t care at all. Seeing that it didn’t gross him out put me at ease so now it’s no big deal.

hlnbabe
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:14 pm: [report]

i’m a horny lil bastard when aunt flo is in town.

jojo32
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:14 pm: [report]

Just had some very satisfying period/make up sex last week! Couple of towels and we’re good to go.  I’m glad to be with someone who isnt freaked out by it.  Especially because I was, at first.  I would always get so worked up just making out and what not if I was having my period, but felt like I couldnt go any further.  It was incredibly frustrating, but you know, kind of hot, too.  Eventually he convinced me and now there are only 2 or 3 days at the most that are off limits for sex.  So glad I caved in on this rule I had.  LOL

grooovyali
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:16 pm: [report]

#1 reason I love my IUD is that this isn’t a problem anymore!

Before now though, if it was just some light spotting maybe, but definitely not going down on me! I wouldn’t do that for someone so I wouldn’t expect them to do the same for me!

dionysus
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

I won’t say I would choose to have sex during my period but when a BF was around while I was on it, then I did have it. I wore Instead cups with one BF when I had sex, even tho he complained he could feel it a bit, he got used to it. We tried once to have sex without it but I bled so much, we didn’t do that again! But my recent ex hated when I wore it. He felt that since that was a natural part of my life, that he was perfectly fine with having sex during my period. I never asked if he would have oral sex while I was on it, but knowing him, he probably would have!

Queen Frostine
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

My periods are so light they’re mostly undetectable to my husband. So, as long as I’m not crampy-bloaty-achey, then I’m go to go for a round in the sack.

Jenn27549
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:22 pm: [report]

I was never against it when I had them.  I found that during sex itself, if I had recently removed a tampon, there was not alot of blood that came out during the actual act.  I’ve never had to address it with my husband b/c I’ve been cycle-free due to Depo the entire time I’ve known him.  I am switching to an IUD, and it is the one with the hormones so I should hopefully remain mostly or completely period-free after the “adjustment period.”  I have no idea how he feels about it since its never come up and he’s squeamish talking about ANYTHING having to do with the vagina and woman issues down there.  But we’re about to find out…either he’s OK with it or he might be going a considerable while without it. 

fallonthecity
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:28 pm: [report]

I don’t know what the big deal is about period sex.  I don’t want to be touched on my heavy days, but on my lighter days it’s great.  I get really light spotting sometimes during rough sex anyway.  It would probably be a deal breaker for me if a guy was that freaked out by a little blood.  Oral sex during my period, though?  Probably not.

IrishErin
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:28 pm: [report]

@bostonbabe1234 Put a tampon in and you’re good to? WTF. That’s a good way to permanently lodge a tampon inside you. Unless you meant oral. Or your partner has a very very tiny penis.

For my part, I’m out for the first two days as well. I’m just in too much pain and feel too gross. So I employ self-love to help with the cramps. But days 3-5 are much lighter and for the most part it leaves little evidence behind. My boy has said on a million occasions that he’s more than fine with it, but I’ve never wanted to those first few days. And as far as oral is concerned I know I could never get out of my own head about it long enough to even enjoy it. I’d be all tensed up. So what’s the point?

ACooper
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:29 pm: [report]

I like to have hot shower sex while on the rag.  It all just washes away, no problem.  I do not want any tongue near my vagina during my period, though.

silvergurl
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:30 pm: [report]

the only time i’ve done the ole hammer and bloody nail (ew) routine…i got my nice little uterine shedding all over the guy.  and, um, i didn’t hear from him again.  woopsies!  time to find someone REAL.

I Go To 11
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:31 pm: [report]

I have an IUD, so I no longer bleed each month (hooray!). But towards the end of my last IUD, where I did start getting periods again, my husband never minded. As long as there’s a towel underneath, we’re good to go.

For the folks who are lambasting this due to disease concerns: you’re obviously not factoring in people who are in monogamous relationships. In the 2+ years I’ve been with my man, we’ve been fully committed to each other, so no concerns of contracting any STDs there (especially since I get checked for them—just to be safe—during my annual exam.) I understand getting all upset if this were in regards to casual sex (well, actually, getting upset is pointless; pointing out facts in a respectful, concerned tone would be better), but telling this to anyone in a long-term, monogamous relationship doesn’t make much of a difference, really.

Buhri
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:50 pm: [report]

Put a tampon in and you’re good to? WTF. That’s a good way to permanently lodge a tampon inside you.

LOL! A tampon can not get permanently lodged inside of you, that’s just silly. There’s been plenty of stories of woman having sex with a tampon in, sometimes they forget, sometimes they do it on purpose, but you get get it out if you reach high enough.

AnitaBath
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:52 pm: [report]

I’m on LoSeasonique, so I’m SUPPOSED to have a three-day period every three months. If only I were that lucky. I spot all the time, and it’s usually pretty light. The first time it happened and I was with my boyfriend, I told him that I was spotting and he was just like, “Oh, so you don’t want to have sex?” It sounds stupid, but it was almost an epiphany. It didn’t even occur to me that I could still have sex on my period. I thought it would be caution taped off and an invisible barrier would prevent him from entering or something.

He doesn’t mind, but sometimes I’m scared about messing up the sheets. Because of the birth control I’m on, I don’t get cramps or anything much anymore. I’d probably feel differently if my flow were heavier or if I still had bad cramps, but if I didn’t have sex when I was spotting then I’d never have sex!

AnitaBath
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 01:54 pm: [report]

Oh, and since everyone’s mentioning tampons:

The extra lubrication while on my period is nice, but if I have a tampon in and take it out shortly before having sex, it makes things difficult. Then I have absolutely no lubrication and he can’t even get it in. So, yeah, we had to invest in some KY.

Sorry if that was overshare.

jackieb31
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 02:12 pm: [report]

I’m on depoprovera and after 6 months I stopped getting it all together….THANK GOD!!!!!!!!!!!

tabby
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 02:24 pm: [report]

The period sex is awesome due to the heightened blood flow to the area. However, the idea of leaving a tampon in during sex creeps me out and just sounds painful, especially a fresh one. Plus I can’t imagine the dry (and let’s face it, rather rough) cotton can feel all that great on a penis.

hlnbabe
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 02:29 pm: [report]

hold up, people leave tampons in??? my period just stops when i’m aroused…. or swimming/take a shower.

Ginger
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:00 pm: [report]

I’ve only had period sex twice. Once because it started in the middle of sex and we didn’t notice (so that doesn’t really count) and another time because me and the guy hadn’t seen each other in a year, only had two days together, and didn’t know when we’d see each other again.
He just told me he wouldn’t go down on me, which seemed fair enough.

Also, this topic gives me an excuse to quote ‘Wetlands’.
“You can swim in the red river, but don’t drink the water.”

For some reason, that phrase isn’t used much in conversation.

GypsyQueen
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:22 pm: [report]

Orgasm while menstruating, great. Actual sex? Maaaybe not. My boyfriend has brought me to orgasm me while I was on my period before, but I kept my panties on, and that was that. But I tend to feel so bloated and heavy and achy during my period that I don’t know that I’d be able to let go and enjoy sex during that time, or if my boyfriend would even be interested in trying it. To be perfectly honest, it would take a lot of talking about itfor me to try it, so maybe I should just say no. <_<

MuchoMacho
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:28 pm: [report]

this is gross to me…  im sorry.  i cant be enlightened on this topic.  yuck.  but a tip - dont leave your tampon in and have sex.  it can get pushed up inside and then get stuck there.  gets REAL funky.  the gf told me some HORRIBLE stories from her time volunteering at the STD clinic…  puke.  but anyway.  thats what i have to share.

Shelbs305
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:35 pm: [report]

luckily enough i have always had extremely “caring” periods. (if they can be caring) on average they last 3-4 days and the only heavy time is overnight the 2nd day. so this has never been a problem, but i have noticed that im suppeer turned on during my period. its crazy, its nice to know other people get this way as well.

plasticrose
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:46 pm: [report]

I don’t think I could. I just feel too gross and fat and bloaty on my period to feel desirable. That is where a vibrator comes in handy. Orgasms are strangely better on your period, and they definitely help with cramps etc, but you don’t necessarily need another person to have one.

If I was going to have sex on my period though, I wouldn’t be leaving a tampon in. Can’t you do it in the bath or shower or something? That would keep it cleaner, right?

Hannah P
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:49 pm: [report]

Absolutely not!! I’m already so uncomfortable and in pain!

Romulus
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 03:55 pm: [report]

You got it, plasticrose.  Shower sex.  No need to strip the sheets and rinse them in cold water.  A shower massage on a wand makes a great sex toy too. 

On the position issue, I would rather have the woman on top, on the theory that it’s easier to wash me than to wash the bedding.  Doggie style is another alternative.

Steph Pro
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 04:05 pm: [report]

Sex on my period doesn’t bother me.  My current boyfriend is not grossed out by it either.  We usually have shower sex so we can wash up afterwards.  I would be okay not having sex on my period if my boyfriend was grossed out by it, though.  I am not comfortable with him going down on me while I’m on the rag. That is just not my thing, I guess. 

I cannot imagine leaving a tampon in during sex.  That sounds aweful.  Just take a shower when you’re done or have sex in the shower.  It’s a great way to extend naked time.

1 of 2
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 05:13 pm: [report]

@Amelia “I’m on the pill (at least I was till this month)”. Are you OK?

secretsquirrel
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 05:23 pm: [report]

Crime scene sex.

Best sex ever!!

fluresentcrayon
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 05:41 pm: [report]

I could never really enjoy it because I knew how messy it was although my ex-husband liked it. Nowadays I don’t have to worry because I had a hysterectomy two years ago. HURRAY for being uterus, pain and period free!!!!

Casey_Prior
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 05:59 pm: [report]

I have never been lucky enough to have a guy that would touch me when I am on my period, WHICH SUCKS!  I am always so horny during that time, where you ladies finding these guys?

meredith806
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 06:11 pm: [report]

oh damn I missed this.  Silly work.

First, I’m on the pill because I have wacko periods without it.  As in totally random timing, super long, crazy ass cramps, and I’m pretty sure I could have drowned a small village. TMI? haha Anyway, even on the pill it’s still pretty long 6-7 days.

I cannot go 6-7 days without sex, neither can he, I’m quite certain I would begin to behave similarly to my dog and begin to hump everything is sight. And to be honest, he doesn’t care at all, in fact it bothers me more than him.  It usually takes me a bit to get over worrying that the flood gates are going to go crazy (they usually always do *sigh*) but after a few minutes I’m fine, and get the hell over it.

But oral? (excuse my immature response) EWWWWWWWW gross.

canthelpmyself
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 06:14 pm: [report]

i just tried this for the first time about a week ago & i will DEFINITELY be doing it again. it actually wasn’t intentional- i ended up starting my period during sex. but later on in the night we wanted to go at it again and my partner said he didn’t mind. i wouldnt really recommend girl on top as it is a big messier. but it felt amazing!

IrishErin
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 06:33 pm: [report]

Tampons can most definitely be shoved incredibly far into your vagina if you have a sex partner who is packing anything decent. A friend of mine once was drunk & on her period and forget she had put a tampon in before she had sex with her quite well endowed boyfriend. The string had somehow gotten folded up and she couldn’t reach it, no matter how hard she tried. Trip to the college clinic, anyone?

Buhri
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 06:42 pm: [report]

@Irish Erin, it can happen, but it’s not as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be. It’s nothing to worry about if a woman forgets about it and most people can dig it out themselves. Again, it can not get permanently stuck in your vag.

draymond
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 06:52 pm: [report]

Early on in our relationship my wife and I got it sorted out that I was not at all uncomfortable with any aspect of her periods.  (In some respect that was because much of my early sexual education came from peeking at my mother’s ‘women’s magazines’ which of course had tons of ads and articles on the subject.)  So sometimes when we have to put down a towell knowing that there would be some extra cleanup but the fact that it did nothing to kill my mood made it easier for it to do nothing to kill her mood either.  About the only thing that’s not permitted at those timew is oral.  Not so much because I wouldn’t do it but she wouldn’t want to see what my face looked like afterward.

Iammina
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 06:58 pm: [report]

No, I don’t, I think its too messy but it doesn’t make any difference to my guy. I am taking the pill now and have a very short period or none at all which I love.

Sky Mech
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 07:58 pm: [report]

I don’t mind gettin’ frisky (har) on my ‘flag day’, but I have to be in the mood for it in my head too.
Day one is the worst for me—cramps, bloating, nausea, and irritability. So no sex on day one. After that, I go through my days like normal. My sex drive goes WAY up. It feels pretty good to an already good thing.

The only other factor is that, even frisky, if I am not up for it, it isn’t going to happen.
And as far as oral while on the rag—NO WAY!! I have a strong stomach, especially for grossness of simply being a human being, but that makes me feel quite sick!

rudyc
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 08:11 pm: [report]

No thanks. My boyfriend has told me he doesn’t mind, but when I’m that bloated/grumpy/bleeding I don’t want to have sex. I may be horny as hell, but it just makes me too uncomfortable.

Anniushka
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 09:01 pm: [report]

With regards to the STD/blood-borne disease risks associated with sex while menstruating… well, first, the discussion isn’t about how awesome/awful unprotected sex during menstruation is, so I’m a little confused as to why people are getting all soapboxy about the topic. Plus, there isn’t anything especially disease-carrying about period blood, is there? Should we also be fearful of helping our SOs bandage their wounds if they cut themselves badly, in case they’re infected with HIV and don’t know it?

But anyway, the CDC doesn’t say anything about oral sex as an HIV transmission pathway, but it does say that if an HIV-infected person’s blood comes in contact with the inside of the mouth (via French kissing), it can lead to transmission,

However, the risk of acquiring HIV during open-mouth kissing is believed to be very low. CDC has investigated only one case of HIV infection that may be attributed to contact with blood during open-mouth kissing.

Maybe there’s more risk when there’s a greater quantity of blood involved. But it seems pretty low-risk. Not no-risk—low.

I have also heard that studies may show that swallowing the semen of an HIV-infected person may do something like build resistance to the virus…? But that seems pretty scary (not to mention sketch as hell—like, what, should the guy also be an albino…?), to me, since the mouth is mucous membrane, and if blood in contact with the mouth can transmit HIV, then why not semen? So I don’t know.

As for the original topic, I’m a virgin and honestly can’t even remember the last time I masturbated, plus I take Portia on a 4-cycle-per-year schedule (perhaps the reason why I don’t even masturbate that often? I’ve heard people on here discussing how the pill reduces libido), so I pretty much have no comment. But I’d be game to try it if my non-existent boyfriend was okay with it.

MondimNebel
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 09:11 pm: [report]

I am craaazy horny during my period. Never had cramps or anything either (until I went on the pill). And my boyfriend is most accommodating to my increased arousal.

Romulus
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 09:15 pm: [report]

If you are concerned about blood borne disease during sex (HIV and Hep C) just ask to see the other person’s Red Cross blood donor card.  If they don’t have one, ask them why the hell not. 

The Red Cross tests every pint for blood borne disease, and won’t allow repeat donations from an infected person.  Anybody in the gallon club is safe to have sex with.

BeccaAnne
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 09:29 pm: [report]

RIght when my bf and I started having sex, I started birth control and bled for a whole month, so we definitely still got it on. I think the only time I had a problem was when I thought I was done with the month of horrors only to find out midway through sexy time that it was back, but I think that was more hormones and being REALLY FRIKKIN SICK OF BLEEDING than the sex part of it.

We’ve never been able to make sex in the shower work :( so we stick to towels, condoms, and might I suggest baby wipes? Must have for us. I’m always on clean up duty, it’s not his favorite but he’s not totally disgusted, though he told me clots are what really gets him squicked.

He’ll give oral with a tampon in, and I think that’s pretty good. He offered once, but I’d rather not kiss him after, and I don’t exactly want to take a tooth brush break in between foreplay and playplay.

Little Lamb
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 09:49 pm: [report]

I’ve told my bf that I feel somewhat guilty about putting him through that, so it’s up to him to make the first move when I’m OTR.

He’s only went for it about 4 times.  Hint taken.

Little Lamb
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 09:50 pm: [report]

(PS-4 times in 2 years.)

_jsw_
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 10:32 pm: [report]

@1 of 2: Her comment was from a year and a half ago.

I’ve had period sex. Obviously, it’s not a physical issue for a guy (lubrication a possible exception, as others have noted). I don’t find it to be gross at all. Or at least I didn’t, back when I had it.

Olivia!
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 10:40 pm: [report]

Hell to the NO! Period sex is completely off for me. I tried it with my last boyfriend, you know…just for the experience. Honestly, I couldn’t get into it. He was fine with it…but I just did not feel sexy at that time, nor do I ever. It was a big sloppy mess, and knowing that I was responsible for said mess…nope. Just nope.

titsmagee
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 10:41 pm: [report]

My boyfriend is sooooo pro-period sex and for a very good reason. We have sex almost every day and when that time rolls around, we would rather have sex than not have sex (hello) so we just do it. He has sisters and doesn’t mind period-related talk or anything. I’m on the pill and we got tested and all so we don’t use condoms-even then. I KNOW. But he doesn’t care so I don’t either (why make him wear condoms if he doesn’t need/want to?). It’s about KY and a shower together after people. Crazy orgasms. Oversharing. lol

southernwriter57
wrote on January 26 2010 @ 10:58 pm: [report]

Had period sex with the wife for years.  I was way too horny to do without for 5 days.  Just put a dark towel under her and go for it.  I even went down on her to get her off with a tampon in.  Women get over yourselves and lay back and enjoy it.

Krispy
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 12:42 am: [report]

I did it with my ex maybe once or twice and never did it again because he would always freak out and make a big deal if he got blood on him. It always made me feel really bad, so I stopped doing it. My current bf however is totally cool with it and he never says anything about it, which is nice because no matter how many times we do it Im still just a little self conscious…

mindoflady
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 01:29 am: [report]

My ex-boyfriend and I never thought it a possibility to do this… he thought it was gross, and so did I. It wasn’t until the first time my current boyfriend and I started to partake in some foreplay and I gave him the “I have some bad news…” and he said he didn’t care that I discovered how great this is. He doesn’t care, and neither do I. We just put a towel down underneath us, just in case. It makes the love factor of sex that much greater when he isn’t grossed out about by something I’m insecure about.

shannooonski
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 02:04 am: [report]

i was surprised how my boyfriend doesn’t mind period sex at all.  like titsmagee we have sex darn near everyday and there’s no reason to stop. he went down on me once.. i tried to stop him but he was determined and i relented.  i was impressed at his openmindedness
  that stupid nuva ring made my periods way heavier…
just got the IUD hoping for the best-  pain and baby free sailing

stiffinp
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 03:29 am: [report]

I have a friend who likes period sex because it helps the cramping.

eurolovex3
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 03:35 am: [report]

no thanks… but i’m on birth control and usually just skip the last week of pills (they’re placebos anyway), so i don’t get my period   my doctor says it’s fine.  it’s a bit more expensive to get a new pack every 3 weeks instead of 4, but it’s worth it to me!

crimson
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 06:11 am: [report]

I have no problem having sex whilst on a period. I have always done it, since waaaaay back. The guys I have been with, and now my husband, do not mind it one bit.

Scrabble
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 07:31 am: [report]

I used to have period sex all the time - my ex liked the extra lubrication, the fact that I got off easier, and that it helped with the cramps. But with the guys I’ve slept with since then, it’s either that the issue hasn’t come up (short-term flings) or that I didn’t feel comfortable enough to suggest it (e.g. with the emotionally stunted and squeamish Englishman).

On a semi-related note, I don’t feel significantly hornier during my period, but I can always tell when it’s coming: the week or so beforehand, I’m ready to jump any guy in sight.

_jsw_
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 08:29 am: [report]

@crimson: Your member name is very appropriate in this thread.

@Scrabble: Avoid nursing homes during that week.

Lary
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 10:19 am: [report]

I’ve only had sex when I was spotting…not fully on the rag yet.  It was great.  It was actually my first time with my guy and he didn’t care.  We messed up the sheets at the hotel a little bit, but it didn’t matter to us.

I wouldn’t be against having sex on my full-blown period though.

spooticus
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 10:22 am: [report]

i don’t have periods!!! yay BC!! you’re jealous, admit it

ingyc702
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 10:52 am: [report]

Period sex is FANTASTIC. My BF is a little squimish but it helps so much with the cramps… makes me feel way better. I tell him that he is doing it for the greater good..and on top of all of that it feels great!

cooldad
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 01:15 pm: [report]

My wife always is much more sensitive and finds it more enjoyable.  The towel on the bed is key.  I get some perverse pleasure pulling out and being covered in blood.  When we were younger it was a great excuse not to use birth control (we used condoms or diaphragm) until she got pregnant.

alleigh25
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 02:26 pm: [report]

@MondimNebel—Glad to know I’m not the only one who didn’t have cramps until getting on the pill (assuming I interpreted that correctly). That annoys me quite a bit.

@Romulus—There are other reasons why someone might not have a donor card besides having a disease. They might not weigh enough, or have a fear of needles, or are anemic (which I guess counts as a disease, but not in that sense).

I’m not horribly opposed, but no way would I initiate it, even if I knew he was okay with it. (And going down during? Ew.) The downside of being in college? Shower sex is a bit difficult (completely against the rules, and I’m not the rule-breaking sort).

MondimNebel
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 04:24 pm: [report]

@alleigh25 - Yep, no cramps until the pill. Boo on you, birth control…

jeff91
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 07:00 pm: [report]

I’m personally up for going down on a girl anytime.

wetwet20
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 07:18 pm: [report]

Sex is so much better on my period! My hormones are raging and Im always hornier on it. Plus I love the fact that my fiance doesnt care that I have my period. He’ll just lay a towel down and get to it. Thats another reason why I love him so much, he aint scared of no blood.

secretsquirrel
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 09:21 pm: [report]

Romulus, that is ridiculous.  I just got tested from one end to the other.  All clean.  But I don’t have a donor card and cannot donate.  Why?  I lived in Europe for 6 years in the late 80s and early 90s.  If you lived in England for as few as 3 months during that time frame, you too don’t have a donor card.  They don’t accept blood from us Mad Cow Disease Potentials.

If you are truly concerned about blood borne diseases and sexually transmitted ones, use condoms and get tested regularly anyway.  It’s that simple.

IrishErin
wrote on January 27 2010 @ 09:38 pm: [report]

@Buhri I was being a bit sarcastic you know. I’m not a complete idiot. I’m just not sure why someone would sign up to “dig” a tampon out of the vast depths of their vagina.

MondimNebel
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 07:43 am: [report]

I can’t give blood because of my weight- I weigh enough but just barely. The idea of donating my blood (the physically doing it part) creeps me out.

spooticus
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 11:04 am: [report]

totally jinxed myself…. over a year w/o a real period and i wake up with one.

sparklestar
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 11:08 am: [report]

My current boyfriend is the only guy I’ve been with who doesn’t mind getting “blood on his sword.”

It’s a refreshing change and the sex doesn’t feel any different.

sportzriter13
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 11:32 am: [report]

@secretsquirrel-my dad was stationed in Germany when he was an MP, for about 3-4 years. After coming home, he donated on a regular basis. Then suddenly in 2005 or so he was told that he could no longer donate. He was in the army until ‘85 or so. Between then and now I’m sure if he had it we would know. But rules are rules.
The first time I “got some” during my “off week” I wrecked a set of my boyfriend’s dorm sheets. Swore off middle of the off-week.
tried it over a towel near the end of the week. Not bad, and it didn’t look like someone had been murdered in the bed. Thumbs up.

I don’t usually like it. He doesn’t mind but it creates too much of a mess for me.

cooldad
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 12:47 pm: [report]

You can’t donate for a year if you take malaria pills or travel to certain places, even cities like Seoul.  I was a regular donater but have not been able to for years

323Felicity
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 06:00 pm: [report]

I’ve done it, but don’t really like or dislike it any more than regular sex. But lucky me, I don’t have a period anymore!

tarcar
wrote on January 28 2010 @ 06:12 pm: [report]

I did it once when the flow was heavier than I thought it was. My boyfriend was cool with it, but joked that once we were done, he had enough DNA on him for three CSI episodes. Now we tend to avoid the “heavy” days.

sexcandyfireflies87
wrote on January 29 2010 @ 02:34 am: [report]

I’m surprised no one has actually suggested or pointed out having sex on the period in a more kinkier way, like having anal. I’ll be honest, I’ve done it and used a tampon too. You just have to be with someone very open minded and not be afraid to try it too.

janet3491
wrote on January 29 2010 @ 09:10 am: [report]

Well I dont usually get my period…because i am on the depo shot but when i first got it i bled for like a month straight and having no other choice me and my boyfriend had sex.it was kinda messy and in the end it looks like ketchup and mayo mix together(if you know what i mean ....but other then that it was great and it felt nice because everything was calm and soft….we havent done it since because i dont get my period but i think its no problem being that we have been living together for almost 3 years and we know each other alot and are comfortable with each other.

_jsw_
wrote on January 29 2010 @ 09:30 am: [report]

@tarcar” Three CSI episodes? Have you ever seen that show? According to it, someone who sees you across the parking lot has enough of your DNA for several episodes. Your boyfriend would have had enough for the complete series in each of its locations.

camelo27
wrote on January 29 2010 @ 11:56 am: [report]

My boyfriend has a fear of blood, and having sex while I’m on my period is helping him get over that. We skip it for the first 3 or 4 days when my flow is heavy, but after that it’s not too bad. Although my cramps almost always get worse for a couple hours after having sex. But my period makes me so horny that it’s worth it.

LadyDonna
wrote on January 29 2010 @ 01:20 pm: [report]

I’ve had it a couple of times when on the rag and it was amezing, best thing ever. I have only done it with my bf of about 6 years so I trusted him enough to do it, but I don’t think I wouold do it with anyone else.

One time I had it for a little over 1 month and it was insane trying to wait to we did it. Thank God it never happened again like that.

vagrantexcrement
wrote on January 29 2010 @ 03:38 pm: [report]

the mess is not the best,
but i never really have the desire
to turn down sex.

PGell
wrote on January 30 2010 @ 11:42 am: [report]

I think one can tell how comfortable some women are with being women by how they approache theirs period, and sex during their period. The entire “Gross Factor” is, for me, a sign of either self hatred or extreme immaturity. “Ew, oral sex on your period. My guy wouldn’t want to get blood in his mouth.” Puh-leez. Don’t YOU get weirder stuff “in your mouth” every time you give him oral sex to conclusion? Why is “blood” (most of it actually being normal uterine mucous) “grosser” than semen?

I understand for women who feel very ill during their periods, I do also, but I find the attention and the orgasm of sex OTR help a lot.

Ladies love your self, love your body, and your man should do the same. Any guy who can’t handle a little blood on his Man Parts is still a little boy, and not mature enough to deserve to be having sex with a woman.

Buy some inexpensive red or maroon towels, a nice maroon sheet, (to place under you, NOT on the bed as a regular sheet) take a warm bath first and go at it. Orgasm helps cramps (those who have a harder time coming simply have a more intense Estrogen Drop during our periods, it’s time to break out the sex toys and cover um with a condom…..) and a Grown Man should be able to have NO problem making love to a woman on the rag.

Plus, I have long periods I can’t imaginegoing 5 days to a week with NO sex. UG. Neither can my husband. But, he’s a grown man, and it makes no difference to him what part of my cycle it is. If it gets “messy” we just jump in the shower afterward. No big deal.

Hallelujah
wrote on January 30 2010 @ 05:44 pm: [report]

To fix the mess, try the Instead…. Awesome device!

bonnykate
wrote on February 2 2010 @ 11:00 am: [report]

If you’re in the mood for sex, and you happen to be on your period, then GO FOR IT!!! That’s what showers are for!

AnitaBath
wrote on February 2 2010 @ 11:45 pm: [report]

The entire “Gross Factor” is, for me, a sign of either self hatred or extreme immaturity. “Ew, oral sex on your period. My guy wouldn’t want to get blood in his mouth.” Puh-leez.

I may be a little late to replying, but THAT sentiment to me seems immature. Yeah, girls get some bodily fluids in their mouth if they so desire to during a blow job, but I think that’s a lot different than my uterine lining that can reek and contain clots. Just because it’s not in someone’s comfort zone to go down on a woman on their period, and just because some woman don’t want the guy to do it, does NOT make the person an automatic, self-loathing, extremely immature individual.

k-bum
wrote on February 3 2010 @ 02:13 pm: [report]

@tricia

nobody follow what she just said.
if you skip your placebo pills your body wont get the break it needs from the hormones which actually fools your body into thinking its pregnant. very dangerous, anything that messes with your body’s natural body processes cant be good for you

deisme
wrote on February 4 2010 @ 04:06 pm: [report]

A few years back I read up on “sponges” instead of using tampons…during your period and sex. These are sea sponges. I guess in europe this is more common? Anyways, when I get my period and my BF and I have plans for some hot sex, voila…the sponge. It absorbs a ton and can stay in for a long time and I have never had any leakage..only thing is sometimes he can feel it and it gets pushed way up in there after a long sexual fun time and retrieval is interesting to say the least, but as long as I have sex and get periods..those sponges stay on hand.