Crazy Emails From A Girlfriend Gone Mad
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
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relationships, video
3:10PM, Tuesday August 11th 2009
I think most of us at some point in our lives have sent an email or text in the heat of an angry moment that we later regretted. In the summer of 2007, a girl named Em didn’t have an angry moment, she had an angry two weeks, during which time she sent a slew of bitter emails to the boyfriend that she thought was avoiding her. By the time she learned he wasn’t really ignoring her, but was actually traveling through Europe — something he’d mentioned many times to her before he left — it was too late. The emails had been sent, the damage had been done, and now this little video of her big mistake has been put together so we can all feel so much better about any communication snafus we’ve made in the past. The transcript is here for the impatient among us. The only thing that would make this funnier is if the two got married, and then divorced, and the guy sent this email to her. [via BuzzFeed]
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Rose
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 02:38 pm: [report]
That second email isn’t real, is it? PLEASE tell me that wasn’t real, PLEASE!!!!!!
Riley
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 02:58 pm: [report]
Oh man, that was a hilarious read. Especially the divorce letter.
I hope someone has shown her this, either the transcript or the youtube video.
Jamie Lee
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 03:05 pm: [report]
i just find it hard to believe that a girl who is obviously so ‘passionate’ about her boyfriend, would totally forget that he was going to be in europe for two weeks. or that none of his friends would know he was in europe…and that he wouldn’t maybe use a payphone, or a phone at a hotel or a hostel or something to call and check in with her…i’m calling shenanigans
mytyme2shyne
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 03:41 pm: [report]
wow!! the things we do when we love somebody. love makes you go crazy!!
Shasta
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 03:43 pm: [report]
@Jamie Lee - I totally concur.
I wish it were true. It’s funny.
Are there girls out there who are REALLY that crazy? He seemed like a pretty grounded guy to be dating a whack-job like that.
And she didn’t wait very long before she slept with another dude.
*sam*
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 04:26 pm: [report]
maybe she’s just bipolar?? they’ve been known to do some pretty rash things when they’re not on their meds…
either way, it was a fabulous read
rbk14
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 04:34 pm: [report]
“i’m calling shenanigans” - as am I.
writergirl
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 04:44 pm: [report]
“i’m calling shenanigans”—yeah I don’t get how you “forget” someone is in Europe. And calling home from Europe isn’t hard or expensive.
As for letter number two—the divorce letter—that is freaking hilarious. I doubt it’s true, but that is some great writing right there!
LunaLena
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 08:15 pm: [report]
I call shenanigans as well. I can believe that he didn’t call, but there’s plenty of Internet cafes in Europe… I find it hard to believe the guy didn’t at least check his email once in a while, or email pictures to friends. Still a pretty amusing read, though.
Ghirardelli
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 08:39 pm: [report]
Oh my god, that was both scary and very funny (on his end). That sure puts anything I’ve ever said in to perspective. How did she not know that he was gone? She sounds spacey, but I feel for both of them. I can see how she would think that he was ignoring her.
Sofjna
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 09:18 pm: [report]
@LunaLena- It’s possilbe that the guy didn’t check his email. My friend went packpacking through Asia and India for five months this year, and didn’t send anyone (even his parents) so much as a post card. He just wanted to disapear for a while and ignore everything. If my friend did it for five months, it’s possible this guy managed for two weeks.
xifeng882
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 09:28 pm: [report]
Does no one else think that this guy is an ass for airing all of these emails? There is no reason he should be posting this if they’re real.
theoldman
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 09:35 pm: [report]
This is why there should be a Miranda warning you have to acknowledge BEFORE you send an email or for that matter posting.
Unless he uses TMobile/Duetsche Telekom there isn’t a cell phone available here that works in Europe; the standards are incompatible. CDMA or US-GSM vs EU-GSM. How many cell phones have WI/FI that meet the International standards. Iphone doesn’t, the Blackberry Storm II from Verison is the only one I know of available here in the US. It is not available in the EU and compatibility has been spotty. I cannot imagine lugging the extra 4-7 lb of a laptop plus a special charger (EU is 240volt/50cycle vs US 120 volt 60 cycle) in a backpack. The only real alternative would be to have shelled out for the Nokia 770,800 810 tablets and TMobile service. If he is backpacking he is probably staying in youth hostels with no international phone service. Hotels are typically 2 Euros($3/min) due to in house charges.
I hold dual US/German citizenship and a green passport and used to travel back and forth a lot. 2.5m frequent flyer miles worth. If he wanted to call home he would have had to hunt down a post office big enough to have a call center to call back to the US at a reasonable rate. Rates from the EU to the US can be exorbitant. If you get into the newer countries in Eastern Europe don’t bet on anything and the same outside the major cities in Iberia or Italy.
If you don’t have the technical skills to know what you are talking about apply Lincoln’s Maxim and remain quiet instead of removing all doubt. All of you calling shenanigans should be really red faced at this point.
LunaLena
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 09:46 pm: [report]
@Sofjna:
I’ll agree that that’s certainly a possibility. But that’s not the vibe I was getting from the guy’s own stated activities - he mentions writing a postcard to the grandparents and buying a necklace for his girl, which shows he was clearly thinking about home.
I probably should have clarified that that’s not the only reason I called shenanigans on this guy’s story. It was that, plus all the reasons that others have already stated (i.e. not even his friends knew where he was, his girlfriend completely forgot that he was going to Europe, etc).
It did just occur to me, though, that perhaps the writer doesn’t use web-based email, and that’s why he never checked it. I’ve been using web-based email exclusively for so long now, I often forget that other people use programs like Thunderbird and Outlook to check their email. I’ll shut up now.
MsNeche
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 10:32 pm: [report]
@theoldman - you’re old and over complicated and if in a relationship a difficult lack of communicating one - besides me making horrible generalizations based upon a one time response I am a pretty sane person. I can be the crazy chick who would have probably done this admittedly. I am extremely passionate. Anyone who’s dating a passionate person knows how their lover gets when they are missed and does things to avoid issues or they should move on. Us “passionate” people are a bit misguided when it comes to reading behavior, but our interpretations have meaning and merit. I still freak when my ex, who’s now in some realm of friendship, takes a day to respond to messages even though I do the same thing when I am busy; it bothers him the same but he just throws sarcasm or gets over it to throw it in my face days later :eL. Either way both of us could extend the courtesy to reply if we really want to.
When in a relationship you make way for the little things. It’s not that difficult in EU to latch on to a public PC and send a message. He sent a postcard to grandparents whom, I am sure he’s never talked to on a daily basis and has never been intimate with on many levels but not his lady??? if he wanted her this would not have deterred him. Also if he needed to be away and not communicate at all then what else is going on in life? Also no one notes that she must not be a priority to him, she DOESN’T HAVE MOM’s contact info while he’s away! what if something happened? They were not that tight to begin with. Parents and mates have something in common: genitalia - once you cross the genitalia line either by conception or consummation there is no going back, she should have had contact.
Point is logistics matter little to love. If he wanted it, it would be, couples make it through infidelity but misunderstandings like this are deal-breakers?....seems he’s not seeing the forest for the trees and neither are you
there’s is definitely some kungfoolery going on here either by him or the fiction that this could be - this is some extreme emotion instability tho i do agree
MsNeche
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 10:34 pm: [report]
sorry Mom doesn’t have her contact info
Shriekback68
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 11:00 pm: [report]
I love some of these comments. This woman goes completely psycho on this guy and some of you actually turn it around on HIM and blame him for “not calling” or “checking his emails.” And then say it’s “shenanigans.” Hilarious.
And you wonder why many men are jaded about relationships. LMAO
canadiancutie
wrote on August 11 2009 @ 11:14 pm: [report]
Hahaha as soon as I started reading I knew this guy lives in Toronto. I clicked on the user and sure enough, he’s Canadian. If the girl was going to the Maddy, she was probably around 19 years old when she sent the texts and therefore can be excused for her lack of sanity.
silvergurl
wrote on August 12 2009 @ 06:38 am: [report]
yowzers. if he hadn’t told her he was going to europe not once, not twice, but multiple times—i would have understood just a little of this all. but talk about a poor listener. i’ve been guilty of a communication snafu here and there (haven’t we all?) but this is a LIL’ crazy.
ladyparts
wrote on August 12 2009 @ 10:03 am: [report]
I’m torn. I think if he told he was going to Europe and she ignored it, plus went all batshit on email, she’s clearly got a few screws loose. BUT, what jumped out to me equally is his own lack of communication back. As previous comments pointed out, there are a million (rough estimate) internet cafes in Europe from which to send a “Hey, I am here safe. Having a blast. See you when I get back.” If you’re in a relationship, two weeks is a long time to drop off the map, even in another relationship. So intstead of jumping on the “girls are crazy and needy” meme, this seems to me to be an example of possibly 1. Difference in opinion of how serious this relationship was 2. Serious communication failure on both their parts 3. Both
bogart4017
wrote on August 12 2009 @ 01:35 pm: [report]
What a psycho. She has all the characteristics of a stalker. I’d be slaphappy to be rid of this one.
Titaniumhalos
wrote on August 12 2009 @ 03:46 pm: [report]
Wow. I’ve been upset before… but wow.
aseroyer
wrote on August 12 2009 @ 11:31 pm: [report]
Hello, Crazy. HAHA. This is hysterical, even if it isn’t real.
theattack
wrote on August 12 2009 @ 11:52 pm: [report]
I’m surprised to hear that several people seem to think two weeks is too long to go without talking. I think it’s perfectly acceptable to go somewhere for two weeks without communicating, as long as it’s understood before hand (and who really knows how well he communicated this to her, or if it’s her fault for not listening when he told her). If he’s backpacking, he may very well be camping and not anywhere near internet. Even if he’s not, why does he have to stay in contact with her while he’s gone? Why can’t he enjoy the little bit of time he will have in his life where he has the opportunity to only live in the moment that he is in without worrying about everything else in the world?
If you can’t go two weeks without communicating, then I think there’s something wrong. If you CAN make it, then you should just celebrate by having amazing sex when it’s over. That period of time should be cathartic to help you realize how much you miss (or how little) you miss each other, or how much (or how little) you trust each other.
liliplaid
wrote on August 13 2009 @ 01:58 pm: [report]
There is NOOOO way that a girl that is THAT into her boyfriend would not remember he was going on a 2 week trip!
PaulaDDN
wrote on August 16 2009 @ 12:22 pm: [report]
Oh c’mon!! This story has to be made up, i mean, no WiiFi in Europe? Or maybe like the book “You’re (in your case “were”) just not that into her”. What ever the case may be, any reason is good enough to act like a psyco-bitch.
jackofhearts
wrote on August 17 2009 @ 07:38 am: [report]
He he he. I don’t care if this is true or not, it’s just brilliant and while perhaps it does stretch the bounds of credibility a little, I think it could have happened.
I cringed while reading it.. especially the last email where she begs him not to read the others. Can you imagine how she was feeling? The fear? The shame? That sick feeling in the pit of her stomach - the one you get when you know you’ve screwed up.
The truly terrifying thing is recognising myself in some of those emails. I’m not saying that I would write this many, or get so emotional, but I’ve sent ill-advised emails/texts in my time and cursed myself afterwards.
Eeeeek.
irishsocer
wrote on August 18 2009 @ 11:34 am: [report]
This is absolutely hilarious and made my day! So funny, both the video and the divorce letter. I can see it being true (I am a girl and do know some crazy people who would do something like that sadly (hopefully not for 2 weeks though)) and if it is, that is the perfect revenge for being cheated on! Hilarious!
Who even cares if either one is true - just for pure entertainment value, they were great!! :o)
lareinedeslames
wrote on August 28 2009 @ 10:34 pm: [report]
Hmmm. It is a little suspicious, I have to admit. I called my parents a couple of times when I was studying abroad in France as a teenager for a month or two, but I didn’t call my (not very serious) boyfriend at all.
That being said, it really is NOT difficult to call home when you’re overseas. There are phone card booths EVERYWHERE, at least in France, and for a few Euro you can buy a card and call internationally. There are tons of internet cafes. It’s not hard to keep in touch.
IF it is a true story, I think potentially the guy just wasn’t that into keeping in touch with his (admittedly crazy) gf. It is pretty hilarious though. Puts all my angsty and bitchy texts and e-mails into perspective nicely.