Condoms As Popular As The Pill For Young Women

River
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 07:59 am: [report]

The expense part of it isn’t driving these numbers; oral contraception (as well as implants such as Implanon) are free from the NHS in the UK.  Part of the reason I switched to Implanon when I was living there was because I would get the $300 implantation fee waved and save around $1800 over the course of three years- the amount I would normally be paying for oral contraceptives over the same period (no pun intended! ).

thebathroomguy
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 08:48 am: [report]

it’s better to be safe when you’re not ready for a family

strawberrymoonshine
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 08:48 am: [report]

I wonder if this is the same in the US ... I have found a pretty common unwillingness to use condoms among american men.  Maybe because we aren’t as frank about stds, so everything comes down stories of young women “getting pregnant and ruining their lives.”  Many of the guys I know look down on women who want to use condoms rather than deal with the pill or just rely on them to pullout.

thebathroomguy
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 08:49 am: [report]

better be safe when you’re not ready to have a family

sadie
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 09:05 am: [report]

This is encouraging news. American men who won’t use condoms need to not get any sex, maybe that’ll change their attitude.

abbylyn
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 12:05 pm: [report]

Please remember that not everyone has “crazy side effects” from the Pill.  While I sympathize with women that do, I have been on the pill for 9 years and my only side effects have been regular periods and not having a baby.

C.Munro
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 12:30 pm: [report]

I think the most obvious answer is that people are more interested in protecting themselves from infection, which, of course, the pill cannot do. 

One thing I have noticed is that women my own age are far less likely to want to use condoms than women who are 5-10 younger than I.  I don’t know whether it’s an age thing, or a generational thing, but the younger women in my experience are not only willing to use condoms, but will often insist on them.

magyar-beauty
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 12:43 pm: [report]

I have been on the pill for years, but i still insist on using condoms, I am a “no glove , no love” type of girl….I don’t understand why anybody would want to take the risk of getting “the gift that keeps on giving”....

bethlynn00
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 01:26 pm: [report]

I have the hardest time getting people to take condoms, it’s very frustrating.  I do booths at community events and we give out condoms and talk about HIV/AIDS and other STIs and i get the craziest looks when I offer people condoms, from people of all ages, but it seems like more women will come and listen and ask questions then men, the men who do come, like make jokes and act silly.  The best, most attentive listeners who will take baskets of condoms are older women, like 60+, of course they say it’s for their grandkids, but I have had some of the best sex talks with them, so maybe if grandmas were pitching condoms, there would be an increase in the number of condom users.  I don’t understand why condoms are not the number one, honestly there are so many ways to get them for free, most clinics, public health depts., social services organizations and other community groups give them out for free, honestly if my periods where not completely jacked I wouldn’t have anything to do with birth control pills and my $10/pack co-pay. Plus condoms, when used properly, not only prevent pregnancy, but protect from STIs, which no other b.c. does, makes no sense to me.
But yeah I wouldn’t trust any man who refuses to wear a condom, especially early in a sexual relationship, there is no good reason you can supply for not wanting to use them other then you don’t care about your health or mine’s, hence you are not someone that I would want to be in any type of relationship with anyways. I don’t expect for anyone to carry them around in their wallet or purse (which you really shouldn’t do anyways), but before we have sex there needs to be some discussion on where we are going to get some and if it ruins the mood, then it just wasn’t meant to happen anyways.

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 01:39 pm: [report]

to be fair there exist men in the world who cannot maintain erections in condoms…  sensation is extremely diminished.  you can blow it off as a weak excuse.  wont affect me.  but in my long term and monogamous relationship, we do not use condoms, and we wont.  when her script ran out recently, we didnt have vaginal intercourse for the 2 weeks it took to both get a new script, and for her body to “adjust.”

Secret Story Time
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 02:54 pm: [report]

Why do they like condoms so much?  Is it because they don’t know how to hamdle cum properly.  I bet that’s it!

Secretia

heathabee
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 03:23 pm: [report]

I have always used both the pill and a condom…
and I will continue to use a condom til I’m engaged.  Not only does it prevent STDs, but I feel like I want to save some kind of intimacy for marriage.
That, and the fact that I’m crazy scared of getting pregnant, even though I’ve used the pill for almost two years.

Let_Love_Rule
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 05:51 pm: [report]

I’m in my mid-thirties so I came of age at the height of the pop-culture safe sex culture. I wouldn’t have sex without a condom unless I was serious with a guy for a year at least. When it finally comes off, it’s like a reward for earning my trust

Hormones affect me badly so they aren’t an option for me. I’ve never had a condom fail and   my doc tells me it’s unusual for a woman my age not to have HPV, which I don’t. I thank religious condom usage for that.

I have had a man tell me he won’t/can’t use a condom. I tell them I appreciate their honesty, and I leave. No d*ck is worth it, no matter how randy I am, lol.

lani13
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 05:56 pm: [report]

i feel like no condom, no sex.  while i’m in a monogamous relationship,  i still feel like there will always be a need for condoms. to be honest, i’m a little grossed out by semen in my body. when i’m ready for a kid, i’ll reduce the protection. but to not have one or the other in this day and age is setting yourself up for a life of heartache. protect both parties.  that double method is a lifesaver

these girls that won’t make a guy use a condom make the rest of look bad.  keep them in your car, keep in your purse. keep them on you

bethlynn00
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 06:19 pm: [report]

@MuchoMacho: That is a FALSE and it is jsut a very WEAK EXCUSE. If you can’t maintain an erection with a condom, you can’t maintain one without a condom and you should seek medical advice!  Condoms do not take away from sensation, if you have the proper fit.  That loss of sensation or intimacy is internalized, but not reality.  People just have it in their mind that because it is considered a “barrier”, but no feeling is lost, your genital organs are too sensitive for something so thin to take away sensation. We all know that sex is more mental than physical, that’s true for both men and women, so if you are so concerned about one aspect, like wearing a condom, it is going to take away from the experience. But really
everything you feel with a condom, you feel without, so I have to call bulls**t on that excuse, cause that’s all it is.

bumbler
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 06:30 pm: [report]

Reminds me of my friend in high school who confided in me that her last 3 boyfriends had all been allergic to condoms.  We had a long heart to heart about the relative frequency of latex allergies and the always relative honesty of high school boys.

bethlynn00
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 07:59 pm: [report]

@ bumbler: now latex allergies are real, but that’s why there are polyurethane condoms, which female condoms are primarily made from as well, and they work just fine.  the Trojan Supra are primo I’ve heard.  I have never meant anyone with an allergy to latex, but I have heard of people claiming to have the allergy to get ou of using condoms as well…so sad.

Red_Lady
wrote on October 22 2009 @ 09:00 pm: [report]

I’m w/ Heathabee - using both just increases my odds of NOT getting pregnant before we’re ready.  And abbylyn’s right - not everyone has problems w/ the pill.  It helps some people, in fact.  I have a friend who had horribly painful periods until she got on the pill, so it greatly improved her health.

MuchoMacho
wrote on October 23 2009 @ 09:16 am: [report]

@beth - it sounds like you have a lot of experience with wearing condoms on your penis.  guess what?  i have one.  condoms reduce sensation.  true story.  try this - go lay a piece of latex over your clitoris and tell me if you lose sensation.  ill wait…  tip: when you try to act like you are an expert on something THERE IS NO POSSIBLE WAY you can be an expert on (having a penis) you come off as ignorant.

now i understand that your goal is for ladies to protect themselves.  i agree.  my future daughters will be told the same things.  but dont try to tell me how my penis works.  ive been toying with it for almost 3 decades.  i know it a wee bit better than you.