Condoms And Sexual Satisfaction

EastCoastMale
wrote on December 11 2008 @ 05:40 pm: [report]

hehe I know safe sex is key and I am of the mindset that condoms ruin the sexual experience so much for a male, well at least me, that I am mcuh happier to go without than to do so. The feeling is just nowehere near pleasurable and yeah….=) So I dont advocate going without if you arent willing to, or going without with strangers but as for sexual satisfaction of a man they are a total killer.

ClatieK
wrote on December 11 2008 @ 06:59 pm: [report]

How satisfied do you feel when your gal misses her period, ECM?

Lynn
wrote on December 11 2008 @ 07:55 pm: [report]

I wonder if there would be the same kind of results if you looked at people who used the pill plus a non-condom birth control, like spermacide or the sponge.

@ClatieK - there are so many BC methods that aren’t condoms! ECM can have great, condomless sex and still not get his lady pregnant. Seriously, most other methods are more effective than condoms anyway! I haven’t used condoms for about a year now, because I employ other birth control methods. I would be too paranoid to just rely on a single method at a time, and yet I’ve gone a year without condoms anyway. Meanwhile, my friend who did use condoms has a beautiful baby boy.

EastCoastMale
wrote on December 11 2008 @ 10:18 pm: [report]

I wouldnt know Clatie because its never happened. Like I said, im no advocating sex without protection just saying for me personally, Id rather skip it all together in that case because sex with one on is just….

Please dont think me some neanderthal Clatie, im not trying to be some stereotypical male whos like ” I dont ever want to use one”, I can just genuinely say that if it is to avoid pregnancy then I am fine with that and would rather just skip sex at all in that case.

juliePS
wrote on December 12 2008 @ 09:36 am: [report]

Once again (this time from the, ehm, charmer that is ECM) I am seeing that mindset that scares the living daylights out of me—that the only thing you have to ‘fear’ from unprotected sex is an surprise pregnancy. Being on the pill or other HBC is great, but it doesn’t protect either of you from STDs/STIs. And considering the number of diseases there are out there that have few or no symptoms for a huge percentage of the population, that just doesn’t seem a worthwhile risk to me and my own personal uterus.

I don’t know. I’ve had unprotected sex, but I much prefer two forms of birth control—condoms and my IUD. My bases are covered. It’s a lot more fun and a lot less stress. And I have never had a man tell me he’d prefer no sex to sex with a condom on; in fact, that attitude kind of amuses and frightens me with its arrogance (like, ‘oh, you won’t have unprotected sex with me? I’ll just go find someone dumber who will.’)

Molly
wrote on December 12 2008 @ 12:12 pm: [report]

Listening to all this “condom’s suck” talk, I feel I must speak up.
A few years ago, I was diagnosed with Vulva Vestibulitis.  It’s a little known condition that, in short, causes a lot of pain, especially during sex.  The cause is unclear, but I am fortunate to have a doctor who knows how to treat it.  Turns out, the hormones in the pill can really hinder recovery.  So, I had to go off it.  Since then, I’m able to have sex nearly pain-free and SAFELY, thanks to condoms.  Luckily, I have an amazing boyfriend who is willing to do whatever it takes so I don’t have pain.  That includes wearing condoms.
Many women can’t use other birth control methods because of the hormones used.  For them, condoms are the way to go.  So sorry boys, you might have to experience a little less pleasure for the sake of your girls.

EastCoastMale
wrote on December 12 2008 @ 01:08 pm: [report]

I have to say at this point in the post I am taking great offense to several of the participants. First let me start off with the monicker of “charmer” that was used in a recent post referring to me. Did I assign that to myself? I could be wronng but I dont ever remember doing so, so I would appreciate it if it wasnt used in a context that makes it seem like that is how I view myself because I definitely dont, I just speak my mind and it may not align with other men but that doesnt mean I am trying to charm anyone, thanks.
  Secondly, I take special issue with catagorizing what Ive expressed as arrogance. I am sure there are diseases out there that dont have symptoms and could pop up at any time but I am looking at all of this in the context of a committed relationship where both partners have been tested previously and have been only with each other for some length of time. That being said, I find the STD reasoning to go out the window for me personally. If you are hooking up, just recently started a relationship or dont know their medical history, use a condom and knock yourself out. I dont find it arrogant to say what I did because I am NOT saying it in the way you so mistakenly attributed to me that “you won’t have unprotected sex with me? I’ll just go find someone dumber who will”, I am not saying that at all. Im saying if I am in a relationship and know the person has been faithful, I trust them and we both decide as a couple then I prefer not using one but still using other methods to using one and greatly diminishing the pleasure.
  In reference to those individuals with special circumstances, I am sure that there are cases where condoms fill a medical and personal need other than just birth control and if they are needed in that instance then by all means use them of course.
What I am saying, to wrap up is, barring not being able to take birth control and needing them for other medical reasons, I much prefer not using one and still practicing responsible sex to using one. I am not a boy so please dont consider me such and experiencing a little less pleasure for the sake of our girls? really? ...I will let you see the problem with that on your own. Lastly, irs personal choice and think what you will but all this is just my opinion and I definitely feel that I was harshly addressed in the past couple posts. Use them if you want, dont use them if you dont want to. I dont like them and I know plenty of couples, thats right COUPLES (not jsut men), who dont like them either and guess what, not a single pairing has an STD or a baby.

Molly
wrote on December 12 2008 @ 01:35 pm: [report]

I am so goddamn lucky to have a guy, man, boy or whatever term I use interchangeably (that’s right, I wasn’t making any point about maturity) who will give up a little bit of his pleasure for my sake.  And I don’t see any problem with that.

This is a very emotional subject for me, and I would rather not talk about it anymore.  For some, this discussion might just be about a question of pleasure, for me, it’s an issue that has caused a lot of guilt and sadness.  I’m not happy that I have to make my man wear condoms, but it’s just the way things have turned out.

Aaaaand I’m crying.  Awesome.

EastCoastMale
wrote on December 12 2008 @ 01:57 pm: [report]

Molly, if you meant it in the way you just said then I apologize for how I took it, I was already heated from responding to the other portions, so again sorry.  It was not my intention at all to make you cry and I do totally have compassion for your reasoning and in your instance, as an outside observer, I dont think its a bad thing and Im sure your guy has no problem with it and appreciates you for all that you are. I understand if you dont want to talk about it or the post anymore, I wont encourage it, I just felt the need to defend and explain myself and in no way did I mean to trvialize your preference and siutation. If I did then I sincerely apologize and hope you accept it. Please dont cry.

DrDoctor
wrote on December 13 2008 @ 01:16 am: [report]

I personally find them to be, ‘OK’ and worth it for sure. They can surely take some of the pleasure away, even to the point where she’s all said and done and I’m just too tired to finish but I find that just getting a thinner variety works out alright.

robf
wrote on December 13 2008 @ 07:56 am: [report]

Condoms are a requirement in all casual experiences for me.  I used to hate them completely, but discovered polyurethane, which is MUCH better than latex.  Ladies, if you’ve got a partner that complains about condoms, encourage them to try one of the latex alternatives.

robf
wrote on December 13 2008 @ 04:24 pm: [report]

@condomelite

You bring up a good point, which is what led me to try polyurethane in the first place - latex allergy.  That said, they offer greater thermal transfer than latex.  I’ve not had any issues with breakage or slippage to date, but agree with your assessment that they are not as elastic.  Point well taken!